Help! In need of some advice from the guys.

I am a 28F and have matched with several guys on CMB which are 8-10 older than me. There is a trend I find in them, the frequency of them texting me/starting a convo/replying my text is really really slow. They can reply my text once/twice a day and sometimes just disappear for days and suddenly text me to ask me how I am doing and would like to meet up… Like what?!? I don’t understand…?!?

To all the guys, can you explain if this is normal? Like are they still interested or are they really so busy given that they are older and have more work priorities that they can’t even find a time to check their phone for a few seconds to reply or are they just trying to find someone to talk to when they are bored?

To me, as a female, I find that these convos start to get boring fast and they definitely have lost interest and I will start to lose interest fast too.

If that’s the case, why are they even on the app if they have other priorities that matters more… Really don’t understand how guys think…

Or… I just have bad judgement to match with these guys. Sigh!

Here are what netizen thinks:

• Tbh, I have met ladies (who were of similar age as you) who also text back once/twice a day and sometimes do not text back for days. It can be painful to realise that you are just one match among their many matches they might have. They could have other priorities like work and family matters to attend to. They can’t pause all around them and just focus on getting to know you. That is the sad reality.If you would like to find a partner and settle down within the next 1-3 years, you might want to sign up a package with Lunch Actually. I think do date coaching as well and can help you to find the right one. All the best!
• Everyone on the app is talking to a lot of different ppl .. so after a while all conversations are sorta patronising and mundane.. hardly anyone leaves a special impression anymore. And meetup is just cut to the chase to see if there’s any physical chemistry. It’s very normal these days, and all these older guy’s priority are not relationship at times. So just don’t take yourself so seriously too. Go out and meet ppl and have fun

My girlfriend’s inability to accept wrongdoing is making me lose feelings

My girlfriend [26] and I [27] have been together for almost a year. She’s a great girl – smart, good sense of humour and good looking. Everything was great in the beginning of the relationship until we started to have disagreements. I have a huge issue with the fact that, even when clearly she’s wrong or at fault, she never admits it. She always tries to defend herself with some excuse and sometimes shifts the blame to me somehow.

Whenever I pointed it out in the past, she always used to say “you always say that, it makes no sense! Why would i do that?” But a few weeks ago, I told her that we need to reevaluate our relationship because we are having more disagreements than normal conversations. At this point, she basically admitted that she likes to defend herself and she’ll do her best to listen to me more and try and be less defensive. A few days later, we have an argument where she is clearly, 100% wrong and won’t admit it. It was so disillusioning to see that nothing has changed despite me telling her what’s bothering me. It feels like I’m not heard in the discussion, all she’s trying to do is absolve her from any wrongdoing by giving the most preposterous reasons for her words/actions.

This is highly frustrating and I’m finding myself more annoyed and not wanting to see her because of this. It has come to a point where her quirks, which i used to find cute, are now an annoyance and cringey at times.

Am I exaggerating or should I end the relationship due to me feeling like there’s no spark anymore?

TL;DR: My girlfriend’s unwillingness to accept any blame for her actions is making me lose feelings for her

EDIT: When i say blame, i mean accountability. It was a poor choice of word on my par

I slept with my wife’s affair partner’s wife and I am divorcing her soon.

We got married almost 3 years ago. She started having an affair with her coworker 1 year ago. I got to know that because I had my suspicions. I hired a PI and gathered evidence that she was having an affair with him.

I was angry. Then I got a call from the coworker’s wife that she came to know about the affair. She only had texts they used to send but I have all the receipts of their hangouts.

Together we decided to confront them. We used to meet up a lot. She told me she had suspected his affair since her pregnancy. They have 3 children together. One day we had an idea that we should sleep with each other as revenge.

We did and not going to lie it felt good. We have been meeting and f-ing for a while. She is an amazing woman. I would say she is better at some things in bed than my wife.

Mostly, I am very angry towards my wife. Because in some of her texts with her affair partner she and AP (Affair Partner) made fun of AP’s wife.

Saying things like she has gained weight, her V was destroyed and other disgusting stuff. I cannot believe that she would say something like this while being a woman.

She even made fun of my fertility issues saying that I am not a man because the chances of me having kids is very low.

I do not feel bad about my affair. I like the life I had with AP’s wife way more than my wife. She hardly ever gives me oral but expects me to give her one.

At least AP’s wife was more enthusiastic about it and it was the best oral I ever had. AP’s wife wants to tell his husband. I guess we are both tired about carrying out the revenge affair.

We both got carried away. We were both so driven by the revenge that we got addicted to it. I will confront my wife soon. I already have the divorce papers ready.

Since we do not have a joint account or marital assets it will be easy for us. AP’s wife might have some problems because they have kids but she has the power to take him to cleaners. I know I sound like an awful person. But I am already checked out of my marriage.

I’m sure you’ve heard it before: “You can meditate your way to weight loss!” I thought to myself, “Okay, why not give it a try?” So, I started meditating regularly, thinking that it would help me lose weight. I was wrong.

The truth is, meditation can help you become more mindful of your eating habits, and it can help you become more aware of the choices you make with food. But it’s not a magic bullet that will make you skinny overnight. It takes time and effort to make sustainable changes to your lifestyle.

When I first started meditating, I was hopeful that I would see results quickly. I thought that if I just spent a few minutes meditating each day, I would be able to drop all the extra pounds I had been carrying around. I was wrong.

