Boyfriend and I tried to set up a three some, it didn’t work out and I feel violated.

My boyfriend and I have talked about trying for a three some for about a year now. I’ve slept with a number of women in the past and thought it would be fun to explore that with him. We set one up 6 months ago but the chick flaked which brings us to now.

So a few days back my boyfriend calls me and tells me a chick he gave his number to 3 years ago reached out, told him she was single, and asked to meet up.

He told her that he was in a relationship but then presented the idea of joining us. Then he called me, sent me pictures she sent him, and asked what I thought.

I was very interested and eager – she’s pretty attractive and I was excited to get my hands on her.

We arranged to meet last night at a bar at 7:00. There was some back and forth between them and it seemed like she might flake, but then she confirmed.

I wasn’t reading the texts at all, just letting my boyfriend do the talking.

In the car on the way there he handed me his phone and told me to tell her we’re on the way, and she had sent a message that said “How will your girlfriend feel when she finds out I called her fat and ugly and you still made this happen? Meet me alone later or I’ll tell her”

I scrolled up and didn’t see her saying anything like that but there were clear gaps where messages were deleted.

I pressed him and he did confirm that she told him that she just really wanted his D and would “f his ugly girlfriend if she had to” and that I’m “chubby and trying to hide it”.

We went home and just watched TV in silence all night. I left an hour and a half early for work this morning and I’m sure he’ll work late to avoid me.

I know he only continued to go through with it because he wanted to have a threesome but I don’t even know how to explain how disrespected I feel.

Where to even start with this one?

My husband cheated so I’ve cut out the toes to all his socks and crotch from all his boxer shorts

So this is going to sound really petty and immature but I’ve just found out my husband cheated on me and I really wanted to get some form of revenge.

I’m not up for causing criminal damage so I didn’t want to do anything more serious, for now at least!

Anyway, he’s just gone for a shower so he’s about to find out he’s got no socks or boxers

Bye bye Calvin Klein’s! If he’s going to get his D out for another woman he can get it out of some cheap underwear because I’ve just cut up 20 pairs of CKs!

If anyone else has some revenge ideas then I’m all ears. I’m at the angry stage.

Update:

Can you believe he’s actually blaming me for this! Apparently after we’ve had a fight he has to retaliate by talking to other women and cheating because I’ve upset him!

Oh and millions of people cheat every day so it’s not a big deal

Netizens’ comments

1. I saw this thing one time where a woman put hard candy in the shower head so when he showered he was sticky.
2. Ok hear me out. Clipper hair (like hair cut with electric clippers, short, spiky) and throw it ALL over his clothes, couch, anything you aren’t keeping.
   Former barber here. Once you got little hairs stuck in your clothes, they were toast. Little pokey invisible bits that stay after washing because they’ve worked their way into the weave of the fabric.
3. When you leave him, take all the lightbulbs. I’m talking the refrigerator and oven ones too. All batteries. All shoelaces. Every single kind of soap. Every extension cord. Every charger.
4. Delete all the saved passwords off his phone, clear everything on his calendar. It’s what I did and I’m pretty sure he’s still dealing with it lmaooo
5. I’ve heard putting glitter in clothes can be incredibly difficult to get rid of…

Should I stay or find a new job

Working as a team lead (TL) and accidentally received internal email from HR that contains basic salary of all employees (up to TL level).

Due to this, I came to know that some subordinates receive higher basic salary than most of the TL.

Overall salary wise, TL level still get higher salary as the incentive/bonus for TL level is more.

Being a good employee, I reported this to my manager and lied that I have deleted the email.

However, few months after this incident, I asked my manager if employees can negotiate salary during contract renewal, which she said cannot.

Would like to get some advice if it is better to stay on the current job or find a new one?

Thanks!

Netizens’ comments

1. The only way to get a higher pay is to either get promoted or work for a different company. Maybe ask yourself what’s making you stay in your current job, and whether receiving a lower base salary than your subordinates sits well with you?
2. Think carefully what are your push factors for wanting to leave? The fact that your manager is not being fair to the employees who are unable to nego their salary during contract renewal? Do you feel an emotional baggage to it?
3. But yeah. Salary stuff sucks. I used to always go around asking and sharing salaries with other colleagues but lately I find that all that does is fuel dissatisfaction. Some people are just really really lucky/good at negotiation, while others really sucks. So I just don’t bother anymore. I just try to find out what’s the pay range of my positon+experience and judge whether I’m being shortchanged by that.
4. I think its quite normal for new hires to get higher basic than existing staff. A lot of companies’ hr policy are screwed in a such a way. But if i were you, if my comp is competitive against market, with opportunity to climb and i am happy working there, i will stay. If not, then time to update resume with your team lead experience in it.

Shaming my dad for becoming a dad again at 50?

My dad had a baby with his girlfriend when he was 50. His girlfriend wasn’t stable so my dad pretty much raised my brother by himself. My brother is now 7. Ironically my son is also 7.

