She was my boss. We never did anything though because of our job positions within the company and dating is pretty much a huge no-no for them. I’ve worked for her for over 6 years. Been in love for 2 years. We got to know each other on personal levels. Not gonna lie there were lots of times where we almost wanted to say “f it” but we knew it couldn’t get to that yet. I’ve never connected with anyone the way I have with her.

She’s this strong, compassionate, funny and loving person. Not just with me but with all my other ex-coworkers. Everyone loves her. I just happened to fall in love.

Last week was my last week. Got a job offer somewhere else.

She organized a little goodbye party with everyone else on our lunch break. Soon as the day was over I asked her out to dinner and she said yes without hesitation!!!

It sucks we won’t see each other every day but it was so worth it to finally hold her hand and kiss her. She told me she’s wanted this for a long time, and what can I say, when it’s a really great date you don’t want the time to end. Best night of my life lol. We woke up together, went out for breakfast. And agreed on spending the day tomorrow. I’m just so happy right now.

Have had a huge smile on my face all day, I’m excited for this future.

Here are what netizens think:

• This post made my heart flutter! and you got me smiling, too! you both sound like amazing people. i am so happy for you and i wish all the best for the two of you, you’ve got a stranger rooting for you! thank you for sharing.

• Congrats! I know you’re thrilled and k. The moment and you should be , but also pat yourself on the back for being patient and cognizant for so long , those are super desirable qualities in a long term partner. I’m gonna do a shot for you. Legend.

• One day I hope to find a love like this. I’m very happy for you and hope that you both find joy and fulfillment in the future! Congrats on the new girl and the new job

My boss just asked me not to wear my normal pants to work and I’ve never been angrier

I wear normal pants to work. Our dress code is business casual, and I have gotten myself sized by a reputable tailor. All my slacks and chinos are from normal brands and are normal/relaxed fit.

However yesterday my boss called me into her office and told me I would no longer be allowed to wear the pants I normally wear to the office and would have to wear something “less revealing”.

Apparently, my “bulge” is inappropriate for the workplace. I have normal-size genitals. I actually measured it to make sure I wasn’t crazy, and I’m pretty close to the average.

Would a woman with a large chest be told she can’t wear anything but baggy clothes? Would she be told by her boss that she must wear nothing but restrictive sports bras to work?

I doubt it, especially in my work place where women two seats down from me wear far more provocative clothing than my damn slacks.

I asked her “what should I wear instead? These are my size” and she said “just go buy something looser or get a bigger size”.

I’m not rebuying my entire collection of work pants. Go ahead and report me to HR, lets see them try and fire me for having too much bulge.

To clarify, I’m aware that women have been told to “cover up” quite a bit in the workplace. I’m not dismissing that, just highlighting the very visible double standard of bodily expression in my own workplace.

Editor’s note: Wear a skirt and see what they say

My fiance and I have been together for five years. He’s the love of my life and I literally can’t imagine being without him. So the thought of doing this is making my stomach roll.

He was adopted and neither he nor his parents knew much about his medical history. A few weeks ago, he met his biological brother for the first time and found out that his birth father had passed from Huntington’s disease.

There’s a 50% chance that my fiance also has the genetic defect that causes Huntington’s, but he refuses to get tested.

It’s not the disease I’m scared of, it’s the not knowing. If we know he’ll get it, we can prepare financially, practically, and emotionally. He says a positive test result will hold him back from living his life, but I feel like it’s the opposite. How can we live with this giant maybe looming over us? How can I make smart decisions on where to live, how to budget, or even whether or not to have biological children with this man if I’m not allowed to have all the facts?

So, I’ve come to the decision that I have to break it off. I respect his decision, but I can’t understand or accept it.

I have literally no one I can talk to about this because it’s his secret and not mine to tell.

I just want to clarify a few things up here:

1. I would not leave him if he tested positive for the defect. I would not leave him if he got sick. I just want to plan for us to be able to afford the best life and care for him if he does – which means we’d have to start immediately.
2. I don’t want or need ‘perfect’ children. That isn’t realistic. But it is possible to avoid them being subjected to a 50/50 chance of having this disease. Of course there are alternative options, but again: they involve preparation and planning. I’m more than willing to take a full genetic panel as well.
3. Yes one or both of us could get cancer, or permanently disabled in an accident, or any other number of things. But I’ve come to learn that you can’t plan for every unpredictable thing life throws at you – this is the rare occasion that we do have the opportunity to prepare.
4. Essentially it comes down to the fact that we’re incompatible, regardless of how much we love each other. I’m a planner and he’s very laid back. Until now, these traits have complemented each other, but unfortunately they’ve brought us to an impasse that I don’t think we can both move forward from happily.

My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me so I lied and told her I cheated on her

My(25m) girlfriend(26) confessed to cheating on me last night, so I told her I’ve been cheating the whole time we’ve been together. I had my suspicions that she’s been cheating as she’s been staying out late and just acting strange in general.

