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ANOTHER WOMAN SHARES HORROR STORY ABOUT LIVING WITH MOTHER-IN-LAW

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A woman who got married earlier this year shared her horror story about living with her mother-in-law and warned others about moving in with their in-laws.

Here is the story:

“I just got married earlier this year and decided to move in with my mother-in-law (her husband is not in the picture).

She has retired and owns a 5 room flat. She lives there with my husband (the only son in contact with her). She has 3 other children and all do not keep in contact with her.

5 room flat – more than enough space for all of us. But many things happened that caused us to eventually move out.

Unreasonable

1) The master bedroom is empty and is used as a storage room (she has many items that she refused to throw). Before we move in, we asked her if we can use the room and she agreed. However, weeks before our wedding when we were preparing to move in, she refused to move the items in the storeroom. So, she actually expected us to stay in there with all the items she does not use but refuse to throw. I was upset but I have no choice, it’s her home.

2) Her home also does not have an electric kettle. When I bought one, she did not allow me to use it in the kitchen (although it is huge and the countertop has a lot of space). I ended up using in my already cramped room with her things everywhere.

3) When I brought some of my clothes with me to move in, she kept saying I am bringing too many things into her home. Mind you, I didn’t bring too many things since I did not even have a wardrobe (it’s full of her clothes and items that she refuses to move). I only brought 2 duffel bags.

4) She also woke us up daily at 5 am asking us to help her with house chores before we go out for work. My husband said she has never done that before we got married.

Ignored her

There are many other things but these are the ones that I can remember clearly. Throughout this ordeal (which lasted only a few weeks), I did not say anything mean to her or talk back to her at all. In fact, I tried to talk to her nicely and asked her how her day was, prepared food for her. She completely ignored me every time or just glared at me. I just remember crying a lot. She did not even talk to me, she only spoke to my husband. She did glare at him and all, but at least she talked to him.

It has been a few months but it really hurt me. It also affected my marriage negatively. It made me feel like I was better off not being married since I felt very unwelcomed. I felt like nothing when I was living there. I cannot lie but at that point in time, I even felt regret marrying my husband. She was totally normal before we got married FYI.

Finally moved out

Now we have moved out into our own resale home. Whenever I visit (just out of obligation), she is mostly normal and acts as if all of that did not happen. However, I don’t think I can ever forgive her for treating me that way. I am still extremely hurt today. I even have nightmares about it.

I have made it clear to my husband that she is not welcome to stay with us in our home, even if she gets sick and needs extra care. I feel bad but I really cannot forgive her. I wish I can get rid of this pain and hatred I feel towards her.

So.. yes.. pls be cautious about moving in with your in-laws.. you will never know their true colors until you have lived with them on a long term basis (staying overnight doesn’t count!).”

Editor’s note: Very well said.

RESIDENT NOT HAPPY BECAUSE UNCLE LIKE TO CLAP HIS HANDS WHILE WALKING AT NIGHT

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A netizen shared how his sleep is being disturbed by an uncle who likes to clap his hands while walking around the estate at night.

Here is the story:

“I am a resident of Telok Blangah rise

Every night this uncle does his routine walking exercise from around 2:30 am to 3:30 am, probably at Bukit Purmei Hillock and he likes to clap while he walks.

Please be considerate as you clap, residents on the higher floor can hear it clearly (sound travels upward), it is really irritating.

I don’t know why you walk so much every day and sometimes hang around the fitness corner at Block 34 Telok Blangah Way, jolly clapping your hands (for what???)

Please refrain from doing it during midnight, you don’t need to sleep we need.”

Editor’s note: *clap*clap*clap*

GUY NOT HAPPY BECAUSE OBSESSED FRIEND COPYING HIS PERSONALITY

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A netizen shared how he has a friend who is obsessed with him and copying everything he does and “stealing his identity”.

Here is the story:

 Hi everyone. I’m in a bit of a tricky situation and I need some advice. I’ve been friends with this guy, let’s call him A, for a really long time. We get on really well and have been through a lot together.

But recently, A has started to do some really weird things that are kind of freaking me out. He’s started to copy my words, my mannerisms, my hobbies, my style. Basically, he’s started to copy everything about me.

It’s got to the point where it’s like he’s trying to steal my identity. I mean, he’s completely different from me in personality and interests, but all of a sudden he’s pretending to be like me.

It’s really weird and it’s starting to get really disturbing. I’ve tried talking to him about it and he kind of brushes it off. But it’s still happening and I don’t know what to do.

