A netizen shared how she was set up on a blind date with her aunt’s colleague’s son, who was advertised as “super smart, funny and a high-flyer at a Big 4 firm”.
Here is her story:
“Really need to rant about my horror blind date, which was my aunt’s colleague’s son, advertised to me as “super smart”, “funny” and a “high-flyer at a Big 4 accounting firm”.
He turned out to be an insufferable elitist with a serious b–bs fetish.
Part 1: The Pure-Blood Rafflesian in the Valley of Gods
We met at Subway, and as there was a queue we started chatting. Apparently, he was also from RJC, and then –
Him: Were you IP?
Me: No, I was from a neighborhood sec sch.
Him: Aha! So you are a half-blood!
Me: What?
Him: You were not from RGS, so you are only a half-blood Rafflesian. I am pure-blood, I was from RI.
Me: (Nani tf?! Are we in Harry Potter??? But before I could respond – )
Him: Impressive cleavage by the way, really appreciate the effort. *creepy smile*
Me: Uh…thanks…
Him: You know, we guys call it the Valley of Gods, because from top-down or bottom-up, girls’ cleavages look like a valley, and because b–bs are made of men’s hopes and dreams, we name it Valley of Gods.
6 years of Raffles education, you say?
Part 2: 5,318,008 lettuce letters
At this point already texting 3 close friends to do the fake emergency call strategy, and then –
Waitress: Do you want any vegetables? Tomatoes? Lettuce?
Him: No I don’t want “leh-tuse”, I want “letters”.
*turns to me and grins*
Me: *expands my texting to non-close friends*
Him: (after we got our food) Have to say, you really have a magnificent pair.
Me: Ummm…okay?
Him: Do you have a favorite number?
Me: No, do you?
Him: Yes! 5,318,008 – because upside down on a calculator it spells B–BIES.
*deranged laughter*
If any of you has had a worse date experience please share so I can feel better and not have to seek counseling.”
Editor’s note:Who were you on a date with? A primary school kid? The guy has the maturity of a 10-year-old…
I’m 39f. My recently ex- husband is 38m. We were married for ten years before divorcing last year. I accused him of cheating on me, I didn’t believe when he told me he was working longer shifts at work since we still always seemed tight on cash, I thought he was cheating on me with a woman, Jen, 30f, since I saw she was on his recent calls quite a few times, both phone calls/video calls, and I saw her name pop up multiple times sending him texts throughout the week, but my husband doesn’t keep texts from anyone so I didn’t know what they were.
I confronted him about it and although I didn’t outright accuse him of cheating I was definitely angry about feeling like he was hiding something from me, and made that clear.
As it turned out, he was working extra hours and putting the money into a separate account to surprise me with a groundbreaking for an extension on our house on the ten year anniversary of us buying it. The conversations with the Jen were him coordinating with her watching the kids while both of us were working while the daycare was closed (when he picked up extra weekend shifts) and the phone calls/video calls were him checking on the kids. He was able to verify all of this with bank account records, emails to and from the builder, and screenshots of the messages between her and him from her end of the conversation. I apologized to him for not believing him, but at this point he said he couldn’t believe that I would ever think he was cheating on me. He said he felt incredibly hurt and said that he would never think something like that about me, and that he never would’ve assumed the worst about me. He asked for space so we first went to living in separate bedrooms, then after a bit he moved into the basement, the entire time he was acting strange and distant and like a stranger to me, only acting normal around the kids.
After a few weeks of that he officially asked for a divorce. I asked if we could do couples therapy first, and he said that there was no point since I didn’t trust him, but eventually he agreed, we went to one session and he admitted that him realizing I had no faith in him after he was working so hard for our family really hurt his self confidence and he didn’t think it was something he could repair while he was still with me, and he again asked for a divorce.
He bought me out of my half of the house, which I put towards a small house close by and our kids split their time between us.
I heard that he began dating Jen from my friend, who lives down the street from him. At first my ex insisted that she was still just helping with the kids, but after four months he admitted they were dating, once the extension was done she moved in and yesterday he asked her to marry him.
