my boyfriend doesn’t let me touch myself when we get intimate.
my boyfriend doesn’t want me to pleasure myself, watch adult videos and even moves my hand away when i rub myself when we fk.
he says if he’s not good enough to satisfy me then we shouldn’t be together.
i told him using a toy when we’re making love just makes it feel ten times better and he basically said absolutely not and if i use a toy there will be no reason for him to do anything with me because he can’t compete with it..
i talked to my friend about this and she said she kinda understands where he is coming from…like am i just crazy or what is this a common thing?
in addition to this he doesn’t want me to finish until he says i can, he says it’s a turn on which i’m fine with but sometimes goes as far as just stopping without saying i can finish to “edge me and tease me” which again i am fine with but it’s pretty common he does this
Netizens’ comments
- If he won’t budge from this infantile mentality, take the above advice he gave you, and bail
- He cares more about his sensitive little ego than whether or not you’re also enjoying yourself.
- You need a new boyfriend. He’s a bozo
- “My boyfriend doesn’t get to be with me anymore….” There, I fixed it for you
- He sounds insecure about his abilities in bed. I’m all about making sure the girl gets off too, one way or another.
- This sounds like incompatibility. He wants to be controlling, and you want pleasure.
- He’s insecure asf. He doesn’t get to make rules about how or when you can touch yourself. Controlling. I’d leave this relationship over this.
- As soon as your partner doesn’t “let” you do something it’s time to walk away.