Are happy endings ok when you’re in a relationship? I found out my bf (m29) got a happy ending while I (f24) was away
TLDR/ This morning I found out that my bf of almost 3 years got a happy ending massage while I was away with family and I couldn’t believe it.
He’s usually the most loving, caring and affectionate bf anyone can have. He always prioritizes me in his life. We have a great relationship, we rarely ever fight and are quite loving.
Recently he’s being extra affectionate to me and I had a weird feeling about it but disregarded it because I didn’t think my loving bf would do anything to hurt me.
However, we got on the topic of dealbreakers this morning and I said cheating would be one of them. He made a weird face and I asked him as a joke if he did anything.
Then he confessed to me that he went to a happy ending massage about a month ago when I was away and it was recommended by a friend.
I was immediately shocked and cried and went home. He was being super sorry and apologetic. His excuses were that it was just an one time thing, he would never do it again and he wasn’t being himself (life stresses maybe?).
He said he would understand if I want to end things because of this. However, if I do forgive him, he would give it 100% to try to regain my trust.
Such as going couples counseling, going to therapy himself and working on himself. Ultimately it’s up to me right now wether to continue this relationship or not.
I feel super hurt and confused to why he would do this. I most definitely saw a future with him but I would also feel super stupid for forgiving him for something like this.
How would I know if he wouldn’t do this again? Have you ever forgiven your partner for a mistake they confessed to you and what were the outcomes? Should I forgive him? If I do, how can I get over this ?