I am here to seek advice about the psychology of girls. It is a long story. I was in a relationship with this girl three years ago, when I was a fresh graduate from NUS and started my first job, and she was a final-year high school student in my home country, going to study overseas in a Western country (for our background, we are not Singaporeans, and are from an Asia-Pacific country). Our relationship finished several months after she travelled overseas.

In fact, we did not have any conflict. She was the one who started ignoring my messages, and as it was a long-distance relationship, I had no choice but to finish it after a few weeks of awkwardness. After that, I just simply moved on; however, right after we stopped keeping contact, I noticed a significant change in her mind and behaviour (it was all based on my observation on social media). Previously, she was an energetic girl with dark brown skin.

She was a kind of person who can make friend with everyone, had a great sense of humour, and actively participated in a lot of co-curricular activities. Her posts and photos on social media attracted a lot of likes and comments, and she also enthusiastically interacted with friends online. However, after we stopped keeping contact, she seemed to change a lot, both physically and mentally. Until now, to some extent, I can say that the change is quite extreme.

1/ She follows a lot of groups/pages about make-up, beauty, cosmetic, clothes.

Especially, she follows many groups/pages which give advices to girls (the main ideas are sth like the importance of virgin, girls should never have s*x before marriage, girls should be beautiful and wait for ‘Mr. Right’ instead of being active in a relationship, and ‘Mr. Right’ will do everything for the girl, and so on).

2/ Her skin became brighter and pale, and her hair became softer and unnatural. She always wears long, colourful and vintage dresses (instead of casual clothes such as jeans and T-shirt).

To easily imagine, you can think of Western women in late 19th / early 20th century, like in Gone with the wind, and Titanic.

3/ On social media, her interaction with people become less enthusiastic. Her replies to others comments seem to be careful and distant, which is a sharp contrast to her humorous, friendly and energetic behaviour in the past. Gradually, less people interact with her on social media.

4/ Despite the less activeness on social media, she starts practicing to have a Youtube channel, and an Instagram about cooking. However, they do not last long. Overall, the whole story was in three years ago.

I stopped thinking about it for a long time and also have experiences with several other girls after that. However, I recently got an offer to study in the same city with her (in that Western country). Hence, I start remembered about the past and I think of contacting her again. To be honest, I really loved her personality in the past when we was in relationship; however, I am confused about her new personality.

My post is to seek advices and explanations i.e. what could be the reasons of her change in personality, what does it mean, and what should I do to deal with it. Thanks a lot!

I have no idea if I actually moved on from my ex .. after I have left him and got together with my boyfriend I still think of him everytimes. I know it’s sounds like I’m really selfish like this but I really do love my boyfriend at the same time .. and I have a child with my ex .

Even though my ex he is lazy does not want to work but In the past he always cooked for me whenever I’m hungry he would spare some time to cook for me even though he is busy with his own things and at times we even cooked together .. I know that he is not capable to raise our child as he can hardly feed himself as he does not want to work but I miss him ..

Got hand got leg don’t want work

I’m really confused in what I really wants . I really love my boyfriend too .. but I guess everything is too late to say now or even turn back . My ex wouldn’t wants me back anymore .. I’ve gave him lots of chances when I was together with him to go to work and earn money for our baby but he does not want to work and to change his bad temper but I realised there are people out there their temper is much more worst than him .. he has a good heart overall ..

if I had continue that relationship that time I guess I won’t have to face this feelings that I’m having right now .. as he that time self claimed that we have broke up at first I disagreed but then after that I agreed on it that we have broke up ..

I know he would not cheat on me and I’m sure about that .. for my boyfriend he lied to me even after I have exposed him and he still insisted that he never lied and now I have some doubt in him and he said I don’t trust him but he is a nice guy too that always pamper me.

he dote my child too .

Me and my girlfriend got together 4 months ago, and she is my first. I loved her so much when we just started out, but as we got to know each other better, I’m starting to think otherwise.

She keeps testing me, fighting with me over trivial arguments to see if I will apologise first, when these arguments don’t even need to start in the first place. Most of the time I do apologise, but when I don’t, she uses it to guilt trip me, saying things like “sorry I’m a bad girlfriend” and all… She also can’t seem to understand that I need my own time alone as well, just to watch videos or play games. She wants to keep texting and texting and texting me, and I wouldn’t dare to ask her to stop because she would get angry, so I let her… My life now is literally work, and texting her until I have to sleep, I can’t get time for anything else.

We go out on dates every Friday night after work and occasionally more, but she still pushes to go on even more dates. Immediately after our dates, she tells me she misses me and wants to see me again. I try to put it nicely to her that work is tiring, and minus sleep time and the time I take to go out with her and text/call her, I literally only have a few hours left for myself every week. She gets angry whenever I say I don’t want to go out, saying things like “Oh, I guess I’m just not that important to you” and stuff like that.

I also never thought I’d say this, but her sex drive is insane. She is constantly texting about s**ual things which I shall not go into detail, and she gets extremely mad when I stop replying… Many times I would come home from work tired as hell, and she starts sexual texts, but I will force myself not to sleep and just play along with her, fearing that she will be angry with me.

