After a wild night of drinking, I made the mistake of welcoming my best friend into a three some with my husband and I. At first it was one of those whoa that was wild moments but then it continued to happen.

About two weeks ago, I had a gut feeling something wasn’t right based on her behavior. She seemed to be always coming around almost everyday and flirting with him in no direct ways.

I relayed to my husband that I had a feeling she liked him. He responded with, yeah maybe that’s why she has been acting all weird in front of me.

Well, last weekend, we had a girls trip and she got extremely hammered. I had no clue that she was communicating with my husband behind my back.

She was bad mouthing me and spreading lies about how unhappy I was and complaining about our bedroom activities (which I never discussed with her) and he believed her.

He was so upset at hearing this that he told her how I had mentioned that I thought she liked him. That opened up hell. She held that info for about 3 hours until she blurted it out “so you think I have a crush on your husband? I thought we were friends. I thought you could come to me about this” on and on and on.

She was really affected by this. I was too upset (with my husband) to respond to her so I put a wall up and didn’t respond or look at her. She did her usual thing which is okay victim and stupidly drive drunk at 3am all the way home.

2 days later I come to find out by looking thru my husbands phone that my gut feeling was absolutely correct. She had been texting my husband. Now, trust me, my husband is also at fault here. But the reason why I’m discussing her end is because she tried to manipulate the situation and lie and say that this never happened when I have the proof.

She wanted so badly to have alone time with him. They even met up one night recently and she got handsy with him as they were saying goodbye.

Then, just last week, I trusted to leave them alone for 20 minutes and he said she tried to go down on him but he stopped her. And when I say tried I mean her mouth was already on it.

She is in full denial and she is upset with me because I called her every name in the book. She states I have no right to do that but that is her way of manipulating the situation.

Long story short, I can’t believe I trusted someone and they went behind my back and did this. I’ve lost every sense of feeling and have no idea what to do next. We have children that I need to consider in whatever outcome I choose.

My mom doesn’t think I’m attractive but I think I am. Shouldn’t it be the other way around?

I always hear people say it’s not uncommon for a parent to think their child is beautiful. And “you’re only saying I’m beautiful because you’re my parent.”

But it’s not like that for me. I remember looking at myself in the mirror checking myself out and my mom telling me to stop showing off. I always thought I had a good body with curves in all the right places. I liked admiring myself.

But my mom didn’t. I remember asking her if I could play outside and she asked me “what you wanna show off your body? Or whatever you call a body? Is that what it is? You wanna model?”

That really sucked. I was really confident about my looks and I thought my mom would be proud of that. But instead she made me feel bad about myself.

Netizens’ comments

1. When I was putting the final touches on my makeup for prom night, my mother passed by the open bathroom door and said, “You’re not as pretty as you think you are.”
   Mind you, I was a shy girl. I almost never wore makeup or dresses. This was basically a one-time thing, and I’d just worked my way out of obesity, and for just that moment I’d felt like a princess.
   In that moment, it absolutely tore me up. I still feel a little gut clench when I think about it, not because it still hurts but because I feel so much pity for that poor girl I was who just wanted to feel pretty for one night and wasn’t allowed to. I look at the pictures now, and I looked amazing.
   Here’s the thing that I realize now: my mom was used to being the pretty one. That’s what her whole life was about. At that point, she was aging while I was hitting my prime, and she just couldn’t stand that.
   My daughter went to her first prom last year, and seeing her all made up (she doesn’t really dress up much either) brought tears to my eyes—she was so very beautiful. My beauty is fading and I’m getting older, but I’ve grown so much internally that I don’t really need it anymore, and I’m not jealous of her or any other young woman. That’s what we’re supposed to do.
   You are beautiful, too. It’s a shame your mom can’t see it, and I’m sorry for it.
2. Your mom is projecting her own insecurities onto you instead of acknowledging that you look good. I’m sorry that you’re in that situation.

Tragedy struck on Monday, July 9th, as a 33-year-old worker from India lost his life in a devastating accident involving a heavy vehicle at a worksite in Jurong West, according to a report by The Straits Times.