I’m happy for him but there’s still a part of me that feels shocked and somewhat resentful this all happened. I feel as though it was a happy surprise if he had told me about his plans for the extension none of this would have happened.
ETA someone asked if I knew she was watching my kids- no, I didn’t. I assumed they were at home with my husband while I was working.
My husband’s crossdressing is the bane of my existence
It makes me sick. All of this started right after we got married. And I do mean RIGHT after. On our honeymoon, he wanted to wear the lingerie I had brought for myself. Then, he shaved his beard and his entire body. He started wearing my clothes. He would only use razors, shaving cream, body lotion, etc that smelled super girly. I was not into this at all, but I wanted to be a good wife so I tried to indulge him. I bought him lots of lingerie and pretended I liked it. I did this to avoid a fight. Now he had started watching adult videos. Pretty soon he no longer wanted to sleep with me. It was always the strap-on or some other weird kinky stuff. We were always kinky before but it never involved crossdressing.
He started tucking and even going out in public in bimbo mode. Our intimacy was extremely emotionally exhausting for me but I did it anyway because I didn’t want a fight. I even brought in an old fling of mine to spend a weekend with us. My husband was dressed up the whole time. I feel sick even remembering this experience, but at the time I just did it on autopilot so my husband would be satisfied. Soon after this, he convinced me to buy him a $600 chastity device. This was sort of fun for me at first. But then he decided he wanted to get it resized. He got one that was about 3 sizes too small. It would take him 40+ mins to get it on because he really had to jam himself in there. It was painful to look at. I was afraid this would cause permanent damage and I begged him to stop. He wouldn’t listen. He wanted to shrink his manhood. This made me incredibly angry, but I bottled it up.
His crossdressing just kept escalating from there. We had an agreement that he would not do anything permanent, and that he had only one hall pass per year. The hall pass thing I had agreed to before we got married, because I already knew he also liked guys and I accepted it. There is one thing a man has that I don’t, so I agreed to let him get that elsewhere once per year. For almost the whole first year of marriage, he was a walking kink. I then found emails between him and a hormone replacement clinic. He was asking them about doing a consultation to go on estrogen. That was the straw that broke the camels back. We had a really long discussion about it, and I told him that if he does this I am gone. The next day he went backpacking to find himself. I was creating an exit plan while he was gone, fully expecting him to come home and tell me that this fetish is more important to him than I am. But actually, he came back a changed man. He wanted to be normal again!
That was almost a year ago, and things have been amazing since then. We’ve even adopted the traditional lifestyle, he works and I stay home. I take care of all the cooking and cleaning. We even do domestic discipline. Things have been so wonderful. It’s been almost a year since he stopped with all that. I’ve never been this happy. I found out we’re having a baby! We were over the moon! And then…
He tells me he wants to start cross dressing again. He said he’ll only do it for “Locktober”. I told him then you must mean next year, not this year because I will be newly postpartum by then and I can’t deal with that in such a vulnerable state, nevermind that I also won’t be feeling up for any intimacy either. He considers this, then says he’ll do it in June this year (I’ll be 6 months then). I try to put it out of my mind, since at this time it was only February. But I’m already thinking of places I can go for that whole month of June so that I don’t have to participate in this crap again. This fetish is absolutely repulsive to me and I don’t think that I can slap on a brave face and suffer through it. Maybe I can for a month, I did it for a year! But I’m thinking it would probably just be easier if I am away somewhere while he’s at home doing that.
We’ve been here before. Either I put on an Oscar worthy performance, and enthusiastically participate in whatever depraved kinky crap he wants to do, or he withholds all love and affection from me until I do. I feel like he’s slipping away and I’m losing him again to this disgusting, life ruining fetish. When he stopped cross dressing last year, I told him that I will not go back to home doing this full time. I can’t. His entire life revolved around this kink. He assured me that he was over it, and no longer found it appealing. That it was a phase. I believed him. And now we’re here. What can I do. Grin and bear it I guess? I feel trapped. I felt trapped before, but now I’m pregnant so I’m REALLY trapped.
