the older I get, the more I realize a lot of people are successful because of their parents.
I love my parents. But they were absent for most of the major decisions I made. I started working under the table at 12 to help make ends meet and have been working ever since.
I’ve never gotten any help from them financially. They never taught me how to budget or look for jobs. I don’t blame them and never expected this from them.
But I can see the opposite for a lot of my friends. I worked for someone who is lauded as a business owner, but if you hear the full story, you find that his mom funded and helped with his business, and his parents bought him a house to live in so he didn’t have to pay rent when he first started his business.
I have many friends who have the jobs they have, the cars they have, the house they have, because their parents knew someone or their parents bought it for them or paid for a down payment. I know this because they have told me.
Anyway, I’m just venting. But I can’t help but wonder how my life would be different if I had been blessed with parents who had money or degrees or nice jobs.
Editing to add: I’m not saying your success is based on your parents. You can have awesome parents and still manage to f up your life and you can have bad parents and get out of it.
But at the same time, I used to think there was something inherently wrong with me because others I knew were successful or had things I didn’t.
But as I get older, it’s easier for me to see that not everyone who I assumed was just better at life than me are really that way, some have had a lot of help that I’ve never had.
And that’s okay. If anything, it makes me feel less like a loser because I’ve figured things out on my own instead of consistently having help from family. But still doesn’t mean I could potentially be better off had I had support growing up.