Helping fellow boyfriends here. How to do a surprise proposal in SG before BTO.
During the dating stage, I will make it clear to the girl that I am dating for marriage, looking for a committed relationship. So on the off chance that we may end up married, can the girl share exactly what ring she likes and her ring size. Then wait and date as per normal for years or however long yall want. Then by the time, you wanna propose, you have the ring size + type info ready to go.
One level higher is asking the girl what is her ideal proposal? the girl most of the time will share readily one. Commit to memory. must ah.
You may not end up with this girl la, but all the info is with you all the way liao and the girl defo will not expect it coz the wait could be years. Yall can plan the proper proposal before applying bto and you filter those that only wanna play, not looking for a serious relationship.
Also, if the girl has drastic weight change during the relationship, the guideline for ring size is……… +10kg to + 15kg = + half ring size to 1 ring size. So adjust accordingly.
Here are what netizens think
One of the netizens propose undervalued jewellery of brand but physically it does not hold much value in the market
“Just get her a promise ring from pandora. Go tgt. Then u know the size alr. And she will keep wearing it, then you’ll know if the size change or not lo“
So fast chope for marriage. Later if both not suitable how? Cry. Man man lai, take ur time to get to know first.
When you ready to propose, pretend tell her check the nut size using her finger.You may be lucky if she like the nut instead and save you money for bto…Don’t scare all the girls first time dating already talk marriage.
My boyfriend is like the most annoying creature on earth but I still love him, we were bored the other day and we watched Bruno (This funny show).
There was this scene in the movie the actor starts dancing and shaking his hotdog and it even talks. Well, after the movie he has been annoying me non-stop by dangling his one at me.
There was once I was working from home on my computer and he suddenly came to me and start dangling it while I was doing a skype call with my boss. I started laughing and my boss got annoyed.
Another time he got too close and literally d slap me with it that kinds of piss me off but I kind of like it. LOL
But the problem is he is doing too much of it and sometimes even intentionally slapping me in the face with it. Although sometimes Im angry, I just laugh it off.
I think he just likes the attention that he gets when he is shaking his hotdog around. He has always been a bit of an attention seeker, so I guess this is just his way of getting it. I don’t know why he has to be so annoying about it though. He knows I don’t like it when he does this and yet he still does it.
It’s nice to see him having fun and enjoying himself, but I wish he would find another way to do it that doesn’t involve so much embarrassment for me. Maybe he could start dancing or something, that would be a bit less annoying.
But I don’t know deep down i like it a bit but I don’t like it as well. Is there something wrong with me?
Salary is the most fundamental requirement of any job. It is the principal consideration for an individual in the course of making a career choice. As a rule of thumb, the salary you are getting at the time of changing your job should be at least 30% higher than your current one. This will make you eligible for an increment. You can also use this 30% factor when negotiating your salary in a new job.
But sometimes the salary is not everything.
Some bosses might not be so good and here are a few stories.
A user posted on Reddit and question if salary is important
I feel like it’s time to move on from my current job, but I do not know how to tell my boss. He’s a good boss, doesn’t micromanage, doesn’t shout or scold. The initial job scope has changed but the salary hasn’t. I highly doubt the salary would increase but I have not asked for an increment yet. I don’t know how to ask lol.
Currently, I’ve been offered a job with about a 35% increase in salary. I want to leave but I feel bad about it because my boss has been great.
How would you go about it?
I just spoke to my boss, he said he can’t match the increment and the best he could do is an additional bonus at the end of every year. But he did say at the end of the day I have to think for myself and decide what’s best for me. He has no issues with me leaving.
So that’s good I guess? I told him I will give him an answer by Chinese New Year, he said he is okay with waiting. I offered to complete all current projects for him first before tendering my resignation. Which should be around March when all will be done. Thank you everyone for the encouragement!!
A netizen shared a story about how a fortune teller told him that he would “tio 4D” but the only “D” that he “tio” was an “STD”.
Here is the story:
“I saw a fortune teller who charged me $10 to tell my fortunes.
I have always been a believer in these kind of things and i thought to myself, since its only $10, it can’t be a scam right?