An Indonesian teenager, now aged 19, recently pled guilty to a series of charges on 23 October, including assault and being a member of an unlawful assembly, according to The Straits Times.
The youth, whose identity remains concealed due to a legal gag order, was supposed to plead guilty in December 2022 for offenses, including committing mischief.
However, back in March, he fled and became involved in a violent knife attack at Rest Bugis Hotel.
A History of Offenses
The teenager’s legal troubles began back in November 2019 when he was convicted of several offenses, including dishonest misappropriation of property.
As a consequence, he was ordered to undergo reformative training, aimed at rehabilitating young offenders.
After completing the program, he was released but required to wear an electronic tagging (e-tagging) device to monitor his whereabouts.
However, in July 2021, instead of abiding by the law, he armed himself with a metal rod and, in engaged in a confrontation with a group of teenagers over a dispute involving vaporizer pods, at Toa Payoh at about 2pm in the afternoon.
Escalating Incidents
On the same night as the confrontation, the Indonesian teenager took a drastic step. He cut off the strap of his e-tagging device, effectively evading authorities’ surveillance.
This act led to his arrest on July 26, 2021. He was expected to plead guilty in court on December 14, 2022, but he jumped bail, resulting in a warrant for his arrest.
The situation escalated on the night of March 27, 2023, when an incident occurred at the Rest Bugis Hotel.
Norliana Hazuliana, a friend of the teenager, was involved in a dispute with a 20-year-old man, who insulted her and criticized her relationship due to her boyfriend’s incarceration.
This incident prompted Norliana to invite the Indonesian youth and another individual, Mohammad Ghufran Sinarfadhli, to the hotel room.
The Violent Confrontation
Despite not having a motorcycle license, the Indonesian teenager, armed with two serrated knives, rode a motorcycle to the hotel in the Kallang area, with Ghufran riding pillion.
Upon their arrival at Rest Bugis Hotel, they were taken to the room by Norliana, where they confronted a 19-year-old woman.
The Indonesian youth slashed the woman twice with a knife before Norliana intervened. The violence didn’t stop there, as they proceeded to attack the 20-year-old man before fleeing the scene.
The consequences of this violent encounter were severe, with the female victim sustaining two large wounds, and the male victim left with multiple slash wounds, including injuries to his head and arms.
He was later taken to the hospital and diagnosed with injuries that may result in permanent disabilities.
The Aftermath
Following the attack, the Indonesian teenager was spotted by police officers running away from the scene, eventually dropping a karambit knife. He was arrested after a half-hour chase, with Ghufran’s arrest following the next day.
The recent court hearing has called for a report to assess the Indonesian teenager’s suitability for another round of reformative training, with his case adjourned to November.
Well, the most delicious is often found at the cheapest places such as hawkers and coffee shops. But not all think so.
A man recently shared a story online about how he ended up with a girl that is breaking his bank. He describes the girl as a spoiled brat that judges everything at face value.
Here is the Story:
People tio ToTo tio 4D, I tio one girl that is draining my savings. She has no thoughts for the future. Everything is about her “perfect” Instagram profile.
I met my current girlfriend back in Poly and she was a thrifty person until she got a high paying job. Although her job is not considered that high it is not bad for someone her age. For context we are both 24.
She started playing Instagram and wants to build a profile to look like an influencer, but deep down I know that she is very vain and does not have many talents. In terms of looks, by far I give her 6.5 points. 6.5 points from a long shot or viewing her from far away.
The worse part she is so addicted to the attention of about 2,0000 followers she is constantly posting photos of herself at expensive places. She is sort of using me to pay for her extravagant meals so that she can appear to be “atas” on Instagram.
There was once I told her I was craving for some good old Hokkien Mee and guess what she said?
