My (21F) boyfriend (M21) can’t get over the fact I slept with someone else while we broke up for 3 months.
For some context, my boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 years now (excluding the 3 month break up) We go to college in the same state, so we see each other quite often.
At the end of last year, we broke up and it was our first time not talking to each other for 3 months. No contact at all. It wasn’t like a break so we didn’t intend to get back tgt.
When we ended up talking later (and have since rekindled the relationship), he found out that I had slept with someone.
As we were together for so long, he was the only person I had been with and random hookups aren’t normally my thing at all.
My boyfriend, however, had a thing with a girl and they also slept together (they were talking, hanging out…). We were also each others first everything.
I have gotten over the fact that he’s been with another girl, but he can’t get over the fact that I slept with someone else.
In his eyes, he can’t believe I gave it up so easily (a week after meeting the guy) and says it’s different from his situation as they had been talking even though they also hooked up.
It’s been a month since we have rekindled things, and things are perfect otherwise, but every time this comes up he just gets so upset and shuts me out completely (has happened twice since we got back tgt).
I want to be with him, and I believe he wants to be with me, but we aren’t sure how he is able to overcome this.
I can’t go back and change my actions,and that seems to be the only way to fix this, but he doesn’t know what he can do to move past this or if he ever will be able to and we are kind of just stuck and unsure what to do. This is the only problem in our relationship.
So I basically need your guys’ advice on how he could potentially overcome this, what I can do to help aid this process or in general, what I can say or do for him to make him feel better, and just advice about this in general (we want to keep talking but this just seems to be an obstacle that’s been hard for us to overcome).
Thank you for reading and please give me advice!