Ex-employer owes me salary and cpf, will I get nothing if LLP registered company closes and declare bankrupt?

Hi all, here’s the background: I worked at a retail store last year, and said employer wanted to take advantage of the covid support by gov for mid career switch.

I signed an employment letter (only my signature, boss didn’t sign back) and WhatsApp back to employer, and in the end, while the application failed, I worked with the understanding that my pay was at a certain rate.

No cpf was paid to me throughout the period, and eventually, company starts delaying my pay, until before I left, he owed me 1 full month pay, a few months pay being short of what I should receive, and no cpf paid.

I did not want to push him to a corner (I am being naive, I know) , so I told him I will wait for a maximum of 6months for him to pay what what is owed.

Now, since it is almost 6months after I left, I am thinking of giving him a heads up of my intention to go to MOM to force him to pay me my due, or him paying back me with cash, but my concern is if the company can actually just declare bankrupt and then wash all hands of any unpaid salaries and cpf contributions.

Can anyone advise me on this? Many thanks in advance.

Netizens’ comments

1. Same thing happened to my friend. SME owed him 3mths pay before it went bust. He went through the legal route to get his money but he got nothing in the end because the company owed too many people money. And that was after months of waiting. After paying off other creditors there was nothing left for him. TLDR: Most probably you’re not gonna get paid.
2. If the company truly has no more assets, then yes you will not be paid when it goes bankrupt.
   If there is some assets left (eg equipment, IP) then you become a creditor to the company and whatever assets are liquidated will be split among creditors.
3. Should have gone to MOM immediately so they can go after the company before all the assets are gone.
4. Hi OP I recently went through a similar situation lol. Got owed months of salary, went through lengthy process in trying to claim it back but end up company didn’t pay at all cause they declare bankrupt.
   If you want to pursue further and sue you can but you’ll have to fork out money from your own pocket. Really sucks but it’s how it is.
   CPF can pursue. If you are owed CPF please reach out to CPF. They are actually pretty strict about non-payment of CPF.

Mom & dad both have cancer, any advice on how to get through this?

I’m 24F. Dad was diagnosed with colon cancer in June last year. All treatment options have been exhausted and he is on a clinical trial now.

However his kidneys are not functioning well and he is in the hospital now getting treatment for it, we don’t know if he can get back to the trial but for now the cancer has been spreading too vastly.

All signs point to a terminal end this time – lots of time spent sleeping and being delirious & confused. After a whole year of chemo & surgeries and seeking many different opinions, I thought I had already came to terms with his terminal end but my mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer a few days ago.

We don’t know the staging yet, still pending results from scans but I can’t believe I’m going through this again – the emotional aspects, the shuttling to and fro hospitals and going through the whole process again.

I graduated last year in June and I’m struggling so much with still performing well or at least decently in my job and handling everything that is going on in my family.

It’s crazy I can’t believe this is my life now. I see friends enjoying their life so much and here I am just barely surviving. Is there anyone out there who has been through something like this, I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

What do I do now? Any advice – do I quit my contract role job now (dad has not been working since his diagnosis and mom will stop working in July).

We are also in the process of downgrading our flat – buying selling and all the works. Therapy is not an option cost and time wise.

It’s hard to confide in friends because as great as they are, it’s tough listening to “he will get better, he just needs to have a fighting spirit”. I’m reaching out here in hopes that there are people who has gone through the same thing.

