A bit of context is needed and I apologize it may belong. It all started when my boyfriend (m27) and I (f27) moved in last year.
We introduced ourselves to our neighbour (f30ish) and she seemed great, super nice. We quickly learned that the soundproofing of this building is nonexistent, you hear everything. Regular toned conversations, showers turning on, TVs, you name it, we can hear it. I have tried my hardest to be a quiet and respectful neighbour but the neighbour this is about didn’t seem to care and often watched her tv at full blast and would have loud conversations on the phone at all hours. But it didn’t really bother me that much, what can you do?
A few months after moving in our neighbour had a guy “friend” over and it was loud. Headboard banging, slapping, screaming, loud. It was hilarious we thought, the first time. But this turned into an almost daily, almost always around noon, occurrence for about a month and this girl had lungs.
I could hear it everywhere in the building, toilet, downstairs. Just when I was beginning to get fed up with it and contemplating complaining to management, see I work from home and it was incredibly disruptive, it seemed someone else had enough and complained before me. Ah, the sweet relief of quieter sx.
The screaming was toned down to moaning and I didn’t feel as assaulted in my own home anymore. I do think she thought we complained because she wouldn’t look at us anymore after that but I didn’t care, it was worth it.
Fast forward to two months, she and the guy and slowly was getting louder again. But I felt like I could deal with it since they normally happened around noon, or at least no earlier than 9. I had started working some days in the office as well so I wasn’t home to hear it as much, and most days I was gone before 7 am for my second job.
7:30am and I’m startled awake by a banging noise followed by some squeals and moans. I grabbed my pillow wrapped it around my head and tried to ignore it and sleep. 8am and I’m wide awake the noises were growing louder and the headboard was slamming with impressive force. I could feel the rage boiling up. My sleep is precious to me, I work two jobs and one is very heavy manual labour. Without thinking twice I grabbed our headboard and slammed our wall (the wall we share with our loud neighbor) and yelled not very nice things along the lines of “omg shut the f up” and “I’m so sick of this”. The silence from her side was incredibly satisfying at the moment and it has been beautifully quiet since.
Since BMT i have always had a messed up pooping cycle where as when i am in camp i don’t feel the need to for 5 days and only felt the need to after bookout, like my stomach just decided to ache after reaching home.
My longest was 10 days during confinement, But when I’m at home my poop cycle is the normal once or twice per day till i go back to camp.
Not a troll post but just curious if yall are like this too.
PS. My health is not affected by this, just that I’m surprised that the human body can actually hold in 10 days worth of poop.
Netizens’ comments
Sounds like it might be travel constipation, it’s when a person undergoes constipation when they’ve traveling, the travel leads to a variety of factors affecting this such as a change in routine, change in diet, change in toilet (maybe the toilet in BMT is less clean, and you don’t constantly have access to it, so your body is less inclined to defecate).
Same for me during bmt. But you have to force yourself to poop. After a couple months, I go once every other day in camp Holding it in for so long will mess up your colon and large intestine health in the long term
I had a bunkmate like this too. So much so that he would always go home during the nights out every Wed just to poop. We’re talking LCK to Pasir Ris.
He has gastritis issue and if he don’t consume food by 11.40 , he will have tummy pain.
Today I was engrossed in my work and didn’t do breakfast , I just made morning tea.
The bread was on the Dining table and the necessary filings were in the fridge..
He sat there in the sofa , just next to dining table and didn’t eat it . ( he wants me to serve him in the plate and keep in the dinning table , he don’t know to make a simple sandwich)
By the time I made the lunch, he got severe tummy pain.
This is not the first time. This happens when ever he misses timing.
Am so fed up , am not gonna bring him medicine.
This time am gonna let him face the consequences.
For all his laziness, am so angry with his mom. For she didn’t train him . But poor MIL , she is also helpless in taming him.
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Then you better train your son now ah, if not next time your dil will blamed you for not training your son too.Cause whether did the mother train or not, is your role now to train especially in your own expectations. You are living with him together, you will be spending 50 years from now on. Do not expect the mother to train him beforehand when she don’t even know what is your expectations.
