I’m 20 this year and I have been seeing a guy who is 39 years old for the past six months and when we met he told me he was 31.

We met on a dating app and hit it off immediately. While we are not in a relationship, we agreed early on to be exclusive. Today I did a name search on Google and I found photos and profiles of him and found out that he is actually 39 and I do not know how to confront him with this info because then I’ll have to explain how I found out.

How do I confront him without it seeming like I was snooping/stalking him?

Here are what netizens think:

• You are blind when you see the ku ku bird, as long the ku ku bird is working does it matter?

• You have all the right to confirm what he’s been telling you. If he gets mad for it, and accuses you of not trusting him, he would be just changing topic from the actual problem: he lied.

• You have to decide for yourself if your relationship with him is more important than the fact that he’s been hiding stuff from you. It’s entirely your choice. But as a rule of thumb, if you feel like you can’t discuss a problem with a partner, you should probably move away from them. Your need for truth and stability has to be respected, it shouldn’t have consequences for you, because that’s basically manipulation.

• Girl, I mean this as kindly as possible, but the fact that this (potentially hurting his feelings and/or him having a bad opinion of you) is your main concern, instead of “how do I dump this creep ASAP” is exactly why he’s seeking out S with women almost 20 years younger than him.

I (28M) kissed my daughter’s friend’s mom (30f) and I’m really happy about it

My daughter is 6 and she met her new BFF at the start of the school year. Her mom is a very nice lady. They don’t live far either so we have invited them over a lot.

It’s became a regular thing for the past 2 months to have them over every weekend, both Saturday and Sunday.

Either we take the girls out somewhere fun or we stay in watching movies, do other activities. I spend lots of time alone with her. We can talk for hours about anything and next thing we know time has flown by.

Then the butterflies in my stomach and the blushing everytime she smiled started hitting me.

I’ve been a full time single dad for 3 years since my ex decided to walk out on our daughter. So dating has never been on my mind.

They stayed over one weekend. The girls fell asleep on the couch watching Encanto and it was me and her up for another hour chatting.

Had a little bit of wine in me so ofc I blurt out that she looks beautiful right now. Randomly, out of nowhere. In the end we kissed though so looks like it worked out for me.

My heart was racing so fast, I’m pretty sure my whole face was red as hell because it felt so warm suddenly lol. We were both smiling like total idiots.

Before they left earlier she kissed my cheek and man I just wanted to pull her in. It’s my first kiss in years, with someone I feel really connected to. It’s just been a really great weekend. Very very happy

I’m 24 and I’m here at my boyfriend’s house shaking and crying. We agreed that I come to his house for some food and I told him that I’m gonna wake up early tomorrow so I’ll go to sleep earlier.

I got here at 20:00, his friends were here, ordered food, ate then I started getting ready for bed at around 22:30 to actually go to bed at 23:00. He then came upstairs like 10 minutes after eleven, started touching me. I didn’t say anything I just stopped his hand but he continued. He didn’t get the memo said “let me touch you a little”. As he was pulling down my undies I told him “but seriously please, I’d like to sleep”. He then said “I’m gonna effing do it myself then” in an angry voice and rolled over before crying like a baby.

The thing is that 2 days ago I had a breakdown and told him I wasn’t doing well mentally (he always tells me that I never initiate conversations about this stuff and I should, this time I did). I wasn’t really in the mood either for a while that’s true but tonights situation really upset me and I’m sitting downstairs on the couch and have no idea what to do.

I feel bad as it feels like taking candy away from a baby.

Am I wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

• go home and go to bed. you still need to wake up early.

• This at 27 and after you’ve directly expressed to him that you’re not in a good space for it and you need to wake up early. He needs to date his hand.

• Anyone who gets angry at you for saying no to doing it is not someone you want to be with. You aren’t his toy that he can just use whenever he’s in the mood. Disgusting. I cannot imagine my partner being this uncaring towards me.

• Someone throwing a fit when you’re tired and struggling mentally or any other time you say no is a red flag. He’s selfish and immature and he doesn’t get to punish you for saying no. No means no. You don’t get to be forced or abused because someone is horny. That’s sick and selfish.

I have been with my boyfriend “Jason” for about 2 years we are both in our mid-20s. I have known my friend “Stacey” for about 8 years.

For as long as I’ve been dating Jason, Stacey has made rude comments about how unattractive she finds him. She always says things like “I would never date Jason because his nose is SO big, it’s like a clown nose” (that’s literally something she said last week). She doesn’t say it to Jason’s face, just to me.

