Hi, I’m not sure if I’m even posting this to the right place or how to do this exactly but anyways I’m here because last night I was kind of taken aback by my date.

We met on a dating app and have been texting for a few weeks but made last minute plans to get a drink last night. So we got a few drinks and then he asked to go to my car.

I figured he wanted to kiss so I said yes. He was such a gentleman. He opened the door for me to the bar and to my car which I thought was so sweet (most ppl don’t open car doors on dates anymore).

So we started making out in the car but it was soft and gentle, then he starts biting. After a few minutes, he asks can we drive somewhere else.

It’s close to my house so we went to a park I know close by. So we get to the park and start making out again…then I climbed on top of his lap and sat on him while we kissed.

It started getting a little rough with lip biting and light choking. Then he lightly taps my face on my cheek with his finger tips and I remember thinking “that was so soft. He better keep it that way”.

Then all of a sudden out of nowhere when I stop kissing him and look up at him, he slaps me hard. I was so shocked I didn’t know what to do.

Then he did it again but even harder. I was honestly scared. He was so gentle at first and was so delicate with me, licking and kissing everywhere so passionately, then all of the sudden “SMACK”.

I understand this is like something that he is into and I didn’t know what to say after. I’ve never had that happen before and I don’t think I liked it.

Before he did that, he whispered “you’re safe” during the choking (which I do like) and maybe the soft taps were a warning that he was about to really slap me but I was really caught off guard.

I thought maybe if someone were ever to do that to me, they would ask before or wouldn’t do it so hard. I mean, that was one of the hardest smacks I’ve ever had (I’ve only ever been slapped on the bum which that’s saying something bc slaps on the bum go pretty hard).

I don’t know if I should just embrace the 50-shades or obviously tell him I didn’t like that, but my biggest concern is that he may end up physically attacking me.

I just found this very odd because we never discussed it beforehand and this was our first time meeting. Very bold of him I thought.

A man who recently went through a divorce felt that it is so easy for divorce lawyers to earn money as the process for his divorce was so fast and furious.

Here is the story:

I went online to seek divorce lawyers and I managed to pick a few and found the cheapest one. After arranging the appointment with the lawyer, I went down and the lawyer started to ask about my situation.

I told him that my wife who is a foreigner has gone missing and probably away from Singapore after failing to contact her. Even though she agreed with the divorce. she did not follow through it and went missing.

The lawyer told me not to worried and asked me for a few key details such as the identification number and detail of both myself and my wife, he then started to draft the letter to submit to a court.

He asked for my contact details and my wife contact details and type in the letter that she was uncontactable and missing despite trying. The lawyer told me to dial the phone a few times and take a screenshot to attach as evidence.

The whole process for the lawyer to type and submit the letter to the court took less than 30mins. After 30mins I was told to pay around $2,000.

That’s it, the lawyer tells me to wait 3-7 months and I will most probably get approval for the divorce.

30 mins get $2,000. Lawyers earn more than doctors.

A netizen shared his horror story after he lost all his money after trusting an asset management company.

He did not mention the name of the company as the company is of such magnitude that he is scared of potential lawsuits. Mr Lee (not real name) said that he was curious about managing his assets and hope that he can get a positive return on his investment through an asset management company.

Mr Lee put in over $100,000 of his cash savings with the asset management company which promised him that it is a very safe fund that is able to beat inflation although it does not earn him much.

He was convinced by the words of the fund manager and decided to proceed with it. Little did he know in a short period of 8 months, his portfolio decreased a staggering 80%.

He called the fund manager and he told Mr Lee that due to the uncertainties of the market the analysis has not been accurate due to the situation happening worldwide. Mr Lee then questioned the fund manager on why this was not brought up to him during the consultation.

The fund manager “claimed” that he was only informed of the inaccuracies of the investments recently.

Mr Lee then said that a big company does not mean that it’s safe to put your money with them neither does it means that a small company cannot perform. He said that his only regret is going all out on 1 piece of the financial instrument rather than spreading his risk over several.

He said that it’s a lesson learned and hope others do not follow in his footsteps for investment.

Hi guys, would need advice on whether I should stay in a “relationship” that I deem as toxic.

Basically, I’m not officially in a relationship with this guy but we’ve been together for almost 2 years. We fight so often & many times, the fights are very intense & aggressive. When things escalate, he would usually shout at me while standing close to me & face down to me (i don’t really know how to describe his stance; but it’s an aggressive stance). When he does this, I wouldn’t even back down & would face him head on and fight it out with him (i admit my words can be too harsh during these kind of fights & note that my temper are really bad so sometimes i maybe the one that escalated the fight). 

But ya, he raised his hands during a few of these fights but have never actually laid hands on me. He’d usually end up throwing my stuff across the room, snatching my phone away to make me stay (because i’d usually try to leave the room & get away from him), or he’d smash stuff. Just to note, he does not raise his hand/ throw or smash stuff/ snatch my phone in every single fight. It’s only during these very intense ones, but these happened probably more than 6-7 times during the 2 years – and 1 time in public. 

Other than these intense fights, we also have very frequent long & random fights (heated but not as intense as the above). 

These are the things that I can’t accept but at the same time, when things are good he’d be really very nice to me. He’d always tolerate me & gives in to me. He’d buy me stuff that I wanted to purchase myself to surprise me when I asked him for opinions on which item is nicer. He’d also always bring me to eat any food that I’m craving for & does many things that I want. Honestly, I would really settle down with him if not for the above stuff. I just don’t want to end up giving him a chance to actually hit me when our fight gets too intense? And I find that we fight way too often & too intensely with either willing to back down?

Oh on a side note, he snores REALLY loudly every night which disrupts my sleep so badly that I feel like murdering him sometimes. Any advice on how to make him stop snoring so that I can get some decent sleep when I’m with him would be greatly appreciated please!

A max who was previously employed in a bank said that the bank is not a nice place to work as it is very stressful.

Here is the story:

The back end and front end of the bank is very different, I used to work in the back end and doing support was a special kind of ‘hell’.

Although in the contract it is stated I work 9-6 but most of the time (I would say about 70%) I work 9 – 10, 11 or even 12 am. Im not working in the support you thinking of, not the phone service.

My job was to edit and update the details of VIPs of the bank. The amount of work is insane and we have to change it in a timely manner to ensure customer satisfaction.

Tracking Bank Employees

Every movement in the bank system is tracked, from one transaction to the other, from one click to the other. It’s all timed by the system to judge our performance.

Actions/Time = performance level

If I fall below the acceptable grade my manager will come and F me. The system is used as part of a grading system of the employee which can affect bonuses, increments and even promotions.

The daily stress level is very high as I need to maintain a high-level score and this score is not visible to me, it’s like an invisible forcing us to work like cows in a field.

Sure, the overall public perception of working in a bank seems to be rich and powerful but the truth is the people in suits that are looking cool are the 1% top earners of the company.

Most of us are not doing that well.