The “9-5 Grind” is Making Me Miserable

I’m so sick of this endless cycle of work, sleep, repeat. It feels like I’m stuck in a never-ending nightmare of commuting, sitting at a desk, and pretending to care about a job that doesn’t matter to me.

Why is it that we’re expected to work our lives away, just so we can pay bills and survive? It’s not fair that the system is rigged against us, and we’re forced to put up with all this nonsense just to make ends meet.

And don’t even get me started on the toxic work culture. My boss is a total micromanager, always breathing down my neck and demanding more and more from me.

And my colleagues are no better – constantly gossiping and backstabbing to try and get ahead.

I’m tired of feeling like I have no control over my life. I want to be able to pursue my passions, to spend time with my loved ones, to travel and explore the world. But instead, I’m stuck in this soul-draining 9-5 grind.

Honestly, I don’t know how much longer I can take it. Every day feels like a struggle just to get out of bed and face another day of drudgery. I need a change, and I need it now

Netizens’ comments

• I’m currently not doing a 9-5 office job and I miss it so much.

Being able to talk to co workers about life and interests without management telling you to stop, being able to use my brain to problem solve, consistent schedule to plan around, and more time to do things I enjoy.

It’s all relative I guess.

It takes money to travel so maybe find a workplace with good discount travel options like an airline. Or maybe a wfh job and become a digital nomad.

• You’re literally wondering why you have to work to pay bills and survive while at the same time complaining that you have no ability to travel the world..

Food is not free, it requires work. Traveling the world has a significant energy cost associated with just moving you from point A to point B, energy is not free.

You could get rid of all your bills, as I have, but even that requires more work. now I have to harvest my own water, my own electricity, and my own food. all of which is more difficult than a 9-5.

You can either up your income or lower your lifestyle. I suggest you do both. find a job that you are happy to do.

I work at a pub somewhere in town. Its not a job that is very glamorous but it does pay well and gives you the extra cash when you need it.

l have been working there for a few months and I am constantly reminded of the fact that if I don’t wear something that shows off my ‘valleys’, it’s hard for me to make more money.

No show ‘valleys’ cannot get the attention of all these men

It is the reality of the situation, the sad truth.

I’ve noticed that men are more willing to talk to me and spend more money if I show them some skin.

Whenever you chat with them, their eyes will often shift to have a peek at the ‘valleys’ and sometimes they will make some jokes about it and they don’t care if it is offensive.

It’s like they think they’re entitled to making all these comments and looking at your ‘valleys’ just because they are paying customers.

Tried before wearing a modest dress, my sales were really lower

I have tried dressing in a proper dress before which does not really show any skin and also tried wearing clothes which shows my ‘valleys’ and I really make more sales and earn more commissions when I show my ‘valleys’.

It’s really frustrating, because I don’t think I should be expected to do something like this to make more money.

But, in order to survive and make ends meet, I have to do what I can to make money. So, I wear clothes that reveal more than I’d like and make sure I’m always smiling and making conversation.

It’s not easy and it’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the only way I can make more money.

When I first started trying to learn how to be more sociable, I thought that I could advance more and start to pick up girls, I had no idea where to start.

An old friend of mine who claimed to be an expert in picking up girls gave me some advice

I bumped into an old friend at a pub who claimed to be an expert in the area. He said that if I followed his advice, I could get any girl I wanted. So, I decided to take a chance on him and see what happened.

After some advice from him, I came to understand that if a girl was leaning towards me, it meant that she was giving me the green light to kiss her.

I was thrilled, as this was something that could potentially open the door for me to start getting the girls I wanted.

So, I decided to put my newfound knowledge to the test. I went and walked around the pub and as soon as I saw a girl that I liked, I made sure to lean in close to her and make sure she noticed me.

Sure enough, she started leaning towards me and I felt like I had succeeded. I was so excited, I couldn’t wait to kiss her.

Turns out that I was reading the wrong signs

But before I could get the chance, I was interrupted by a man who said he was her boyfriend. He was obviously angry and he started pushing me away from her.

I tried to explain that I did not know that the girl I was talking to was attached, but he was having none of it.

He gave me a punch and told me to stay away from her, and I was left with a bruised eye.

I did not dare to fight back because a few of his friends came over to support him and I was alone, so I could only apologise profusely and try to get away from the scene.

I was so embarrassed and humiliated by this experience that I never went out to that pub again for fear that I would bump into them again and get into more trouble.

The pain of knowing that my husband has been lying to me was agonising. It was like a heavy burden that I must bear, yet I had no choice but to confront him.

Always switches off his phone and tells me his battery is flat

For months now, he had been switching off his phone and giving me excuses like his battery is flat. But I wasn’t so naïve, I knew he was lying to me.

I had suspicions that he was going out to Geylang more his ‘activities, and I was determined to get to the bottom of it.

So one night, I decided to follow him when he left the house. I followed him all the way to Geylang, where I saw him talking to a woman. It was then that I knew my suspicions were true.

My heart was broken, but my determination was stronger. I waited for him to be done and come out of the hotel and confronted him in his face.

He denied it at first, but I could see the guilt in his eyes. He eventually confessed that he was indeed going to Geylang all this while for his ‘activities’.