I was watching Dr Strange 2. There was a couple sat beside me. One of them reached first while the other was late and missed out the first act of the movie (about 10mins or so).
So when the BF came, the GF started explaining what happened in the beginning (i assume). At first, i thought it was fine because she is basically helping him catch up.
A few minutes later, i hear murmers from them again. It continued for another 4 or 5 times for the next 5 minutes and i wasnt having it anymore.
I turned to the BF and said “Bro, can you keep the discussion for later? We trying to watch here.”
He replied and i quote, “Ok. You dont have to be rude about it.” They then proceed to move to another empty seat.
I was like WTF? Was i being rude for telling him to shut up? And whats wrong with peoples theatre etiquette nowadays? Its not my first time experiencing this since the cinema opened.
Hi Just need some dating advice and maybe the opinion of sg men
I am a 25 F who had been focused on academics + career for all her life. Now just trying to get into the dating scene. Not having much luck in the workplace and so I have turned to dating apps. I am used to being chased, but things never go past the 3rd date where I lose interest or I notice something that maybe wouldn’t work if we get into a relationship.
Anyway, this time, I matched with a guy, like a 30 year old, with a work schedule almost as busy as mine. We text daily leading up to our first meeting and I thought we had a quite good time. (Nothing amazing, but it wasn’t horrible).
And for the first time, I arrived home with no “let’s do this again next time” text, which is a new experience for me. Because I wanted to meet again, I sent a “see u again soon? ” text and he replied with “sure haha”, which I tried not to read too much into.
After that, we continue to text somewhat daily. There are days I get too busy to return a text, and other days he’d do the same, but there was still continuation of conversations, initiation of new ones on both parts. But what bugs me is that there is no initiation of another date…
I tried to hint, saying that I have taken leave from work some time next week and all he said was “it is good, you do need to rest sometimes”. I am pretty straightforward usually and wouldn’t mind initiating another date, but I can’t help but feel like maybe I needed to read the room?
I have discussed this with friends and their advice to me varies: from ask him out, maybe he didn’t want to seem desperate? To maybe he isn’t that interested, don’t waste your time. I have to admit, at this point, I am clueless myself if I am attracted to him or just bothered because he bruised my ego.
This has never happened to me before and I wonder if I am getting the taste of my own medicine. He is an attractive person himself, and so maybe I have met my match (pun intended).
Some insight into a sg guy’s mind would be nice. Maybe I am a boring date? Am I just being left as an option to him? Thanks in advance!
In a recent turn of events, the Singapore police have initiated an investigation into activist Gilbert Goh. This investigation revolves around Goh’s act of holding up a sign outside the Speakers’ Corner at Hong Lim Park, where Lim protested against the conflict in the Middle East, according to Channel NewsAsia.
The Israel-Hamas conflict is a long-standing and complex geopolitical issue involving Israel and the Palestinian militant group, Hamas. It has been characterized by a history of hostilities, military operations, and territorial disputes.
Gilbert’s protest
The Singapore Police Force previously issued a statement saying that they would be rejecting applications to hold public assemblies about the Israel and Hamas conflict because of concerns of public safety and security.
Goh then posted a black and white photo on Instagram of himself holding a sign at the Speakers’ Corner that said “Peace not war. Israel stop the killing at Gaza! Hamas release all the hostages!”
Another similar photo of Goh at the Speaker’s Corner holding the sign, this time coloured, made its way onto social media and started circulating.
Police response
The Singapore police responded by stating that they were aware of a social media post featuring Goh holding the sign related to the Israel-Hamas conflict.
An investigation into the matter was promptly initiated. The police also reiterated their stance on not permitting public assemblies related to the ongoing conflict in the Middle East, citing public safety and security concerns.
Thousands of civilians dead
The Israel-Hamas conflict had reached a critical point in recent times. Palestinian militant group Hamas took more than 200 people hostage when it launched an incursion into Israel from the Gaza Strip earlier this month, as well as killing more than 1,400 people.
In response, Israel initiated a retaliatory campaign, including airstrikes, leading to the loss of over 4,000 Palestinian lives.
So yeah, we were out drinking last night. She went to bed ~3 am, I stayed up until 4 (had to clean the house) and fell asleep blissfully next to her.
