I recently experienced a terribly frustrating and unfair situation at work. I had requested a leave of absence which was approved by my manager.

but I was later old that I was going to be fired or have my leave cancelled unless I agreed to certain conditions.

Boss agreed

It all started when I applied for a leave of absence to take care of a family holiday. I was granted the leave for two weeks, which I thought was fair in the circumstances. Before I left, I made sure that all my work was up to date and that my absence wouldn’t disrupt any of my coworkers.

Change his mind

My boss suddenly text me this garbage and told me to go to work. At first, I was taken aback. I had already taken the leave, and I didn’t think it was fair for me to be asked to work extra hours or weekends when I had already taken the leave. I tried to explain my situation to him, but he was not sympathetic. He said that if I didn’t agree to his demands, then I would be fired.

 It’s been very difficult, as I’m often exhausted after working long hours and I’m not able to spend as much time with my family as I would like. I’m also worried that my boss might try to use this situation against me in the future.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• And it’s a win win, you don’t want to work for sometime like that.

• Unless you are making the absolute minimum wage unemployment pay is not a win for the majority of people.

• a wrongful termination suit as blatantly in the workers side as this would be such an easy case for any firm to take. If they live somewhere with wrongful termination laws this would be an easy win.

• Yeah, he should reply back with “ok”. Then show up on the 3rd and 4th. Not on the 5th-10th. Then show up again on the 11th.

I’m trying to make a list of funny and absurd of annoying workplace experiences in Singapore. It can be anything about office pantry disasters, meeting mishaps, annoying bosses, annoying colleagues or any uniquely Singapore/general workplace moments.

I’ll start:

1. Receiving a text/call on the weekends.
2. Your boss scheduled a 1-1 with you in 10 mins with no agenda or explanation.
3. Due to budget cuts, everyone is expected to clean your own table and take turns to clean office.
4. When it’s 6pm but everyone appears to be busy because boss is still around.
5. The annoying person who sets up meeting at 9am
6.  I see people online on Teams at 10-11pm at night and emails being sent at wee hours at night. Sad life

Some positives ones

1. Your boss is out of town for 2 weeks.
2. Team dinner got cancelled
3. You’ve been told to WFH for a week
4. Free lunch today!

Here are what netizens think:

• From my ex-boss who begrudgingly gave us a day off (I assumed after receiving complaints from some colleagues, as we had been working many weekends consecutively for the past few months).“I give you all off ah, is out of goodwill hor. Not every time this will happen ok. You all can take one day off, but you all cannot go overseas, must stay in sg. If office calls, you all must be contactable and pick up hor.” She’s serious. Lol wtf, give until so unwilling and still wanna stipulate criteria on usage after we burnt many of our weekends for her. It’s not like our job is essential services that requires 24/7 standby some more 

• None of your examples are uniquely Singaporean though, could happen anywhere leh. How about: boss calls for team meeting to get everyone to help him beat DISTIC and secure Jacky Cheung concert tickets…

• my boss asking for help on his kid’s math homework in our office whatsapp group. and we all trying to solve it without algebra. the kid’s primary 3 so algrebra solutions are rejected lol.

• As a foreigner, having a client set up a project meeting starting at 5pm on a Friday was an eye-opener. In Australia organising a meeting after about 3pm on a Friday would be considered rude, unless it was an informal event with drinks and food.

So my husband was on a bachelor trip last weekend in Bangkok.

I woke up to his iPad going off at 2:30 from his friends trying to call and text him to find him in a strip club.

They didn’t know where he was. As a concerned wife, I went in his iPad to see what the fuss was about and I even sent the groom a picture of his location in the club. Turns out, he spent 6000 baht to go to a private room with a siam bu.

I am extremely mad about just this because we have a rule in our relationship that everything that happens in a strip has to be public. I don’t think his friends knew that he was in there and he wasn’t answering his phone or returning texts…

very sus I appreciate that he was honest with me about him booking a private room for himself, but he said all they did was “talk about life” while he had a beer.

I finally got a hold of him afterwards and he made no sense at all after drinking all night. He was trying to tell me white lies seeming like he was trying to cover something up.

He was also so drunk

I don’t know if it’s the same stripper or another one, but someone from the club was texting him and they were flirting and talking about hanging out.

He claims she wanted to hangout with all of the boys. The messages broke my heart to read and I still can’t imagine what actually happened in that room that he claims he did nothing with the stripper in. I have the girls number and I am so tempted to text her and ask if she knows anything so I can talk to him about it. I just have a gut feeling that he did something with this girl. He also has tried to kiss another girl while very drunk before while we were together, so I am having a hard time trusting him.

I want to contact her and ask what happened, but I want to just take his word for it and try to work through this anxiety. I know he has broken our trust already, but that would be crossing a huge line for me to pry like that.

 I never thought I’d say this, but ever since I got into a relationship, I find that more women flirt with me than ever before.

It’s like they can smell my newfound confidence and it draws them in.

At first, I was pretty taken aback when I started to notice the change. I had just started dating my girlfriend and I thought that I would be off-limits to other women. But, instead, I suddenly found myself in a situation where I was getting more attention from the ladies than I had ever before.

