A netizen shared how her husband doesn’t care about her birthday, despite all she does for him on his birthday.

Here is the story:

“My husband didn’t forget my birthday, he just didn’t care.

For his birthdays, I ask him what kind of cake he’d like and either pick it up or make it. I make sure he has time with his friends, I make reservations at restaurants (or during pandemic, pick up his favorite sandwiches or pizzas), I get the beers he likes, presents, and I keep the kids for the whole day so he has time to have be with his friends or play video games.

This year, he said “happy birthday” at 10 am and I solo-parented from 7 am to 11 pm like I do most days. He didn’t forget, he just didn’t care.

Some people seem to think I want some grand affair. The bare minimum would have been fine, and yes he knows I want some recognition for my birthday. He just didn’t do it. I wanted to get it off my chest before talking to him about it because what he doesn’t deserve is a bunch of verbal insults yelled at him in the heat of the moment just because I’m mad.

Also, it doesn’t matter at all what someone else would or would not want for their birthday; I wanted him to show me he cared and he didn’t, and that hurt. I don’t care if you don’t care about your birthday.

We talked and he claimed not to know I felt this way. I told him yes, he did know and he said “Yeah, I guess I’m just tired.” And that was it. I’m going out with my friends this weekend and having a bonfire in their backyard. Whether he comes or not is up to him.”

Editor’s note: Try ignoring his birthday, let him have a taste.

A while ago, my friend brought up that she had seen my boyfriend on Tinder, which obviously was cause for concern. This wasn’t the first time there had been hints of infidelity since I would see flirty texts and innuendo pop up on his phone all the time, but he would claim that they were jokes from friends. I haven’t been able to confirm nor deny this statement, that they’re jokes from friends, but it’s still questionable.

When I asked him why he still had a Tinder profile, he said he just opened the app to check if his account was still there. This makes enough sense to me, except he also edited his bio and added more photos, so this wasn’t a quick check to see if his account was still being shown, in addition his account was still up even after so evidently he didn’t delete it.

A while later, when my friend said he’s still on, I asked him why he’s still using the app and he said to make friends, which seemed dubious to me. With that said, he hasn’t been on for the last few weeks, but I think that’s because he broke his phone, rather than because of my concerns.

Later, I had another friend he didn’t know essentially catfish him to see if he would respond and sure enough he did. And from my interpretation, the messages he sent were more than just friendly, with innuendo and everything.

I’ve already brought this all up before and he’s had excuses (the flirty texts are old and from friends, he opened the app to check, he’s just using it to make friends, etc) and through my posts, I’ve come to the conclusion to try and confront him one last time, see what he says.

But my most conclusive piece of evidence is the fact that I catfished him and I don’t know how to reveal that. I’ve already brought up the other pieces of evidence before, but I should’ve saved it all up and presented it at once because by doing it in small chunks, I allowed him to create little lies and time to think about an excuse. So I don’t know how to bring up the older pieces of evidence without coming across as really naggy.

I don’t want to just dump him without any explanation, but I also can’t think of a way to bring up that last piece of info without looking like a complete psycho. In addition, there was some glitch where my friend and I lost the Tinder chats so I don’t even have any screenshots to confront him with.

I’d like to have some evidence just so I can watch him squirm and also make it clear that I knew what was happening. I don’t know, maybe this way he won’t do it to someone else.

I’m posting this knowing I probably sound like the most ungrateful idiot right now and most people would love to live like this but… I hate it.

My husband comes from a wealthy family and is successful in his own right. He likes the “finer things” in life and his entire social circle are either wealthy themselves or have wealthy families funding their lives. We have a huge house, go on multiple vacations, I can buy whatever I want without worrying about the price and I get to be a SAHM.

Yet… I hate this lifestyle.

I grew up poor and seeing how I live now compared to my younger self doesn’t make me feel happy like I thought it would, it makes me feel sick. I see our son and how much my husband spoils him and I feel awful. I hate the house we live in and I miss the tiny home I grew up in. I dread going on vacation with his friends because I have to force an act while I silently cringe at a lot of what’s going on.

The only thing that I’m truly happy about is that my mother gets to live in a level of comfort I never thought I would be able to give her after everything she sacrificed for me growing up.

I find myself avoiding my husband and keeping to myself whenever he’s home and it makes me feel guilty. He does everything to try to make me happy and I don’t understand why I can’t be happy.

I’ve been struggling with this a lot recently and everyday it just gets worse.

We actually had a disagreement earlier today which is what prompted me to finally post this. This disagreement was over his friend being exposed for having a mistress and it made me think about if my behaviour is going to push him to get a mistress and that made me feel sad too.

I don’t know what to do about this or how to speak to him about any of it.

How do you tell your husband that you hate the life he has given you? How do people who suddenly have access to wealth after growing up poor adjust to this life?

So today we have had the same argument for the 37316517th time and I am really struggling to get my point across.

My wife mentioned that she was going to take a day off in a few weeks to go to the dentist. I said I would take the day off too so that we could spend the morning together and then I would meet my friends in the afternoon.

She casually mentions that she is going to see her aunt after the dentist. I said great, have a good time.

Then she comes in with a guilt trip – It would be nice if you came too, she really enjoys your company, etc … I reminded her that I had said I was busy in the afternoon and we saw her in December so it’s not like I haven’t seen her recently. I would be happy to see her on the weekend but I don’t want to take a day off work for that.