I want to continue our friendship, but I’m not sure how to handle this. Have any of you ever been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it? Any tips or advice would be really appreciated. Thank you!

Editor’s note: I think he likes you more than a friend.

GUY GIVES PARENTS 20% OF SALARY BUT MUM NOT HAPPY, ACCUSE HIM OF BEING UNFILIAL

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A netizen shared how he gives his parents 20% of his monthly salary but then his mother accuses him of kicking her aside after he told her about his financial planning.

Here is the story:

“[How much monthly allowance do you give your parents?]

I give my parents 20% of my salary (>$700) ever since I started working two years ago, and 20% of any bonuses when I get them too.

I learnt that I give the highest percentage amongst my friends, but I’m okay with that as I can afford to and somehow this 20% proportion has been ingrained in my mind since young.

Recently, my partner and I secured a BTO. Somehow, this got me to start thinking about finances seriously. I feel that I should save more for future uses such as the wedding, honeymoon, house, renovation and any emergency spending.

I’m not engaged yet, but just generally thinking about the future and making a mental note that I have to start being more financially savvy now that we have a home (yay!).

I innocently shared this with my mum but she got angry instead and started ranting that kids nowadays only care about planning for their own future and kicking their parents aside.

I clarified that I have no intention to change or withdraw the 20% of my salary that I have been providing.

I only wanted to save a higher proportion of the remaining amount after setting aside the monthly allowance.

However, she insisted that I have become stingy ever since getting together with my partner and that I only cared about my own future.

Honestly, I feel quite angry at her accusations as I have not once given anything lesser than 20% of whatever I have. She also commented that I could rely on my partner and need not plan to save so much, which I do not agree with.

We should aim towards being able to support ourselves regardless of whether we have someone to rely on, isn’t it?

I really don’t know what’s wrong with children planning for their future as the point of planning ahead is to avoid having to take parents’ money for our own expenses next time.

Furthermore, I am still giving the 20% without any intention to stop, and I don’t know why she’s so defensive every time I talk about my own financial planning. Sigh.

Just wanted to get this off my chest. Thank you for hearing me out.”

Editor’s note: Your mother is afraid of losing her golden rooster to another woman.

PARENTS MOVED INTO SON’S HOME TO “KEEP HIM COMPANY”, THEN CONTROLS EVERYTHING

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A netizen shared how he got a new place and his parents then came over to keep him company, but then they started controlling the things he does and his home.

Here is the story:

“Re: Guilty about not living with parents

I recently got my new place. As I’m single, my parents decided to come over and their best intent to keep me company since there is more than sufficient space.

I felt that my freedom is lost as I no longer have my whole space to myself.

I don’t fancy things not in their place the way I like it, neither do I like the choice of music and tv program.

I know I sound really mean and selfish as I was Ok when I was much younger and living at their place but when I grew up, I didn’t even want to share my space with them. To be honest, occasional visits are fine with me like 2-3 overnight stays.

I just cannot stand every day and every night and have to listen to their comments and opinions when I decide about my choices.

It really makes me mad when what I get decided gets vetoed off as a lousy decision, for example, during the renovation phase.

It’s not that they have bad opinions but it’s just, I have grown up. I confided in 2 friends about this and one says it’s my place so I should have the full decision and the other suppose I’m really not an easy person to live with.

I do agree I’m not the best accommodating person when it comes to living together. I just want to know: Am I really mean to think like this or is this normal?”

Editor’s note: It’s your house isn’t it? Stand up for yourself.

2 MEN ARRESTED FOR THEFT OF $88K WATCH THAT WENT MISSING AFTER VICTIM GOT OFF TAXI

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TWO MEN ARRESTED FOR THEFT AND DISHONESTLY RECEIVING STOLEN PROPERTY

The Police have arrested two men, aged 47 and 26, for their suspected involvement in a case of theft and dishonestly receiving stolen property.

On 15 June 2023 at about 5pm, the Police received a report that a watch valued at about $88,000 was missing after the victim alighted from a taxi.

Through ground enquiries and with the aid of CCTV images, officers from Jurong Police Division established the identity of men and arrested them on 23 June 2023. Preliminary investigations revealed that the 48-year-old man had allegedly stolen the watch and sold it to the 26-year-old man. The former is also believed to be involved in other similar cases of theft.

Both men will be charged in court on 24 June 2023. The 47-year-old man will be charged with theft under Section 379 of the Penal Code 1871, which carries an imprisonment term of up to three years, or fine, or both. The 26-year-old man will be charged with dishonestly receiving stolen property under Section 411 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence carries an imprisonment term of up to five years, or fine, or both.

PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT
SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE
23 June 2023 @ 10:15 PM

Similar cases

Earlier this month, a woman left her laptop inside a Grab car after alighting and when she finally received a call from the driver, he allegedly asked her for $200 to return her the laptop.

The woman’s husband then contacted Grab’s support to report the driver fro extortion but his wife panicked and ended up relenting and paying the driver to get her laptop back.

Here is what they said

Wife forgot to take her laptop sleeve with her when she got out of the Grab ride around 10 in the morning. Called driver several times, didn’t pick up.

Contacted Grab support who said they were unable to contact him via call either and that they’ve left him a message.

Finally he calls my wife and says that he can return it next week. This is her work laptop and there was also hard drive with her important research data for which deliverables are due this weekend.

He then goes on to say “give me $200, I’m too busy and my boss will yell at me. Anyway I’m only asking $200 its such a low amount. And that he will return it by 3pm”.

In the meanwhile I myself contact Grab support to report extortion and they try contacting him and he doesn’t pick up. They tell me to wait.

My wife panics and we decide there is nothing we can do. She has already had a bad week so she transfers the money. Only then he picks her call and says he is having lunch and can return by 3:30. He does return it.

We did it thinking we will get the laptop back at least and then file a report somewhere. Wondering if anything we can do to get money back? FYI $200 is not a small amount.

We had already decided to give him $50 just for the trouble and perhaps missed rides during that time… until he decided to extort..

GUY DUMPED BY GIRLFRIEND – CALLS HIM CHILDISH FOR BUYING ANIME FIGURINES

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A netizen shared a lengthy letter to his ex-girlfriend, sharing his thoughts about why and how they broke up, and how he still thinks of her.

Here is the story:

“I know its been a few months since we broke up. Sometimes when I see you reshare stuff like TikTok videos such as “You deserve so much better”, “Don’t settle for anything less” types of emotional videos, I get so sad.

I felt like I really gave you my everything. I clear your shopping lists, I plan dates, I occasionally fetch you to & from school, I always bring gifts to your parents and try to impress them. And yet I don’t expect anything from you except emotional love.

I don’t get why you broke up with me because you think I’m childish for buying anime figurines instead of spending money on you.

I keep this hobby/interest private. Only the closest of my friends know about it. I don’t see the problem with it? It doesn’t spill over to my public image/persona.

Heck, if you want to compare dollar to dollar value, I can assure you that I spend way more on you. Maybe, you’re just trying to find a convenient reason to leave me.

But then why repost all those stuff, insinuating to your followers and friends that I didn’t treat you well in the relationship? or am I looking too much into it?

If you’re reading this, I hope you can find your ideal knight swooping in to treat you like the queen you are. I’ll be removing you and moving on with life.”

Editor’s note: Be glad you got rid of her, she’s not worth it.

2 ARRESTED FOR LOANSHARK HARASSMENT, SPLASH PAINT & LEFT “LOVE LETTER” TO RESIDENTS

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The Singapore Police Force have arrested 2 men for separate cases of loanshark harassment at a number of residential units.

First case

The Police have arrested a 33-year-old man for his suspected involvement in a case of loanshark harassment.

On 17 June 2023, the Police were alerted to a case of loanshark harassment at a residential unit along Tampines Street 22, where the unit’s front door and metal gate was splashed with red and black paint.

Through follow-up investigations and with the aid of images from Police cameras, officers from Bedok Police Division established the identity of the man and arrested him on 24 June 2023. Preliminary investigations revealed that the man is allegedly involved in other similar cases of loanshark harassments.

The man will be charged in court on 26 June 2023 under the Moneylenders Act 2008. First time offenders found guilty of loanshark harassment shall be fined not less than $5,000 and not more than $50,000, with mandatory imprisonment of up to five years, and caning of up to six strokes.

The Police have zero tolerance for loanshark harassment activities. Those who deliberately vandalise properties, cause annoyance and disruption to public safety, peace and security will be dealt with severely in accordance with the law.

Members of the public are advised to stay away from loansharks and not to work with or assist them in any way. The public can call the Police at ‘999’ or the X-Ah Long hotline at 1800-924-5664 if they suspect or know of anyone who could be involved in illegal loansharking activities.

Second case

The Police have arrested a 38-year-old man for his suspected involvement in a case of loanshark harassment.