“We must eat at places where the dish is at least $50, so people will know. I am a high flying influencer”
The most lan pa thing is, that her salary is high for her age but not high enough to eat every meal at a $50/dish restaurant. At most I let her eat 8 meals a month at this kind of restaurant and shes broke.
But the thing is, she has been making me pay and says “If you love me then do it for me”.
I got together with her when we were not well off and even eating cup noodles was a happen moment for us.
She is beginning to lose everything that matters and the relationship is going downhill. She don’t feel it but I do.
I told her several times that we can eat normal things once in a while but she insist that every date needs to be at some atas place.
I’m not cheapo neither am I poor, just that in terms of thinking about the future this is something that affects the relationship.
But she rather spends her money on makeup and clothes rather than on savings, investment and insurance.
Some might say she is investing in her Instagram profile, but trust me she won’t go far unless she can afford plastic surgery. Since she has no savings, plastic surgery is out of the question.
Sometimes I really want to answer her “jiak sai” when she ask me where to go.
I’m thinking what is the best way for me to break the news to her. “It’s over”.
ERP 2.0 On-Board Unit Installation Starting in November with Fleet Vehicles
All other vehicles will be progressively scheduled for installation from 1Q2024
The Land Transport Authority (LTA) will begin installation of the new on-board unit (OBU) under the ERP 2.0 system in phases from next month, starting with fleet vehicles.
2. The new Global Navigation Satellite System (GNSS)-based system will replace the existing ERP system. The current system has been in operation for 25 years (since 1998) and is reaching the end of its operational lifespan. With that, the current in-vehicle unit (IU) will be replaced with the new OBU, which comprises three components – a processing unit, an antenna, and a touchscreen display. For motorcycles, these three components are integrated into a single-piece OBU. The OBU will be provided free of charge to all eligible Singapore-registered vehicles[1] during the installation period. See Annex A for more information on the OBU.
Installation to Commence in Phases
3. From 1 November 2023, fleet vehicles[2], for motorcycles and all other vehicles, will have the OBU installed progressively. Vehicle owners will receive a notification[3] from LTA when it is their turn, with instructions on how they can schedule an installation appointment.
4. All other vehicles will progressively have their OBU installed. From the first quarter of 2024, new vehicles will be fitted with the OBU. Remaining existing vehicles will be scheduled for installation in batches, based on the age of the vehicles. The OBU exercise is expected to be completed by end-2025.
5. Installation is free if it is completed within the two-month period stated in the notification. More details about the installation for individual vehicles will be announced early next year.
What Motorists Can Expect
6. The touchscreen display will provide motorists with ERP-related information (e.g., ERP charges and card balance), as well as road and traffic updates, such as the locations of Silver Zones, School Zones, speed cameras and bus lanes.
7. In the future when all vehicles have transitioned to ERP 2.0, the touchscreen display can support additional features such as real time traffic alerts (e.g., road or lane closures, accidents, or heavy traffic), payment of roadside parking and tolls at the checkpoints (Singapore-registered cars only).
8. Motorists are strongly encouraged to install all three OBU components to access the full range of features, such as paying for roadside parking. However, LTA has also considered public feedback to cater to motorists who wish to opt out of installing the touchscreen display. These motorists will be able to access key OBU information via compatible mobile applications[4] on their smartphones instead. In addition, LTA has released a software development kit (SDK) to allow software developers to develop handphone applications that integrate and display ERP 2.0 data, such as key charging and traffic information[5]. In releasing the SDK, we have put in place strict security safeguards such as ensuring that applications can only receive aforementioned key ERP information from the OBU in a one-way manner, but they will not be able to read other data or make any changes to the data.
No change to Current Charging Framework
9. The OBU is designed to work with existing systems, including ERP and parking gantries, and there will be no change to how motorists are currently charged for ERP during the transition period. While ERP 2.0 has the capability to support distance-based charging through its GNSS, LTA has no immediate plans to introduce distance-based charging. For more information on ERP 2.0, please visit https://go.gov.sg/erp2onemotoring.
