My boyfriend nearly cheated on me with another guy (yes a guy). My boyfriend isn’t gay and he claims that he isn’t bi too. We agreed on having no physical intimacy until we are wedded.
Many months back when he went for his routine swim at the Safra in Toa Payoh, he saw a guy hanging around in a shower cubicle and felt the guy was looking for more. My boyfriend says the guy tried to hint him which got him curious and through easy google he found a forum called Blowing Wind where men were openly discussing and searching for these activities.
By sheer luck, my boyfriend saw a posting about a “missed connection” and the description matches the guy. My boyfriend reached out to him and they chatted. My boyfriend confessed over time the chat turned S in nature as that made him very curious and the guy was slowly making his move.
(My boyfriend found out from one other member in that forum that this guy swims regularly there and had regularly tried to get guys into his shower cubicle before and made posts in the forum for missed connections. Are such incidents not prohibited?)
A few weekends ago the guy made his ultimate move and dated my boyfriend to meet near a boardwalk in Macritchie Reservoir to show him how to have ‘fun’ but it was a no-show. Although he was a no-show, he continued to make relentless attempts and moves on my boyfriend, including sending photographs of his parts. It was before their second planned appointment that I found out. My boyfriend had left their telegram chat open on his computer and I saw their conversation.
I tried to confront the guy on the Blowing Wind forum but was met with hostility such as threats that I was harassing and doxxing (I suspect some of the hostility might be from him anonymously). He removed all his contacts so I had no choice but to confront him there in a public sphere, I wanted to do it public to shame him for the hurt he has done to me. He has not apologized till this date and the owner of that forum has also blocked the topic. I am so shocked that he was in the wrong but I am ridiculed and they condoned his wrongdoing.
What should I do next to get the apology and warn him not to come near my boyfriend again? He actually has a girlfriend himself and I pity the girl whom likely have no idea what her boyfriend is doing behind her back.