A netizen shared about how his best friend recent started dating a girl and now their (the two bestfriends) conversations are running dry.

Here is the story:

I’m finding it hard to accept that me and my bestfriend’s conversations are starting to go dry.
He started dating this girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy for him because he’s been through a really bad break up, I’ve never seen him smile from ear to ear like that in a long time.

I met the girl recently when they visited earlier to introduce her to me, she’s really nice and caring for him which is what he really deserves compared to the toxic bitch before.

Only thing bothering me recently is we haven’t really spoken or chatted each other that frequently anymore.

Like I get it he needs to spend time with her to show his commitment to their relationship and I am 100% aware of that, it’s just deep down I can’t help but feel alone.

After me and my then girlfriend of 5 years broke up because she cheated, “because I want someone better” is what she said, left me a fear of being not good enough that hit me hard

My bestfriend has been there for me ever since, supporting me and always putting me in a good mood helping me forget about my ex, but I never ever forgot about how I felt back then

All i can do now is be happy for him, support him, and be by his side anytime

She was my boss. We never did anything though because of our job positions within the company and dating is pretty much a huge no-no for them. I’ve worked for her for over 6 years. Been in love for 2 years. We got to know each other on personal levels. Not gonna lie there were lots of times where we almost wanted to say “f it” but we knew it couldn’t get to that yet. I’ve never connected with anyone the way I have with her.

She’s this strong, compassionate, funny and loving person. Not just with me but with all my other ex-coworkers. Everyone loves her. I just happened to fall in love.

Last week was my last week. Got a job offer somewhere else.

She organized a little goodbye party with everyone else on our lunch break. Soon as the day was over I asked her out to dinner and she said yes without hesitation!!!

It sucks we won’t see each other every day but it was so worth it to finally hold her hand and kiss her. She told me she’s wanted this for a long time, and what can I say, when it’s a really great date you don’t want the time to end. Best night of my life lol. We woke up together, went out for breakfast. And agreed on spending the day tomorrow. I’m just so happy right now.

Have had a huge smile on my face all day, I’m excited for this future.

Here are what netizens think:

• This post made my heart flutter! and you got me smiling, too! you both sound like amazing people. i am so happy for you and i wish all the best for the two of you, you’ve got a stranger rooting for you! thank you for sharing.

• Congrats! I know you’re thrilled and k. The moment and you should be , but also pat yourself on the back for being patient and cognizant for so long , those are super desirable qualities in a long term partner. I’m gonna do a shot for you. Legend.

• One day I hope to find a love like this. I’m very happy for you and hope that you both find joy and fulfillment in the future! Congrats on the new girl and the new job

I met her at my work as she was a new employee so I chatted with her and got to know her. From the beginning, I’ve liked her and I always tried to chat her up and spend more time with her at work. I obviously respected boundaries and only did it in a friendly way, but I don’t know how it happened but she started to ask me to come to chat with her more and spend more time with her.

While nothing too serious has happened while we’ve been hanging out and chatting for the past few months, she has dropped quite a few hints for me. It’s like every time she sees me she blushes, she makes little comments about my appearance and my personality, just a bunch of stuff that seems to make her feelings quite obvious. I’ve been doing the same back when I feel it’s appropriate to let her know how I see her as well and I pay attention to her responses to make sure I’m not overstepping and boundaries.

To me, it just seems like a massive green light to try and establish something before she starts to think that I’m a lost cause that won’t make a move. For example, she recently asked me if I liked another girl I was chatting with. It seems like if I don’t make my feelings clear, she will start to think that I like someone else or just don’t like her.

However, her life just isn’t very relationship friendly. We chat a lot at work, but her parents are extremely controlling and don’t allow her to spend time with her school friends, so I seriously doubt they’d allow for an older guy to take her to the movies or something. I don’t know how I should move forward with this relationship as it seems the only time we can see each other is when we’re working. We’ve been texting lately but I was never a fan of that kind of stuff and I just can’t keep a conversation with her that way. I think I know the answer, that I need to decide to give up on her or decide to wait, but I just don’t want to close myself off to her and make the decision.

Also for what I feel is the elephant in the room, the age difference. Legally the age difference is acceptable where I live (12 years). There’s still a moral argument which I personally think is far more important than legality, personally, I feel like an insecure guy… there’s no special thing that separates me from her. That being said it’s still something that concerns me and makes me feel guilty because I’ve always looked down upon age gaps till I had feelings for her, I’ll let others decide what to think and I’ll accept it.

People will judge me, she is 18 I’m 30…

I haven’t had a great relationship with my MIL, she’s stubborn and pulls tantrums when she doesn’t get her way. She shows up unannounced and gets mad when people don’t read her mind on what she wants.

She never ever comes to our house and always expects us to go there. I finally put my foot down and said I will not go to her house until she comes to ours and it will have to be a back and forth.

We invited her several times and she declined. She finally agreed to come tomorrow for lunch. I cleaned the house so well, bought $90 in groceries to make a bunch of food for them. We called today and asked that they come at 2 pm- guess that was a mistake.

She wanted to come earlier. She then said she will not be coming at all. We asked what time she prefers and she said 12- we said sure. She said never mind, still not coming, bye. Won’t talk to us now.

WHAT on earth goes on in this woman’s head? We were willing to change the time and because we didn’t guess the right time to start she now refuses to come over and she’s mad at us.

And I can guarantee she will change her mind last minute tomorrow and say she’s coming- I told fiance she isn’t welcome tomorrow now because I have plans. I don’t actually have any but I think she’s acting like a child and I don’t want to see her at this point.

Just needed to vent, this woman behaves like a 12 year old and it drives me nuts.

I (23F) have been a freeuse f- toy / roommate multiple times

I used to share a unit with someone that would use me whenever he wanted to. He was the one who introduced me to free use, I had never heard of it before. I was down to try it, I have a very high libido. Apparently so did he.

It was anywhere and everywhere, if he was in the mood, he was f-g me. I would be doing the dishes and suddenly be lifted onto the counter and he would be inside me.

Sitting on the sofa watching tv he would come out of the bedroom, hard in his pants, and put it right up to my mouth and f my face.

He used me in a public park, he used me on the side of the road, anywhere he needed to blow off steam he would f me.

After some time we went our separate ways but I never stopped wanting that sort of relationship again.

I started talking to a man 10 years older than me and though we didn’t live together it became a similar situation.

Anytime he was in the mood he would just come over. He knew where I was and he knew I wouldn’t turn him away.

He would go to the gym, then afterthat just come over and f me senseless and then go back to work like nothing happened. One time he even broke my metal bed frame from f-g me so hard.

He was so much larger than me, very fit and knew how to use his size. He kept coming back for more whenever he could.

I was a stress relief pit stop on his daily routine. I bet he loved being able to f tight young women like me whenever he wanted to.

Is it time to give up my marriage

Me (25) and my wife (27) have been married for a year now after dating her for 3-4 years (of which 90% of the time we stayed together). We both bought a resale flat and spent more than 150k on renovation and appliances.

Recently things hit rock bottom and we had a huge fight. It’s not the first fight we ever had, we’ve them every fortnightly but never this bad. Most of the arguments are about finances or chores.

We’re both working adult and are financially doing well. I was earning around 1.5 to 2 times more than her. Before we bought our house and a car, we initially agreed the cost base on our salary, while the car she can just make slight contributions to it since we both use it and that I’m okay with paying more for it. She agreed but after we got both the house and the car, she went back on her words. Things like fees, bills and cost of the house and appliances ended up are all being paid by me.

I do all the cooking, washing of dishes and cleaning of the house by myself, while she would be on her laptop watching Netflix. Whenever I ask for help she would get pissed off. I understand that maybe when she lived with her dad, her dad did everything for her, but I felt that this was our house and that she should contribute abit to the cleanliness.

Well anyway, after our huge fight, she stomped out of the house and never contacted me for a month, even when I was hospitalised and asked her to visit me, she never once asked how I was doing or visited me.

After I was discharged out of the hospital, I continued to text her and call her to no avail. I woke up at 5am, bought her favourite breakfast and waited below her block for 3 hours because her schedule isn’t fixed and I didn’t know what time she was working that week. When she saw me, she avoided me like a pest, even after I chased after her, she shunned me off and kept walking faster and faster without listening to me.

Her father chose not to interfere while her friend isn’t a good role model, and would often give bad advice like “don’t talk to him” and not sure if it’s worth mentioning but they would ask her to go on tinder and find someone better even though they knew we’re married. Worth noting that one of her friend is also a drug abuser.

I texted her telling her I would give her another month of time and space, if she ever wants to seek counselling I would pay for it and go together she she wants to. I haven’t gotten a response, neither did she respond to the counsellor or therapist message.