I always ask her to stop, and she does for a bit. But then after a day or two, she’ll do it again. It really irritates me.

The other day, she made the clown nose comment and she also made fun of Jason’s laugh, and I snapped. I told her that she should stop wasting her time on hating Jason because if Jason was single, there’s no way he’d date her. I also asked if she would like me to make fun of her to her back the way she does to Jason, and I threatened to do it. As a disclaimer, I would never actually do that. I just said it to prove a point.

Stacey started crying and she left my house. She told some of our other friends about the incident, and they said I was an AH for saying Jason wouldn’t date her. They said it really hurt her feelings, and since she’s single and I’m not, I should have had some tact. Stacey also said my comments implied that she was undateable, even though I never said that. I just said that Jason wouldn’t date her.

Anyway, it’s been a mess of a situation. so am I?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your friend is a sicko. She either has a crush on him so she tries to constantly insult him to hide it or she’s extremely jealous of you having a bf so she’s projecting hard. Either way she sounds like a shitty manipulator by trying to twist your words and running to others.

• She probably also told the friends a completely different story of what had happened, most likely making herself appear like the victim in that situation.

• She is probably trying to manipulate you into breaking up with him, so they can be single together and hang out more often (or go out or whatever she thinks you are doing less with her since having a bf).

so today I found out my BF still sees his ex from time to time and I don’t know how to feel about it.

He says it’s nothing and that he’s just trying to break up with her easily so he doesn’t hurt her which is a nice sentiment that I can appreciate.

But when he spends nights over at her place it kinda bothers me. I’ve had issues with jealousy previously so I’m sure it’s just me but it’s still annoying for me.

They were in a long relationship before me and him started dating so obviously I understand it can be hard to break up, but I just wish he would’ve told me that he was still breaking up with her when we started dating because then I probably wouldn’t even have started dating him in the first place.

She knows he’s dating me as well it’s just me who didn’t know they were still seeing each other.

I wonder if she knows that he’ll break up with her which also is something that bothers me, I’m feeling really bad for her and if I could contact her I think I would tell her what he was gonna do.

I’ve never personally broken up with someone over such a long period before, usually it’s a faster thing and a breakup has never really gone on for a year for me so I’m just curious whether this is usual.

Obviously I respect that he needs time and doesn’t want to hurt her but it would’ve been nice to know that they were seeing each other.

In today’s fast-paced world, finding the right partner can be a challenging task. Many individuals find themselves stuck in the rut of the ‘single life,’ often searching for alternative methods to break free from this status quo.

Law of large numbers

Before diving into the world of dating and relationships, it’s essential to start with self-reflection. Understanding yourself, your goals, and what you’re looking for in a partner is crucial. Take time to assess your strengths and weaknesses, your interests, and your deal-breakers. This introspective journey will provide you with clarity and help you attract the right person.

Expand Your Social Circle

1. Dating apps are your best chance. Females that age get lonely too. I personally know about a dozen couples who met through app and have since gotten married. Just keep trying, can even date multiple women at the same time.

2. Get your friends to match you on a blind date.

3. Join a social club / activity or society. Some single ladies are there.

4. Join a church. Surely have single ladies there or someone that can match you.

5. Pay a professional match maker.

6. Marry Vietnamese bride by gg foreign bride agency

Bottom line is you really need to put yourself out there. If you stick to the same routine everyday Go work -> Go home sleep, you won’t meet anyone new.

Conclusion

Breaking free from the ‘single life’ requires effort, self-awareness, and perseverance. By following these alternative methods, you can increase your chances of finding a meaningful and lasting relationship. Remember that the key is to be genuine, patient, and open to new experiences.

Do most women change into their pajamas or comfy (unflattering) clothes as soon as they get home?

When I get home from work the first thing I do is change into my pajamas. Take my bra off. Get comfy.

My boyfriend has recently complained about this, saying that it isn’t “attractive.” Like the other day I was getting into bed and he just looked at me and said “that is the least attractive outfit I’ve ever seen.”

It really hurt my feelings. I mean it was just an oversized gray t shirt and shorts. Why does it matter what I wear at home? Is this normal?

Netizens’ comments

• A friend of mine once wisely told me that “home is where the bra isn’t”. Ever since it’s the first thing I take off when I get home

• I work from home most days so I’m usually in sweats or my pjs when my boyfriend comes over. I used to apologize for my unkempt appearance but he repeatedly told me that he loves how I look no matter what and he’s glad that I’m comfortable.

• Does your boyfriend bother to be appealing at all times or nah?

• I would love to know what HE was wearing at the time he made that comment.