I can’t remember what he said but he mentioned that I was very “wang”, which means lucky in chinese.
He added that I would have an unexpected windfall coming my way very soon, and he advised me to do more good deeds.
Well now that he told me, it’s not longer unexpected is it?
I had my hopes up and every Wednesdays and the weekends, I would religiously buy more than $50 worth of 4D.
It has been over 3 months since that meeting with the fortune teller, and the only money that I won was a iBet consolation prize, i won $30 from a $10 bet.
And maybe the fortune teller got it wrong when he said I would “tio” something because last month i went for a health checkup and found out that I had herpes, an STD.
Tio 4D don’t have la, the only thing that I tio is STD la knn.
My life is ruined.”
Editor’s note: Although there isn’t any cure for herpes, there are anti viral medications that can help prevent outbreaks bro. This one really suay sia lol
A netizen shared how his parents gave birth to him for their own benefit when they become old, and that they see him as a money bag.
Here is the story:
“It’s honestly so exhausting to live in a family with parents who chose to have children for the sole purpose of their own benefit in old life.
Growing up, my parents barely provided me with any guidance. All they pushed me to do was to study hard, get good grades and be able to finish a university education.
Yet, throughout my school life, they have never helped me to achieve what they wanted for me. Being able to graduate with a degree was all because of my own hard work (I guess the only thing they did was pay for my education but then again they saw it as an investment for their old age)
They never even provided me with a home that was conducive for studying since they would be quarrelling all the time over every small thing. I remember as a child, their fights got so bad that it left a trauma for the longest time.
And the moment I graduated, I was rushed to get a full time job. Once I started my job, all eyes were on my money. I was expected to not only contribute to household expenses but also pay for what my younger sibling wants to get/eat.
When I got a promotion and a big raise, I 100% regretted telling my parents about it. Their eyes lit up as if they just won the lottery. Immediately after, they started listing their expectations from me with the new salary I got.
YES, you may have paid for my necessities until I became independent but isn’t that what being a parent entails? They always make it seem like I owe them. I was the one who worked hard at this job to get a promotion.
When I confronted them about it, their words left me speechless. They said the sole reason they chose to have so many children was so that they would have someone to help them with everything and provide them with lots of money for retirement.
They have no planning done for their retirement and want to depend on my siblings and I. What kind of parents don’t care that their children have their own future family / dreams to pay for? Why choose to be a parent if you did it for all the wrong reasons?”
Editor’s note: Whether it is for their own benefit or not, they did give you life and raise you up – be appreciative and show a little respect.
A guy shared a story on how he once walked into a room which he shared with his roommate during University days and then saw him giving himself some ‘self love’.
He mentions that he saw his roommate bare from the waist down and feels that he can never see the roommate in the same way again.
Here is the story
“I used to live in a student dormitory back in my studying days.
I was a frequent basketballer and will often play with some of my hall mates who are also quite avid basketballers.
One day, I just finished up some gaming and it was around 11pm, and I was like crap I haven’t had my protein shake, I grab my phone and ran up in just my shorts as all my roommates were out, and make my shake.
As I was making my shake, I heard noises coming from my roommate’s room.
He had told me that he would be out and will not be coming back tonight and hence I decided to check his room out in case someone had came in without any authorisation.
I enter his room, turn the light on and walk over to his bed only to see him in his birthday suit on his bed ‘self loving’ with his headphones on.
He pulls the covers over him, and I’m saying sorry a million times and I ran back out of the room and as I was running out of the room, I could still picture the shock on his face when he saw me come into his room and walked over to his bed.
I don’t think that I can ever talk to him again without remembering the look on his face.
This would definitely stay with me for the longest time.”
Transcript of the Q&A segment at the press conference on the resignations of Speaker of Parliament Tan Chuan-Jin and Member of Parliament Cheng Li Hui on 17 July 2023 at the Istana.
The Straits Times: Some are wondering, were it not for the hot mic incident, would this have come to light, this soon?