He apologised for lying to me and promised he would never do it again. I wanted to believe him, but I couldn’t. I knew he was a liar and I didn’t trust him anymore.

He begged me for forgiveness but enough was enough for me. I knew he would never change. He would always be a liar, and I would never be able to trust him again.

Whenever I meet someone new, I have a tendency to want to meet them every single day. Not because I am in love with them or what but because I am very curious about them and want to find out more.

I’ll get bored of them after a month, then start to MIA from them

But usually in within a month I’ll get bored of the person and I’ll start to ghost her. I know a lot of people think I’m a player and always gossip about me, but I’m really not.

I genuinely want to find a girlfriend to spend the rest of my life with which is why I have to be very very sure before I commit to anyone.

If the person is not the right one, what’s the use of continuing to see each other when we know the relationship will not go anywhere? We shouldn’t be wasting each other’s time, right?

It is the easiest way out

I know it’s wrong and that it’s not a good look, but I just don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. It’s not like I’m hurting anyone or that I’m trying to hurt anyone’s feelings.

I just think it’s the easiest way out of a situation that I don’t want to be in.

I’ve had a few relationships that have gone on for longer than a month and I just don’t have the patience to keep something going past a certain point if it does not work, and I think that’s why I’m so comfortable with ghosting girls after one month.

I still think that ghosting after one month is the best way, it’s easier than having a long drawn out conversation about why I don’t want to

I have this friend (A) who’s in my clique but the rest of us don’t rly like to hang out with her. Basically she’s very self-centred and only cares about herself and what she wants.

Wants everything her way, will show attitude if she doesn’t get her way

If we decide to go somewhere she doesn’t like, she will black face the whole trip and keep complaining about this and that.

And for the outing she plan, we are not allowed to make any comment cos she will kick up a big fuss and act one victim that we don’t appreciate her.

Basically she’s always very negative and make us feel uncomfortable so we don’t like to hang out with her. To deal with this, we created a new chat group cos none of us have the guts to remove her from the old one.

But then one day my other friend accidentally typed in the old chat “see y’all tmr” and although she deleted it very quickly, we think A still saw it.

Now she fomo, so keep jio us out individually

She never expose us in the chat group but now she keeps pm each of us to ask us out. She’ll ask us what we’re doing over the weekends, free for dinner anot this kind of things and it’s very hard to not to tell her that we are alr meeting just without her.

Feels bad to also keep saying that we’re not free to meet too. But good thing for her is she very persistent never give up.

Keep asking and asking. The funniest tactic she used was that she dreamt of us going out to eat durian so she jio me out to eat but I can’t stand the smell of durian and my whole clique knows so I don’t know which planet she is living on.

Maybe metaverse.

I can’t believe what I’m hearing. My husband just admitted to having a mistress outside. I’m so angry that I can’t even speak.

He reminded me that he was also married before and meeting me cost his marriage

He must have noticed my anger at him for find a mistress, so he quickly retaliated with something even worse. He told me that I was his mistress too, the last time he was married to his ex-wife before me.

At this point, I’m completely speechless. I can’t believe he would stoop so low as to compare me to his mistress and blamed me for breaking up his marriage in the past.

He was the one who told me that he had no more feelings for his ex-wife and asked me to be together with him at that point of time.

I was so hurt and angry that I just wanted to scream at him and make him feel the same way I was feeling.

But I knew it wouldn’t do any good. He was determined to make me feel guilty and he had done a good job of it. I tried to stay calm and think of what to do next. I knew I needed to confront him about his actions and put an end to this mess.

At this point, I had had enough. I couldn’t believe he was trying to justify his actions and make me feel guilty that I was also a mistress to being with.

He tried to argue even more but I was done listening. I told him that I wanted nothing more to do with him and that I was done.

We are now at the stage of talking terms and honestly maybe it is my karma for breaking up someone’s marriage which is why someone came into the picture now to break up my marriage.

My bf and I finally got the keys for our BTO and we’re both very excited to renovate our house.

We’ve also started to look around for suitable furniture and appliances and I didn’t realise how much money all these things cost.

Everything costs a lot, my money is all wiped out

Every single thing is money. Even the basic ones that are not so nice are not cheap. And when you total everything up, it’s really a lot of money.

When we were still waiting for our BTO to be built, I always envisioned my perfect home but because of the high prices, I had to sacrifice a lot of what I wanted.

Although I have a stable job, spending so much money makes me nervous because I’ve never felt so “broke” before.

My CPF account got wiped clean and my savings also took a big hit from all this expenditure. This makes me really uncomfortable as I guess I’m used to having a lot more money in my bank account.

This is the first time that my bank account has dropped below five figures and I sort of blame my bf for it.

Bf earns more than me but insist we contribute the same amount

For all our expenditure so far my bf and I have been splitting equally between two of us. I brought it up to him a few times that he should pay more because he earns way more than me and can afford it but he insisted on splitting 50/50 because we are sharing the house equally.

It sounds fair but in reality, it is not. I’m having a really hard time trying to scrimp and save to have enough to pay.

On the other hand, I see him still able to go out and have fun with his friends. As my future husband, shouldn’t he support me?

He says I shouldn’t have any expectations of him but if I’m the one earning more, I’ll also pay more of the bills so of course I expect him to do the same.

How do I convince him?