Can I get a third persons perspective on this? Who is in the wrong? Am I just not a good boyfriend? She’s my first, and I really don’t want to break up with her after just 4 months of being together…

A few months ago, noticed the same name keep popping out my wife’s mobile and when i tried to check the phone, i realize that the history was only up to a day ago and im sure they been chatting way before that, and the content was although mind but not colleague r/s, is chatting about “what are you doing now?”, “what you ate for lunch/dinner”, “wah your picture on FB quite pretty hor”.

I confronted my wife and she initially deny but say that guy is only a colleague and just random chatting and he is doing that to many other female colleagues and she has no feeling for him, just responding out of boredom plus I have been neglecting her due to work. She promises to cut contact with him and only talk about work and will make it clear to him to not text so much.

I decided to trust her, and I made alot of changes to spend more time with her and less work and OT when at home, she also acknowledge my effort and claimed that she appreciated it, and life moves on.

After couple of months, while she didn’t off her PC, I peep into her log with tt guy, and realize they been chatting on a daily basis, the amount of chat in Teams didn’t lessen when I first confronted her, she say to dont whatsapp at night (I believe she delete the whatsapp chat).

And the chat content includes daily life activities, ranting about our quarrels to him, and some flirt content, of course work and office gossip. I was very upset, confronted her again, and now her excuse is that she is trying to get his attention in hope for a better impression and evaluation for her appraisal. Do note that they are from different department, even though he is a head of another department and could help her in her ranking. I find it bullish though. She keep claiming that is just normal colleague, and no feeling and just trying to get his attention and she know she is in the wrong but promise not to do that anymore, she will cut all contact and stuff. I really want to believe her, but what normal colleague will chat every day, talk about daily activities, flirt, and keep ranting about the husband? btw the colleague is also married with kids.

We been married for almost 8 years with kids, what should I do? I really find hard to trust her anymore.

A man decided that investing $1000 in TOTO was a quick way to get rich. This is a typical investment story and reading the story will make your blood boil.

Here is the story:

I know a lot of people say buying TOTO or 4D is a waste of money, but I believe with probability I will win it.

By investing in $1,000 worth of quick pick, I am using my spare cash to invest. I am not using money that is of livelihood to invest…

I know many people might say that this is not even an investment and a complete waste of money, but I decided to share my results anyway.

$1000 investment

-$700 worth of system 7
-$280 worth of system 8
-$20 worth of 1 dollar quick pick

Winnings

-system 7 winnings = $120
-system 8 winnings = $190
-1 dollar quick pick = $0

The results

Total amount invested $1,000
Total amount won $310

Total amount loss = $690

This is purely an experiment and I was very sure that I could not recuperate the $1,000 investment.

Why is there such a creature called mother in law. Can they dont exist, become extinct or whatever. Mine is the most unreasonable, ridiculous, old fashioned everrrrrrrrr.

When my husband and I announced that we were expecting a baby, we were met with so much excitement and joy. We decided to keep the gender a surprise until the birth and had already picked out a name – a name that held a special meaning to us. We couldn’t wait to meet our baby and call them by their name.

Unfortunately, our excitement was short-lived. My mother-in-law was not happy with the name we had chosen. She wanted us to change it, because a fortune teller told her that the name didn’t bring good luck.

My baby is already 2wks old & now then she said want to change his name!!!??? Birth cert printed already. How to change? She said to remove the english name & the chinese name must go through fortune teller. Why never consult her? Hello we are the parents not you. Old fashioned dinosaur woman!!

I dk how to face her & dun wana face her. She’s making my confinement miserable. Hate her! Why cant she just go away.

The baby dono is i give birth or she give birth, if she want a child of her name she should go make another one of her own.

My husband and I were both incredibly frustrated. We had put a lot of thought into the name we had chosen, and we did not want to change it. We knew that our baby deserved to have a name that had significance and meant something to us.

I tried to talk to my mother-in-law about it, but she was stubborn and refused to listen. She was convinced that the fortune teller was right, and she wanted us to pick a different name.

oh ya menopause.

A man heard from friends (ah gao ah neow) that getting more loans will help him with his credit rating and he took it literally.

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My friend said that the credit rating report… will determine how much loan I can get from the bank, He suggested me to apply for credit cards and a loan from the bank.

End up I in debt, he never tell me that if I even missed one payment I will be penalised. Now I am in debt as I did not calculate the proper amount of loans and credit card spending I can use per month.

I really regret listening to my friend for taking the loans and credit cards.

Sometimes, I dono is i stupid or my friend stupid. Maybe i stupid. I no sure. When it comes to dealing with money, it is important to seek out advice from a knowledgeable and experienced person. Unfortunately, I didn’t do that when it came to making decisions about my credit rating. Instead, I listened to my friend who told me that I could get a better rating if I had more loans and ended up in debt.

It seemed like a good idea at the time as I wanted to have a higher credit score. Little did I know that by taking out more loans and credit cards, I was only going to end up in a worse financial situation.

It’s easy to think that having more loans and credit cards will give you a better credit rating, but this isn’t necessarily the case. In reality, having too much debt can make it difficult to pay your bills on time, which can have a negative impact on your credit score. Plus, if you miss a payment or make a late payment, it can stay on your credit report for up to seven years, which can affect your ability to get a loan or credit card in the future.

Taking out more loans and credit cards can also be a financial burden. If you don’t budget carefully, you could end up paying more in interest than you can afford. This can lead to further financial difficulties, such as late payments, debt collection, and even bankruptcy.