I (28f) threw up all over my boyfriend’s (31m) floor. I got so sick and I couldn’t even make it to the bathroom.

I was laying on the bathroom floor afterwards and couldn’t move. He checked on me and cleaned it all up. At 2am.

Then he cuddled me to sleep. In the morning he made sure I drank plenty of water, gave me Advil and even made me breakfast while I showered.

I would also like to mention he JUST moved into this place and everything is shiny and new. And I threw up all over it. I was mortified.

Later that day I had to work late. He came to my place and washed my sheets for me so I’d have a comfy bed to sleep in, and he stayed with me to make sure I was okay.

I just… really want to show him how much it means to me. I’m making him dinner tomorrow night, but it doesn’t seem like enough. I love how kind he is. I hope I can be his wife someday.

Netizen’s comments

• Cooking a meal is a good idea. Give him food poisoning so that he throws up and you can return the favour.

• He seems like a very understanding and simplistic person. I think dinner and just saying thank you is plenty. Being kind is often an expression of love, Im sure he was more then happy to help you.

I just found out that my fiancée slept with my brother while we were on a break and I don’t know if I can forgive either of them.

My fiancée and I have been together for 7 years but took a break for a year when we were 22. We had a nasty argument and we ended up have a nasty break up. We stayed apart for a year and we dated other people, and grew as people within that year. We found each other again and fell back in love and have been together for 5 years. I proposed in December.

So recently I found this out from my younger brother. After our break up, she was so angry at me that literally a week after we separated she banged my older brother. I never found out, but she planned to tell me but I had deleted social media and blocked her on everything so she couldn’t t reach me.

I found out very recently as my older brother confided in my younger brother and my younger brother thought I should know before I get married to her. I confronted my fiancée about it and she admitted to it.

Now, I’m am upset about this, but I do not want to dump my fiancée. This was 5 years ago. We were both fresh out of college and were very different people than we are now in terms of maturity. She says she regrets doing that so much and I believe her.

Still I’m upset. I don’t know if I can forgive her for this. I don’t know if this is something I can ever forget. I also am way more angry at my brother than her. He knew we had a nasty break up. He knew she was trying to get back at me for dumping her. He knew this would hurt me, and he didn’t care. He even kept it secret after we met again.

I’m so mad at both of them. This may be some thing I hold on to for years. I don’t know how I could just erase this. Honestly I wish I hadn’t found out.

I just needed to ask this here because it has frankly never happened to me before.

I have a crush on a coursemate. He knows I like him because I’ve talked about it and some of his friends have heard it and then told him. So he knows. However, he doesn’t feel the same. We’ve been chatting regularly for 8 months and he has never expressed interest in me in any way. I also know from a mutual friend of ours that he talks to several girls (he has never mentioned any of them to me when I ask him how his dating life is going, in fact he never talks about his dating life with me for some weird reason).

Now, I find it super odd given the fact he knows I like him, he doesn’t feel the same, that he continues interacting with me and initiating contact. He isn’t initiating hang outs and we don’t hang out at school (we barely speak in class) but he will send me stuff on Snapchat, ask questions and initiate conversations. He will watch tv shows and play games that he knows I watch/play, and often base conversations around it. He will also send stuff on snap late night when he is out drinking/doing stuff.

I’m not super experienced, but most guys will freak out if you tell them you like them romantically (as in have feelings) and they don’t feel the same. They won’t contact you at all and they definitely won’t be hanging around you. Or have I misunderstood something? Because this is how I feel when someone has a crush on me and I don’t feel the same. I feel like I have to distance myself for a while, and I definitely won’t be initiating any conversations so that I don’t give the wrong impression that there is a chance of romance.

Why is he still interacting with me despite not being into me and knowing I’m into him romantically? Is this indicate of something weird that gives off red flags?

A couple of hours ago, I had to attend a mandatory google meet for an after-school club. It’s important to note that I have rather severe social anxiety, and I do not like talking during these meets or in any way drawing attention to myself.

Unfortunately, questions were being asked, and everyone had to respond. Even worse, my mic suddenly decided to stop working. There was an awkward silence as people waited for me to answer the question and I frantically typed out my answer and excuse for not being able to speak. Crisis averted.

To avoid this from happening again, I typed out the rest of my answers in advance. However, unlike when typing in a google doc, pressing enter sends what you wrote. It does not go down to the next line. Cue another panic as I realized I interrupted someone with an answer to a question I had not yet been asked.

I quickly apologized and, in an anxiety-fueled rage, moaned in frustration.

Boom. Mic turns on.

Someone briefly informed me that my mic seems to have started working. I chose to ignore them, and instead stared at my computer screen in horror for the next couple of minutes.

The next time it was my turn to speak (about 15min later), I casually mentioned that I figured out the problem, and proceeded as if nothing has happened.

