My (25F) boyfriend (27M) doesn’t want to go on dates because we’ve already won each other over.
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and live together.
Before we got together we would go on dates at least once a week or more, we just instantly clicked and just wanted to see each other all the time, it was sweet.
When we did become official, those dates became once every few weeks which i didn’t mind because life does get in the way and we still doted on each other.
But now, two years into the relationship theres none of that. I still dote on him like the very start of the relationship but all i get is the occasional kiss and him checking on me.
When i do ask if he wants to go on a date he says that theres no point because we’ve already won each other over and theres no need to impress each other anymore and we see each other all the time since we live together.
But all we do is work or sit at home whilst he plays video games and i do whatever to combat boredom.
Am i asking too much? Is it wrong to still want to go on dates?
Am i being too needy and should just leave it?
I don’t know it just makes me sad that we’re not like how we used to be.
Netizens’ comments
- Going on dates isn’t about impressing the other person – it is about having experiences as a couple. I can’t even imagine being in a relationship where we never go out and do things together.
How boring. We love trying out new restaurants, taking road trips to new places to walk around and explore, finding fun festivals, etc. These shared experiences bring us closer together.
You deserve better, and this is not normal. His dream relationship may be one where he just gets to play video games all the time, but yours isn’t, and he’s ignoring your needs.
If he isn’t open to taking your needs into consideration and finding a happy medium, then you should seriously consider if this is what you want to spend the rest of your life putting up with. - Love is like a plant, if it is not watered, it dies. The same applies with love, if there are no dates, there is no time as a couple, details or talk, the relationship begins to die, you are not asking for anything from heaven, just have dates from time to time and that is fine
- Tell him that he hasn’t won you over and that he’s losing you. Let him know that it is a big deal to you