I kept up with my meditation routine for months, but I didn’t see any noticeable changes in my weight. I was still the same “dumpling” I had been before. I was disappointed, but I kept going, thinking that maybe it would take some time to see results.

But after a few more months, I started to give up. I realized that I was never going to be the slim person I wanted to be through meditation alone. I needed to make changes to my diet and exercise routine if I wanted to see real results.

So, I made a plan. I started eating healthier, cutting out processed foods and sugars, and adding more fruits and vegetables to my diet. I also started exercising more, doing a combination of cardio and strength training. At first, it was hard to stick to my plan, but eventually, I got into a routine that worked for me.

It took a few months of hard work and dedication, but eventually, I started to see results. I was able to lose some of the extra weight I had been carrying around. I was still not as slim as I wanted to be, but I was happy with the progress I had made.

Meditation certainly has its benefits, but it’s important to remember that it’s not a quick fix for weight loss. It takes time and effort to make sustainable changes to your lifestyle, and meditation can help you become more mindful of your choices. But if you want to see real results, you need to combine meditation with a healthy diet and exercise routine.

My girlfriend can only come when her legs are together. She needs to tense the hip adductor muscles on the inside of her thigh quite hard in order to come.

This means that she has never finished from intercourse with me (penetrative or oral) and I’m not really sure how to proceed.

When we F she has tried using a toy or playing with herself whilst I’m thrusting but when her legs are open she is hypersensitive and gets overstimulated. This is obviously a problem if I am to eat her out.

I think that she has trained herself to only be able to come in this way. She told me that since she’s been doing it this way (legs ram-rod straight and tense as a board) since she was a child and anything else just doesn’t bring her to finish.

She does enjoy sleeping with me a lot and after each time that we F, she’s screaming, her whole body is shaking and I can feel her contracting but I would really like to be able to help her finish.

We’ve tried many ways and positions but none seem to be working or comfortable enough.

Is there any way that she can train herself to finish with her legs more open or failing that, any specific positions to try where her legs are closed and she can be stimulated?

We’ve tried the prone bone position a few times but I guess it’s too awkward for her to rub herself when she’s lying on her stomach.

I bought an expensive toy that we’ll try the next time we sleep together which should hopefully remove this issue.

A final note: we are both each other’s firsts and so are just as inexperienced as the other. Any advice would be much appreciated. I am at my wits’ end.

I remember the night like it was yesterday. I was out with my friends, drinking and having a good time. We were carefree, living our best lives, and I guess I got a little carried away. By the time the night was over, I had had a few too many drinks and I was feeling the effects. I was completely inebriated, but I made the fateful decision to get behind the wheel of my car and drive home.

I was well aware of the risks I was taking, but I told myself I was fine to drive. I was confident that I could make it home without incident, and I was sure nothing bad would happen. I was sure I wouldn’t get caught for drink driving. After all, I had a secret weapon that would protect me from the law – a magical deity.

I had heard about this deity from a friend, and I was sure it was real. According to legend, the deity was an entity that could shield people from the law when they had done something wrong. I was sure that if I invoked the deity, it would protect me from getting caught for drink driving. So, that’s what I did.

As I drove home, I whispered a prayer to the deity, asking for protection. I was sure that my prayer would be answered and that I would make it home without consequence. I was so confident, in fact, that I didn’t even bother to drive carefully. I drove recklessly, weaving in and out of traffic and pushing the speed limit.

I made it home without incident, and I was relieved. I was sure that my prayer had been answered and that the deity had shielded me from the law. I was sure I was in the clear, and I was thrilled. I was sure I could get away with drink driving.

Boy, was I wrong.

I was pulled over by the police and arrested for drink driving. I was shocked and embarrassed, and I couldn’t believe it. I was sure I had been protected by the deity, and yet here I was, facing the consequences of my actions. I was sure I couldn’t get caught, but I had been wrong.

I’m about to be a 28 year old female virgin and I feel like a loser

I’m a 27 year old old female virgin. I’m turning 28 on July 15 and I feel like a failure romantically and in bed. I have never had a boyfriend before and I have never slept with anyone before.

There are several reasons for this. Mainly it was because I didn’t have the confidence to put myself out there for a long time.

I tended to focus on other things such as school and my career and didn’t date during college and grad school. I know that’s not a great excuse but I mainly wasn’t ready to date. Therefore, I feel so behind in life and I feel like a loser.

I recently started dating and going to more social events. I’ve been on a few dates with a few guys. I did date one guy for about a month and a half but he just told me that he wants to be friends and not pursue a romantic relationship.

I was pretty disappointed because I was hoping to lose my virginity to him. I want to F someone but I want to be with someone who cares about me and who I care about too. I DO NOT WANT TO ENGAGE IN CASUAL ENCOUNTERS SO PLEASE DO NOT TELL ME TO DO THAT!

Anyway, I appreciate any advice you can give me.

Netizens’ comments

1. Not a loser. Life is not a race.
   I think the advice you were given in the dating sub is probably a better location since you really want to date someone somewhat seriously and sleep with that person. That’s a reasonable goal.
   there are lots of people out there who will not be a good match for each other. The best thing you can do it just enjoy your hobbies, join groups that do similar things, and you’ll likely meet people with similar interests.
2. If you managed to find a guy you liked and date for a month and a half it means you’re going in the right direction. But it can take time to find the right person and it’s important to not feel too bad if it doesn’t work.