From the first time I saw my gf, she has long silky hair. The moment I saw her hair, I know that I wanted to marry her. I’m not joking.

It’s really becos of her hair that I asked her out and eventually to be my gf. But becos of the weather now, my gf suddenly say that she thinks long hair is too troublesome and she wants to cut it shorter. She find it a hassle to have to dry her hair every single time she wash it so she wants to cut it and she wants to go to those atas salon that will help her style her hair. The worse part is she want me to sponsor her. Knn I don’t even want her to cut her hair now she still want me to pay money for her to cut her hair. Ccb. Bros and sis help pls. How do I tell her that I want her hair to keep her hair long without offending her and restricting her freedom and becoming single?

Here are what netizens think:

• Some people like foot you like hair.
  
• You dont deserve her! Is her hair your alter ego?
  
• “Looks like you’re facing a hairy situation! Maybe compromise and find a hairstyle that’s manageable for her but also keeps some length?”
  
• “Relationships are about supporting each other’s choices. Maybe you can discuss how you both feel about her hair length and find a solution that works for both of you.”
  
• “Communication is key! Share your feelings honestly and let her know why her long hair means so much to you. But also, be open to her perspective and preferences.”
  
• “It’s natural to have preferences, but remember, love goes beyond appearances. Express your thoughts, but respect her decision if she still wants to go for a shorter style.”

wearing short shorts to the gym even after being asked to stop?

So I am a big guy. I workout daily. I go to three gyms regularly. I wear and have worn short shorts, like those FBT shorts, like those you wear in the army.

I usually get attention for this, but it’s usually just old men that roll their eyes. Occasionally women stare. Nothing out of control. I’ve been doing it for years.

Well recently a woman joined my gym that seems obsessed with my legs. She will walk over everytime she sees me.

Well her husband came with her the other day. He proceeded to have a mental breakdown over his wife talking to me.

He came over and asked if I thought my shorts were appropriate. I responded by asking him not to objectfy me for being beutiful. Which made him very mad.

Staff got involved and asked me to cover up for a little while. I said sure. So the next day I came in smaller shorts but with a long sleeve shirt. He was with her and lost his mind.

When staff came again to talk to me. I said I had been working out like this here for years. I’ve also seen women wear a hell of a lot less. So I would not be changing anytime soon. Which they just shrugged at.

Netizens’ comments

1. Next time they bother you about it, ask them for a copy of the dress code in the contact you signed when you joined so you can review it together to fully understand what the policy says.
   Then inform them that you’ll be filing a complaint against the husband and the employees for harassment.
2. Next time they ask you to cover up, show up in a ski mask, long sleeves, and even shorter shorts.
3. You’re allowed to wear whatever you want. Clearly the boyfriend was jealous of you and the attention his girlfriend was giving you. I’d keep doing you, my guy. Who gives a f what others think. You’re not hurting anyone. If he doesn’t wanna see it or doesn’t want his girlfriend to see it, then they can go to a different gym or go at a different time

I(28F) am single, don’t have kids and live alone. I also do not work OT or do anything beyond my work.

First, let me explain what my work is like: so we are an internal auditing company. I work in the logistics auditing division. What that means is that when a company hires us (mostly to see how good their policies are), we shadow their workers, to see where efficiency can be increased.

Sometimes that means working night shift, delivery, warehouse, manufacturing…etc.

We are very lucky that we have an awesome manager and team leader. Once we divide the tasks, you can do them whenever as long as your report is handed in when it should be. Work from home, from the office, at 3 am, less than 40hrs… It doesn’t matter.

For the 6 years, I have been on this team, another female colleague (30s) has been doing her absolute best to work the least amount possible. First, she is either always pregnant and not “able” to shadow anyone but the office workers, she is on maternity leave (4 months), on her yearly vacation (a month), or conveniently sick when it is time for some heavy-duty work (she sends in MC like it’s free, well it is as the company covers medical).