I do not know how many people noticed, nor do I know why my mic stopped and then suddenly started working. All I know is that this will haunt me for the rest of days.

How can an ugly person cope with loneliness?

I realised that even if one day I become rich or something there still won’t be anyone that love me for me. And even though I have an extrovert personality, treat everyone nicely and never said no to anyone asking for help, I still have no friends, let alone romantic encounters.

I become super depressed and angry every time I see people posting their holidays, they’re couple pictures and friendship gatherings. After inspecting every aspect of my life the only reason I could blame is that I am ugly, even if I try my best to dress properly.

What should I do? I really can’t handle this anymore. (Therapist just say it’s fine everyone is lonely, stop looking at social media, useless!)

Here are what netizens think:

• work on yourself , if wearing nice clothes makes you feel good, do it if getting yourself physically more attractive..do it… you must first make yourself Confident so people can feel your confidence in you. Although look is first stage of approach its the inner self that will eventually attract. As fir social media just take with a pinch of salt,no one will show you their plight. Go work on yourself alot like how you would work on a garden and one day all the bees will come to you.

• My friends asked me whether I am a Lesbian, i was shocked, she said you are not bad looking, funny and nice to chit chat why still single? I am not against anybody sex preferences, it is their life they can do whatever they want. for me, i enjoy being single or rather alone, when i mixed with people, laugh, chit chats, etc, i find that it is draining. I enjoy life alone, thinking and talking to myself internally and do stuff that i like and that is life for me.

• Sometimes people who post the most, have the most problems. Don’t believe everything you see on the internet. Some couples who post the most actually have the most problems in their relationship. I know a couple who kept posting how much they love each other when the husband cheated and everyone knew. Only insecure people will keep seeking validation online.

• And holiday photos? Some people who don’t have a lot will keep flaunting. Happy and healthy people will not waste time on social media because they are busy enjoying life.

• Being single and lonely is not unattractive. What is more unattractive is your anger. So find a way to channel that anger into something positive. Go gym, find an exercise routine and sweat your heart out. Eat better too. Not only will you look better, it will improve your mental health which will make you feel loads better.

My husband pleasures himself with my teenage photos, what should I do?

I’m 25 years old, my husband is 27. We have been in relationship for 4 years and in marriage for 1 year. Overall we are happily married, both of us have ok career and my husband has been taking good care of me.

Around my late puberty years, when I was 14-15 years old, I was curious about myself, and also a bit naughty, so I took some inappropriate selfies. I never shared them with anyone, just kept them in an old thumb drive, together with other old photos. Overtime, I forgot about their existences.

Last week, I caught my husband pleasuring himself (he often does it when I don’t have the mood for S), and shockingly, using those photos of mine as materials. Apparently, he found those photos when cleaning up old thumb drives. I was furious, not just because of shame, but also because those are underage materials.

My husband’s defending arguments were that: 1. He didn’t cheat on me or fantasized about other girls, because those are photos of me. 2. The girl in the photo, at this very moment, is of legal age, and is his legal wife, so the thing he did was not morally wrong.

Though my husband has been trying to make-up with me, we still haven’t talked again since then. I still feel uncomfortable whenever I think about it. What should I do? Should I just delete those pictures and try to forget about this event? I don’t want to file for divorce, because I still love him, and he has been a really good husband to me.

Being pregnant is awful.

People say your skin glows and I have had friends say they loved being pregnant and would gladly do so again.

I feel like all of this is a lie? My skin has gotten way worse since the start of my pregnancy and my stomach hurts constantly. I sleep very poorly and wake up in the middle of the night. This is all within the first 6 weeks.

I am getting an abortion next week and while I am not excited about the recovery from that I am excited to be done with this parasite.

Netizens comments

• I’m happy for women who had easy pregnancies because I wouldn’t wish what I went through on anyone.
  My skin, hair, and gums were affected. I was so nauseous I lost a ton of weight. My super nose made everything a trigger so I was sick all day.
  I threw up so much the capillaries around my eyes burst making it look like I’d been beat up.
  Migraines, back pain, and insomnia, and I developed a metal allergy that never went away. My post partum wasn’t a whole lot better.

• From my understanding the first few (12 or so) weeks are often the most difficult as the body is going through so many drastic physical and hormonal changes. Things like sickness or trouble sleeping can clear up and recur. It’s different for everyone.
  It’s also worth considering the tendency for people to look back things with rose tinted glasses. For your friends; the issues, discomfort, tiredness etc was worth it all because of the outcome. They wanted a child. That said, it’s not worth it if having a child isn’t something you want to do.
  I hope all goes well next week and I wish you a speedy recovery.

• I did not glow. Pregnancy is so hard on your body. Totally destroyed mine.
  I hated it when I first stayed feeling the baby move, it was horrible. Like some horrible alien thing inside. It was better once it was bigger, but very gross seeing your belly move about. While pregnant my son kicked my ribs out of place so painful.