She got annoyed and started trying to push me into going. I felt like I had set a fair boundary regarding my fairly limited free time. Eventually, I gave in because I was trying to work (from home) whilst she was standing in the doorway explaining the 10,000 ways in which I am a bad husband.

If this was a one-off, I’d put it down as a bad experience and move on. But it’s not.

It seems whenever I set aside an afternoon exclusively for me, she takes that as a green light to throw chores in there that didn’t previously exist. Whether it is painting a house, laundry, going to see her family or even just going for a walk.

All things I would happily do if asked … But not after I have explicitly said I am tired / setting aside some time for myself.

The other circumstance is usually her saying that is fine, then proceeding to intentionally taking on a task she cannot do alone so that I have to help and end up feeling guilty so continue to complete with her.

It’s really starting to get to me. She knows I need time to myself to recharge, she knows I gladly do 99% of the things we asks me to do outside of time I have set for myself.

For a bit of context – We don’t have children, I set aside time for myself like this maybe once every six weeks, our day to day domestic duties are fairly evenly split and we both hold up our own end and we regularly see her family with whom I have a good relationship.

How do I effectively communicate this to her? I literally just want some time to myself without that being a green light to guilt me into doing previously unmentioned chores.

I’m day drinking and upset.

I guess I’m just feeling bitter, and I try my best to not be, but I can’t help it right now because she’s got another achievement under her belt while I’m left here in the dust, just watching from the sidelines, and I’m so full of resentment.

I posted about her right before my life imploded. We had a pretty great life together. Two great kids who got along. A nice place. It was nice.

But I wasn’t ‘fulfilling her needs’, but she never properly communicated them to me. I never knew she was reaching the end of her rope with the relationship.

The worst part is, I still have to see her. I can’t avoid it because my kid loves her, and I’m the only father the youngest has ever known. She lets me take my little girl on the weekends, even though she doesn’t have to, which is great, really. I do appreciate it.

But every time I hear about how great she’s doing or how much she’s changed, I want to rip out my hair and scream. It’s like she’s someone completely different.

Her health is improving, which is fantastic, and she can work more than she used to, which is also fantastic.

But she went and got a job in corporate America, even though she’s not like that. She gets paid way more than me, and flaunts it by telling me about how she’s meeting with lawyers to set up trust accounts for the girls, or how she has a huge fund going for my daughter because she’s going to university in two years, or how she’s going to finance a car, or save up for a house. She has a ton of money in a life insurance account and made sure to tell me how much was in it under the guise of telling me how the kids would be taken care of if she dies.

She never cared about money, but now she’s all about it. We’re not a trust fund family and never will be, no matter how hard she tries to pretend.

She even listens to different music now, and chews gum?? She never liked gum? She’s says it “helps her study”.

Now, recently, she’s stopped coming by to cook for me and the kids. She’s obsessed with studying for an exam to become some hotshot stock broker because she thinks she can do stocks after making some money off of the market last year. She convinced a company to hire her, even though she has no experience with stuff like that.

Jesus Christ, she was a stay at home mom with an antique Etsy business for years, and she thinks she’s going to become some Wolf of Wall Street character?

She used to come over once a week to meal prep, but she’s taking that away from me, too. She says she’s studying for her field’s equivalent to the bar exam, which is crazy. She’s never even been to school for this.

And she acts like she’s such a hotshot. She wouldn’t give me her manger’s contact information because of “security reasons” and she says that she has to follow certain government rules these days because of her job, which is BS. She doesn’t work for the government, she works in a call centre. She’s practically a telemarketer from what I’ve heard about her job.

I’m just so angry about everything she’s done in the last few years. She’s left me behind and I hate it.

I have to see her every weekend when she comes over to make food for the kids, which she just wraps up and throws into the freezer, by the way, and she’s constantly throwing her good news in my face.

She used to bring Emma by on Saturdays and spend the day here cooking and spending time with both kids. She did it for YEARS until she got her fancy new job, so she’s fading that out, too.

Recently my ex-boyfriend and I started texting each other after nearly 2 months of no-contact. We went out and completed an activity that we always wanted to do together before break-up. Things seemed to going well between us. We were able to talk casually and teased each other a bit sometimes. And there was some light-hearted flirting too. I noticed that it was always me who initiated texting. But his reply had been prompt. And he’d explain his delayed reply if he didn’t manage to reply in time.

Things have been great until yesterday we were chatting over the phone for nearly 3 hours. We somehow brought up events that happened in the past. And I broke down realising that I still love him so much and wanted to give us another chance. I asked him if he still loves me. He didn’t answer. Instead he said he didn’t want to get back together with me, which I was not even asking. I was very hurt and disappointed. After the call, he still texted me light-heartedly as if nothing happened.

I feel that I need to be clear and understand where he stands. Also I want to be honest with him and myself. The next day I texted the following to him.

“Glad we talked it out last night. I care about you deeply and I love you. There are things that you must wish were different about this relationship or you wouldn’t be ending it. I’m prepared to do everything to work on things that I need to work on because this relationship matters to me. If you want to make this work, and you care about me and love me on the level that I do you, I trust that you’ll give us a shot based on that. But if you genuinely don’t want to fight for this or don’t even want to allow me to fight for this; then you must be right this is a wrong relationship. I can’t make you say yes to trying this again but I can tell you what I’m wiling to do and what I would love to do to make this work . I totally understand you don’t want us to get hurt again. And thanks for making it clear that you don’t want to get back tgt. It’s disappointing but I totally accept it. I respect your decision and I have to move on unless you tell me otherwise. Take care. