My sister is severely autistic. She requires attention almost 24/7 and cannot be left alone. She is non-verbal and cannot take care of herself at all. Despite the fact that she is only 12 she is extremely destructive and violent and destroys anything she gets her hands on.

I hate her. That should be wrong to say but it doesn’t feel like it.

I was only 6 years old when she was born and since then i’ve never solely had my parents attention. Even since I can remember the world has revolved around her. I was moved out of my room into the basement at 7 because she needed to be in the room next to my parents. All of my toys as a child were destroyed by her and my parents simply ignored me when I complained. Even when I was 14 and she destroyed a mac my school gave me I was in the wrong.

Along with this I am expected to take care of her and drop everything I do for her. I can never make plans with friend because my parents “expect” me to be there if they need me to take care of her. Even when I do somehow get time to myself I am required to leave if they need me. If i do not then I am punished. The recent example of this is when I went to see a movie, and was “scolded” because i turned my phone off in the theater.

It seems as if I am nothing more than a slave to them and anything involving her simply overshadows me. This last week I was chosen to give a speech at a school event. I was so excited and my parents promised to be there, but they never showed and claimed it was because of my sister. Anytime anything like this happens for me they are to busy with her.

I’ve held this in for so long and it finally spilled out today. While talking about future schools with my father, he joked that I should get a degree that pays well so when their gone I can take care of my sister. I don’t know why but this caused me to break down. I cried and screamed about how it always about her. I’m nothing more than a caretaker to them, that they always make it about her and that I’m expected to be her “slave” for the rest of my life.

I’ve locked myself in my room since then and my parents have not come to check on me. Am i the asshole here?

A very controversial question but, a genuine one really. This is really sensitive but, it’s just my own views and I’d like to see different thoughts.

Okay, so, you know those cancer patients that need to shave their head? It’s unfortunate and I do feel sad for them. But, I saw bunch of videos where the patient’s friends or family also shave their own heads in order to support or make them feel like they are not alone.

I know for most people, it’s heartwarming, and I can see it in that angle. But… On my angle, those healthy people who shave their own heads to show support, don’t really do it for support of the cancer patient, rather, it’s all for clout of the internet. Cause if they’re genuine, why record it for the world to see? Just shave your own head in private and surprise them in private, and if people notice in public, great. But why bother posting it on the internet? All for clout in my opinion.

Another thing, even more controversial claim to support my statement that they do it for clout, I find the whole healthy people shaving their head for cancer patients to be…. Really attention seeking. In the end, their hair will grow back and that’s why they do it easily, since they have nothing to worry about.

I mean, let’s replace cancer patients with accident patients that lost one of their arm. I don’t see anyone from their friends or family chopping their arm off to show support now do they? Yup, 100% for clout. In my opinion, just be there for the patient is enough. No need to do all these extra things and especially to put it up on the internet for clout.

This is just my view, I know it’s controversial. But, you’re welcome to change my mind on how to view things differently.

My husband left my home earlier today to go watch the football game with some friends. He left his Apple Watch at my house, and I very stupidly went through it.

On his watch, I saw him ask a coworker to come to visit him at like 12 AM when I left, and then asking her if she got home safe at times such as 3 AM, 6 AM. I’m not stupid, I know they weren’t just watching movies. She sent a text that said, “I had so much fun last night”.

We have been together for 7 years and know each other since we were in school. I’m almost 6 months pregnant and I don’t know what to do. I texted him pictures of the messages when I found out around 8 PM and it’s now 2 AM and I can’t sleep because I have not gotten a response.

I know he had to see the message as he was active on Whatsapp, showing that he’s online.

It hurts to know I was cheated on. However, it’s so embarrassing that I am not important enough to dump his friends and come have a conversation and I am just getting ignored. I’m not sure what to do. I feel as if my baby deserves a two-parent household.

I just do not want to be the only person putting forth effort.

Here are what netizens think:

• He’s probably panicking that you found out and is crowdsourcing the ridiculous story he’s going to tell you so you don’t dump him. If you have family, go stay with them. You’re growing a child right now, you don’t need his.

• I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. Thank you for trusting your intuition and not making excuses for his behavior.

• This is the hard part. I promise you, the best thing you can do for your mental health is to stop dwelling on that “why”. The answers will range from unhelpful to actively self-destructive, and you’ll get every flavor of that as you move forward.

