My bf (25) and I (29) have been together for 1 year. In the beginning of our relationship he was working but then he lost his job. When he lost his job, he would get money help from his brother and me.
He finally moved back with his parents in April cause he couldn’t afford to live without them. So he isn’t paying for anything right now.
He recently asked me to help him with $1,000 to get his teeth fixed as he was in pain. He has veneers and hasn’t kept to his cleaning routine and needs to re-do a tooth. He said he had around $1,900 and doesn’t want to use it all as he is trying to stretch it out for two months.
Seeing as I don’t have the cash and have been relying on my credit card these past few months due to the pandemic, I said I don’t have that money.
He suggested that he borrow my credit card and will pay me back when he starts working again (he has a job lined up in Jan). I said sorry, I can’t give you my credit card. I don’t want to overuse it. He then gets mad at me saying. well, you are spending on it and I’ll pay you back. I said I am literally spending on meds and food, nothing else. And I said I don’t think you have to right to tell me how to spend my money or on what.
The reason I didn’t want to give him my credit card is that I had already given him so much money and he never ever appreciates it nor does he even pay me back. I literally am so sick and tired of spoon-feeding him and want him to realise that I’m not an ATM.
He got mad at me and hasn’t talked to me for two days. Then he sent a text saying you have hurt me over money. I said no I didn’t.
Do you guys think I am right about not giving him my credit card? And how can I make him see that I am not an ATM and shouldn’t expect me to always help him.