On 25 June 2023, the Police were alerted to a case of loanshark harassment at a residential unit along Geylang East Avenue 1, where the padlock for the front gate was glued with an unknown substance and the walls beside the unit were scrawled with loanshark-related graffiti. A debtor’s note was also left behind.

Through investigations and with the aid of images from Police cameras, officers from Bedok Police Division established the identity of the man within 24 hours and arrested him on 26 June 2023.

The man will be charged in court on 27 June 2023 under the Moneylenders Act 2008. For first time offenders, the offence of loanshark harassment carries a fine of not less than $5,000, and not more than $50,000, with mandatory imprisonment of up to five years, and mandatory caning of up to six strokes.

The Police have zero tolerance against loanshark harassment activities. Those who deliberately vandalise properties, cause annoyance and disruption to public safety, peace and security will be dealt with severely in accordance with the law.

Members of the public are advised to stay away from loansharks and not to work with or assist them in any way. Members of the public can call the Police at ‘999’ or the X-Ah Long hotline at 1800-924-5664 if they suspect or know of anyone who could be involved in illegal loansharking activities.

28 Y.O MAN ARRESTED FOR POKEMON CARDS SCAM ON CAROUSELL, SCAMMED VICTIMS OF $9K

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The Police have arrested a 28-year-old man for his suspected involvement in a series of e-commerce scams involving the sale of “Pokemon” cards.

Between 20 and 24 June 2023, the Police received several reports from victims who were purportedly cheated by an online seller, who had allegedly advertised the sale of “Pokemon” cards on Carousell. The man allegedly received deposits from the victims via PayNow and became uncontactable.

Through follow up investigations, officers from Ang Mo Kio Division established the identity of the man and arrested him on 26 June 2023. Preliminary investigations revealed that the man is believed to be involved in at least eight similar cases with losses amounting to more than S$9,000.

The man will be charged in court on 27 June 2023 with cheating under Section 420 of the Penal Code 1871. The offence of cheating carries an imprisonment term of up to 10 years and a fine.

The Police would like to advise members of the public to take the following precautions when making online purchases:

  1. If the price is too good to be true, it probably is. Purchase only from authorised sellers or reputable sources, especially for high-value items.
  2. Opt for buyer protection by using in-built payment options that release payment to the seller only upon delivery. Whenever possible, avoid making advance payments or direct bank transfers to the seller as this method does not offer any protection.
  3. Scammers may entice buyers to contact them directly through messaging platforms such as WhatsApp or WeChat by offering a better or faster deal if bank transfer payments are made directly to them. They may also use a local bank account or provide a copy of a NRIC/driver’s license to make you believe that they are genuine sellers. Do not fall for it!

For more information on scams, members of the public can visit scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Hotline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness.

PUBLIC AFFAIRS DEPARTMENT
SINGAPORE POLICE FORCE
26 June 2023 @ 10:15 PM

25 Y.O GIRL SAYS SHE’S “AGING”, SCARED NO TIME LEFT TO FIND HUSBAND & SETTLE DOWN

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I’m aging but don’t have the motivation to find a partner, go on dates or be in a relationship. Any other Singaporeans feel this way and what cause it?

I’m a 25F, completed my education and having a stable job. Friends and people all around me nearing my age are all in a relationship, married, having kids.

I do want to get married and settle down but I just don’t have the motivation for now to find a partner, go on dates etc.

This was so due to what happened in the past where I got to know someone, invested in the person so much but eventually got my heartbroken till the point where I don’t have the motivation to get to know anyone or go on dates although I do want to settle down someday.

I feel that its better to be single than being in a relationship and having to go thru hardship, sacrifices and heartbreak.

Any thoughts about it and what should I do in such situation?

Netizens’ comments

  1. 25 is aging????
    What has the world done to you, my sweet child
  2. I’m 40. I guess I’m near end of life then…
  3. 25 is still very young in the big scheme of things.
    Just do whatever makes you happy and see where life takes you.
  4. Jialat, if 25 is aging then I’m living on borrowed time. Better book my nook/urn.
  5. When you put aging, I didn’t expect to see 25F. You’re still young, lots of time to meet someone and settle down.
    Seems like you had a bad experience which caused some fear of relationships or commitment. Have you considered therapy? It can really help in these sorts of situations.
    Also, I would question if you really feel the need to settle down or if you’re just feeling peer pressure from your friends. No point seeking out a relationship just because you’re trying to hit a certain life milestone by a certain age.
  6. i expected 55f. burn out bah, take a break n try again. meetup app
  7. “I’m aging” – so the rest of us what… reverse aging ah?