So I recently moved to study overseas and recently found out my 16 year old sister did something that I’m pretty upset about. So my family had a party for me before I left and near the end I noticed that my Nintendo Switch and it’s games were gone.

I found it in my sister’s room and packed it and went to sleep to get ready to go to the airport. The flight and everything else went fine and while I was unpacking my stuff I noticed I couldn’t find my Nintendo Switch or any of its games. I was really confused as I distinctly remembered putting it in my suitcase. I called my Mom and she explained that my sister had taken the games and my Switch in the middle of the night and hid it so she could have them.

My Mom didn’t know until it was too late and took the game and her phone from her for a week as punishment. I am fuming. The Switch was given to me by a friend and all the games were either gifts or I paid for them and now my Mom thinks it’s completely ok to let my sister take something that is mine.

When I told her this she said I was being melodramatic and territorial and to let my sister have it. The next week my sister called me and was being a snotface about the whole thing saying stuff like “How does it feel to know you have to ask me to play games now? I’m going to sell it to buy vape”.

I told her that she is an entitled brat and told her “I’m not surprised you still don’t have a friend” My sister was shocked and hung up the phone. She has been having trouble making friends for a while now and told me I’m a jerk. I’ll admit I went too far but I don’t disagree with calling her out on doing that.

My sister has never done anything like this and my siblings and parents are telling me I’m a bad brother and telling me to apologize and let her keep it. I’m conflicted and need to know if I’m wrong because I feel bad and need to know if I’m the entitled brat.

My entire family isn’t letting me talk to her until I say it belongs to her.

So my parents recognized that she steal it but thinks that stealing is right for her just because she is under 18. I am really tempted to tell my mom that she is vaping.

Should I?

In my husband’s will there is a letter addressed to his mistress

Me (45) and my husband (42) had been married for 16 years. Not the best marriage. I worked day shift while he worked night shifts.

He cheated on me 2 times, but I always forgave him because it was in both cases a single encounter and when I found out snooping through his phone the text had stopped weeks before. (He had the habit to not delete any chat).

I wasn’t really active in the last year of our marriage cause I wanted kids before but he didn’t, stating that he still wanted to live child free and have fun without the responsibilities that comes with a child.

After I turned 39, my doctor confirmed that I couldn’t have children anymore, so I reduce our intimate life to one time every two months.

Four years ago, he cheated on me for the third time, but this time it was different. He met this girl extremely younger than him (she was almost 19 at the time, he was 38) whom I’ll call Lana (fake name).

They have been together for one year, when Lana realized that he was lying and the number he constantly received calls from wasn’t actually his sister like he said but was me, his wife.

So she memorized my number and one day she called me and told me what was going between them two. We also met one week after and she showed me all the text between them as proof, stating that she didn’t know he was married and that she had immediately cut contacts with him.

Those messages were particularly hurtful to read, because unlike those with the other two women, this wasn’t only physical but strongly emotional too.

He kept telling her how much he loved her, kept telling her that there was a ring coming for her and the most devastating, apparently he tried multiple times to get her pregnant but she didn’t want to be mum at 19.

After I confronted my husband with all the proofs, he broke down and admitted the affair, but unlike the other two where he cried and begged, this time he seemed way less remorseful.

I told him that I was willing to forgive him again but this time we had to do couple counseling. Two days after suddenly looks at me and tells me that he loves me, but loves her more and wants to separate and try to get her back since she had cut him out.

At that point I let all out and said many bad things to him and lay on the floor crying and screaming, in disbelief, asking myself how could I have wasted all these years and telling him I should have left him the first time I found out about his affair.

Angry as I was, I called my family and told them everything. Word spread quickly, as the next day he received a call from his family that made him come back to his senses.

He came clean, apologized with me and agreed to couple counseling. The next year seemed to go better, especially our intimate life. But I could still sense he wasn’t fully happy even though he told me the opposite.

One year and a half ago he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. I’m not gonna spare all the details, but this has been the worst year of my life. Seeing him this weak and sick had me crushed. He died one month ago and I’m devastated.

Last week there was a meeting to discuss his will. He left me and his sisters everything. Then the lawyer pulled out a letter titled “to the love of my life”, so I ask to handle it to me as I guessed it was directed to me.

But instead they told me that the letter was directed to Lana. My heart sank, I left the room and went to cry like a baby. After 10 minutes I composed myself and got back into the room.

I asked to give it to me so that I could call her and give It to her myself but, my husband had specifically request to organize a meeting with Lana to make sure she received the letter since he was sure that if I was the one who had to contact and give her the letter, she would have never received it (and he was right).

I don’t know what to do. I would like to ask to be present but at the same time I know that whatever is in that letter will hurt me deeply and right now I’m already devastated.

seeking wisdom: it’s my first time being invited to wedding and the venue is quite expensive (think 300-odd)… i’m still a student so i would like to ask:

1) must my angbao be able to cover the cost of the seat?

2) if i don’t want to spend that amt, should I not go?

3) how should i reject then?

