Three years ago, I met the man of my dreams. He was handsome, funny, and endlessly kind. We moved in together shortly after, and I thought our life was perfect. That is, until I found out he had refused to buy insurance for himself.

He was a healthy, young man who didn’t think he needed insurance.

He argued that he was young and healthy and would never need it. I tried to warn him that accidents do happen, and it’s better to be prepared than not. But he refused to budge.

Then, it happened. He got sick and needed to be hospitalized. I was scared and worried about his health, but I was also scared of the financial burden that would come with his hospital bills. I knew that if he didn’t have insurance, we would be in serious trouble.

And I was right. The hospital bills piled up quickly, and we were unable to pay them. We had to take out loans to cover the costs, and the debt started to accumulate. I was devastated. I had been trying to save up for our wedding, but now all of my savings were going to pay his medical bills.

My BF had become a financial burden, and I was struggling to keep up. I had to take extra shifts at work to try and make ends meet, but it wasn’t enough. I was exhausted and frustrated. I felt like all of my hard work was going to waste because of his refusal to get insurance.

I love my BF and I want him to be healthy and happy. But I also want him to understand the importance of being prepared for the unexpected. I understand that he was young and thought he was invincible, but now he knows better. We’ve both learned a hard lesson, and I hope he never makes the same mistake again.

I’m thankful that he was able to make a full recovery, and I’m relieved that we were able to pay off the hospital bills. But I’m also thankful that I now know the importance of insurance. No one can predict the future, and it’s better to be prepared than not. I will never forget this lesson, and I will always make sure that my loved ones are taken care of.

Okay, so a classmate of mine who I follow on social media recently lost a lot of weight. At first she was posting before and after shots which were quite motivational.

However slowly these pictures become like advertisements, and she started “online weight loss coaching”. Every day the posts will be about how she’ll help you lose weight if you join. These are really cheesy pictures and captions like “five things I learned about myself”, the five things being stuff like “faith over fear” and “I am strong and courageous”.

She also started pushing about meal replacement shakes. I dug deeper and saw it’s from a certain company H-life. Actually, I wanted to ask her for some tips to lose weight also but from all the posts it seems like some sort of weird cult behavior. Like her whole life revolves around “fat loss coaching” and it’s over the top positive.

Is this some sort of new MLM? I don’t wanna get sucked in. Is she alright or has she sunken in too deep?

Here are what netizens think:

• if you have money to spare, you can always pay them to a fitness trainer. They will ask you for photos for your every meal to give you advice accordingly what you should do next.

• hmm if losing weight is a difficult task then it is only normal for her to commit fully to it in order to see the results. she prolly does not want to give herself a chance to be distracted and lose motivation.of cos there are other weight loss method too that requires discipline.

• There are many mlm out there like this. The more prominent ones include the one u mentioned & alot more online. All the same tactics. Daily posting of all the success stories. Try googling and you’ll see, many people actually failed using their products too. Essentially, no short cuts to dieting. If you wanna lose weight, try jogging daily for 30mins & count your calories. I guarantee thats the best weight loss strategy.

• She benefitted from losing weight and getting healthy. Most likely looks much better and more confident too. What is wrong with her wanting to share how she turned her health & life around?

fellow Singaporeans, how do i deal with “fragile masculinity men” at my workplace?

Hello, I recently finished my studies and entered my first office job. Barely a few weeks into my job, my supervisor is threatening to have me fired, and verbally abusing me on a daily basis.

I wish to share some examples, and I hope that someone here with more tempered experience has advice on how I can deal with my superior without burning any bridges.

Incident 1:
My very first week at work: at company meeting, my supervisor forgot to update a particular project status, and I gently reminded him. (I would come to learn that this damages his pride)
He proceeded to wait till I was alone in the office with him, before suddenly launching into a lecture about how I made him look bad.
“That’s not my intention, I just wanted to remind you”, I said
“No, you made me look desperate for approval. don’t question me. When I tell you anything, you seem to think there is room for negotiation.”
I was like HUH????? but told myself that perhaps it was my fault, and i made him look bad.

