My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. We recently successfully applied for a BTO. We are both 25 years old and work in the civil service ( we are in difference sectors).
Recently, we have been talking and he did randomly mention that in the future, probably he could be the one at home looking after the children and house, doing some trading as a source of income, while I would go out and work.
I am not sure if this is feasible as I am doubtful if he stays home all the time, he would become a lazy person (he is a pretty nua person, even during weekends on our dates we would just stay home and lie on the sofa watching shows) and would not be someone who is motivated or have a goal if he does not have a job. I am also unsure if the kind of trading he is talking about is able to help contribute to the family and am concerned about me as a female being the sole breadwinner and providing for the family.
I am not sure if this is a red flag in the relationship, showing that my bf is an unmotivated and lazy guy? Any one out there has similar experiences please do share with me and also all your perspectives.
Here are what netizens think:
If you are not comfortable with this then it’s a red flag. He has already verbalized his potential intentions. Better clear this topic in greater detail with him soon as you can.
If your daughter is seeing such a man and is about to marry him, would you give her your blessing?
He can stay home and care for kids and even nua (if the children needs an wants are all met, which is impossible one) provided, he can bring in around $4k every month through trading. If he can, then just let him stay at home and do trading.