My fiancé found my underwear and put them back on me after I told him I was too drunk to sleep with him.

I can’t stop thinking about him and how happy and safe he makes me feel.

I was wayyy too high and drunk last night after we had started to get busy with it, and I asked him if we could try again later.

He just smiled at me and said okay, and before I could say anything else or even sit up, he found my underwear and put them back on me.

After the nausea had passed, we had the best intimacy I’ve ever had.

And to top it off, when I was cleaning up in the bathroom, he knocked on the door and said “I left your clothes outside the door so you don’t have to walk out without any clothes on”

My heart, I just can’t. Who knew I would be so turned on by respect???

Netizens’ comments

• When we find the right one we realize why it didn’t work with anyone else

I’m happy you found someone to respect your boundaries and someone you’re sexually compatible with

• When no actually means no and is respected in kind you know you have yourself a good dude.

I have a six-year-old son named Bruno. He is absolutely just the life of the party and just always super energetic. Lately, he has been coming home really sad, and I try asking him what’s wrong but he never tells me. I have also tried asking his teacher if anything is going on with some kids, but his teacher said she hadn’t noticed anything.

I was watching the movie Encanto at home. I have not gotten the chance to watch the movie but I have heard the songs (which are super catchy). I get in the singing mood and start singing the song ‘we dont talk about bruno’.

In the middle of me singing the song, however, my son gets super upset and storms off crying.

I was super confused and followed him to ask him what was wrong. And he said that first, his friend say not to talk about him and now me. That’s when I realized what was going on. He told me everyone was making fun of him saying he had rats and no one ever wanted to say his name. I explained to him that I still loved him and was singing a song from the movie.

Just yesterday I talked to the teacher about it and she promised she would get the situation handled. He seems to be doing awesome now and we just watched the movie together. He loves Bruno and the song haha

All this talk about who pays on first dates… Aiya, here’s a summarized guide to end this discourse once and for all.

Regardless of who invites who,

Scenario A: The guy offers to pay for both.

– If the girl doesn’t offer and insist to pay for herself, then you know you dodged a bullet.

– If the girl allows you to pay but doesn’t treat you on a second date, or worse still, knowing that she doesn’t want to see you again, she still allows you to pay, then you know you dodged a huge bullet.

– If the girl allows you to pay, thanks you, and tells you she would treat you on a second date and backs it up with actions, she’s a keeper, don’t let her go.

Scenario B: Both people pays for their own part.

– If the girl looks and shows signs of displeasure or disinterest right after this happens, you know she’s expecting you to pay from the start. Bullet dodged, don’t ask her out again.

– If not, and if the girl follows up with an activity to do or a place to check out, then it’s alright, nothing spectacular, but nothing bad either.

Scenario C: The girl offers to pay for both.

– If this happens, as a decent human being, offer to pay for yourself, and insist on it. If she insists to pay for you, make sure to pay for the second date. You got a keeper, don’t let her go.

– If you let her pay without offering, then bro what you doing, you can do better. Not surprising if she doesn’t want to see you again after.

Flip the genders around for all scenarios, it applies regardless. No double standards.

Best way to handle things? Each person pays for themselves on the date, with no expectations to have a free treat whatsoever. If you want to impress the girl/guy by paying for them, then go ahead, but risk potentially getting taken advantaged of for a free meal, and your precious time and energy especially if you ask them out again.

At the end of the day, if the girl/guy likes you for who you are, there wouldn’t even be an expectation for you to pay for their meal, regardless of how cheap or expensive the meal is, or whoever invited who.

Would you be happy going on dates with self-entitled girls who expect you to pay for them? There’re better girls out there! (or guy if you’re a girl and like guys)

I was around 4-5 years old but it’s still something that I remember up till this day. My mom and I still talk about it.

My cousin was around 12 when he died. We all went to Mandai to attend his funeral services and also keep my aunt company because she was in mourning. From what I can remember, he only had the common flu, which led him to being hospitalized, eventually becoming paralyzed then unable to speak until he passed away.

My family and I lived at my aunts house for a little bit when my mom and dad were newlyweds. I was like 2-3 years old. My mom would tell me about how my cousin would always carry me around and how happy he was to because he always wanted a younger sibling.

I was too young to process his death.

