This happened about 6 years ago during a games conference event.

My boss and I were in an office/satellite farm in London where we took the raw video feeds from the conference in Germany and used our encoders to stream the event to various big game companies etc.

The event ran on long into the evening but everything went perfectly. Once it was finished my boss – MD of the company – asked me to copy the archive file to an external HDD he’d brought with him. I said ok sure, and plugged the drive-in while he went to the toilet. I dragged/dropped the archive file onto the drive but a dialogue box popped up with an error saying ‘source drive full’ or something. I click through to see if there was something easy for me to delete and to my great dismay, the whole 1TB drive is jam-packed full of adult vids. Stuff with names like teen’ and etc.

I sat there in silence thinking I have to somehow tell my boss I can’t copy the file to his “special” drive cos it’s too full of his special material. So at the last minute, I decided to feign ignorance and give him a plausible chance to save face. I close down the window and leave the room just as he comes back. He asks if I’ve copied the file and I say, no sorry, the disk is full. I’m going to see if I can find another disk to use. As I’m walking down the corridor I just hear him shout at the top of his lungs ‘AH F! THAT’S MY P!!’

He then calls me back in and tells me it’s for when he goes away on conferences and that he gets lonely and I was very much. Long story short, I deleted his “materials” and copied the file.

Here are what netizens think:

Honestly bravo to the boss. He knew he got caught yet decided to full send into honesty instead of sneaking around it.

This is still funny though. Hopefully he has since discovered that most places, he can just go to a website instead of having it all downloaded.

Worked in I.T. doing backup before upgrading laptop to new ones for clients. Once i met a guy telling me he will do the backup himself to «have me not wasting too much of my time». I saw some of the names of files he was copying in the Windows popup… «girls gone wild…» yeah… very work oriented stuff.

I’m only with my girlfriend for the (incredible) activities in bed.

I’ve been in a fun relationship with a younger woman. We don’t have much in common in terms of life goals but she likes older men and the f is fantastic.

In fact, its so good I think it’s kind of rewiring my brain. She is into things I’d read and fantasized about but never gotten to try (free use, rough, road head, dressing room, etc) and uses my AV viewing history like a to-do list.

She also brings home another woman (either a friend or a girl she picks up) every Saturday night for a three way. (I spend all day hard as hell in anticipation.)

Here’s the thing, though: Our relationship has no future. At least, not long term. But I just can’t give it up; it’s just too amazing in bed.

I’m worried it’s distorting my relationship priorities, and that I’ll never be happy again in a “normal” relationship. Any thoughts?

Netizens’ comments

1. And are you worried about her? Is she developing feelings for you? No harm in a purely physical relationship, but be kind and be honest.
2. This doesn’t have to be a problem. What does SHE think the relationship is based on? Is it just physical for her too? Or does she think there’s something deeper going on? You definitely don’t want to mislead her about this. The only way to know is to talk to her about it.
3. Thoughts? THOUGHTS?! Let them get distorted! – DON’T screw this up. No future – WHY? – I’m actually asking.
4. What else do you want, a better sandwich maker??? The moment you lose this girl, you WILL compare all other partners to her. Of course she’s young and inexperienced. Fun rides always come to an end.
5. if you break up, can i have her number?

I’m quitting my 40k a year job to become a cocktail waitress

Title prettt much says it all. I’ve been an overachiever, I have two degrees and I’ve been working full time since I graduated.

Im now 23 and I’ve been working at a bank for the last year and a half and I can’t stand it. I’ve never hated a job so much in my life. All my coworkers are a lot older than me so I get excluded from a lot of conversations and I genuinely just feel unwanted.

Additionally my VP threatens to fire me Everytime I make a mistake no matter how small it is. I’ve only ever been written up once but im so scared to mess up, my anxiety has gotten worse and worse with this job to the point where I’ve had to get a prescription to cope. Where before my anxiety was manageable.

I hate working 5 days a week, my apartment is constantly a mess due to having no time to clean or keep up with anything. I cry going to work and I cry driving home.

So I put my two weeks in this week. And I already am working a job 3 days a week on the evenings as a cocktail server. Hourly wage is only $7.25 however so far I’ve been making about $20 an hour just with my tips.