PM Lee Hsien Loong: It would have come to light probably sooner rather than later because it had reached that point. Because in February I had spoken to Mr Tan and I accepted his resignation, I said sort out the succession arrangements in Marine Parade first. And we have been in the process of doing that, so for a start we have put Mr Edwin Tong and Mr Tan See Leng as the anchor ministers in Marine Parade and the process was in progress. Furthermore, as I said just now, very recently, I got new information that the relationship was continuing, and after our conversation in February, that was completely unacceptable. So he had to go. In fact both had to go, but it so happened that the hot mic incident came up and therefore, it precipitated this moment, but it will happen sooner rather than later, anyway.
Lianhe Zaobao: PM, you have explained the case regarding the inappropriate relationship between Mr Tan Chuan-Jin and Cheng Li Hui, but there are also other rumours going around. And Singaporeans in general have a very high standard for our politicians, our MPs. So as PM, as Sec-Gen of PAP, what is your position on this matter?
PM Lee: There are all sorts of rumours which speculate especially online. We can’t police MPs’ private lives, but if the rumours seem to be credible, we will investigate them and if they’re verified, then we will speak to the MPs concerned to correct the situation.
If the behaviour is not outrageous or scandalous to begin with and the MP heeds the advice, corrects it, makes amends, puts a stop to what should not happen, then we will not punish them severely and automatically kick them out, or immediately kick them out. Because what do you do and what consequences the person should face also depends on the positions they hold and other factors, the circumstances, the family situations, how inappropriate or egregious the behaviour was.
It’s essential that we do maintain high standards of propriety, honesty and proper conduct. There is such a thing as appropriate or inappropriate behaviour, propriety and impropriety. And we expect our MPs and certainly ministers to know the difference.
But in dealing with these situations, which are human situations, you also have to be cognizant of human frailties and conscious of the impact that our actions will have on innocent parties, on families, on spouses, on their children and deal with them as sensitively as you can, but upholding our fundamental requirement to maintain our responsibilities and our trust with Singaporeans.
As for what the opposition parties should do if the rumours concern their members, you have to ask them.
CNA: I just wanted to ask a few questions around timing, you mentioned that you had this conversation with Mr Tan in February. It’s not clear to me how long this relationship had been going on when you had the conversation with them. Second, the timing when you dealt with the Michael Palmer incident suggests quite a different timeline, far more quick and abrupt. And third on timing, now that you have four vacant seats in Parliament, does that affect the way you think about when you are going to call the next General Elections.
PM Lee: Well, I spoke to Tan Chuan-Jin and Cheng Li Hui most recently in February. I learnt of this sometime after the last General Election in 2020, I do not know when it began, but they were spoken to, counselled. Unfortunately, the matter didn’t close and so it came to the hard conversation we had in February this year. As for comparison with Michael Palmer, I think it depends on the situation of the case, as I said you’ve got to look at the circumstances, spouses and the families’ conditions, at how you can manage this as sensitively as you can and yet do your duty and it depends on the person’s response as well as the specifics, so I don’t think it’s possible to make direct comparisons. As for the General Election, I have no plan to call an immediate General Election. General Election is due by 2025, we are in the second half of the present government’s term, we just opened Parliament recently. We have a full agenda for this term, we’re working at it and that’s what we will focus on. And in the GRCs where there is a member missing, the other members of the GRC will step up and will make sure that the constituents are well looked after, that’s one of the advantages of having a GRC.
Channel 8 News: The relationship is between a Speaker and an MP, so was there any abuse of power or any conflict of interest?
PM Lee: I think it is simply inappropriate to have the Speaker having a relationship with one of the MPs. That is all. It is not appropriate; it is not acceptable. And that is why I spoke to the two of them, and that is why Tan Chuan-Jin, knowing this, offered his resignation, which I accepted.
Berita Harian: PM, there have been some incidents involving PAP MPs recently over the past few months. This has led to some perception among the public that there is a slip in PAP standards. What do you have to say to this?
PM Lee: I think from time to time, these things happen. When they happen, we have to make sure we deal with them and deal with them rigorously as well as transparently, and everybody can see that we are doing that. And in that process, I think everybody should draw the right conclusions and do the right things, whether they are in the government, whether they are in the Party or the public watching how we are dealing with it. No system can be completely infallible. You appoint people, sometimes things go wrong, you have to find out and you have to put it right. You have to find out yourself whether or not somebody tells you something is wrong and put it right.