What is the new OBU
Annex A: The OBU and Configuration in Vehicles
The single-piece OBU for motorcycles includes a processing unit and a small touchscreen for riders to toggle through different functions. It will be mounted on motorcycles’ handlebars.
OBU to be mounted on handlebars, similar to IU today
The three-piece OBU, which will be installed in all other vehicles, comprises an antenna, processing unit and touchscreen display. This design takes into consideration operational differences between motorcycles and other vehicles. For example, heat dissipation is a key factor as the ambient temperature in an enclosed vehicle is significantly higher and would not suit a one-piece design. The functions of the three components are as follows:
a. Antenna: Communicates with ERP and car park gantries and GNSS. b. Processing unit: Processes all payment-related transactions. c. Touchscreen display: Notifies motorists about ERP and payment info, and provides other info such as locations of nearby Silver Zones, bus lanes etc. It also allows drivers to control the volume of OBU alerts.
The antenna will be mounted on the windscreen in a way that does not obstruct the view of drivers or distract them, without compromising on its communication with the gantries and GNSS.
The processing unit will be mounted on the side of the front passenger footwell to manage all payment-related transactions. The feasibility of this position in different vehicles will be assessed at the workshop and alternate locations will be suggested if necessary.
OBU with all three pieces installed in their default positionsOBU without the touchscreen display installed
Just some context, I just got this job a few months ago and yesterday, my boss caught me coming out of a psychiatrist clinic…
It was in this place where there were many clinics so I’m not sure where she came from. We left at the same time and I took the bus while she drove a car.
Anyways… I was so shocked I just gave a “hi” and then ran off.
On hindsight I should have just ignored her and maybe denied everything but… well, whats done is done.
Problem is I didn’t declare that I had mental illness and to be fair, they didn’t ask. Idk how am I going to face her on Monday morning… so far she hasn’t asked me about it yet…
Netizens’ comments
Maybe your boss also goes to the same psychiatrist clinic.
She won’t ask you about it unless she’s also prepared to answer why she was also there herself. Just behave normally lah, there’s absolutely nothing to feel anxious about. The more you stigmatise seeking mental health treatment, the more it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
In a bizarre turn of events, a man found himself behind bars after attempting to deceive authorities following a minor car accident.
29-year-old Chai Wen Hin, was sentenced on 23 October to two days in jail after pleading guilty to giving false information to a public servant, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Scene of the Deception
The incident took place on May 11, 2021, along Park Crescent at around 1 pm. Chai, who was standing near his parked car, had an unexpected encounter with a 72-year-old man named Mr. Ho Jin Sam.
Mr. Ho purportedly reversed his vehicle into Chai’s parked car, causing a minor collision, and purportedly refused to give his contact information to the latter.
After the accident, Chai went to see a doctor, and here’s where the deception began. He claimed to the doctor that he was inside his stationary car during the collision, emphasizing that he had his seatbelt on and suffered neck pain as a result of the impact.
This false narrative would be the foundation for his later claims and actions.
False Statements to the Authorities
Chai’s deceit continued as he proceeded to the police station to file a report about the traffic accident, stating that he was merely waiting for a friend when Mr. Ho’s vehicle reversed into his car and hit his front bumper.
He claimed to have approached Mr. Ho, who professed ignorance about the collision, and was rejected when he asked for his contact details, only allowing him to photograph his license plate instead.
In his report to the General Insurance Association, Chai declared his intention to make an insurance claim against Mr. Ho, alleging a neck injury as a result of the accident. To support his claim, he asserted that his neck felt uncomfortable on the right side due to the impact.
The Unraveling of Deception
The truth finally began to emerge when the investigation took an unexpected turn. Closed-circuit television footage revealed that Chai was in fact outside his vehicle at the time of the accident, directly contradicting his earlier statements.
With this evidence in hand, the traffic police investigation officer confronted Chai, forcing him to retract his false report.