This morning we woke up & things got steamy, but I was noticing a dark residue forming at the base of my bird. I thought she was bleeding but she insisted it didn’t hurt and to keep going. I’m not one to say no, so we fooled around some more until we changed positions and I caught a whiff and looked. Definitely a large unwiped brown stain going from her butt down her leg. I told her she was definitely bleeding and we should stop, then she hopped in the shower to clean off. I noticed a large streak on my sheets and quickly bundled them up and threw them it the washer before she could see.
I’m not sure if she even knows she pang sai herself. Should I just sweep this under the rug and pretend it never happened? She didn’t go overboard with drinking so Im a little concerned this had nothing to do w that but I imagine it would be extremely embarrassing for her.
Both early 20s. I don’t wanna tell my friends about this for obvious reasons. What would you do?
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Tell her on your death bed
let her know but re-i force the idea that it was no big deal. i think the biggest issue is that she may be able to get an infection from that though.
she knows, she had to have noticed in the shower. i am pretty sure she is mortified. i honestly dont think it’s worth a mention unless it becomes a recurring issue.
You really are a gem of a nice person. You’re handling it maturely and keeping a safe space for you and your partner. Kudos to you
Singapore Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong was on an official visit to Saudi Arabia when he spoke to the Singapore news media about the conflict in Gaza.
Lianhe Zaobao asked him about the Singapore public’s discourse and feelings about the Gaza situation, and how he thinks it might affect Singapore.
What PM Lee said
“It’s always very worrying when you see humanitarian crisis developing. When innocent civilians suffer, infants, kids or grandparents, sometimes by side effect of military conflict, sometimes directly targeted.
And in this case, what happened on the 7th of October when Hamas attacked Israel and launched vicious, horrible attacks against large numbers of civilians and killed 1,300 people, maybe more, mostly innocent civilians — it’s horrendous. It isn’t something which could be justified by any rationale whatsoever.
Whatever the background, whatever the historical situation, nothing justifies such an action, either in law, or indeed in human decency and morality. So that was what we have to be quite unequivocal about and we came out immediately to condemn it.
But after that, having happened, what happens next? If you go by international law, the Israelis will have the right to self-defence, to defend themselves. Hamas has attacked Israel. They have a right to say, “I have to take away the danger to me.”
It’s not just international law, but it’s also humanly impossible not to want to do that, having suffered such a grievous and terrifying attack.
But in exercising that right, you will have yourself to comply with international law and that means the law of war and international humanitarian law, and you have to do all you can to minimise civilian casualties, and address humanitarian concerns which are going to arise.
And you have to do this not just because the law is written that way, but also because from Israel’s own interests, if you just respond emotionally, cathartically, but in a way which doesn’t help to solve the problem, you may get yourself into a much worse situation than you’re in.
And that is possible. And it’s something which many countries in the world are concerned about, and have spoken out about, including their closest friends.
The Americans have expressed this. The British and Europeans have expressed this. We have expressed this too and it’s something which we are all focused on.
In the Financial Times a few days ago, written by some very distinguished Jewish, international jurists, professors of international law.
They’ve studied genocide, crimes against humanity, the Holocaust. They themselves are Jewish, they’ve got family, friends, relatives who have been caught up in the latest conflict, probably victims too.
And they wrote this letter to say that we know what the pain is, we know what the law is, but we strongly counsel Israel and Israel’s leaders to act in a restrained way, in a thoughtful way, in a way which will not make your problem worse or diminishes humanity.
It is an FT article Minister Shanmugam shared on his Facebook Page because he thought it was significant. And I think it’s very significant that these are people who wish Israel well, who are expressing such concerns and such views. We wish Israel well, we also wish the Palestinians well.
Our own population in Singapore I think are following events very closely. It always happens every time there’s violence in the Middle East. And it’s quite understandable. We’re all connected to it. We all see the material online, we read the horrendous stories, heartrending stories.
When a bomb lands in a hospital, hundreds die, for what? Why? And you cry out for some comfort and some answer, which you don’t always get.