I think we have had a series of high-profile issues recently. I think in the Ridout case, the matter came up on the Internet. The Ministers went through a rigorous, full CPIB investigation, as well as investigation by SM Teo Chee Hean, and the results and the reports were presented fully in Parliament. And even the Leader of the Opposition, Mr Pritam Singh, said nobody’s alleging corruption or wrongdoing. So, I think it is an example not of the PAP’s slipping standards but of how we deal with allegations against PAP MPs. In Mr Iswaran’s case, the matter came up not from any external report, but because CPIB came across the issue while doing another investigation, and they told me, I said, take it up. After a few months it came back to me, they said, there is something to this, we want to open a formal investigation. I studied the paper, I said, yes, proceed, and that is what they have done, and it will go through to its full conclusion. In the case of Tan Chuan-Jin and Cheng Li Hui, they did not live up to the standards which were expected. We tried to get them to mend their ways, it did not work, and they had to go.
That is how the system has to function. Sometimes things cluster up, but we make sure we put them right, and I hope I put them right and we will be able to set the right tone for a long time to come. Because we are not just maintaining high standards for one election term or one generation of leaders. You have to make sure that you can maintain this, sustain this, feel that sense of mission and responsibility, and be able to transmit that beyond your term into the next generation, and imbue the next generation of people who come forward to serve as well as people who grow up as mature Singapore citizens and voters to understand that this is how our system works, and this is how it has to work in order for Singapore to succeed.
One of the last, almost, public speeches which Mr Lee Kuan Yew made was when he had his 90th birthday and we gave him a party in Parliament. I mentioned this when I spoke at his memorial service. He was very frail, he was in hospital, he came, and we were all gathered and there was a birthday cake, and he said only two or three sentences. “Remember, never let the system go corrupt. Never, never let that happen. Uphold standards, make sure that Singapore can work.” That is the key thing, and I am quite determined to do that and I am quite sure the 4G leaders are determined to do that too.
TODAY: I just wanted to clarify something that you just said. So, you mentioned that you knew about it after the GE in 2020, why was it allowed to go on? Can you share more about the circumstances? And at each point, did Mr Tan come forward himself or did the party have to learn about some of these things?
PM Lee: We spoke to him and to Ms Cheng during that period, from the time when we first learned about it until February this year. We hoped that they would put things right, but unfortunately, they did not.
My husband and I both work full time and it feels like we just can’t catch up and are living paycheck to paycheck.
There’s a new financial problem every month. Doctors appointments, house problems, you name it. We just can’t keep up and keep getting bills upon bills that we cannot afford.
We don’t live outside our means (seriously; we never buy ourselves anything that’s not an essential and we don’t go on any fun vacations) but we still cannot save any money at all.
We’re in our mid twenties and both feel like failures that we can’t settle down and buy a house together much less even have $1,000 in our savings.
I’m so stressed out everyday. I’m contemplating getting a second job but i already don’t have time to do housework, so all chores will be impossible if I get another job.
My husband already works 50 hours a week and I work 40. We should not be struggling so bad right now yet we are.
Anyways, I just wanted to rant… does anyone else feel this way?
Netizens’ comments
Don’t feel bad about not being able to afford a house in your mid twenties. My partner is almost 40 and I’m in my mid 30s, and we can’t afford a house. You certainly aren’t failures.
You are definitely not alone. Many people are struggling. This economy is not geared for much of the middle class anymore. Instead, it’s a brutal playground for the affluent and wealthy.
That’s just the way it is anymore. I’ll be 33 this year with absolutely no home buying in sight. My retirement plan is kicking the bucket LOL.
It’s like this on purpose. Corporations and businesses are lying about inflation being the cause of price increases. They’re just squeezing the working class of every time because they can get away with it, for now at least.
My Girlfriend (F22) broke the news to me (M22) that she hasn’t come once in our 4+ year long relationship Me and my girlfriend had been having regular intercourse (especially in the first 2 years of our relationship) extremely frequently, at one point 3 times a day for a long time as we lived together in a unit shared with a friend of hers.
