My son is 18, He is going to be attending poly soon and is living with me, my husband and his 2 younger half-sisters.

The other day I found out that he found and accepted a part time job without telling me. I was upset with him about it and the reason for that is that first of all, he should’ve told me since we live in the same house and also, and more importantly how I’m left without someone to stay with the girls from 3 to 8 where my shift start-ends. my son is usually the one to stay home with the girls and his new job is during these hours so one way or another we are impacted.

He told me his friend found him this job and it just happened – but I don’t think it did because he knew he had to give up staying with his sisters while I work. my husband travels most of the time (he’s a pilot) and paid child care is a no for me.

My son said I shouldn’t be surprised by him trying to work to save money to be able to pay for himself but that is just absurd since he literally lives with us without having to pay for anything except for his own entertainment. He said he needed the job and he wasn’t really going to stay and watch his sisters for days on end especially he doesn’t get paid for it.

We kept arguing and my husband got involved and he too was upset saying that my son had no respect for us. my son basically had a “like it or not” attitude with us and kept refusing to discuss this with us saying we have no right to be upset with him and should just accept it.

but I’m just…I think that he’s being inconsiderate of my husband’s and I struggle to provide for the family as a whole. this should mean something to him but he acted selfishly.

The babysitter option isn’t ideal and is because my daughters don’t want a babysitter. they’re both dealing with some issues and are uncomfortable being with a stranger at home. besides that my son decided to stay with them and we didn’t ask him or anything.

My girlfriend told me that she tested me by cancelling a date when we first started to go out. It was the date when we were kinda planning to hook up for the first time. For context, She lives in town area while I have a 40 min drive.

She waited until I was halfway to town before cancelling. I remember texting her as I got into the car and telling her I was on my way and she still waited until I was halfway to Orchard.

She had a lot of opportunities to cancel before I had driven half an hour. The date being cancelled sucked but she told me she was feeling sick and I told her it was okay and told her to get better. I had also asked her if she wanted me to come over and she said she didn’t want to.

She told me that it was a big moment for our relationship as she found that I am very considerate but honestly I get why she wanted to test me but I really am angry about the way she tested me. She had no consideration for my time and effort. it was as if she really wanted to inconvenience me to see how I would react.

I told her that it was pretty inconsiderate to wait until I had driven halfway to cancel and she had been really inconsiderate in the way she tested me.

She apologized half-heartedly and then said it was not a big deal and it has been 4 months. I told her it was a big deal to me and we had an argument about it. I feel bad afterwards cause it feels really small thing to get mad about.

Here are what netizens think

• Your GF is absolutely garbage, if she has to test it means she is unsure. If she is unsure why did she get official with you.

• I really don’t think anyone should do these kinds of ‘relationship tests’, because enough things will happen on their own to test a relationship anyway. You will get sick, you will get tired, you will face stressful times. No need to make up tests for that when those things already happen.

• People normally do test are insecure and people that will cause problems in relationships so please stay away.

I work at a nice restaurant as a cook and every day when I get off from work I always cook dinner for my wife and our 2 kids at the restaurant before coming home.

The only time I don’t cook for them is on weekends when I’m off and that’s when my wife does the cooking. We usually trade off who makes breakfast and luck for the kids every other day but for the week I’m always the one bringing home dinner.

At weekends we sometimes get together with friends and they come over to the house. My wife usually cooks and I help set the table/clean afterwards. One of her friends “Stacy” asked how come I never do any of the cooking and is it always on my wife all the time making meals for the kids, especially when I’m a cook myself.

Instead of correcting her she sort of laughed and went along with it making jokes about “you know how it is.” And Stacy laughed because her ex-husband was the same way. And then sort of ripped on me in a “joking” way how I better buck up before I become an ex too.

My wife just said well let’s see if he actually listens and starts cooking for once. Joking about all the time I spend in the kitchen at work but won’t do the same at home. It really pissed me off. I’m not the husband that just doesn’t do anything after I’m home from work.

I cook food for her and the kids at work AND on top of that I make separate dishes for each of them (what she wants and what the kids want). All that after standing on my feet all day. We talked about it once they left because I don’t appreciate being told I’m not doing something she knows for a fact I do.

She didn’t want to apologize for it because it was all just to be a funny joke. Even after telling her about how it hurt my feelings being put down like that. My wife said she felt like she has to go along with the joke so there wouldn’t be any awkward vibes (whatever that means).

But I said fine if she can’t apologize for something that was mean just so she could laugh along with her friends then I won’t keep doing something she already claims I don’t do. For the past week I’ve only brought home dinner for our kids and she’s had to make her own food. She’s mad that I’m refusing to feed her over what happened instead of letting it go but I can’t help but feel mad about being made fun of like that when I’m working like a dog to provide for my family and still making sure they have food on the table every evening.

She just thinks I’m a bad husband now for how I’m reacting when she’s already tired at the end of the day but still having to make food for herself . Wth..

Ever since I got out of the hospital for chronic problems, My husband has been introducing me to some games every evening. One game used to be about doing things while my eyes are blindfolded. involving puzzles, ruby’s cube, shaped objects et cetra…. We’d take turns to do it just for entertainment.

Just a couple of days ago, he’s been trying to get me to sign papers while wearing a blindfold. I refused to do it because he never lets me take a look at what I’m signing neither before nor after. He says that he was just trying to see if I could leave the same signature every time I sign but I couldn’t help feel uncomfortable.

I told him I don’t want to play this game unless and until he shows me the papers first, he said “nevermind then” and stopped bringing it up.

