My wedding is in two months, but I think I’m done.

Fiancé has been weird lately. Planned to get into the shower with me tonight, didn’t because I was “too fast”. I was in there for 15 minutes. When he got into the shower, I had to come back into the bathroom to get moisturizer. Usually he turns on a podcast and jumps right in, but this time he was standing in front of the mirror with his phone.

Things haven’t been perfect, lots of wedding planning stress and garbage, but we were (I thought) both extremely excited to tie the knot after ten years together. We have a decent life, great connection, and genuine love for each other, or so I thought.

Got curious. Found out he’s been snap chatting his female co worker because she snapped him at 2am tonight. His Snapchat notifications specifically are turned off completely. He has zero text messages from her. The Snapchat message said “Aw, okie. Sweet dreams 💜 thanks for talking to me. Got another win!” (Talking about video games).

I’ve omitted the cutesy pet name she called him because it makes me physically sick. I screenshotted the message, and she replies lightning quick: “you still up Mr?”

I reply and play it cool and pretend I’m him. Nothing super juicy, but lots of lols and some hearts… she’s playing video games and wants ice cream, but has to go get some… He sees this woman all day at work. But apparently it’s common for them to talk in the middle of the night.

Also found a deleted naughty photo of himself in his recently deleted that I certainly didn’t receive, who knows where that ended up. I don’t think he has the balls to send that to anyone, but who knows.

Haven’t slept. Have thrown up several times. Terrified that even if i address this with him, he will just be better at covering his tracks next time. I have given him ten years of my life. I’m 25. Thank god we don’t have children. Just a house, two dogs, and ten years worth of memories…what I thought were good times. I thought he wanted to marry me. The wedding is supposed to happen in two months on our ten year anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I am wrecked.

Ordered Grab food, The delivery guy delivery mode is walking, but it started raining. He told me there will be a delay so i told him there is a shortcut if he takes the underpass from the mrt and there is a sheltered walkway.

He ignores my message and decides to sit at the restaurant for 10 minutes. I repeated my message again, he doesn’t respond and cancelled my order. Which means he probably ate my food.

I don’t understand, am i in the wrong? By taking the sheltered shortcut he would would be able to complete my order quicker and be able to complete more orders when the day ends.

I guess he dosent like to be bossed around thats why he chose to do grabfood, don’t know if he will progress much in the future.

Here are what netizens think:

• This is the stupidest complaint I’ve heard. There may be other reasons why your order was cancelled. Since you know the bloody shortcut then you go walk and buy the food yourself. If you can’t even do that, ur the bigger failure in life!

• I’m not sure why people seem to bash the poster.I think the issue is that the delivery guy did not update the customer that he will be cancelling, or is unable to deliver the food. He simply cancelled it.That’s not right. If there is a genuine reason to cancel, inform the customer. Then cancel.Nothing wrong with cancellation; it’s how it’s done.

• Delivery man late I ask no hurry safety first I can waiting and give him a drinking water this is what we care than they were bliss you

• So funny bcos those who order food delivery always assume food will come on time or ASAP. Why? Cos u paid $1 more for delivery? Get a life!

• You assumed that he probably ate your food. He’s at the restaurant. He probably gave the food back. It’s his safety, even if you give him shortcut. He can choose to proceed to deliver with your shortcut. If he doesn’t choose to, it’s his choice.You assume too much. Guess here guess there. You got trust issues is it

• By seeing what you wrote showed that you have no sympathy to others and i guess your brain is also very short cut and no future! If really as you assume the delivery personnel cancel your food and eat, take it as a gesture of kindness, giving him a free meal during raining days. Or even give him more time to deliver and ask them to be safe or ride/ walk safe.

I’m having some problems with intimacy in my marriage. 

We’ve been married for 6 years and they’ve been some of the happiest years of my life. My wife had 3 children before we got together and we have a child together. All I’ve ever wanted was a family and I’ve been so lucky to have been blessed with that.

But we had a break up 3 years ago due to me not listening to her enough and getting in arguments, but we got back together. 

We’ve always been very affectionate towards each other since the start of our relationship, but lately we’ve been less so. I’m a massive worrier and have found myself under a lot of pressure and stress lately due to work and money. We hardly have any time together on our own as it’s a busy household, but we make time to go on date nights/days. 