Before his burial, my mom and I were in the guest bedroom, which had a sliding glass window that had these thin white curtains covering it. That window faced the corridor. I was sitting on the floor while my mom sat on the bed to comb my hair and style it. I was singing a commercial song over and over again, until I heard someone clapping enthusiastically outside in the corridor. I looked over to the sliding doors and I see my cousin, standing just outside. It looked like I was looking at him through a monitor.

I got excited to see him because he just looked so happy over my singing, I remember telling my mom “Mom! Jonathan’s outside, he keeps clapping!” I remember my mom just widening her eyes and picking me up then running us both out of the room LOL.

There was a lot of activity before and after his death. A couple of hours before he passed away, my dad and my aunt fell asleep at the hospital because they were keeping him company. My dad woke up then his pager started going off.

There was also my little brothers toy truck that you could ride around with that had buttons that made sounds when you push them that kept going off, even being spammed repeatedly. Random shadows would literally run at you then disappear. Things would get shoved off of surfaces with an intent to break. It got to the point that we didn’t think it was my cousin anymore. I remember me and my little brother huddled under a blanket, terrified while my parents yelled something along the lines of “Jonathan, you need to stop, youre scaring the children and now you’re starting to scare us too.”

That’s most of what I can remember from it but I will never forget what happened.

What would you consider not worth spending in SG. Discussion about everyday goods and services, not luxury items.

Finding inspiration, I wanna see what else people save on or how they justify their decisions. Here are mine,

Fast food – If its not something i really love I wont spend. $12 subway or burger meal, I rather order nasi padang until shiok.

Non-urgent cabbing – Public transport is so efficient its ridiculous to spend $30 on cab. I use the time spent on public transport for reading, planning, writing, gaming, anything that I can use phone for.

Online game products – One cosmetic skin can cost $10 to $100, even worse if its gacha mechanic. That amount I rather buy 2 new games on Nintendo Switch can play for whole year.

Netflix subscription – Do you really watch everyday? If you finished a series, why would u purposely force yourself to find another series to commit to just to justify your subscription? Its alot of wasted time. Youtube tiktok has great content too.

Netizens’ comments

1. I walked back from Orchard to AMK at midnight before, because I refused to spend on a cab. 😭
2. Ordering drinks when eating out – bring your own water.
3. Bottled Water – Free tap water everywhere, why buy bottled water? just bring your own bottle
4. Products that label themselves as “healthy” and “organic” though most of the time they ain’t healthier nor more organic compared to the normal stuff, but they cost 1.5-3x more.
   Overhyped cafes and restaurants as hype doesn’t change the taste of food or drinks
5. Am i the only one here who thinks that bread/pastries are getting expensive? Like one croissant can cost $5-$6 at cafes. I mean i find 4 leaves one of the more reasonable bakeries but some bakeries the pricing really quite ridiculous! I still buy bread tho but just needed to say it out!! Hahaha. My mum who learnt bread making completely stopped buying bread because she said buying 4 sausage bread from a bakery is literally the cost of making 15 – 18 of them.. Same with muffins!
6. Branded clothing, comfort has no difference for clothing
   A Gucci t shirt made out of cotton has the same comfort as Uniqlo n etc but it’ll cost you multiple times more
   Anyways, I live by this code “if you use that item everyday then splurge on it, but if you don’t then don’t bother” give you an example. A person who watches tv daily would enjoy the difference in high end specs such as oled etc
7. I may sound counter intuitive. But spend on quality food for lunch instead of cheaper options like Cai Png, chicken rice,etc.
   I eat Daily cut everyday and while at first glance it is expensive, I feel full, good and motivated when I eat it. The hawker centre food is often not enough and also not exactly healthy for the long term
8. Condo. Pay so much only to have to deal with politics and weird rules of MSCT, fight to use and book facilities, self-entitled neighbours, and for new launch/newer condos have to live with cookie cutter interiors/weird design decisions and pathetically cramped living space. Much more freedom and bespoke living with HDB.
9. Possibly an unpopular opinion, but spending $5-7 on barista coffee never made sense to me when $1.2 kopi-o kosong exists.
   And bubble tea is like paying to get diabetes.
10. In most cases it’s not worth buying pasta dishes outside. It’s super easy to make quick, tasty pasta at home.
11. Definitely 1) Clothing (including shoes) I prefer to buy during traveling or super sale. 2) Gaming – use to spend abt 500 on games monthly but has learned that it’s better to use on skin care. More benefits. 3) Food delivery- why spend that extra money. Prefer to walk and buy myself.