Is bullshit. I haven’t seen anyone actually date, sleep with or marry anyone meeting 25% of their lists of ‘ideal traits for a partner’. This goes for both men and women.
What men really want is a chiobu who doesn’t talk too much. You can win them over with cooking or personality over a very long period of time only if a chiobu doesn’t show up and wink at them in the entire period, but it’s going to be significantly more efficient to learn how to do makeup well rather than try to appeal with other traits. The other things they talk about for the most part don’t matter, it’s just to make them look less shallow than they are. At the end of the day it’s not the brain that decides for most men, it’s the antenna.
What women really want is a man who can talk to make her feel like the only person that matters in the world, lying out his teeth if necessary. You can win some over with a wallet, but then what they love is the wallet and not you. I know someone who married a woman who loved his wallet, and she was so stingy on spending on him she fed him expired food bought during bulk sales to save on ingredient costs, and he ended up with liver cancer. When their daughter threw out the expired food, she had an argument with the mother because the daughter actually cared about the father, whereas the mother only cared about the money.
Herein also lies one of the most commonly repeated failure stories. A man has low self esteem and believes a chiobu he likes will never like him. He ‘settles’ for someone he finds less pretty, and ends up dumped because the woman can tell she’s being seen as second rate. He would have a higher probability of success going for the chiobu he feels is out of his league, because he honestly believes the chiobu is the pinnacle of his world, and would talk in that way – and there is no guarantee there isn’t something about him that he doesn’t care about, but she does. This is not a high probability, but it is not zero. Thinking of a woman as someone you ‘settle’ for is a zero rate unless you lie more naturally than you breathe.
So for men, just cut the crap. Go for someone you’re actually attracted to. Fail. Try again. Fail. Try again. You eventually succeed, or find out nobody likes you. If the former, good for you. If the latter, be thankful you were born in the age of the internet. Don’t ever think of settling, because the woman you’d ‘settle’ for deserves to be treated better than an NTUC housebrand on Wednesday Merdeka card sales, and you’ll waste both your time and hers if you did that.
And for women, stop waiting for men to approach you. A lot of men who you might like second guess themselves and won’t make the first move. If you only want to date men with the balls to speak up, you may never end up with any date at all, and even if you do, he might be the kind of pickup artist trained to lie more naturally than he breathes for a quickie before he dumps you. The key is commitment, none of them will ever agree to marriage before bed.
We continue to lie to each other and ourselves about what we care about as a nation, we will drop below Japan’s birth rate in less than a decade, because while their men are equally absent balls, their women aren’t half as deluded about how to appeal to others as people here are.
Basically title. I’ve had three panic attacks in the pass month. Before that, the last time I’ve had one was when my mom died.
I’ve been sending out applications but it’s similar to screaming into the void. Other jobs would be too much of a pay cut.
We’re over worked, under staffed, and underpaid. Last week 3-4 people were out a day in our tiny department, but they wanted us to continue to help this second department get ahead on their workload while we’re struggling to stay afloat.
Just needed to rant. Thanks for coming to me Ted talk.
Netizens’ comments
Get out, it’s not worth your health.
Keep on applying! It takes a damn long time to get another job but it’s the persistence that pays off. And at your current job, keep in mind that it’s not your business. Do what you can at a pace you want to work at. If management says anything, tell them you are working at a reasonable pace and it’s the workload that’s way too high. Work isn’t something worth stressing about. I know it’s difficult because it’s a way to make money to live. But you need to find a balance between killing yourself for a job that doesn’t value you and setting boundaries respectfully.
I have 1400 applications out since June, almost 50 interviews. It’s a war. I’m going to look for work outside of the scope of my education. Keep looking. My biggest lesson learned is we are always nothing more than a number and never stop looking, even when you have a job. Keep the momentum going because the company you work for today is just a number in your life.
one time a coworker made a joke about how all the people on our team have stomach issues. i laughed, then realized, oh shit, we all do! between gastritis, ulcers and “as yet, undiagnosed” we all got at least one of them.