4) any advice that would help in making a decision!!!

thank you

Netizens’ comments

• Key thing as you mentioned. Just remember that you are still a student. Second, if that friend is truly your friend and knows your current status, what you give will not matter. What matters to him/her is that you attend his/her wedding. If that person is not close to you, it doesn’t matter if you don’t attend. Just my opinion.
• We really need to address this ludicrous expectation that the guest should cover the expense of the wedding. Give whatever amount you can afford or not at all. You’ll know if the couple are friends worth having based on how they react. Or if they are people you barely know, just say you travelling that day and unable to attend. You have zero obligation to attend.
• How much to give is entirely up to you, covering the cost is just a good gesture. If i expect my guest to cover the cost i might as well host the wedding on the moon since cost is basically covered by guest. But please don’t let this distract you from the deal KFC is running at the moment.
• You are not invited to pay for their wedding. Give within your means. If they decide to choose an expensive venue, they should be prepared to top up after the ang pows.

A guy shared how he asked his girlfriend for permission to hang out with a friend and she said yes, so he went ahead but then she got angry because he went ahead with it.

He then asked whether women mean yes when they say no, and no when they say yes.

Here is the story:

“I asked my GF if she’ll get mad if I go hang out with a friend and she answered ‘No’, so I went ahead.

However, when I got back, she is mad at me.

I thought ladies always advocated for ‘No’ means ‘No’? So for my GF does ‘No’ mean ‘Yes’? Do I flip everything around?

So I feel like I am a dog now, ask me sit must sit ask me stand must stand. But no I worse than dog I told to sit I sit but i tio gan.

Editor’s note: I guess its true when they say men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

A man seeks serious advice for his relationship after his girlfriend has a problem with his hobbies.

He states that Pokemon cards are a big part of his life but his girlfriend thinks otherwise.

Here is the story:

I need some serious relationship advice here.

I finally got myself a girlfriend. She’s pretty, and has a great figure, but the only downside is she hates my hobby with Pokémon cards.

I had emphasized many times to her that Pokémon cards are a form of investment just like how people are crazy over NFTs.

She just can’t seem to accept it.

To provide some context, I was previously a loner with no friends. I had only my Pokémon cards to provide me with accompany.

She complains that I am always going back to the mall, spending hours at the card shop looking at Pokémon cards and spending an excessive amount of time online.

She calls it a fetish.

After 1 month of us being together, she decided to give me the ultimatum. Give up my Pokémon cards or her.

I am in a serious dilemma now.

Should I get the dark Charizard next or the dark Dragonite next?

Here are what netizens think:

• Better than spending money drinking, at least your cards might have some value one day

• Tell her relationship or marriage is not everything. Be honest with her with your inner thoughts and communication is vital to keep any relationship gtg. Let say even if you give up Pokemon card hobbies and chose her, in future if you have any other hobbies she will make a big fuss of it and ask you to prioritize her over everything. Better think wisely and good luck to you.

• A lot of hobbies and collections come and go specially when you are older and has other priorities in life.

• On the path to be the best, sacrifices are necessary. Drive on, my brave warrior!

A man shared a story online on how his ex-girlfriend who he broke up came back to haunt him.

He said that back then, after breaking up with his ex who later jump off from his block.

Here is the story:

It happened about a month ago and it was at night when I was going home and walking in my HDB estate the lights started to blink, I thought that because my estate was old so the power got some problems.

However, when I was working near my block I saw a patch of blood on the floor. It was scary but after looking again it’s just light reflecting from the red paint of the HDB. The image of the wet floor of blood reminds me of how my ex jumped off. (Yes, from my block)

It’s been many years and I still can’t forget it, after she jump I was at the void deck and I saw her body. (She waited for me to return home from work and wanted me to see it).

So back to the story, After I reached my block, I press the 9th floor where I stayed. But the lift went straight to the 12th floor (where she jumped from).

I tried pressing 9th floor but the lift opened and close its door twice.

So I started to get scared and I wanted to leave the lift in case I got stuck and quickly ran out and took the stairs.

It was really getting creepy and I quickly wanted to open the house gate but my key was missing!

I ran back to the staircase and found my keys on the 12th floor. As I was climbing up, I happened to look at the corridor of the lift lobby and I saw something drop from the building.

I immediately panic, ran back home open the gate, On all the lights and sleep with the lights on under the blanket. I don’t even dare to shower.

The next day I told my mom what happened and she immediately contacted a property agent to sell the house.

I have been staying at a rental flat for the past month.

I don’t know if it was my ex coming back to haunt me for breaking her heart, Honestly speaking, I did not cheat on her. I broke up with her as she was overcontrolling and got a new girlfriend several months later.

She could not take it and end it all.

Let me start by saying this: while we haven’t been dating for too long, I will say she has got to be one of the most loving and genuine people I have ever met. I’ve never seen or had a hint of her behavior eventually turning out like this and I’m kind of disgusted right now.

We met up at my apartment and decided that we were both starving so we went to go get some food. Fast forward to us getting there, we pull up to the drive-through and she’s got the music blasting all the way up until the employee starts our order.

She immediately rang off her order not giving the dude a chance to plug it into the system and I say “dang, give him a minute”. I work in the restaurant industry so I know how annoying it is for people to order like that.

