My boyfriend is a working adult + part time degree student. Last week, he was in major stress due to assignments and finals.
He asked me not to chat with him for the time being until he finishes all his exams and assignments, which is totally fine for me because I know those are more priority.
However, on the day of his finals, his female colleague (married and pregnant) went for pregnancy check up and complained of stomachache, which caused her to be remained in the hospital for further checkup. She said she was stressed and crying, so my boyfriend put down his finals and went to accompany her.
I got mad because in my mind, he was putting her as priority above his exams and me.
I tried to explain to him why I am mad (her husband is on the way coming to see her, it’s not really his responsibility about whatever happened to the colleague), but in turn, I was getting mad at and he said he was disappointed in me because I did not support him to be a good person who comforts other people in stressed up condition.
I need some help here, as now I don’t know anymore what is right or wrong.
Here are what netizens think:
- Sure, boundaries apply for compassion too, but there are exceptions as well…and essentially the two of you don’t agree on the exceptions. It’s important to clarify the point of contention so it doesn’t blow up into something it’s not…which is now the case since he thinks you don’t ‘allow’ him to show compassion.
- Maybe his friend ask a favor to help him before he reaches aa he afraid anything can happen.
- I also don’t know who is right or wrong but I do know if you stay around, you can earn some pretty good bucks as a clown on that kid’s first birthday!
- Lives may be at risk. He is a kind soul for putting others safety above his own matters. Imagine someday we have emergency medical conditions and our colleague abandon us alone, how desperate we’ll feel? No right and wrong la, everyone has different priorities. Just hope we can show more empathy to ppl who need help. PS: I’m a father of 2, and I’m truly grateful to everyone who was kind to my wife especially when she was pregnant, e.g. giving her a seat on public transport.