So it started with him making statements to insinuate I’m fat & look horrible in makeup. I see those as jokes.
Then he whacked the head on random days. Whack, not pat. I told him it’s bad behaviour and to stop it. Hitting the head makes peop dumb, not an acceptable behaviour.
Then we got into arguments. He remained silent and ignored me. That triggered me. I started shoving him. At one point, he got mad and the lethal kicks came.
2 nights ago, we got into a very very heated argument. Something blew off in him and he slapped me. Not once. Of cos I retaliated and it became a fight. There were slaps and tussling. I fought so hard my ring finger got bruised. Visually blue blacked that night. I slapped him so hard, his spec flew off.
I told him I gonna divorce him if he hit me again. He continued to hit me. Then he went off.
When I started eating dinner, I realised my left jaw hurt from eating. The realisation that my husband is getting increasingly violent yet unrepentant hit me hard. That got me upset. I started crying and wailing. Literally. He told me he didn’t give a shit if I might be P+ and threatened to kick my tummy. He asked me to cry louder. This conversation repeated twice.
The next day, he behaved as in nothing happened. And upon my silent treatment and insistent that he apologise for his bad behaviour, he apologised. Then his message came to say he is sorry for hitting me. I felt bad because I hit him very hard too. My ring finger bruised from whacking him. I got minor blue blacks on both hands and a visible blue black on the back of my right arm which hurt.
Here are what netizens think:
- why are u wasting time to get back and all? just leave. also why fight back like that? u only hurt urself. he’s not a man. man don’t hit women. just leave
- He doesn’t care if you are pregnant and threaten to kick you and your potential unborn child (if you are really pregnant la). Like that also then act like nothing happened? This is an abusive narcissist! Stay far away…….. unless he repent and really work on himself to change his ways.. only God can save him if he wants to save himself. But really like people say.. real men don’t hit women.
- A real man should never hit a woman. A good woman should never hit a man. Talk it out, maybe there are deeper issues involved in the marriage. Be truthful and discuss the issues like a matured couple. Marriage is not without quarrels, but it should be constructively handled to make the bond and love stronger.