I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way, but I’m done with team-building events.

I’ve been working at this company for a few years now, and every year they make us go on some sort of team-building activity.

It’s always the same thing: group activities, trust falls, ice-breakers, and so on.

At first, I thought it was kind of fun. I mean, it was a nice break from the day-to-day grind. But now, I’m just done with it. It’s such a waste of time. Nobody seems to care about it. We all just go through the motions. We just try to get it over with so we can get back to work.

The problem is that team-building events don’t actually build teams. We’re just going through the motions, but nothing ever changes. We all just go back to our desks and continue working the same way we did before. It’s like the team-building exercises never happened.

I think the main reason why team-building events don’t work is because they don’t take into account the personalities of the people in the group. Everyone is so different, and the activities are so generic. They don’t take into account individual needs or preferences. It’s like they’re trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

Forced

Another thing that bothers me about team-building events is the fact that they’re so forced. We’re all just acting like we’re having a good time, but nobody really is. We all just want to get it over with. It’s like the company is forcing us to do something we don’t want to do.

Finally, I think team-building events are a waste of money. The company spends a lot of money on these activities, but it doesn’t really benefit anyone. We all just go home feeling exhausted and still not feeling any closer to our coworkers.

So, that’s why I’m done with team-building events. I don’t think they help build teams, and I don’t think they’re worth the money. It’s just a waste of time and energy. Nobody cares about these activities, and no one ever gets anything out of them. So, it’s time to move on and focus on other things.

Ahh where do I even begin? My husband was sent home Thursday from work after two hours and stated he “was being investigated.”

Obviously I’m curious why and ask. Welp. He was being investigated for harassment at work. Okay. I don’t make decisions impulsive so I wait till the next day to find out the results as his work says they’ll have it wrapped it by Friday. (This whole time though I’m ignoring him.) he’s giving me this sob story that everyone at work is against him and they’ve all congregated to “sabotage” him.

So Friday comes around and they allow him to keep his job. But he signs an agreement that it happened and it wouldn’t happen again. Something at this point still isn’t sitting right with me so I tell him if he wants me to speak at all to him he needs to tell me the girls name.

He tells me. I go back and forth about messaging her. (I’d never tell him).

I asked the victim

She is 21. (I am 34 and my husband is 40). When she started at their work she was very damaged. my husband began to flirt. They exchanged numbers. He gave her rides home after work. She said in his car he’d ask her to kiss him and she would say no. She said she tried distancing herself from him at work but he started to get weird and aggressive.

She stated he would pull on her hair or grab her butt. He would tap on her shoulders. He would stare at her. She also said if another man at work was speaking to her he would get very mad. She didn’t feel safe. She said she wanted to message me but got scared and didn’t want to make it worse for her. I get that.

What should I do?

I’m 25 years old, I’m writing this to share my story of how my mom ended up homeless and how I was the one who had to make the tough decision to not let her live with me.

It all started when I was 15 years old. My mom and dad had been fighting a lot and things were beginning to get out of hand. One day, my mom had enough and kicked me out of the house. I was so confused and scared, unsure of what to do. I had nowhere to go, so I decided to stay with some of my friends.

It was hard living with my friends, but I was determined to make it work. I got a part-time job to help pay for my expenses, and I managed to save some money every month. I eventually got a full-time job and moved out on my own.

While I was living on my own, I barely kept in touch with my mom. We would talk every now and then, but it was never the same as it used to be. She never asked for anything, and she seemed to be doing ok.

Then, a few years ago, I got a call from my mom. She had been evicted from her home due to not being able to pay rent and was now homeless. I was shocked and saddened to hear this news. I wanted to help her, but I just didn’t have the financial means to do so.

I wanted to offered for her to come and stay with me, but I knew it wouldn’t be good for either of us. I was already struggling to make ends meet and didn’t want to take on the responsibility of taking care of her. So, I told her that I couldn’t let her stay with me.

Since then, I’ve been helping her where I can. I send her money every month to help her with her basic expenses, and I visit her when I can.

Am I wrong for not letting her stay with me?

What I’ve learnt about friendships.

I hang out with this group of friends and somehow am closer to this girl. We started work together and bonded as we were in the same team for years.

As times goes by the rest of the friends started to avoid her. I know its because of her attitude and negative behavior. She tends to be critical and gets angry easily as well as having a sharp tongue. She also cuts people off easily. I have empathy for her due to her coming from a broken background so I usually close my eyes to her behavior towards others. I would also speak up for her when I feel people misunderstood her. She gossips about others but is not bothered when I continued to maintain friendships with people she hate. I guess a part of me feel like a sister to her and I needed to be her moral compass as she indulges in risky behavior too. I get worried for her whenever she describes the men she’s seeing as some were toxic or turned abusive with fights and arguments. Somehow, she’s turned off to date local men who have relationships with their mothers and would always prefer to date men with no moms in their life.

She also admitted she didn’t want me to meet who’s she’s seeing because she didn’t trust her man. She revealed she didn’t want to lose our friendship should the guy want to date me. I didn’t agree with her train of thought as I’ve never betrayed her before but I let it go. I just took it that she has trust issues.