A few weeks ago my wife said that we need to work on our relationship and be more intimate which I agreed with. A few days ago, she suggested that we have more S and whilst I wanted to, our son was still awake at the time. After we put him to bed, I was very tired as I have not been sleeping well for the last few weeks due to stress and anxiety. She then got upset and slept downstairs on the sofa. In the morning she said that she’s no longer attracted to me, doesn’t want to have S with me anymore.

After our last break up and how much it upset our children, she said that she wanted an open relationship as she needs to intimate with someone. I suggested talking about it which she said she doesn’t want to do as her points still stand. 

I’m really upset and struggling today to understand why she doesn’t want to talk about it to see if we can work on the intimacy side of our marriage. I don’t see how an open relationship is going to work out for us as we have never been unfaithful to each other. 

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. 

Boyfriend asked what I bring to the table

I(28F) and my boyfriend (31M) have a 2 years old relationship. Whenever there is a fight my boyfriend says the same things like I don’t have any single quality and i don’t bring anything to the table.

At first I used to get offended but now it’s been said so many times that I have started to believe him. Also I have never been able to answer that question and could never identify any significant quality.

Only qualities i could think of in the past were that am a great listener, I’m kind , honest and loyal and I go to the gym but non of them were significant to him.

I supported him through his alcohol addiction these 2 years but that means nothing to him. He keeps asking me the same question and now I have no answer to it .

Netizens’ comments

1. So why’s he still with you if you bring nothing to the table? Seems like he’s just trying to belittle you to garner more control/make you feel like you need him.
2. He’s trying to break down your sense of self worth so you’ll put up with any type of treatment from him. Not good news. Someone who loves you won’t ask you to justify your existence like this.
3. This doesn’t sound like a good trajectory. Your partner should be uplifting and helping you see the best in yourself, not obscuring and devaluing what is good.
4. “What do you bring to the table?” is not a question you ask somebody you love. This man does not love you.
5. Ask yourself the same question about him. People that are insecure about themselves attack others.
6. He’s saying that to lower your self esteem to the point where you think nothing good would come out of leaving. DONT listen to that.

I’m dating my ex’s mom

My (23) ex girlfriend (22) and I dated for 3 years before I caught her cheating with a mutual friend at a hotel when she claimed she was working late around a year ago.

I work as a waiter and during dinner around a month ago, her mom (46 I think) came in with a group of 3 (ex wasn’t present, it was her and 2 of her colleagues) and we instantly recognized each other.

We had a very good relationship and she was heartbroken for me when she learned what happened between me and ex.

I served them their meal and she left her phone number along saying that if I need someone to talk to, give her a call.

I did call her later that night just to check in on how she and her dogs Minnie and Penny are (they’re both Schnauzers and I got close with them.)

We chatted for hours on the phone, catching up, when she asked me if I wanted to grab lunch later that week. I said sure and we hung up.

That lunch date turned into a movie date later on which ended up hooking up at her house and we’ve been dating ever since.

Ex knows and absolutely hates it, but her mom doesn’t care as their relationship went into the gutter when ex cheated on me.

I originally wanted this to stay casual but I think I’m catching feelings for her. One thing I know for sure is that her dogs sure missed my attention and I missed them dearly too.

She’s divorced, her husband was a cheater as well so like father like daughter

She’s a big nerd like I am, her favorite series of all time is Lord of the Rings, which is what we watched the other night.

She sent me a text not even 30 minutes ago saying she felt something between us and wanted to explore it further. I am on cloud 9 right now.

For those asking why am I doing this for revenge, I’m not. This has never been about revenge, that ship has sailed long ago. I don’t even despise ex anymore.

Contacted for an interview for a job. Halfway through the interview I was told it was a different (lower) position.
I was contacted on LinkedIn and asked if I would like to come in and interview for a manager position with a local ‘growing’ company. I said sure and sent over my requested resume.

I got to the site and the interview was going well. I should note that one of the higher ups was running late, so they started without her. All the questions were manager type questions as well as my background etc.

The interview at this point was basically 2 other managers asking questions back and forth. Then a 3rd person comes in and asks “why do I want to work customer service here?”

I was confused and said I was here for the manager position, and he scoffs and I was told there was no such opening. I say I wouldn’t be here for that position.

We agree to wait for the director, and I’m asked a few more background questions. I think maybe this is a simple mistake.