I started to worry she was faking in bed as I was still in experienced and very insecure. It eventually came up when we were both drunk and I broke down about it and confessed to her that I was worried she was pretending to come in bed with me.
She admit that she was but reassured me that we could work through it and I could learn her body and what made her come (at this time we had been dating for less then 6 months).
We continued having regular intercourse and I put extra time and effort into foreplay, often longer then 20-30 minutes in an attempt to make sure she finished before I did.
I watched all the videos you can find and tried studying the sounds she made and the ways she reacted to things that I did.
Eventually I was convinced I was making her come everytime and she reassured me that I was, even bragging I made her finish multiple times on regular occasions.
Years have gone by and I maintained the aura of confidence that she was completely satisfied and that I was an incredible lover, until things begun to slow down in the bedroom.
We eventually were living separately and were not seeing each other as frequently because of work and university and we only F once a week, then twice a month until we barely ever F with each other.
I chalked it to not having a comfortable place to do it regularly and counted on us moving out again as being a solution.
Eventually we did and it was more frequent but she seemed hesitant and still only entertained it a couple times a week if I initiated, and ONLY if I initiated.
She blamed the drop in her libido to the medication she is taking for her mental conditions.
And then it came up, eventually she admit around a year later that she had never finished once in our relationship but reassured me that she still enjoyed sleeping with me and enjoyed pleasing me (which she is incredible at).
I feel so ashamed and pathetic, for a while i felt that our intimacy was a chore for her to keep me happy and this all but confirmed it in my head.
I feel betrayed even though I know she did it to preserve my feelings. I put myself in her head and can understand why it was so hard to tell me after everything we had been through.
According to her, she has a very particular way she pleasures herself and nothing else works. Apparently this is common? I dont know what to do.
We have f-ed since but I cant even stay hard and attempt it. I feel like a less of a man and I am beginning to rethink alot of the happy memories we’ve had, especially our most intimate moments which I have treasured.
Deep down im extremely angry at her but I know that my own insecurity and ego are taking over and I still love her more then anything and as much as I want to blame her, it always comes back to feeling ashamed and belittled.
You could describe the way she gets off as humping using her hand and apparently there are positions that can help her come, but does that mean I’ll never have a hand in foreplay to get her to climax?
She also says she sometimes watches videos of other women self pleasuring, and listening to the moans gets her off. That really hurts the most as I feel that she isnt truly attracted to me and is potentially fantasising about other people when she gets herself off in private after I fail to.
After 4 years of very regularly making love and me spending so much time on foreplay and having her walk me through what to do how can i of not possibly made her come once?
That is the answer I keep coming to but I don’t want it to be true. Any advice or similar stories would help.
A netizen shared a story about how he was previously convicted of a criminal offence for which he served a one-year prison sentence.
He said that ever since he got released from prison about 2 to 3 years ago, he has been struggling to find a job despite having turned over a new leaf.
He revealed that his real estate agent license was revoked following his prison sentence, and that he has also been barred from picking up jobs such as driving taxis or private hire vehicles (PHVs).
He lamented how his honesty about his convictions during job interviews has come back and haunted him, leaving him unemployed for years as he depended on his savings to get by.
On his situation, the netizen shared that his savings have been fully exhausted and used up and that he is facing the possibility of begging in the streets for food, leaving him feeling helpless and unsure of what he can do now.
Here is what he said
I was convicted in court for minor offenses, for which I served a one-year prison sentence. As humans, we are all prone to making mistakes, and I am genuinely remorseful for my act of theft.
However, since my release 2-3 years ago, I have faced significant repercussions. Not only was my real estate agent license revoked, a decision understandable considering the industry’s sensitivity, but I have also been barred from pursuing alternative employment opportunities such as driving taxis or private hire vehicles (PHVs). Regrettably, my honesty during job interviews about my past conviction has left me unemployed for the past few years.
With my savings exhausted, I am now facing the possibility of resorting to begging for food, which is unfortunately illegal in Singapore. I feel utterly helpless and uncertain about what steps to take. I am at a loss for viable options and seeking guidance in this dire situation.