I feel disappointed in myself but I mentally can’t handle it anymore. But now that I’m quitting I really don’t know what I want to do with my life…

Netizens’ comments

1. The truth is that you do what you have to to get by. Those high paying jobs come with a lot of stress which will reduce your lifespan by years. You indicated that the stress I describe was wearing on you. Just because someone has money and the status that comes with it, doesn’t mean that person is happy. I bet you those reading this will agree.
2. This seems the right decision for your mental health, body and life in general, you are very brave making this decision, a lot of ppl end up so f-ed up because they are more concerned about what other ppl think is the right decision.
3. This seems the right decision for your mental health, body and life in general, you are very brave making this decision, a lot of ppl end up so fucked up because they are more concerned about what other ppl think is the right decision.

Me and this guy (35F and 23M) had been dating for almost a year now. I didn’t tell him that I had a 9 year old son at first, because I thought it might be a turn off initially, and that he might feel burdened because he’d feel he had some kind of responsibility he wasn’t ready for.

He’s still really young, and I didn’t want him to think I’d expect him to be some kind of father figure immediately. Of course I wasn’t going to keep this from him for much longer, I’d actually considered telling him already but it just never seemed like it was the right moment. I was able to keep it from him because my son mostly lives with his dad, and I was able to coordinate the time I spend with him without it clashing with when I see my boyfriend. We usually prefer to go out, but when he does come over I try to hide all traces of my son, which I know seems very over the top but again, I was going to tell him when the time was right.

He ended up finding out when I had taken a nap on his couch and I left my phone on the coffee table.

He saw a text from my ex that asked if I could pick our son up from his grandparent’s house instead of him driving him to my place. He thought at first that it was my brother asking me to pick up my nephew (he has the same name as my ex), and just casually told me that my brother had texted me.

I told him that it was actually my son and he was understandably shocked. He didn’t seem too happy that I had kept it from him. I told him I waited a bit to tell him because I didn’t want him to feel pressured, and that I was going to tell him soon anyway. I also don’t think one year is that long for a relationship, and that there are bound to be things that we still don’t know about each other.

Is it really that bad that I waited a bit before telling him about my son?

Here are what netizens think:

• She was so close to getting it right, it’s infuriating. If she had just had a conversation and told her boyfriend that she had a son but wasn’t looking for a dad, you’re not going to meet him for a long time, etc. everything would have been fine. Instead she lied.

• I can understand not introducing him to the kid until it’s serious but not telling him you have one?? Unless the kid was totally out of her life and there was some traumatic story involved there’s no excuse.

• 34 and 22 is a gross age gap no matter the gender make up.

My (25f) husband (26m) lied about my engagement ring

I hope you are doing well. I really want your opinion on this because my husband is furious and I feel bad for embarrassing him.

Long story short, my husband proposed with a very beautiful 3ct ring that totally swept me off my feet. We got married 6 months ago and have been together for 7 years, through college.

When we’d discussed rings in the past we both agreed that we wanted a natural diamond even if it was smaller. After he proposed he was telling me about the ring and said it was a real diamond, he bought the diamond and then customized the band, etc.

I was so taken aback by this I googled similar rings and they were going for $20-30k. My husband works hard and makes good money but this is a lot.

Fast forward to today, hubby and I are happy newlyweds. I’m out with my girls and one of my friends says “is it real?” talking about my ring and my friends kind of said they couldn’t believe it was real because it was so big.

I told them my hubby told me it was real and they dropped it all in good fun, but it got me thinking. I went to a jewelry store to have it looked at and the jeweler said it was definitely a lab diamond.

Just to clarify, I would’ve said yes if my husband proposed with a ring candy. I felt like he got a bigger ring than he could afford so he got a lab diamond and lied to me to impress my family/his friends/etc.

I was super upset and confronted him about it and he owned up to lying and said he just wanted the best for me and he always wanted to replace it with a real diamond one day. Honestly, he was very sweet and I totally forgave him.

Later on, casually in conversation, I let slip to my mom, one of her friends, and one of my girlfriends about the ring being a lab diamond and hubby lying. They lit into him and I had to tell them to relax.

Fast forward, hubby finds out and he is furious. He says I embarrassed him and should have kept it to myself. I stood up for myself and told him I didn’t think that was fair because by lying to me he lied to them too because obviously they asked me and I told them it was a natural diamond.

Now, he is super upset, I feel bad, and things in general are no bueno. Am I the bad guy here?