It started with compliments from friends and acquaintances. They would comment on my new-found happiness and how I seemed to be more confident in myself. But then I started to notice that women I didn’t even know were giving me more attention. I would be out with my girlfriend and women would come up to me and start talking, telling me how attractive I was and inviting me to hang out with them. I was so surprised – I had never experienced anything like it.

At first, I was a little worried that my girlfriend would be mad at me for getting so much attention from other women. But then I realized that this was a compliment to her too. After all, she was the one that had made me so happy and confident in the first place. She was the one that had made me attractive to other women. So, instead of feeling guilty, I embraced it.

I started to feel like I was more attractive and I enjoyed the attention I was getting from the ladies. It felt good to be able to turn heads and have people look at me differently. I started to feel like I was more desirable and that I had something to offer.

But then I started to think a little more deeply about why I was getting so much attention from other women. After some reflection, I realized that it was because of my newfound confidence. I had been in a relationship and I had grown to love and accept myself more. I was happier and more comfortable with who I was and this made me more attractive to others.

I also started to realize that the attention I was getting from other women wasn’t a bad thing. It wasn’t a sign that I was cheating on my girlfriend or that I was looking for something else. Instead, it was a sign that I was doing something right.

I was radiating confidence and it was attracting other women to me.

I’m not saying that I encourage people to go out and get into relationships just so they can get more attention from the ladies. But I do think that if you find yourself in a happy, healthy relationship, you should embrace the attention that comes with it. It’s a sign that you’re doing something right and that you’re more attractive and desirable than ever before.

….Or become a Shopee Seller and “get rich quick” (if your ethics allow).

Here’s what happened to me:

– Bought item with a 6-month warranty stated in listing. I screenshot it before purchasing.

– Item malfunctioned at 4 months, seller changed warranty in listing to 3 months.

– Presented proof of original ad that stated 6-month warranty, Seller agreed to fix it without cost. Thus I sent item to seller to fix. I had to pay for the delivery btw.

– After chasing for 2 months, seller “fixed” item and demanded $95 repair fee + shipping. Went silent when confronted.

– Contacted Shopee for assistance, it took Shopee an additional 2 months and over 20 emails before informing me that the shop agreed to a “compromise” of $15 Repair fee.

– Told Shopee I should not be responsible for any payment as the item is under warranty and I have provided all evidence numerous times. The so-called “compromise” is not valid at all.

– Asked Shopee what happens if Seller sends back a faulty replacement if I did actually pay the $15, given that it has already been held hostage by the Seller for more than 4 months. Shopee shrugged it off as “not our taiji” as its a “buyer-seller” matter.

As the scammer seller, your profit is as follows:

1. Keep the initial payment made by the victim to purchase the item.
2. Retain possession of the item when the victim sends it back for “repair”.
3. Have the opportunity to send a faulty junk back to the victim and potentially receive additional money under the pretense of a “repair fee”.
4. Avoid receiving a negative rating on the product since the rating window would have expired by the time the item malfunctions.
5. Minimum time required, may even work as a side hustle because its the victim who has to spend time chasing Shopee for justice, not you.

This process can be repeated for multiple products without facing any penalties from Shopee. #profittt

The Police are investigating five men and two women, aged between 24 and 59, for their suspected involvement in a series of holiday travel package scams.

Between March to May 2023, the Police received multiple reports from victims who had purportedly been cheated by an online travel agency for what appears to be sham travel packages. After receiving the payments via money transfers, the company did not fulfil the agreed service and became uncontactable. At least 48 victims were cheated of a total sum amounting to at least $1.7 million.

Through follow-up investigations, officers from Woodlands Police Division established the identities of seven suspects and commenced investigations against them.

Out of the 7 suspects, a 29-year-old man was charged in court on 26 May 2023 for his suspected involvement in unauthorised disclosure of access code under Section 8(1) of the Computer Misuse Act 1993. The offence carries a fine not exceeding $10,000, an imprisonment term not exceeding three years, or both, for first-time offenders; and a fine not exceeding $20,000, an imprisonment term not exceeding five years, or both, for subsequent convictions.

The Police would like to advise members of the public to take the following precautions when engaging online services:

1. Check with the Singapore Tourism Board and the National Association of Travel Agents whether a vendor is an accredited travel agent, and buy air tickets only from authorised sellers or reputable sources.
   
2. If the price is too good to be true, it probably is. Purchase from authorised sellers or reputable sources.
   
3. Whenever possible, avoid making advance payments or direct bank transfers to the service providers.
   
4. Scammers may entice buyers to make deposits before the services are provided, and they may also use a local bank account or provide a copy of a NRIC/driver’s licence to make you believe that they are genuine sellers. Do not fall for it!

For more information on scams, members of the public can visit scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Hotline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may call the Police hotline at 1800-255 0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness.

Hi all. 35/F here. Wondering if anyone has gone through this as well and if anyone can relate or has advice.