Well, when she made her big announcement I replied by saying I’ve been cheating on her for the entirety of our relationship, which isn’t true.

I told her I’ve been sleeping with 1 other woman consistently and this drove her absolutely insane – like I genuinely thought she was going to do someone rash, like slash my tires or something.

But no, she just screamed at me and demanded to know who she was. She went on to say she only cheated once and she was completely inebriated when it happened as if that someone absolves her of any wrongdoing. The audacity.

well anyways, I broke up with her and threw her out of my house. I then proceeded to invite the boys over for a gathering.

All in all, it was a hilarious experience. I know it’s not a crazy story, but I thought it was funny enough to share.

Netizens’ comments

1. You have to imply it was one of her friends but don’t tell her who.
2. I am always amazed at people who get upset when they say they cheated but get upset when they find out they were cheated on too…why would they care? They obviously do not care enough about the other to stay faithful
3. Eh…now in her mind her cheating was justified and she thinks you’re trash so no big loss. I would have preferred just breaking up with her and letting her live with the regret she lost a great guy.

I met this girl in a club and started dating her. We cohabit for a few years in my parent’s house. Then one day she started asking about marriage and also started arranging for BTO matters.

She even plan on what job to find after she retire as stewardess assumingly she got pregnant. I did not want to marry her due to her special background. Before I met her, she works in the club and let any guy took advantage of her. She told me she had 3 abortion before so she is always feeling tired and weak.

She’s dirty and doesn’t cherish herself working in this kind of places until when we dated then she switch job. I am unable to overcome the barrier that she was being USED by many guys. I wonder how come girls like her can even think that they can find decent husband and happily married? Isn’t it naive? She likes giving her hard earn money to her mother which I did not approve.

Her mom knew she was working in club and did not object at all, since she was making money to support her. What kind of parents is this?! In fact I’ve no respect for her mother. How can she witness her daughter earning fast money and still spending her money happily.

When she finally got the BTO flat she wanted and in high floor, she told me to put in deposit together. But I didn’t want the flat, the BTO is what she wanted.

She should put the deposit since she is the one that wanted a BTO. She was so upset and left me. What right does she even have to be angry and leave me when I picked her up from her bad situation and told her to find better job. Her family couldn’t even be bothered. What I wanted was to live with her without marriage or children. But our relationship went downhill when she became naive.

What do you think I should do? Should I ask for my money spend on her back?

I don’t have much experience drinking but I am quite an observant person.

My friend brought me to a pub along Beach Road and there were a few local girls there who worked as hostesses. They were very young and they most of them look like they have gone through a lot the typical “single moms” or “addict” kind of girls.

They asked to join us for a drink and started drinking together, I knew exactly what they are and I told the girl I don’t need one.

My friend wanted one and questioned me at the toilet later on about why I do not want a girl. I told him that it is a waste of time and money as they are working girls, last time this kind of places all thai and viet girls, now even local girls come in for a piece of the pie.

He then question me if there are other ways to get girls and asked if I was normal. I then asked him if it was normal to use the money to get girls, like that go Geylang one-shot settle even faster.

So back in the bar, the magic question was popped by the girl to buy a drink that cost $100. He agreed and paid for it.

After he paid for the drink, the girl left and did not come back.

I then asked him to go to Geylang sua, at here still pay for drinks waste time and even more money. Don’t get me wrong, I love eating and drinking but I do not enjoy paying for hostesses as I know 90% of them are one kind.

He then diam diam started to think about the money he had to spend all these years to “buy hope”.

Most men go to these kinds of pubs/clubs or siam diu with the hope they can find a girlfriend but 90% of them end up either in tears or bankrupt cause they need to “support the girls” and end up paying more than they can bargain for.

Mostly caused by their ego and they pay for flowers or ladies’ drinks or whatever.

I agree that one can meet a girl in a regular pub or club but I highly condemn these kinds of places.

I’m astound that local girls had stoop so low

I’ve been married for many years now, living with my husband. Life has been smooth sailing but rather routined and we have no kids for now.

Just recently came a restructure at work and i was being sent to another team reporting to a new boss. My boss is the eye candy of the company -very tall and good-looking and not married (but attached). When he just joined our company, many of the ladies were commenting about how good looking he is and also the fact that there not many guys in my company.

I had a very good impression of him all these while as he is always being helpful at work even being at management level. He is also always polite and very positive.

I didn’t expect having given the opportunity to work with him, and to be honest i was really glad to be under his reporting.

We are now working very closely together and having many work travel opportunities. I find myself confiding to him on many personal issues during trips and during meal conversations. Sometimes speaking to him just made me feel like butterflies in my stomach. And we can resonate so much on my topics at work or be it many other topics of interest. He is always complimenting me at work and showing concern about me. He even remembers my birthday and ask me out for meal after I joined his team. I am not sure if that is normal or it is just because he is doing it out of concern as my boss. He always come round my desk for small talks and asking for after work drinks.