When she is in the office, she is dumping her work on the others. She uses her kids as an excuse all the time.

Well usually the other team members pick up her slack, but I refuse to do so.

This time we are auditing a larger company, so all hands on deck. And for the first time ever she is neither pregnant nor on maternity leave, and she just got back from her yearly leave.

The company we are auditing is overseas, so the members who will have to go will be staying there for 3 weeks. This time it is my turn to stay in the office (well my home TBH) and do the data organisation/analysis.

She asked me to switch with her, apparently, she can’t leave her 5 kids alone with her husband. I said no. She tried to guilt trip me by saying that what she would have to pay for child care is more than what she would get paid for the whole month and that I don’t have any responsibilities like her. I told her “well they are not my kids, so I don’t see how that is my problem”

Now she is pouting like a kid, and some colleagues are saying that I don’t know how hard-working moms have it, that I should be more compassionate.

I want to complain now. I have been buying TOTO and 4D since last 7 years, every week at least once religiously. I have a decent job with loads of stress, I buy these 4D and TOTO in the dreams of quitting my job and go study full time to do my Degree. I have family commitments and I can’t complete my schooling. I really love studying and want to be educated. But I am the sole breadwinner since I completed Poly. Now that I am 25, I am very worried that my dream of studying uni will remain a dream. Coming back to the actual complaint, been buying toto and 4 d every week for the last 7 years, each week I spend 10 dollar to 20 dollar depending on my mood. Not even once I kenna even the consolation 6 dollars, I wanna complain I suspect Singapore pools is fake eh, like how can my luck be so xia suay one..like how can I not even strike 6 dollar?

Do they really have actual TOTO 4D winners like they claim to have or its just advertisement to generate more and more money for SP?

Do you all trust that Singapore pools really give out 1 St prize 2 nd prize all? do you know anyone who became a millionaire?

At least I still okay, I pity those foreign workers who keep buying every time in the aim of settling down and having financial freedom.

Here are what netizens think:

• U must go 4  road on the 1st or 15th. Pray to kuan im ma or big uncleKong . Than buy the flower go home bath before going to buy 4d or toto. Maybe can strike. Please try
• You will immediately win once you stop gambling.
• If you save up all these money for the last 7 years maybe now you can go to university already.
• The author has been buying TOTO and 4D tickets religiously for 7 years, dreaming of quitting their job and studying for a degree to escape stress.

• I just want 500K SGD, just nice to take care of my family for 4 years and I got enough money to pay for school fees and my Siblings

The best salesman of our department asked for a little raise. He was fired. I’m disgusted and looking for another job

We are a good departments, we make constant profits (that it’s quite uncommon in our business). He was by far the best of us, insanely good at his job, he sold so so much.

He asked for a 10% raise (that it’s still so low compared to how much he sold), was fired at the end of the day.

I actually like my job, salary is not high but hours are not too long, but now I feel like I am just a number, if he can’t ask for more, no one can (I’m very good at work but he is literally the best of all in a 400 people department).

I’m also surprised that except very few co-workers, all the other ones don’t seem to care about what happened.

Netizens’ comments

1. Businesses really are that stupid.
   One I worked for a few years ago decided to downsize their operations, so they looked at how much individuals cost in terms of salary and commission. I was the most expensive person because of the amount of commission I earned.
   You see where I am going with this? I earned about 40K commission in that year and the next closest to me earned 78 – that is 78 not 78K.
   They got rid of me based on cost, not realising that the reason for the cost was that I was the only one who sold anything.
2. Companies are just dumb and greedy. Our best salesman took turnover from $500k to $12 million in 5 years, but we were a subdivision of a far larger company and started making them look like a bunch of clowns.
   So, to redress the balance they shut us down, literally swanned in and we’re gone.
3. I’m not in sales but I overheard a meeting in a coffee shop where a manager held a meeting with his salespeople. I have no idea what they were selling but the guy who was clearly the top producer in the room was being berated and belittled by his boss and was then, summarily relieved of his clients and given the worst possible list of prospects as punishment.
   My sense was that the district manager wanted those clients himself and collect the commissions, so he simply took them away from the person who sold the job.

