My brother is in the middle of a very angry divorce.
He’s living at our parent’s house right now because he can’t afford a place on his own. The divorce is completely his fault. He blew money on stocks and bitcoin and other expensive stuff and took out loans and lines of credit in secret. He didn’t tell his wife and went so far as to show her false statements.
It didn’t work as well as it he thought because she figured it out and is divorcing him. But their house has been taken away by the bank and their savings were wiped. Noth of them applied for bankruptcy because my brother got them into massive debt on stocks and other wild out of control spending and finances.
His wife lost her job because bankruptcy is a negative in her industry. She’s living with her parents too and both of them are relying on legal aid and parents to help pay the legal fees for the divorce.
Normally I strive to ignore my brother but lately, he’s been saying it’s not his fault because the stock market is rigged and his wife should have paid more attention (he actively hid from her). The last time he said I said the entire divorce is his fault and he should apologize for destroying his wife’s life. He wasn’t pleased about it and the next time I saw him he spent the whole time trying to pick a fight with me.
He’s tried to get our parents involved too all because of how upset he is for me not agreeing with him.
Here is what netizens think:
I believe this is financial infidelity and it’s 100% his fault. If he’d been sharing his financial decisions with her and they both decided to do it and then landed flat on their faces, that’s different. But he made this choices and now he’s trying to blame her for his mistakes.
I’m a day trader and invest in things here and there after my research. That’s not way to make money in crypto or any other market (the way your brother did)
The problem with a rule like that is that, in the very likely event he continues to poor-mouth his ex, the parents have to either go back on their word or throw away the perfectly calibrated support they’ve designed for their foolhardy but hopefully redeemable son.