How to stop hating my husband and being frustrated when I see him

Need advice and console please!

Me and my husband were together for 5 years before we got married. And throughout our dating phase, I know and understand that he has a lot of bad habits (i.e. picking his nose while driving and going straight to bed after a whole day outside, not showering). These are the habit that I can take it.

We were like any normal couple that will update one another, on what we are doing, and if we have any plans that weekend or if any friends meeting us for a beer session etc. I would say he is very generous because most of the time he is paying for our outings food wise and drinking sessions. But what I am paranoid was most of the time is someone planning for us or im the one planning the outing, he will definitely not initial the outings/meetings. And he did not plan for our family meeting and rather sleep the weekend away or play games at home.

But after we got married, most of the things I am the one paying (I have to buy him dinner although he can buy it while on the way home), we cut down our drinking sessions anyway, and because of his stupidity in trusting friend to invest in the business, he took a loan and fail the business, now we are suffering because he has repayment, and contribute less to our family, although I told him not to do the business.

And we had a baby shortly after our marriage. He stopped texting me on a daily basis (we are both working so we need to discuss dinner plans etc I assume), I can understand because we are almost together day in and day out other than working hours. But when I am out with my baby the whole day or working, he is not worried or will never text me at all. And worst of all, when I call him he does not answer at all. Before you come to conclusion that he is cheating, he is not, because he always spends time sleeping, and playing Nintendo Switch (which annoys me as well). And other than helping our baby with the wet diapers when she was born at the hospital, he did not lay a finger on diaper change at all now that our baby is 1 year old, most of the baby business is settled by me or his mother.

Can you imagine the frustration, when we head home, I have to settle the baby while he instantly lies down on the bed to play games or to scroll his phone. I constantly have the thinking that he seems like living in his own world, and the rest of the things do not matter to him, I question myself, if he is like that, why do he even agree on getting married? I am regretting a lot about the marriage, but not regretting having baby because I really love my baby alot.

He does not plan our future. And I am frustrated that he thinks he is the king and I have to serve him (i.e. I bring food home for him from my parent’s place, after finishing the food, he will sit on the sofa waiting for me to clear the containers for him). I got a long list of things to rant about, but I just want to get myself to hate him less and be more sweet to him, although he try to have some changes, but it was back to square one in 2 to 3 days and I can feel like im on his nerve recently too, because I cant stand him and constantly rant my anger on him.

Once this situation about travelling is over I’m going to book myself an only-me shiok shiok solo trip to Bangkok. Heck care already. Every time travel with the wife last time her holiday style so different from mine.

I like to nua in the hotel, by the swimming pool. But she just wants to go paint the town red, go out and chiong shopping, makan, explore from morning to nighttime. I like to sleep in, she likes to wake up early. I like exploring in the evening, she likes to go out in the morning.

So, it’s no surprise that I’m looking forward to the day when I can finally book myself an only-me shiok shiok solo trip to Bangkok. Heck care already!

It’s not that I don’t love my wife. I really do. But it’s just that the way we both like to travel is so different. I’m more of a lounger. I like to stay in, relax and take in all the sights. I’m not one for early mornings, and I’m definitely not one for all-day shopping trips.

My wife, on the other hand, loves to explore. She’s always looking for the newest and most interesting places to visit. She’ll spend hours trawling through the markets, trying out food and drinks, and picking out the best souvenirs to bring home.

So, when we travel together, it’s a bit of a compromise. We usually start off with me lounging around in the hotel, while she heads out to explore. Later in the day, I’ll join her for a few hours, and then we’ll both head back to the hotel to relax.

But, when I’m in Bangkok, all bets are off. I’m finally going to have the chance to do what I want, when I want. I’m not going to have to worry about compromising, or trying to fit in with someone else’s schedule.

I can start my days late, lazing around in my hotel room or by the pool. I can take my time exploring the city and all of the amazing sights. And, I can spend as much time as I want in the markets, trying out food, drinks and souvenirs without feeling rushed or pressured.

I’m also looking forward to the freedom of being able to do things alone. Instead of having to wait while my wife browses the markets, I can explore at my own pace. And, instead of having to rely on someone else to take pictures, I can capture all of the amazing moments for myself.

Most of all, I’m looking forward to having a break from the everyday. Travelling solo gives me the chance to switch off from the stresses and worries of life, and just enjoy the moment.

There’s something so liberating about travelling alone. Being able to make my own decisions, without having to consider anyone else’s opinion. Experiencing a new city without feeling like I need to rush through it. And, most importantly, being able to relax and enjoy my own company.

A guy shared a story about how he was approached by a chiobu insurance agent to buy insurance, and he ended up buying 3 plans because he found it hard to say no to her.

Here is the story:

“I have a problem, I turn into a r*tard when I meet beautiful women.

I am always being approached by insurance agents when I walk past mrt stations and whatnot but I always had no problem saying no.

Because they were all guys.

But then recently a chiobu insurance agent wearing damn tight and short skirt and a low cut blouse approached me and asked if I had 5 mins to spare her.

I thought to myself, 5 mins? I give you 5 hours ah.

I mean she was wearing a mask ah so I could only see half her face but her eyes disappeared when she smiles and I got sot a bit.

Then when we sat down at starbucks and she took off her mask to take a sip from her coffee, i finally saw her face.

Wah she really fking chio until i don’t know how to english.

I don’t know what happened but i ended up buying 3 insurance plans.

i bought a life insurance plan, health insurance plan and some savings plan that I have no idea about.

Do you think she will say yes if I ask her out?”

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This post is about my wife. No no I don’t mean to criticize her like how I don’t love her anymore, or regret marrying her. Its not like that. But something she does is driving me crazy.

We have a son. He’s turning 9 months old. He’s healthy, growing up well, picking up solid food. He even knows tummy time and will do the superman pose. But my wife has this crazy fear of SIDS. Its called sudden infant death syndrome. So crazy that from Day 1 since he was born, she insists that whenever he sleeps, at least 1 of us must be beside him to watch him sleep. To make sure he’s breathing. Yes, whenever he sleeps, day and night.

Because of this, my wife quit her job, started a small online business, so that in the daytime she can work beside the cot to watch him sleep. He sleeps for 20mins, or 1hr, or 2hrs, she will watch him. At night we take turns. We usually put him to bed at 8pm, so from 8pm to 2am, I watch him while she goes sleep, and 2am till morning she takes over the “second shift”. Sometimes if I need to work later she takes my place first.

It is very very tiring, 9months like this. We both look like pandas. Doctor says risk of SIDS is highest up to about 6months, though up to 1 year still have some risk. But its very very small risk. We always put him sleep on his back, and no toys no blanket no pillows in the cot. But my wife is still not satisfied. She says maybe after 18months then we can stop. She says our tiredness is nothing compare to his safety. I really think she is too much.

In the past I used to think I would like to have 2 children, maybe 3 if we can afford. Now after knowing my wife’s crazy pattern, I think 1 is enough. I’m too scared to have another one.