On July 9th, at approximately 3:40 PM, the accident occurred along 1 Buroh Close. The victim, a 33-year-old worker employed by BSN Tech Engineering, was preparing his tipper truck for unloading when a wheel loader reversed into him.

Tragically, the impact proved fatal, and the worker was pronounced dead at the scene.

Star Ready-Mix, a supplier of ready-mix concrete in Singapore, occupied the work site where the accident took place.

Investigation by the Ministry of Manpower

The Ministry of Manpower (MOM) has launched a thorough investigation into the accident to determine the causes and possible lapses in safety measures.

As a result of the incident, MOM has instructed the occupier of the worksite to halt all vehicular operations until the investigation is complete.

Melvin Yong, the MP for the Radis Mas SMC and also the Assistant Secretary-General and director at the National Trades Union Congress (NTUC), addressed the recent spate of workplace accidents in a Facebook post.

Melvin Yong’s Facebook post

[Disturbing series of workplace accidents]

In the past 1.5 months, we have witnessed a disturbing trend in workplace safety that demands our immediate attention and action.

With the unfortunate occurrence of the 15th fatality this year alone and the 4th fatality after the announcement of exit from Heighten Safety Period (HSP) on 31 May 2023, we need to step up our efforts and prioritise the safety and well-being of every single person working within every organisation.

Each loss of life is a devastating event that leaves an indelible mark on the affected worker’s family and others who are involved. We must not let these tragedies be repeated again and again, for every life lost represents a profound failure on everyone who did not fulfil their duty of care to our workers.

In light of recent events, NTUC and its affiliated unions urge every company and organisation to take immediate and decisive action to rectify this unacceptable situation and do right for all persons who are working. The companies and organisations should carry out the following:

1. Safety Timeout: A planned event whereby companies take time off from their daily work routine to take stock of and review the existing workplace safety and health (WSH) systems and work processes or particular activity; and thereafter implement necessary measures to keep safety practices in check and uphold good WSH standards.
2. Training and Education: Invest in comprehensive safety training programs for all employees, regardless of their role or tenure. This training will not be a one-time event but an ongoing process to reinforce the importance of safety, enhance hazard identification skills, and foster a culture of proactive safety awareness.
3. Employee Engagement and Empowerment: We believe that safety is a collective responsibility, and everyone in any organisation must actively participate in maintaining a safe workplace. Reporting unsafe practices saves lives. Companies must therefore provide open communication channels and empower employees to report hazards, near-misses, and potential risks without fear of reprisal. We strongly encourage every organisations to establish a dedicated safety committee and clear reporting channels to ensure continuous feedback and improvement.

NTUC and its affiliated unions will continue to work with companies’ management and workers to create a workplace where safety is paramount, and every individual feels valued, protected, and secure.

I was contracted as a full time employee at this small company, K, under a 6 months probation. During the probation, the metal shutters of K broke down and jam when I closed it at the end of the day. However prior the day, the shutter was showing sign of wear and tear which was made known to my boss, S, multiple times but he did not get it fixed.

Also, considering that the first person to leave for the day is supposed to shut the shutter but failed to do so and she just left the office thus I closed the shutter that day instead.

When the shutter jammed and broke down, I informed S about it. S gotten it fixed, but he blamed it on me for spoiling the shutter instead with excuses such as my negligence in failing to ensure that the shutter shuts properly and as I was the person who last touches it. (If the girl who left first that day closes it, why would I need to last touch the shutter and carry the blame since it’s a shared responsibility for all staff to ensure that doors and shuttler are closed if they leave first)

S told me to compensate for the fixing fee which is over 4K plus, I did not agree as it was not stated in my contract that I will need to compensate for any damage equipment of the company and considering I am still under probation. However he printed out a letter and pressured me to sign on that day to agree to 100 being deducted from my monthly salary for 10 months, after signing the agreement he did not gave me a copy of it for my keepsake. With the fear of losing my job and hoping to pass the probation, I signed the agreement.

However in my 4th month I was dismissed over a mere complain from customer saying that I rejected customer request after working hours as I had already closed the door and was a few steps away from office (when there are other staff who had yet to leave the office whom could had assisted the customer). In the end I failed on my probation and my last pay was deducted of 800.

Would it be a losing battle if I tries to file a claim from MOM??