Asked out a woman and she looked horrified while rejecting me.

I’ve had confidence issues due to being really overweight and I’ve had weight issues where I would bounce between skinny and fat over a few months.

I finally got it under control where I’m a healthy weight, bigger than I’d like but not anorexic anymore, which is good.

I went and got my long straggly bad hair cut short, shorter than I’d like but hey ho.

I don’t know this woman, but I’ve seen her in the same places I’d go, I’ve made a few jokes here and there she’s laughed at when we’d talk briefly.

This morning I went up to her, smiled, and just asked for her number, thinking that yeah worst that happens is she says No, been rejected a million times before, no big deal.

But her reaction. Her eyes widened, she put like her left hand up to like block herself almost, she was acting like I was gonna explode and attack her. When I simply said “yeah all good, just thought I’d ask” with a smile she immediately exhaled and got more relaxed and I just walked away.

I know I’m ugly, but that reaction just. It’s like I’m this evil hideous monster, like Frankenstein walking up to a villager for the first time. I’ve been insulted while rejected before and it’s whatever. But this was honestly like she was afraid.

Just destroyed my self confidence all over again.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just something I’ve thought about over the years, that applies to anyone of any gender: I think if you’re the one approaching a stranger wanting to get to know them more, you should offer them your number not ask for theirs.
2. That way they don’t need to make a split second decision to give away a piece of personal information without getting time to think on it, and generally if you’re going up to them first you’re already taking the risk of rejection.
3. This is less about you specifically and more about previous experiences she’s had.
   Rejection absolutely sucks so I feel for you but that fear you saw in her was her past, not you.
4. Don’t take it too personally. Her reaction to me sounds like she’s had some bad experiences in the past by men not taking no for an answer.
5. This was definitely not about you and more that she likely had problems with men not taking “no” for an answer.
6. Good to get it off your chest. She was reacting to the spectre of every interaction she’s ever had, not you specifically. Hard to keep that in mind but it’s true

What’s considered poor in Singapore?

I am curious what are the opinions of people about this YouTube video from Asian Boss after they did an earlier one about high cost of living in Singapore. You may want to view the “What’s considered poor” video first if you haven’t done so.

So what are your opinions about the interviewees’ responses and are they good reflections of Singapore’s overall situation?

Netizens’ comments

1. I would think as long as you are living paycheck to paycheck yet you can’t even meet your basic living needs like food & shelter, you are more or less poor. Like to the point where you might have to skip meals or walk 🙃
2. $2000/mth and you have rent to pay it’ll be pretty rough. After CPF it’s only $1600. Room rental $700/mth. $900 left to get through the month.
3. When basic needs of clean food, water, shelter or safety are not guaranteed
4. Poor is subjective. To me you can have 10m in your bank but if you live at your job and visit your home then thats Poor to me. Actual actual Poor to me is unable to afford 3 meals a day.
5. Poor is when you have to work 8 to 12 hrs a day and after all your essential expenses you are left with little or no savings.
6. I think it depends on how people define poor. Poor as in it is financially difficult to live in relative comfort (ie not stressing about money or not needing to scrimp in a way that harms their long-term health), or poor as in difficulties in getting necessities?
   There was a research made by NTU professors – Minimum Income Standard. Using a benchmark of 2 working adults with 2 children, the average (2021) is $2900 per adult. I personally would add a little bit more to account for saving for university fees (or other tertiary education) for both the children (perhaps over 15 years) because to me school loan is just a matter of who is taking on the debt.
7. Depends largely on whether you have to rent. Getting a roof over your head is very expensive, especially for foreigners
8. It is better to be financially poor but emotionally rich.