And particularly I think the Muslim population in Singapore are very agitated about it because there’s a certain feeling of empathy and compassion, particularly closely felt for the Palestinian cause. And it’s completely understandable.
And it’s something which we have to take into account, to explain that this is what the government also understands and expresses. But at the same time, we also have to do what is the sensible thing for Singapore, to maintain relations with both the Israelis as well as the Palestinians, and to do what we can do to provide humanitarian support for the civilian victims in Gaza especially, but also in Israel.
And then to express our long-term position, which is that we believe that the two sides have to live in peace. There’s really no alternative to that and to live in peace, the only way to get there is to have a two-state solution.
In other words, for the Palestinians to acknowledge that Israelis have a right to exist and to have a nation, a state, a country. And the Israelis to acknowledge that the Palestinians have a right to exist and to live in their own country.
And you have to work towards such an outcome. It looks very far off. It has not made a lot of progress in the last 10, 15 years. But unless you can make progress in that direction, you are doomed to generations of bloodshed and tragedy. And I don’t think either side really wants that.
How to get from here to there, that’s very hard, but I don’t think we can afford to give up on that aspiration. And that’s the way we have explained our position.
A lot of questions have been filed in Parliament because it’s naturally a matter of great interest and the MPs will express these concerns of their voters, of their constituents. And when Parliament sits at the beginning of November, we will have a full discussion.”
On October 21, 2023, a group of cyclists was caught on video engaging in a heated dispute with a taxi driver right in the middle of Middle Road.
The incident, which occurred at approximately 8:25 AM, was captured and shared on the Facebook group SG Road Vigilante, leaving many viewers both shocked and perplexed.
Cyclists riding in middle of road, behind taxi
The video opens with a group of approximately five cyclists pedaling in the left and middle lanes, closely following behind a taxi.
The tension began when the taxi driver decided to stop, positioning his vehicle about a car length behind the car in front of him, which had also halted due to a red traffic light.
As the taxi came to a halt, one of the cyclists narrowly avoided a collision with the taxi’s rear, causing him to stumble.
This near-accident prompted an unexpected turn of events. The group of cyclists swarmed around the taxi, creating a tense atmosphere on the road.
Fight in the middle of traffic
As the cyclists surrounded the taxi, an argument then ensued, with one of the cyclists capturing the heated exchange on camera.
The video begins with the taxi driver, evidently agitated, uttering the phrase, “Buay song lai lor” (not happy come lor!), laced with a flurry of profanities. The cyclists responded with a barrage of vulgar language, and the situation quickly escalated.
One of the cyclists confronted the taxi driver, repeatedly asking, “Why you jam brake?” The taxi driver retorted, “You cut in my lane. Why cannot jam brake?”
The argument continued, with the cyclist insisting that the taxi driver had braked unnecessarily, pointing to the considerable gap between the taxi and the car in front of it.
Cyclist Falls and Tempers Flare
In the midst of the dispute, the taxi driver then walked toward the front of his taxi and appeared to have bumped into a bicycle, causing it and the rider to fall down.
The cyclist, now seated on the road, asked one of this companions if they caught what just happened on camera.
Partner (31/m) keeps fondling and groping me (24/f) even after I say something about it
For background, I have been together with him for over 5 years now, been living together for around 5 years as well. Also, apologies for any grammar or formatting issues.
My problem is that he is very… handsy with me. He loves to smack and grab my backside, fondle and play with my chest, touch me between my legs etc.
And he’s not gentle with it either, he likes to grab it like he’s trying to take a piece out of me. He even sometimes bites my more intimate areas. This happens all the time, not only when we’re in the bedroom.
Now, I understand that people show their affection in this way. But I hate it! I don’t feel appreciated or special.
I feel like a piece of meat! Like I’m just an object for him to grab whenever he wants to. And it hurts! Both physically and mentally.
I’ve asked him to stop, told him that it hurts when he does that and that I don’t like it but he thinks I’m over reacting and gets annoyed at me about it.
I don’t want to sound insensitive but he acts like a kid when their candy is taken away. And he just keeps doing it.
It’s been like this ever since the beginning of the relationship and I honestly feel constantly on the edge. Like I don’t have a say over my body just because we’ve been together for so long.
