I asked my boyfriend why he kept cheating on me. His answer completely broke me.
So me (30F) and my (EX) boyfriend (32M) were together for over 3 years. After 1 year of us being official, I discovered that he was cheating on me.
I was devastated, but I also believe in second chances. I desperately wanted to give our relationship another shot, so I forgave him. That moment kick-started the downward spiral of our relationship.
I would discover him cheating on a regular basis with multiple different people. Every time I would confront him, he was honest with me. Because he was upfront, I would always give him another chance. I believed that, because he was honest, what he was doing wasn’t that bad. After this catastrophe of a relationship dragged on for the next 2 years, I finally reached my breaking point!
2 days ago, I was in the bedroom and he was in the living room watching TV. I peaked at his phone that was charging on the nightstand. I saw that he had created a new dating profile and was texting other women. I felt so defeated!
This had happened so many times and I just couldn’t figure out why he was hurting me. I came out of the bedroom sobbing and confronted him for the millionth time.
He was completely unfazed and just sat there calmly listening to me. I blurted out, “Why are you doing this to me?? Don’t you love me?? I do so much for you! I cook, clean, sleep with you, support you..everything! What else can I possibly do? Just please tell me…why?!”
He looked me dead in the eye with zero emotion and said, “Because I know that you won’t do anything about it.”
I don’t know why, but what he said opened my eyes for the first time. He was absolutely right! I knew right then and there that I was letting him walk all over me. He didn’t need to come up with bullshit excuses, deny it, or even hide it from me!
So here I am, sitting alone, feeling like the biggest and weakest loser on the planet.