Last night, he tried to convince me to give it a try and even volunteered to go first, I asked if he was going to show me what I was going to sign and he made a face and said no, it’s the rules and I should respect them.

I refused and he kept on about how I keep acting worried and suspicious for no reason. he said I clearly don’t trust him and he was hurt by finding that out now after everything we been through. We had an argument and I told him to drop it and not bring it up again, period.

He was mad despite saying it was no big deal, he was obviously upset with me and kept talking about how I don’t trust him and that I was out of line to assume or suspect anything from him like this. I might be paranoid but I couldn’t help it. I do think I was ta to him after he stood by my side when my own family didn’t even visit.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s a trick, it could be divorce papers

• It could a paper for u to transfer all assets to him.

• He might be trying to let you sign something that will benefit him like it could be a will.

Hello all. So I pour Diet Coke in the sky for a living and it comes with pretty cool perks, such as free air travel. A cool part is that I can sometimes bring friends with me. There is a caveat that you have to be professional when you travel and can risk losing your job.

With that being said, I recently went on a trip with a good friend of mine. When we were leaving to head home, we had two flights to take. Upon landing, we had to clear customs and pick up our bags and recheck them. When we get to the recheck spot, we got informed that our bags were lost. My friend proceeds to go nuts. Like absolutely lose it, which is not okay. My friend knew about the fact that they had to show decorum because I could quite literally lose my job for it but they continued to go be beserk.

I asked them to calm down and they didn’t and instead, they lashed out at me. So, I went to the agent, told them to get security and had them cancel their flight on my benefits. Why did I have them call security? Because you’re causing a scene at an airport and a security officer is better than the police. Anyway, I left them to their tantrum and went on my merry way.

Obviously weren’t not friends anymore. So and so is also attempting to take me to small claims to refund them their alternative travel expenses. I’ve received mixed responses from our mutual friend group.

So what do you think guys?

Here are what netizens think:

All of these fools acting out at airports should get their flights cancelled. Full-on timeouts until they remember how to behave like civilized adults.

So sometimes when you fly somewhere you need to do it in two or more steps. You fly to one airport to catch a flight to another airport. In some cases the time you have to catch the next flight is not enough for the ground crew to take the luggage out, separate and sort it and get it on the next plane. In this case your suitcase is considered “lost”.

A man shared how he is stick and tired of his married life, as well as his wife.

Here is the story

I am tired of being married

I wake up every day at 6-7AM, take my kid to school, clock in at 8:30 to work from home while simultaneously taking care of my 4-year-old.

Taking my lunch break to go pick up my kids.

Work the rest of the day. Get off and walk to the kitchen at 530, to cook dinner for the wife and kids.

Then get the kids bathed and ready for bed.

I do the dishes and laundry regularly, my son has not been tardy all year, and I have been able to consistently work remotely for a while.

I hate this so much. I want a partner who isn’t a lazy POS.

What does my wife do? You ask? Oh just talk about how I’m not a real man because I don’t make more than 60k. I’m a loser who makes bad music and will never amount to anything.

Screw all this that! I’ll set a better example for our sons and teach them not to put up with emotional and psychological torture.

Bless you. Marriage isn’t my issue, my wife is.

Time to make some plans and changes.

I don’t think there’s many people in this sub who would be in the same situation as me which could be a good thing to get opinions but you can you even begin to start dating for the first time in your mid 30’s? Is it too late to learn all the things that should’ve been learned 10-15 years ago?

Having never had a girlfriend before and getting zero interaction on the dating app scene for 7 years I personally feel like it’s too late and the cut off has passed at my age (35 in May) and that there’s too many things to learn about being on a date, being together with someone, sex, love, and growing as an individual that should have been learned at a minimum of 10 years ago

I’ve seen it posted in here that not having a partner at all in you life when in your 30’s is a huge red flag which on first glance I find is a pretty unfair blanket statement to make on people but it seems to make sense when it’s broken down and analysed that people in my situation don’t really know how to be a “relationship quality” person and in a way I guess people feel like they have to coach someone when it all should’ve been learned in the teens and early 20s. Not even going to touch on learning how to have S.

Not that it really matters since I wasn’t getting likes or messages for years previously but I’m sort of at the point in life where I need to decide if it’s worth it to keep trying and feeling completely invisible and undateable or get on some good ol’ copium and rationalise reasons to give up.

Here are what netizens think:

I started dating at 30. I just waited until I was comfortable with myself. Get out there and go for it! I’ve learned quite a lot from dating for 4 years. I’m 34 now.

I think everyone dating in their 30’s is kind of working through something. It’s a refreshing change from 20’s dating when everyone is trying to present this flawless picture of themselves! Never too late 

A girl asked why are men obsessed with thinking that women are after their money.

Here is the story

What is this unfounded obsession that some dudes seem to have with women being after their money, free dinners, etc?

So I’m fortunate to have a rad partner who is not like this in the least. We are both solid earners and provide for each other equally, and I don’t feel that all guys think the way that I am describing below.

But I have to laugh when I see the sheer amount of dudes constantly fretting online about all the women they think are after their money and trying to use them for free dates and meals.

Ironically, it’s almost always a dude who is a really average earner flipping out about imaginary girls who want free dinners, gifts, etc.

This is borderline comedic to me because while I know that there are definitely individuals out there who will take advantage and have ulterior motives, it is nowhere near as common as dudes online will have you think.

I literally just saw a thread of guys musing amongst themselves about how to tell whether a woman likes them or their giant piles of cash and success. I’m like…none of you have this problem. Respectfully.

I feel like a lot of it is an extension of a very subtle form of misogyny and distrust of women that really isn’t that valid. Does this make sense? This is bizarre to me.