My (21F) boyfriend (22M) said he would put $5 aside every time we have sex so that “the amount of money I get from him will depend on me.”
I (21F) was told by my bf that he (22M) would put a certain amount of our money aside every time we get intimate, so “the amount of money I get from him will depend on me”.
We have been together for just over a year now. I was taken aback by this but I thought he was joking because I had told him I could charge him $30 (as a joke) for saying that this female friend of his is prettier than me (for the second time this year).
Honestly I meant it as a joke at first but the more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I became. The more uncomfortable I became, the more I actually looked back at the things he did/said that I brushed off.
One thing in particular that stood out was when forgot my birthday which was in May. In his defense, it was his brother’s and close friend’s birthday on the same day, and he was at both celebrations (True. I know them, but we are not close).
I also joked about charging him $30 for that too, but the whole “putting aside money thing” came up when I joked about charging him for the pretty comment he made. He’s not budging and I can’t tell if it’s a joke or not.
I feel confused as this is my second serious relationship. How do I confront/talk to him about this?
Netizens comments
- That is prostitution and if you want to engage in prostitution I would recommend a rate higher than $5
- Sorry, but this does not at all sound like a serious relationship.
You can confront and talk to him and tell him straight up that its a deal breaker for you because if you had self respect it would be.
You’re not a prostitute. You’re old enough to tell him if he’s serious about that then this relationship clearly isn’t serious and you should move forward with your life. - so he is treating you like a prostitute and you are ok with it?