So for context, my boyfriend is a doctor, Most of his friends are from work and they all seem to dislike me and act distant maybe cause I’m not a doctor too? Idk and don’t care honestly, since we started dating they’ve been asking to hang out without me and they leave any event I’m at. My boyfriend said they’re just taking their time to get used to me.
Anyways, His B-day was days ago, I’d arranged for the party and paid for everything. It wasn’t a surprise since the party was held at the restaurant, and he needed heads-up so he could invite his doctor friends.
We got there then his friends started arriving, They came to greet him and started shaking his hand and hugging him while completely ignoring me though I was there next to him!.
The tension started when one of them started making remarks about the way I dressed, I sucked it up but another friend started interrogating me about my degree then implying I was ignorant of my food choice (wtf?).
An hour later another one asked if I could leave because they wanted to discuss work stuff and it’s confidential. I was so shocked I laughed asking why he thought it was appropriate to discuss work during a party and he replied that I had an “attitude”.
An argument ensued and they ‘demanded’ that I leave but I said absolutely not, My boyfriend finally spoke up after it escalated and asked that I keep the peace and go home but I refused and reminded him and let his friends know that I’d arranged for this party and paid for it and so they should leave since they’re just “guests”. He pulled me aside and begged me to go home after they said if I don’t leave then they will but I still refused. They left, all of them, and the party was cut short. my boyfriend was upset and started complaining at home that I ruined his B-day the minute I started arguing with his friends. I told him they were being disrespectful to me but he said I was wrong too cause they said they wanted to discuss medical stuff and I should’ve respected that and not made it “personal”.
He’s not speaking to me now, I was so hurt I couldn’t argue anymore, I felt like I ruined his birthday by making a scene like he said and acting pass-aggressive.
Am I wrong?
To say that the reason I refused to leave was that I figured they used the “medical stuff discussion” as an excuse to get me to leave early.