I have never been close to either of my older brothers but things got really bad between me and my oldest brother about a year ago when he decided to go no contact with our mom.
For some background, my brother who is 20 years old got his 19y.o girlfriend pregnant and they had my wonderful nephew, my brother didn’t want to be a father and did very little to contribute to my nephew, making his baby mama do everything for him. If he wasn’t working he would be playing video games or sleeping, I get that he needs personal time but it really bothered me when he agreed to let my mom adopt my nephew just so he would be able to go back to his responsibility-free life.
My nephew’s mom, she’s an amazing mom and she does the best that she can, did not want to let this happen and no one in my family (my 19 y.o sisters, myself, and my stepdad) other than my mom and brother thought it was a good idea.
My mom already has 8 kids, half of which she’s not even on speaking terms with for plenty of reasons. She enjoys having babies but the second they start walking, talking, and getting into things, LIKE KIDS DO, she no longer wants anything to do with them.
She repeatedly tried to guilt and pressure my nephew’s mom into letting her adopt my nephew until she finally got to a breaking point and took my nephew out of state to stay with her family, I don’t exactly agree with the decision but I don’t blame her for it either.
Now onto the main thing, my brother, his baby mama, and my nephew all moved into my maternal grandmother’s house, and I moved out of my parent’s house, about a month before I moved out I got a call from my maternal grandmother screaming at me, demanding to know how I could do this to my mom.
I was so confused and asked her what she meant, she continued to scream at me demanding why I would try to ruin my mom and brothers relationship, again, still really confused I asked what she meant. She said that my brother told her he didn’t want to have my mom in his life any more because, apparently, I had sent him videos of her talking shit about him. I asked what the hell she was talking about, I didn’t even have his phone number. He said that I had sent him videos over Whatsapp but he didn’t have the videos or even the account name that sent them to him, I got chewed out by my entire family and despite my trying to defend myself they all believed that I would do that without any proof.
I got my brother’s number from our younger sibling and sent him a long text telling him that if he wanted an excuse to stop talking to our mom he should have grown a pair and told her himself, I then proceeded to call him a sorry excuse for a man and a father and demand to know why he felt the need to drag me into his issues with our mom.
I never got a response but I know that he read the message, I’ve had family members tell me that while what he did wasn’t cool, I went too far by calling him that.