My parents have treated her like their own daughter, cooked for her every weekend, bought her stuff and took care of her. But never once was she appreciative of it and when I did my part to repay my parents by buying them stuff or giving them allowance, she would call me “mummies boy” etc. like what? I’m just doing my part as a son

I’m not here to look for empathy, I’m also not perfect. I won’t say I’m the best husband but I’ve tried my best and have always done what I can to make her happy which includes bringing her out to eat as much as I can, some months spending close to $3k on food. I just want advice on what I can do or should do. As much as I want to avoid divorce but if it’s something that can’t be avoided then it is what it is.

Boyfriend is germaphobic about my private parts and refuses to go down on me.

My boyfriend made a comment that he shouldn’t have gone down on me when he was sick (with a regular head cold ) because it made him sicker – he said that “v-ginas are filled with germs and bacteria”

He legitimately believes that it is dirty and compared it to “licking a pole” and how he wouldn’t do that if he was sick.

I am super frustrated and cannot understand this point of view. I want someone who is super turned on by going down on me. Everyone else I have dated was super into it. I’ve never met a guy like this before

Any advice ?? Is this normal?

Netizens’ comments

1. If anything, his mouth is dirtier.
2. Mouths have far more germs, bacteria, and etc. than genitals, but I bet he doesn’t hesitate to kiss you.
3. Time for someone who appreciates you
4. people are quick to jump to “dump him, he does’nt appreciate you”. The post is very short and mentions one episode. Not even talking about trying to fix the problem. Shit, for all we know she might actually have needed to take a bath in that specific case.
   You know, might actually start with talking to him about why he thinks so, explain to him that they are actually quite the opposite as they are “self cleaning” To a degree, and maybe even go so far as to ask if anything seemed odd or different when he went down on her.
5. Biologist here! Every square inch of your skin is covered in billions (or perhaps even trillions) of bacteria. Hell, your mouth, intestines, and uterus also have billions of bacteria in them. In fact, different regions of your body will even have different diverse communities of bacteria. They’re all pretty much harmless or even beneficial, unless they end up somewhere they’re not supposed to be like an open cut.

My girlfriend said I was small down there and laughed at me when I was being vulnerable.

This has been bothering me a lot and I just want to vent into the void. I’ve been dating this woman for a couple a months now, but we have been friends for a while before we started dating.

We have not slept together much since we’ve been together, but she saw my private parts for the first time a few weeks ago.

I’m okay with what I have, and other people I’ve been with enjoy it. I’ve had insecurities in the past, but my other partners got me through it.

We had an awkward conversation where it came up and she was honest with me that it is not as big as I thought it was.

I’ve already been feeling really insecure about the relationship and when I was being vulnerable and started to break down with her and she laughed at me which I think was the worst part.

She did try to console me. I acted like everything was fine afterwards and that was it. Now I’m sitting here emotional and not even sure what to do next.

To give more clarity. (32m) and (35f). It was me being vulnerable about the whole relationship, and my feelings about it, and my insecurities about us in general not about my size.

I wasn’t insecure about it until she made me feel insecure. Never brought up my size before. She talked about her previous exes being small before this.

This brings in more insecurities if we break up will she just talk about me like this and be mean?

Netizens’ comments

1. If that’s her behaviour with something so delicate, I don’t wanna know her behaviour in other topics. Let her go and maybe next time you will someone more supportive.
2. That is definitely not ok. It does not matter what the topic is about, it does not matter if you are a male or female. If someone is insecure or upset about something you handle it/them with compassion, kindness and care and you definitely do not laugh at them. Because if the tables had been turned and she had come to you, the outcome of you laughing at her would be extremely different.
3. Yeah you should break up. I am a small guy, was in a 7 year relationship with a woman who had plenty of experiences with guys twice my size. Well, she did make a joke about my size once, it was actually funny, and by that point our relationship was just about over. My point is if a woman cares about you she won’t make fun of it.

What are some things you missed most from the 90s and 00s?

For me the top 3 that came to mind:

Less foreigners and crowds, specifically before the mid 00s. The foreigners that were here were either the top execs or working in low paying manual jobs. Much less competition for the average Singaporean. Everything changed when they opened the floodgates in the mid 00s.

People were less materialistic, elitist and judgemental. No IG and TikTok and people were not pressured to compared with one another and becoming so unhappy.

The most iconic movies were made in the 90s, like Jurassic Park, Independence Day, Titanic and the whole lot of Disney cartoons. Same thing for mediacorp tv shows. Nowadays the movies and shows used too much CGI, stories are complicated and difficult to follow and acting standards certainly dropped.