Incident 2:
We were checking through some office inventory. Seeing that he is having some issues locating an entry on a 10-page document, I said this:
“Hey, do you want me to take a look? Maybe a fresh pair of eyes will be able to spot it”
He somehow took great offense with that, and replied:
“eh, you just hurt my feelings you know. YOU THINK I CANNOT FIND IT MYSELF IS IT? WHAT DO YOU MEAN FRESH PAIR OF EYES? I SEE THIS PAPER NOT EVEN 2 MINS YOU SAY I OLD IS IT”

Is his fragile masculinity so fragile that such a minor thing hurt him?

Incident(s) 3:
On days when we are extremely busy, he doesn’t ever contribute to any work. He instead chooses to contribute by standing a distance away and ordering us around. We are usually fine working on our own, but he LOVES to barge in on us. He would then make us explain our every move to him, so that he can tell us it’s “wrong” “confusing ourselves” and “inefficient”, he then proceeds to verbally tell us how HE would do it, without actually lending a hand. If we don’t follow his exact way of doing things, he would scold me for having attitude & obedience issues, threatening to report me to the boss.

Incident 4:
He hurts us with very rude language, but gets upset at the slightest critique he receives. He’d never let me finish my sentences, cutting me off with inexcusably rude phrases like
“you’re not answering my question”
“That’s not what I asked”
“Now you’re just contradicting yourself”
“Are you questioning me?”
Yet, when our company boss critiques his presentation pitches, my supervisor gets upset and hurt at the smallest feedback.
He likes to dish out the heat but can’t take any.

Final Incident:
Today, he waited to I was alone in the office with him, before saying to me in an extremely degrading tone, “come here right now.” He proceeded to tell ask if I have obedience issues or if I’m trying to show attitude, before threatening that he would bring me to talk with management about being a poor worker.
For reference, I am on good terms with management and have always completed all my assigned work dutifully.
What did I do wrong this time? I was taking too long with stocktaking, and I was taking too long because I was not doing things in his EXACT ideal way.
In actuality, I was late because of Incident #3, whereby instead of lending a hand, he was wasting precious time nitpicking and micro-managing our every move.

Dear Singaporean, what can I do? How can I stay at my job without one day losing my cool? (thus losing my job?)
I doubt speaking to management will help, as I risk them siding him.
I can’t ask questions or talk to this supervisor at all.
I feel like no matter what i do, I won’t have anyone side me because I am new, and he’s my supervisor.

Sorry for the long post. I came home quite emotional as a 20-something adult and was writing this between deep breaths of frustration. I love my new job, and everyone else there is really nice.

My coworker has been giving me signs, should I just hook up with her? I’m a 21m, she’s a 24F. Been working here for 2 months and i always catch her staring.

About a week ago we were both alone at work and she started telling me how she just hooked up with some other guy here but that they don’t talk anymore.(totally out of the blue)

She also said that she’s home alone until 1pm everyday. She’s always making excuses to come talk to me.

Since she hooked up with someone else I’m hoping to keep it casual, which I think she’d be down for. How should I go about asking her, if it’s even a good idea at all? What would you do?

I don’t see myself dating her, when we talk at work it’s cool but nothing to make me say I’m attracted to her in that way.

More attracted to her in a hooking up type of way. I will make that clear from the start before anything. And we’d both have to agree that it’s just FWB nothing more, if not I’m not in.

Netizens’ comments

1. We can all tell you to never f a coworker but you have to do it it to truly understand why. You’re young, go have your fun.
2. Is this a corporate job or retail/service role? If the former you better leave her alone
3. Bad idea if you value your job/workplace sanity. Just flirt and date her if you ever change jobs. I met my wife at work, but we dated after I left for another job
4. I’m gonna tell you not to sleep with a coworker but based on your comments you already made up your mind.
5. In my single days I never would dare to fish off a company pier… I get you’re younger which matters little but if she’s above you it could affect her more too.
6. been there, done that in the restaurant field! ended up dating him for 3 years and everyone is right… do not s-t where you eat.