At this point the Director lady comes in apologizes because she misplaced her keys.

The 3rd person says “there is no manager opening, I don’t know how this happened, let’s continue…” the director just nods and sits quietly.

After the confusion wore off, I started to get angry. I took an afternoon off work, and this is a waste of time.

I took out my phone and went to the linked in email and showed the director, their HR – recruiter email. She looked at the email and says “yeah that’s what it says.” Then just blankly looks at me.

There was about 20-30 seconds of Awkward silence. I just say “but you are interviewing me for an different … entry level job not the one you contacted me to come in for? “ And one of the managers goes… “Yes you will be a good fit.”

I just stood up grabbed my note book and left.

My parents retired on next to nothing with no savings and have repeatedly all but insisted on moving in with me. Help!

I’m 39, have struggled to get out of poverty and deal with ongoing health and mental health issues. I’m finally in a pretty ok place, financially I can start to pay down debt.

I own my house, and will have my car paid off soon ish. Healthwise I spent money to work on myself in therapy and building an exercise plan to overcome some injuries and get to a better fitness level to reduce the impact of ongoing health issues. All while working full or more than full time (plus some volunteering).

I want to start dating again, I feel like I’m in a mostly solid place mentally and emotionally for the first time and would love to find someone to share life with and start building together.

I’m almost forty, so I’m late to that game. I’m sure many of you know how what that’s like. But I feel like I deserve a loving relationship, or at least the time and space to try. And if I ever want kids, that window is starting to close (even for a man, 40-50 is pushing it).

My dad was forced into retirement by covid. My mother hasn’t worked enough. They have living arrangements at $0 and they pay utilities.

They currently ask me and my sister for money for necessities in the hundreds of dollars monthly, and a few big expenses a year around $1000, every few years there’s a $3000ish emergency.

I expect more of this as aging related health issues accelerate. They both have health issues now that would make working difficult and likely impossible, plus they are older and mentally inflexible.

Learning any new skill is really out of the question. My dad may have very early indications of alzheimers, or is likely to.

My mom has mental health issues of her own, which are almost completely untreated. She’s part of the “therapy is witchcraft” brainwashed generation.

I know I would struggle to deal with her irrationality, mood swings, and relentless negativity if she were to live with me. Plus I work from home and really don’t have space, despite having a spare bedroom.

I want to help them, but I feel I can’t have any hope of a current or future life if I let them move in. I need to leave space for a potential relationship. I also need to keep working on myself (including health, with ongoing health issues it’s basically a part time job.

I can see ghosts and want to unsee them real bad.

Hello. I 22F am seeing ghosts from my childhood but always ignored them thinking they were real people and everyone can see them until I was 20.

Before 20 I stopped seeing them as maybe i forgot I could see them. At 20 years I had a real bad phase and battled with mental issues for a bit , I used to be home alone as my parents are working people.

I used to constantly see shadows moving and condense spots at home but used to ignore. I also discussed it with my astrologer and he then confirmed my birth chart had certain combinations that triggered these phenomena.

After that I invited a healer/ psychologist for a home visit and she also confirmed that my house had more than 4 spirits and was pn low energy field .

Since then I took these incidents a little serious but mostly ignored as they don’t harm me but they try to mess with my thoughts and keep them on lower spectrum.

It bothers me a little. I don’t know what to do as I’m a little scared and tired of these happenings.

Anyone’s wondering what I see – 1. An old man w/ suit outside my door in balcony. 2. A middle aged lady standing in corner, ocassionly roaming around house.

Netizens’ comments

1. I understand. I grew up the same, always seeing them, but also so did my parents and my maternal grandmother so I had validation. Don’t talk to them using your voice or in words with your mind, but pull up feels and images of what you’d want to say to them and send them mentally. They’re probably stuck and need some direction, that’s it.
2. Rather than see an astrologer (what even is that really lol) maybe seek help from a medical professional? There may possibly be some underlying issue.
3. I’ve seen ghost. Had 2 staring at me one night i woke up. Frozen n fear. I no longer sleep n my bed. These were deceased customers of mine that were scared to move on. Ive had weird stuff happen at work. My lights would flicker. One day the radio turned up all the way i couldnt turn it down or off. I seen the kitty’s ghost that i would feed daily after it tragically got killed in the road. Broke my heart. I would see him lookin in the door.