Netizens’ comments

1. Taking a bus to a “faraway” place that isn’t serviced by mrt felt like an epic journey. Back then the combination of less-available bus information and our young naivety made it feel like an epic undertaking.
   In primary school I remember hearing about a Tamiya car shop somewhere in tampines. My friends and I drooled at the kind of rare parts we might find there that weren’t available in our local shop in Toa Payoh.
   We used the school library computer, on its 56kpbs connection (might’ve been 10kbps, slow as hell for sure), to try find information on where this particular shopblock was. No one knew how to read maps and we barely understood the internet as more than the platform where we play neopets.
   Well we found the block, planned out which busses to take, what bus to take home if we get lost, and packed water and snacks. Met up at the bus interchange and went on an epic journey to the east to hunt for legendary tamiya parts and perhaps race with the strangers who lived in those strange distant lands.
   It was nerve wracking because our parents weren’t involved and all the roads looked the same, except we knew we were far as hell from our comfortable hdb estate.
   We made it to the shop eventually. Spent some money on motors and other carbon fibre parts that weren’t available back home. Spoke with some uncles who had thousands of dollars in the hobby and big toolboxes. 10/10 wish I could experience another adventure like that.
2. Me: Watching Cardcaptor Sakura on Saturday morning in my pajamas on Kids Central.
   My husband: Watching chinese dub Digimon Adventures on Sunday morning on channel 8.
3. The weather.
   I was in primary school in late 90s, early 2000s. I remember I could walk back home in the middle of the day (~1-3pm) and not really break a sweat.
   Try doing that now, I think can die lol.
4. Memories of buses…
   The bus driver uncles would pretend they’re race car drivers, and execute a downshift on the manual transmission before a turn just so they could punch it out of the corner. Obviously, it was a bus so we weren’t going fast, but it sure felt exciting.
   When it started raining, passengers would close all the windows without prompting. But the bus would quickly fog up and the driver would furiously wipe the inside surface of the windshield at every opportunity, like at stoplights. Sometimes the bus would be quite empty when it started raining so we’ll end up with drenched seats that no one wanted to sit on.
   Maintaining your student concession bus pass through the year was a challenge. Mine was always pretty ragged after just half a year’s use because they had this rule about no lamination. Monthly stamps were so inexpensive back then, and they were good for every service at every hour. We sure made use of that perk during the weekends when we would go explore different parts of the country.
   Recalling even further back, I have vague memories of riding the bus with my grandma. There were a driver and a ticket master who gave out punched paper tickets. I still have no clue how that system worked, as when I started traveling independently on buses, we had already switched to single operator with the coin box (many variants) with no tickets. The paper tickets came back later via auto-dispensers.
   Fond memories…all.
5. You don’t miss the 90s, you miss being a kid without responsibilities because your parents tanked all that shit for you in the 90s.

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My (23f) boyfriend (24m) ripped out my hair and now I have a bald spot. Help?

My boyfriend likes to hold my hair when I give him head, he likes to pull sometimes do and move my head (I know he does this because I’m not fast enough sometimes. I get that).

However, I have told him multiple times before that he needs to be careful because I have thin hair and sometimes he gives me major headaches from banging my head around too much.

He’s always been fairly understanding of this but last night it seems like he got a little too carried away since he pulled too hard on my head and ripped a chunk of my hair out.

I stopped and cried my eyes out because it’s my hair!! And now it’s gone and I told him so!!! He told me he couldn’t help it because he got too “carried away in the moment” so he “couldn’t control the force he was going at”. I ended up going home and I haven’t heard from him since last night.

Luckily my stylist is willing to stay late tomorrow to help fix the spot, but I’m still feeling extremely emotional over what happened.

I want to talk about it with him when I’m less upset but I honestly don’t know what to say other than “I f-ng told you so”. Any advice on how to approach this?

TLDR; boyfriend ripped out my hair when i was blowing him. Hasn’t fully apologized and haven’t heard from him in 24 hours. How do I talk about it with him?

Netizens’ comments

1. “You don’t respect me. This is over.”
2. He was told not to do something and he just kept doing it until you had your hair ripped out. And even then he’s trying to justify it?
   If you can’t trust him to respect your boundaries, you shouldn’t sleep with him. For your own safety.
3. I’m kinda curious what you think the options are here. I mean above and beyond dumping him.