We then pull up to the window and the cashier hands her the drinks and when they hand her hers, she’s like “uhh? I order a large. That don’t look like a large.”

In a rude tone. The cashier says it is, and she’s going on about how they need bigger cups and whatnot. At this point I’m starting to get embarrassed that she’s talking to him like that, and I just sit back in my seat.

Then she’s asks for sauces and apparently the restaurant implemented a new policy about giving away too many sauces and he’s trying to tell her that and she’s like “well then just double up on the ranch and honey mustard, and one of the other ones” which is pretty much exactly what the guy explained he can’t do but he gave it to her anyway to avoid the conflict. She didn’t even say thank you when we left.

On the ride back home I tell her “you didn’t have to have an attitude with the guy. He said it was store policy there’s nothing he can do about it, he just works there.” then she says she didn’t think she was being rude and apologizes to me and but my blood is boiling from embarrassment so the ride home is silent. When we get home she is mad bc I confronted her about it and decides she wants to go home.

All I can think about is how she complains about rude customers at her job but then turns around and does this then has the nerve to get mad that she got called out on her nonsense. I don’t even know if I want to continue seeing her at this point. I literally cannot be with someone who is so rude to someone just trying to do their job but on the other hand, I’m hoping this was a one-off thing and I don’t know if I should apologize for confronting her like that..

I’m skinny and boyfriend watches SUPER CURVY “videos” of other women (24F, 22M)

Let me start by saying I’m naturally very slim and I struggle to put on weight. My bra size is an A cup, and my bottom half is nothing special either.

I never gave it much thought, until my first boyfriend broke up with me. He cheated on me, and when I asked him why, he proceeded to tell me (and I quote) “Your body doesn’t turn me on. By the time you’re 21, your shape will fill out and be perfect.”

Well, I’ve passed 21 now, and I still look the same as when I was 16. Over the years, I’ve heard similar insulting comments many times over by men, and hearing “you’re not hot” in all its wonderful forms has really driven my confidence into the dirt. But enough with my sob story.

I found a wonderful partner, and I’ve been dating him for nearly a year. I was afraid to get naked with him, but eventually with his reassurance, I felt less insecure. Recently though, we don’t “do it” as often, it has gotten significantly less frequent and when we do he takes longer to finish.

Around this time, I also noticed he was taking extremely long trips to the bathroom while we were in the middle of hanging out together. Out of concern, I asked if everything was okay, and he told me he’s been constipated (how lovely)… I took that at face value for a while.

After weeks of this, I got curious and listened by the bathroom door while he was in there and heard moaning on his phone. I’m not against playing with yourself, but I found it insulting that when we were literally in the middle of watching a movie and eating dinner together, he left to go do that.

That brings us to today… I was sitting at our desk opening some bills and he told me I can pay them on his phone, which isn’t unusual for us since he has the apps to do it. Usually, he has no tabs open but THIS TIME as you can probably guess, there was a big old “video” staring me in the face.

The woman in it had a MAMMOTH chest and ass. The polar opposite of my physique.

I had this sick feeling in my stomach, and impulsively pressed the history button. You know that feeling when you know it’s bad, but you can’t stop?

I scrolled and scrolled. And there is was displayed. Day after day, week and week of videos and ALL of the women (literally every single one) had the same body type. Cartoonishly proportioned ultra voluptuous curves.

Clearly he has a type.

I haven’t mentioned the bathroom or the phone situation to him. I’ve put on a smile and tried to pull myself together but it stings a lot.

I would have felt a bit better if the women were varied: you know some thin, some curvy, some in between. But he actively searches for that body type every time.

I’m back to feeling rejected, not good enough, and ultimately not sexy.

I’m tempted to let him be free and find someone who really gets his motors running, since that’s what he’s apparently lusting for, but we otherwise have a great connection and loving towards each other so I’m torn.

I’m in need of some advice on how to proceed. It may sound silly but I’m really heartbroken about this discovery given my past. Male and female perspectives appreciated.

my bf [M26] and I [F24] moved in together but wants me to only “see” him on weekends..

Some backstory: My boyfriend is an extreme introvert and I try to be mindful of this.

When we moved in together we made sure he has his own room so that he has a space of his own, and he hangs out in there 95% of the time.

I understand that people generally are a drain on him emotionally and I have zero issues with giving him space!

But this is getting out of hand..

It became don’t come in when the door is closed. He said “if the door is closed pretend I’m not home”

Ok weird, but whatever. Except he never comes out. Right now he is unemployed and I am working so I’m barely home anyways.

After falling asleep alone last night again, this morning I asked him if we can do something fun once I get home (he likes it when I give him “warning”)

he begins to melt down saying it’s normal for couples to not talk for days at a time and since we spend weekends together I am being too much.

it’s just hard for me to keep feelings when he shuts me out.

This is insane right? I don’t think I’m asking for too much. I am content in my own company but I feel lonely after 2 months of this.

He wants me to “compromise” but his compromise is him getting his way. I just want my partner to be there for me sometimes.

He says I should be happy with him greeting me when I get home and then weekend interaction

Writing all this out feels insane. I feel like I’m being gaslit, please help.