Netizens’ comments

1. My dad passed from cancer a week before I got married.
   There isn’t really a day I don’t think about him.
   It is what it is, the leaves grow strong in spring, bake in summer, brown in autumn, and lie on the ground in winter.
   Life comes and goes, so does joy, and too the sadness. But we carry on.
   Take a step back to balance your life around the emptiness that follows grief and the darkness that comes from loss. Give yourself the strength to be there for your mom when that time comes. Be strong for her so that she has the fortitude to endure her own battle.
   Communicate your difficulties to your employer for space to maneuver. I took half a year of no pay leave when my dad got really weak, he passed 5 months into it and I spent the last month in hospital with him, then burying him and getting ready for my wedding.
   You’ll pull through it. We all do. Take comfort in the fact that no matter what happens your parents would always want to see you happy.
   Look forward for the goodness that will come in time. Look forward to the love that life can offer you. Enjoy the moments when you’re in bloom.
2. Oh dear. I am so sorry to hear this. I have friends whose parents got cancer in recent times, and I have to tell you it’s going to be a rough ride.
   It sounds like you are worried about finances so it’s best to get it out of the way. If you have siblings, please also get them involved. It’s best to have a heart to heart talk w your parents about finances so that you are clear on how much cash you have on hand. That way, I think your dad will also be at ease w his passing. You can also decide on the type of treatment for your mother – whether private or not. You can also feel better if you decide to quit or if you end up losing your job.
   Next, end of life for your dad. Please do some reading up and have a good talk w your dad. It is important to have a good closure.
   Medical for your mum. I know at least 2 with breast cancer and usually survival rate is high. As you know, time is of the essence. That is tied in with finances. Please try to reduce her stress at this time.
   Your own job. I know a person who started work and he didn’t say his goodbyes to his mother cos he couldn’t find the boss to get approval for urgent leave. he regrets it to this day. We may think that is silly – but he thought he has some time and he wanted to be responsible. But really no. The boss won’t remember. Jobs wont remember you. I think you will feel better after figuring out the finances. I hate to say this, but finances will improve once you inherit some money from your dad. So do keep that in mind that time won’t return. Also, your mum will likely be in a brutal mental state too. And will need your time and love during this period.
   I am sharing this as I have seen lots of medical issue affecting my friends. I wish you all the best.

I was told over and over that women 30+ are unattractive and unwanted. Why am I still getting hit on when I’m almost 40?

Was promised by many men that by 30 no man will look at me or be attracted to me because I’ll be ugly, unattractive, fat, disgusting, old, etc. Literally been told this stuff since I was in my 20s.

I’m almost 40 and honestly guys have a super hard time being able to tell my age and I get approached by randoms a lot. My husband has no trouble being attracted to me and our intimate life is pretty damned active.

I feel confused, why have men been lying to me for so long?

Netizens’ comments

1. My mom’s 66 and she’s got not one, not two, but Three men fighting over her. Has for, like, over a year (for years before that it was just two of them). Two are quite a bit younger than her and both sickeningly attractive. The third is a wealthy retired doctor who buys her diamonds. Go mom lmfao.
2. I’m 40 and I’ve been banging an unbelievably hot guy who is 7 years my junior. Middle aged women are hot af and that terrifies a good deal of men
3. I don’t know who these men were but they sound like idiots and I don’t even know why you really paid much attention to what they said?
   I mean for me personally I think my attractiveness peaked from 30 to late 30s, everyone’s different, its just another example of some men trying to make women feel insecure and inferior.
4. That’s not true at all. My mom is in her 50s and men (younger and older) still hit on her/buy her drinks while SHES DINING WITH MY DAD.
5. I have no idea but the woman I’m set on marrying is 12 uears my senior and I couldn’t be happier. I mean 22 and 34 isn’t bad for an age gap right? I think it might just be the maturity level they’re looking for isn’t the same as the level you’re looking for. They might want someone more naïve.

My gf calls me ugly and other names and told me it was her love language and how she shows affection.

She told me it was for fun and that she doesnt really mean it but at the same time it really hurts my feelings. We have been together for more than a year now.

I told her to stop calling me names but she insisted in saying that its no fun if she doesnt do so plus telling me that the rs is already not fun at all.

Its kinda demotivating me at times at work and the fact that i always feel down when we met and she started calling me names.

Whenever we fight or had an argument, she would always swear and call me even more worse names like cnt and saying im childish etc.

Me being the nicer person wouldnt even dare to swear at her cause i know how sensitive she will be if i do so. What should i do?

