Does your boss stalk you on social media?
I am an extrovert who holds a day job and side gigs as a performing artist and I often post about stuff that I do outside of work.
My ‘boss’ appeared to be cool about it initially and said he wasn’t going to control or comment about what I do outside of work.
We watch each other stories and never had issues with each other. One day, we had an argument at work and I started to feel awkward about our friendly r/s ( we are the same age hence we spoke like friends ).
Hence, I blocked him from my stories and he was clearly aware and he continued to stalk me ( my posts are public ), and he went to investigate what I do outside of work.
His arguments were that my lifestyle would affect my performance at work. Yet he constantly gaslight me and wasn’t capable of being a good leader.
I didn’t think much and have always devoted my day work and personal work equally. One fine day, he called for a meeting and told me he was letting me go and I wasn’t allowed to serve notice.
He brought up a lot of reasons and excuses but I later realise it wasn’t about those things he mentioned. It was the life I had outside of work.
He wanted some form of control over me and didn’t like that I have a life outside of work.
Guys, do you have you bosses on social media? Do they judge what you do? Does your posts affect how you are perceived by your bosses and colleagues at work?
Netizens’ comments
- Don’t ever let anyone in your workplace know what you’re doing outside of work. Keep ur personal (private) and professional social media accounts separate. Coworkers and bosses can use ur personal things against u.
Trust me, coworkers and bosses are NEVER your friends. Friend had a gossipy and nosey coworker who constantly asked her abt her personal life. Friend was smart and lied to her/gave her one word answers to show her disinterest
And don’t date coworkers, cause once you break up with them it’s gonna be damn awkward and they can spread lies abt u - (OP) I learnt my lesson. I just wanted to be honest and a good employee but clearly it didn’t work out. My previous bosses didn’t mind at all.
Also, even if I don’t tell them and they search my name / do a background check, they will find me easily because I have been an artist for more than 10 years and I have a lot of new articles online. Is it worth it to change my Ic name? I would feel really sad if I had to change my Ic name just to secure a day job.