I found it weird and odd and tried to accept it. My dad is now 57 and is more of a sitter than a parent because he doesn’t have the energy that I have as a 32yo.

So my brother spends a lot of time with my family. I have always had a very complicated relationship with my dad.

My dad had a health scare and he told me that if something were to happen to him then he’d want my brother to go with me. I sarcastically said my brother is pretty much with me anyways.

He said it’s not his fault that he had a heart attack and I said maybe not but you had zero business having a kid at 50.

I said no you just can’t keep up and the whole situation is messed up. We’ve barely spoken since that conversation last month.

I absolutely refuse to apologize to him. It hasn’t affected the care of my brother. Me and my wife probably care for him 60% of the time. He and my son are inseparable so that helps.

Edit: I don’t know if my brother was planned or not. They acted like it would be the best thing in the world.

My dad is broke and poor. He was seriously talking about being homeless if his landlord evicts him.

Netizens’ comments

1. He’s not stepping up as a parent and you are having to do the work.
2. It is what is, right? He chose to have a kid at 50 and your family is having to pick up the slack! You’re a good big brother and a good father!
3. but I don’t know if you’re going about it the right way. You want to make sure your brother doesn’t feel any tension as it isn’t his fault he has an older dad. I think maybe you need to chat to your dad and work something out because as you said you are looking after his kid the majority of the time. Just keep in mind your dad might know you are right and hates that he can’t keep up with his kid so could be a sensitive topic.
4. If you were still living at home, watching your brother 60% of the time because your dad had no energy, everyone would say he parentified you and had no business having a kid at 50. While I kinda agree with some comments that there was no need to tell him this, I don’t think it’s wrong to point out that his decisions were bad and it’s led to you needing to basically raise your brother alongside your own child.

He cheated, died, now what

Edited: I posted before about finding out my husband of 16 years had died and I found out he cheated 2 years prior to him dying.

He ended it she’s still reaching out (doesn’t know he died) <she sent an email it went straight to his junk box, he had her blocked on his phone for everything.

so I had decided that yes he cheated yes he ended it fk he sucked but he was a decent husband and father.

I now have full access to his phone texts, email, etc and found out the for has cheated on me multiple times, both emotionally and physically.

He legit got happy endings from a sleazy massage parlor, and hooked up with women he met while on work trips at least 3 times.

He emotionally cheated by texting 2 specific women this year that are kind of known to me one by flirting and the other by saying he would be with her if it wasn’t with me then they proceeded to fkn sext.

Now here my problem where I need advice.

I’m meeting his family next week and they all thought the world of him (like I used to) one person was his confidant and she knows he would flirt with people. we had plans for this year that he made for us as a family

Do I let anyone else know my husband (who in some weird fkd up way I kinda still love) was a cheater and he has managed to leave me in debt.

To the world he looked like a great guy, amazing friend, good husband, dad, but in reality he was an okay husband and dad. He was an amazing uncle, & cousin to these ppl.

They think the world of him and are the only thing my kid still has of his dad. No I’m. Not telling my child his dad cheated, maybe when he’s much older but non now.

Everyone around me is still grieving him but part of me can’t. I miss the old idea of my husband but knowing what I do I kind of hate him and am just angry. If he was here I would yell and ask why but he’s not.

I’m in an angry confused place it’s been 3 months since he passed and I’m lost.

Why is Macdonalds so popular in sg?

Their restaurants are always so crowded and both young and old love their food. A new macs will pop up in every new estate and mall that opens.

I’ve tried various fast food and their food is not certainly the best among them. Their main food have also stayed the same since the 80s with no innovation, except for the occasional new burgers introduced now and then. They also seem not that popular in many countries I’ve gone, even in the US where it originated.

Just why is macs so popular here?

Netizens’ comments

1. Consistency.
   I like mos burger a lot but I just eat mcd for a quick and cheap fix (mcchicken meal) and for its fries.
2. food quality has more or less remained the same throughout all these years. maybe dropped a little bit but still very much acceptable. unlike other fast food chains like BK, KFC, A&W, food quality dropped like dunno what.
   MOS burger taste better imo, but it’s also more expensive and smaller portion.
3. I ordered a double quarter pounder burger the other day and found a long strand of hair grilled together with the patty. Told the staff about it, and in less than 5 mins, I got a new burger, with the staff checking in on me to see if there was anything wrong with the current burger I had. Not too long after the outlet manager comes out and asked if I wanted a full refund for the burger. I told her it wasn’t necessary.
4. You need to try McD’s overseas before comparing with SG’s one to realise that the one we have here is top tier stuff.
   I had McD’s in Germany and it was ass, and most recently I asked my BIL for a fast food tour in LA and me wanting to compare what they had there, he said don’t even bother with Macs.
5. A lot of their menu stayed the same(consistency) throughout the years though I can’t say the same for the portion but I digress. Like the Nuggets and McSpicy it always tasted the same now and many years ago.