My bf and I have been together for about a year. A few months ago, my bf ask to borrow 10k due to an emergency situation so I lent it to him.
During that period, we also went on vacation together which was already planned. I paid first due to aforementioned emergency situation and he said he’ll pay me back.
It’s been a couple of months and I have asked him on a few occasions about it.
The first time he said he’ll pay in a few days. The second time I asked he said give him a few weeks. The third time instead of just asking casually we worked out a payment plan and he said he’ll pay me back a little monthly. The fourth time he said he’ll start paying at the beginning of this month.
It’s not the beginning of the month and he’s made no mention of it. Personally, I don’t care that much about the money. I don’t even care if I don’t get it back.
But him dragging this on with no communication unless I bring it up is making me feel unloved, and that he’s not a trustworthy and reliable person.
I am also starting to feel taken advantage of. I want a partner in life to journey with me, and not someone I have to carry through life.
He knows about one of my exes who owed me money and took forever to pay only because I made a fuss, and that the reason it was a big deal to me was because I felt he was not putting equal effort in
How should I best approach this situation? I don’t want to bring it up again for him to delay it more, or for him to only pay up because I’m getting mad. Also not sure if it this is a situation where I should just break up.
Tldr: boyfriend owes me money and it’s making me feel unloved and I don’t know what to do