Since my last very serious BF, I have been dating for the past 10 years or so. In that time, I’ve had a couple relationships, the longest of which lasted a year.

However, in ten years of dating, maybe ~4 relationships lasting 6-12 months, and many shorter “situationships” shall we call them, not one single man has told me he loves me. Not one. Of the two longest and most serious relationships, one ended it after 8 months by saying he just felt like he should be in love with me by then but wasn’t. The other told me he was basically gearing himself up to tell me he loved me, but I dumped him for other reasons (very toxic relationship) before he ever did, if he would have at all.

This past week, a guy I dated for 4 months who was extremely compatible with me in terms of everything (goals, relationship goals, hobbies, etc), incredible mind blowing physical chemistry, and with which we both had such a easy and comfortable time together, were vulnerable etc with each other, ended things because he said he just didn’t feel himself falling for me.

I had just started feeling like I was falling for him and had asked him to DTR. Apparently another woman he was seeing also asked him to DTR the same week, and he decided to enter a relationship with her instead (ouch), I assume (but don’t know I guess) because he wasn’t feeling himself falling for me. Obviously, I am super hurt and the fact he stated he just didn’t feel he was falling for me triggered a lot because I feel like no guy does anymore, ever.

I guess I’m not sure what I’m seeking here, but I feel like I’ve become unlovable, and I don’t understand why. Obviously I’ve had relationships in the past (like over 10 years ago at this point thought) where I feel in love and it was mutual. But it seems impossible now, and I dread meeting people now that I feel an attraction with because it always ends up the same – we seem to have a great connection but then they just tell me they aren’t falling in love regardless, whilst I start falling for them.

What the hell am I doing wrong? Is this unusual? It makes me feel so horrible that I want to give up dating because I meet great people I click with and want to pursue something with, we seem compatible and having a great time, and yet….it just never goes further because they don’t fall for me.

Help! And yes I have a therapist but she really hasn’t been very useful.

My boss is an aggressive character. He’s not someone that takes no for an answer and when he sees an opportunity for more business, he goes for it. He’s relentless in his pursuit of success and he’s willing to do whatever it takes to get it.

The other day, he came to me with an offer I couldn’t refuse. He wanted me to spend all of my money so I could find more sales for him. He said he had a plan and he was sure it would work. He wanted me to go to a car dealership and buy an Audi. Then, he said I should get a Rolex watch.

At first, I thought he was joking. I mean, what kind of boss would do something like this? But then I realized he was serious. He said if I followed his instructions, he would make sure I was taken care of financially.

So, I went to the car dealership and bought an Audi. It was a nice car, but it was more than I could afford. I had to take out a loan just to make the purchase. I then went to a jewelry store and bought a Rolex watch. This was also expensive and I had to take out another loan just to make that purchase.

I was now in a lot of debt and I was scared. I was worried about how I was going to pay for all of these items. I wasn’t sure if my boss was really going to take care of me or if he was just using me to make more money.

The next day, my boss called me into his office. He said he was impressed with my commitment and wanted to reward me. He said he had found me some new clients and he wanted me to keep working hard. He gave me a bonus and said he would take care of the loans I had taken out for the car and the watch.

I was amazed. My boss had put his faith in me and it had paid off. I was now able to pay off my debts and I was no longer in a financial bind. I was grateful for my boss’ generosity and I was determined to work even harder for him.

My boss taught me an important lesson that day: don’t be afraid to take risks and invest in yourself. If you believe in yourself and are willing to put in the work, you can succeed. You just have to be willing to do what it takes and trust in yourself.

My(29F) husband(28M) wants me to ask him for permission to do things such as hanging out with friends or going out after work with co workers.

I can understand letting him know but I feel weird having to ask him for permission. He knows how I feel but claims I don’t respect him. He has resorted to giving me the silent treatment.

For more context, we have been together for many years but have only been married for 1 year. I have asked him for permission in the past for things and he has told me no.

Should I just give in and ask him for permission?

tldr: husband wants me to ask him for permission to hang out with friends. He is upset I won’t do it.

Netizens’ comments

1. Does he ask for permission too when he goes out with the boys?
2. I mean if you’re okay with giving up your free will and body autonomy, also being considered property instead of a woman who has a title of wife. You will be considered property and treated like it.
3. I give you permission to tell your husband to go f himself.
4. He doesn’t respect you. Unless he’s your father, and you are actually 8 years old, you shouldn’t ask permission for anything. It is common courtesy to let him know your plans and to ensure he knows where you will be, but asking permission is ridiculous. He’s not your parent or your boss. Never ask permission.
5. Screw that!! You are an independent adult, and you don’t need his “permission” for a damned thing. That is controlling behavior. You don’t have to put up with that.
   Respect is letting him know that you are going out. Respect is making sure you two don’t have something already on the schedule.
   Respect is him respecting your autonomy as an individual!
   This would be a deal-breaker for me. He doesn’t own you.
6. I would tell him where I was going, or who I was hanging out with like “ i’m going out with my girls”. If he said no, I would just tell him I wasn’t asking permission I was just telling you. And leave it at that. Let them not talk to me.