EDIT, UPDATE:

hubby and I made up 🙂 we didn’t even fight for 3 hours lol. he said he knew my friends and family would ask and that’s partially why he lied about the natural vs lab. And that he shouldn’t have gotten upset with me just for telling the truth.

What to do when SO keeps talking about work?

My SO, got a job a year ago after graduating from school. We were excited and I was super proud of her. At the start, she does talk about work from time to time, which was ok to me.

But recently, she’s been talking about work all the time, like all the time. When we’re having meals (we only meet once a week for a meal), sometimes she’ll talk about work, sometimes even texting her colleagues (who was working), when she’s not even working.

Asked her why, she said cause the colleague wasn’t sure of some procedure and texted her. She complains about it but replies anyway.

One day she realised that all she thought of was work, even on weekends and when she’s not working and acknowledged that it wasn’t healthy for her, because she constantly feels worried, anxious about work matters.

I told her ya I noticed too and it was really unhealthy, and we agreed that on her part, she’ll do her best to stop thinking about work after hours, and i’ll do my part to remind her to stop thinking about work when she starts to think/talk about work.

It worked for a few days, but back to normal after a few days. Even after I told her to not talk about work, the next thing you know, work.

I can tell that whenever she talks about work – ranting or just talking about it, it makes her feel less stressful, and I really want to support her.

But honestly, now whenever she talks about work, my mind just completely turns off and I just go to standby mode.

Those with partners who keeps on talking about work non-stop, how do you deal with it? How do you support your partner in this context?

I can’t stand how my new girlfriend moans when we get intimate in bed.

We’ve been hooking up for about a week now. Everything is great in terms of our bedroom activities, she’s really hot and we have fun so far.

But the problem is the way she moans. It’s hard to describe it’s almost sounds whiny. Or maybe she faking the moans.

I don’t want to bring it up with her since it would probably be really embarrassing. But I’m not sure how to address it.

I did try to put my hand on her mouth but she didn’t like that. Maybe I’ll get use to it? Any suggestions would be appreciated. Also I’m 22 and she’s 21.

Netizens’ comments

1. The only safe way to broach this sort of thing is to humbly ask: Do I really make you moan like that, or are you flattering me?
   She’s either going to say:
   A) She’s trying to put on a show for you / encourage you / etc.
   or
   B) She’s moaning because it feels good to her.
   If A. you can tell her sometimes you can tell and she doesn’t have to do that because you’d rather just hear whatever comes naturally to her.
   If B. then she’s doing it for herself mate and you might just be incompatible in bed.
2. Put yourself in her shoes. How would you want her to break the news to you? It’s tough, right?I think there’s a line between “can tolerate out of consideration” and “libido killer.” If it’s the latter, then you gotta bring it up. But there’s no way to guarantee she’s not going to take it badly.
3. I think just wear headphones when you’re doing it.
   • Headphones… did your mother drop you on your f-ing head when you were born?

My boss claimed she didn’t know I resigned, chewed me out on the phone.

I put in my 2 weeks resignation a couple weeks ago. It very clearly and concisely stated that I am resigning from my position as , and my last day would be on .

When she received my letter, we chatted in her office and she said I’m sorry I’m going through a tough time, and asked if I had any support at home.

I said I did and I was sorry I had to leave. A big reason for leaving is due to another manager. I can’t stand the way she treats people.

Anyway I was ready to tell my boss that, but she didn’t care to ask where I was going or what went wrong. I prompted her to talk about it be asking her is she had anything to ask me or talk about.

She said no. So I awkwardly left her office, feeling that she didn’t care to know what was going wrong in her store and why she is losing so many staff.

Fast forward to the day before my last day. This other manager comes back from her vacation, and is treating me like shit.

Completely different person from how she left for her vacation, after finding out I had quit. I decided to make that day my last day, because I couldn’t stand to be around her any longer.

My anxiety was through the roof. I text my boss to let her know I left and decided to make today my last day. She calls me up, and tells me how disappointed in me she is and how she thought that it was just mental health and I just needed a break.

She made me feel so worthless and that my time and efforts working there meant nothing. F them.

I made sure to email her company address my last words, in case she is trying to make it look like I walked out on her. I will not be made to feel worthless and like this is my fault.

She had opportunities to talk to me, and she did not take them. She needs to take accountability here.