Knowing I am not supportive when I feel there are red flags, she usually only tell me about it when the relationship is over, like a month or two. I don’t recall her dating anyone more than three months. One of the worst one was that the guy was a drunk and beat her up until she landed in the hospital for 2 weeks. She only told me much later.

I start to think she has kept me at arm’s length, even though she claimed I am her best friend.

Our friendship lasted 15 years. The last 5 years, I got married, I felt she grew more and more distant and her behavior towards me got worse the longer we kept in touch. She started to be critical of my marriage, my spouse. Would try to cast doubt in my relationships, especially my marriage. Openly showed that she hated children, including my own. I start to feel that I can’t share my woes with her as she would turn it into a weapon against me later.

I don’t even know why we kept in touch anymore. Soon she showed that she looked down on my family. She’s angry that I’ve ‘abandoned’ her and have taken the passage of life that everyone has taken. I’m surprised she had grievances over my marriage. I start to think she really doesn’t understand me when she easily dismisses me when we talk about things in life.

All this time for the past 10 over years, her mother had been calling me for help to mentally support my friend. I guess that was also part of the reason why I stayed on being friends because I really feel for this friend.

For the first time in our long friendship, we had a huge fight. She refused to support me when I had issues and consistently pushed my buttons. I almost had a mental breakdown. I just needed to talk to someone. I know I sought the wrong person. There was no empathy from her, only cruelty. Only telling me how much I deserved it and she knew exactly what I did wrong and its something she would never be caught in as she knows everything.

For once, I wanted the friendship to be over. So I said the one thing she never wanted to hear. I knew she would never forgive me for saying it as she’s not a forgiving person. I know it was wrong of me to hurt her.

I realised I have also allowed her to abuse me mentally for a long time. After our meet ups, I was always mentally drained and unhappy. I guess her negative energy rubbed onto me.

I have not spoken to her for ages. And I’m sure she would gossip about me like all the other people that’s she has spoke about in spite.

In a strange way, as much I missed the friendship we had, I do not miss talking to her again. I no longer feel stuck or obligated to ensure that she is ok and happy. I don’t miss her spiteful conversations about other people in a cruel way. I most certainly don’t miss how she talk about other couples.

This friendship lasted longer than it should. That’s why it ended horribly. I no longer make myself keep in touch with friends who don’t bother or are unkind.

Its credibly important to surround yourself with kindness and people who are good for you.

Life is cruel enough. Don’t be too cruel on yourself.

Can I still make a police report someone use my credit card without permission acknowledgement?

With my biggest mistake, I signed credit card for him and given him permission. As he promised pay spending amount before due date and keep me informed. I trust him and say no need always tell me.

After 6 months, just curious open bank credit card statement letter was shocked all transaction women store expenses. So I started to call bank check credit card usage daily. It really ridiculous, two credit card have a transaction same date same time but different location one central one west. Bank staff advised me call merchants find out. WTH… He give my credit card to his wife without my permission. I tested on him, say bank called me there a transaction in Seoul. He told me yes yes his brother bring their mother go Seoul, pass my credit card to his brother help him buy things forget to inform me.

First of all, I already know was a lie and going Seoul was his wife and daughters as Trip.com replied my email flight booking name. As same date his brother and family was in Bangkok. All the lies he came up was fucking smooth , my friends told me terminate card immediate let his family couldn’t spend but I didn’t terminate and I regreted.

When he realised I know his wife using my credit card, he questioned me why I posted his family using my credit card. He always defensive arrogant threaten me, throw back credit card become he was a victim. Since his wife was GCB property agent European car, couldn’t she signed a credit card and should know it’s a crime using someone else credit card without permission. Did he forget credit card its mine and all cards is my principle card. I don’t even know his family neither his family know me too.

I do have all evidence proofs but until now i didn’t make any police report. He and his family don’t even appreciate, still ask their friends reply my post scolded me coward liar show proof out.

I’m a failure

Got forced to go to Computer Science course years ago. Never good at it, but managed to get through and got a degree. In the working world, I managed to stay only 1.5 months cause of anxiety and not passionate about programming.

Took another job as an admin, later to public relations for 2 years. Later on, feel like I can do programming, and give that a try. So I took time to learn, but learning gets tough. Decided to resign from my job to fully focus on web developing.

3 months later, I have the basic knowledge of web developing but…I’m still very far from being good….now applying for junior, or even intern job…but everywhere, they expect you to have like 5-10 years of experience, or have knowledge on like, 5 different programming languages, when I only know HTML, CSS, and Javascript…and I’m not even that great in Javascript..

I just…I don’t even know what to do now…I just feel like I’m never going to be great in programming…now, I’m interested to learn Software Testing but I don’t know where to start…

I’m not even the best at my own course… I am now lost in life… Jobless and not knowing what to do next…

Here are what netizens think:

• Take a step back. Plan our your thoughts. Re-assess the best possible plan. Work towards it with small goals.

• IMO, you may want to pause and do a SWOT analysis of yourself, before you move further. Understand your strengths and passion to define your career path. Explore the opportunities which may need your experiences and build a portfolio of your achievements (big or small). Good luck and all the best…

• This is call 3 min passion. Very very bad habit to have. No willpower. Best change or give up and accept.

• Got forced… If not happy just flunk only. Or go study the course that makes u happy. Nobody can force u.