My bf has a close female friend – that friend that guys would tell their gf that there’s nothing to worry about. They’re good friends, not bffs but he often shares important news and updates with her and regularly catches up with her.
She knows his family and extended family while I have yet to meet any despite being in a relationship with him for a year. I’m not particularly concerned about their relationship but my friends kept telling me that something is very off about this friendship dynamic.
My bf had previously confessed to his female friend 3 times over 4 years but she turned him down and they remained as good friends. She’s not in any of his cliques so they often hung out 1-on-1. Each time they went out to eat with one another (~every 2-3 months) he would drive up to fetch her and bring her to high-end restaurants, and the bill often goes up to $300++, of which he pays for it 8/10 times.
Their meetups often lasted between 4-6 hours every time, which others say is relatively long for a catch-up session as it could go slightly past midnight occasionally.
However, he always makes sure to keep me updated when he meets with him. On the other hand, he would bring me to eat in hawker centres, fast food places or purchase ready-made food from 7-11/donki, not that I complain because they’re delicious!
But we never had a fancy date due to budget constraints and I always paid for my share of the meals too or even pay for both of our meals. He would also ask for me to pay for it at the end of the day.
My friends are saying that treating a friend, particularly someone he used to like (or still likes) for expensive meals while not doing the same for me, his gf, is a red flag and i should have a talk with him about it.
As he was very open about his interactions with his female friend and is willing to disclose such information, I generally do not feel jealous or be suspicious about it. Furthermore, I feel that meeting his family would be something I would do in the future, not at present as we are both busy with school and work.
But is this issue something I be concerned with and clarify with him about?