She mentions last time that she used to have a certain mental illness and that swearing and cussing me is because she is afraid of losing me and wants to get assurance for herself in case that happens.

Me being nice stayed with her till now. Idk if i should break up(90% of me thinking i should) or have a talk with her again.

She isnt the apologetic kinda person too unless she thinks she means it. She calls me hypocrite as well and said that i kept accusing her while she is the one that id at fault. She just doesnt want to accept her mistakes 🙁

Netizens’ comments

1. Drop her. So many red flags. Mutual respect is one of the key foundations for a happy relationship. She sounds like a narcissistic bully who will grow old into a Karen.
2. Dump the toxic b-h. And remember to call her that to her face before you do so she knows how you’ve been feeling.
3. This is not a relationship and not about boring or love language she is getting a kick out of hurting you on purpose. Drop that red flag

My husband forbids me from getting a chest reduction, but I’m conflicted

I’ve been grappling with a dilemma lately and I could really use your advice and perspective on the matter. Here’s the situation:

I’m a 40y/o woman who has been married to my husband (m51) for 12 years now. We love each other and he is great loving considerate and protective. I feel safe with him.

I’ve been seriously considering getting a chest reduction, but here’s the twist – my husband has outright forbidden me from doing so.

Now, let me make it clear that I understand we’re not living in the 1950s, and I am a grown adult capable of making my own decisions.

But here’s where things get complicated. I respect my husband’s feelings and opinions, and going against his wishes doesn’t sit right with me.

It’s not about him being “in charge” or anything like that, but rather a desire to consider his perspective and feelings as part of our partnership.

His reasoning for objecting to the reduction is that he loves my chest just the way the are. He thinks they’re beautiful and he doesn’t want them smaller and believes that I’m struggling with a twisted body image and body dysmorphia.

According to him, it’s my mental health that needs attention, not my body. He’s genuinely concerned that I’m spiraling into self-hatred and believes I should work on accepting myself rather than seeking surgical alterations.

However, I’ve carefully considered this decision and consulted with medical professionals. I believe that a chest reduction will not only improve my physical well-being but also boost my self-esteem. I haven’t thought about other cosmetic surgeries and this is the only alteration I genuinely desire.

I’m torn between respecting my husband’s concerns and prioritizing my own happiness and well-being. I love and value our relationship, but I also want to feel comfortable and confident in my own skin.

How can I navigate this delicate situation? Has anyone else experienced a similar conflict with their partner? Any advice or personal stories would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!

What do you guys think of work-wife / work-husband?

Turns out this is pretty common and it’s odd. We have this colleague at work who literally calls each other “babe” “b” “love” at work, and they’re both actually married adults with kids. (married to other people & have their own spouse).

Mushiness aside (random “I miss you when you on leave yesterday Le”) they do literally everything together. From going for lunch breaks, attending courses, smoke breaks and they’ll just stick around with each other for like the entire day doing work next to each other and all that.

Not to mention the little play fights which made us all pretty uncomfortable. Sometimes they’ll end up going home together or one will wait for the other at the MRT before entering office together.

One of the kepo colleagues went to ask,” you guys like this your partners okay ah?” to which the guy responded “in the office only mah after 6pm back to real wife liao” and laughed.

And true enough we had an office makan session a few weeks back where we invited our family and all, and they didn’t introduce each other to their real partners at all.

We did catch them giving each other glances but they didn’t talk to each other at all during the makan session, which is odd.

What do you guys think? Are you okay with your partner having a work-wife / work-husband?

Netizens’ comments

1. They’re so close but didn’t want to introduce each other to their real life partners = they know it’s wrong. They just don’t want to admit it.
2. Not to the degree that you described. I’m sure their respective partners would not be happy to know that that was happening at work.
   A friend or even a close friend is okay, but acting basically lovey-dovey with another person is a bigger red flag than China’s.
3. Cheating with extra steps. The fact that they won’t introduce them to their respective actual spouses means they know it’s wrong.