I hated this feeling as I’ve realised am being to take interest in his every actions and words. The feeling is so much stronger than I feel for my husband and it felt this is so so wrong. Sometimes, i can be thinking about what my boss said to me at work or occasionally i can just recall a funny joke that we talked about at work.

This seems like a warning sign and i am getting to close to my boss.

As I am just rather new in the team, and it is a great opportunity of growth for my career, i don’t know if i should distance away from my boss right now or it could just be a one-sided crush on my end.

Any advice/s would be appreciated. Really confuse of my feelings towards my boss and i really hated it.

I have a degree and i’ve gone through 11 different jobs in just one year.

Most paid between $1.7k and $2.6k a month. It feels like if I try to be nice and accommodating to others I get stepped on repeatedly or picked on.

If I try to speak up or distance myself from those people then I’m a problem or not a team player. If I’m quiet then I get told ‘are you sure this is the job for you’ why do I have to try so hard!!!!

I thought my terrible search would be over in 2023. Still under 50k a year but at least I can finally move out from living with my toxic mother right? After a year at a crappy insurance company, I had enough and stood up for myself.

Immediately I also wanted to change jobs. I spent 3 months searching and applying to over 200 jobs. Some I feel like I didn’t get because I have a traditionally feminine name. I applied to entry-level factory jobs for pete’s sake. If you’re really so desperate for people then don’t assume I can’t lift or monitor things just because I wasn’t born a man.

I started at another insurance company then got an offer for a role elsewhere. I was so conflicted between the two but I chose the insurance company since they said ‘they really liked me’. I didn’t want to let them down. I get there and I’m constantly told they’re understaffed.

2 weeks later they tell me they don’t think they’re a good fit. They recently hired a guy younger than me right out of uni with 0 industry experience yet I’m the one who doesn’t fit? I’ve never had this happen. Now I’m out a job with 2 weeks to figure out how to pay the other half of my rent.

I feel like if I were born a guy with my qualifications it would be less troublesome to get a decent job. Instead of being considered a ‘job hopper’ I’d just be someone who was ‘trying to figure himself out’ or just looked down upon less. I wouldn’t get picked on because others wouldn’t think I’m weak.

Is there anyone else who feels this way???? I’m just so sick of trying so hard in these environments but ‘nO oNe WaNtS tO wOrK aNyMoRe’ right?

Recently graduated with Flexible Combined Honours and still jobless at 26(M).

Know of friends with masters can only find degree jobs with 3k+ pay. Meanwhile, friends who went to LaSalle (3 years) then Kaplan (1 year) became manager at 23.

Also, know of many who went to private schools after sec school are now damn rich after starting their business for years or already hold high corporate ranks at my age. Wonder if the normal educational path we are going through is even worth it?

We are just going to start working much later and climb the corporate rank much later than them. Same age but they are already our bosses. Besides that, our local uni certs seem nothing to companies as they are okay with hiring those from private uni/diploma (which lesser years to complete them). Moreover, uni certs are only useful for our 1st two jobs.

So is going through the normal educational path worth it? Something parents can think about for their kids.

Netizens’ comments

• If you don’t have the skills to start maintain (starting is relatively easy) a business or go freelance, then that is a moot point. Uni is to give you generic as well as specific skills to enter the market.
• Don’t assume all private school students are not capable. Some were not good at A levels some just wanted a faster graduation.
• Private college grads also have to look hard for jobs…
• The truth is fch means nothing, what matters is your degree. A stem degree second lower can easily earn more than fch in other degrees in today’s demand. Also, degree does matter, what failed is probably your degree and interview… scroll through linkedin you notice alot of the directors have quite impressive degrees and experience.Manager is just starting point, aim bigger man…. They will soon notice their private school degree hinders their beyond manager promotion
• “Manager” title also must see what kind of manager is that. Insurance Agent or salesman also can call themselves Senior Manager or even Director. Some people set up business and call themselves “Director” when it’s actually just a one-man show and the title is just to meet stat requirements. Joke! A local uni degree is definitely still much more valuable than a private uni degree. There’s a reason why local unis are so well recognised globally.

A netizen shared about how she hates having intercourse with her boyfriend but that she has to pretend to like it.

Here is the story:

I love my boyfriend but our intercourse is awful and I pretend it’s great.

I love him in every way, except when we sleep together. It gets painful sometimes, and I hate doing it from the back (he loves it).

I tried to tell him once but he smiled at me genuinely and said

“I know you’re lying, you’re just upset with me at the moment “.

I was upset with him about something unrelated to it and this was when I chose to to tell him, about the awful experience.

I haven’t mentioned it since.

Netizens comments

To be fair, if a woman was told she is horrible at intercourse and dry as the desert, she would be insecure about it too.

The reality is, men do say this to women whether true or not. Usually because their private parts are small and they aren’t good

The partner is everything though. I like sleeping with my partner, I thought I’d be a little less addicted to it the older I get, but nope.

I have almost a bottomless pit of patience though. Nearly a year I went without it. with my ex, but conversations around it came out negatively.

Had a similar convo with my wife the other night and it was a beautiful and constructive conversation.