Bf has no intentions to get a house… red flag?
I’m saving up for a flat and am perfectly fine getting it on my own. In no way am I forcing him to share with me, as it’s my personal goal.
He is 27 and currently renting a room. He is independent but it worries me that his future plan is to continue renting until he inherits his family home (this is not set in stone).
His income is also not substantial (freelancer) and neither does he invest nor show interest in it.
I know everyone has a different approach to finances but for my gut is telling me this mentality is a red flag. I don’t think he will lean on me financially… but this invites a lot of future uncertainty.
Am I overthinking this because I’m just too rigid? Or is it okay to go with the flow?
Netizens’ comments
- A home is a major decision that you and your partner should agree on. Do talk to your boyfriend why he has no plans to get a house. There’s a difference between not wanting to get a house now and not getting a home in the future. If there is still some divergence, and it is an incredibly important decision for you, you might have to rethink your relationship.
- The real red flag is not having plans for his future
If you buy and pay for a flat on your own, will he get to stay there rent free? Then he’s just mooching off you. Does he pay rent? Then what happens if he can’t oay rent for a while, will there be resentment?
He doesn’t invest, I’m guessing you do? If you guys need extra money for an emergency, whose funds will the money be pulled out from? Yours or his?
Not wanting to buy a house is fine. But not having plans for his future means you’re going to have to support him when things go rough. And I don’t see him having the capability to support you if things go rough, primarily because he simply doesn’t have the savings to do it.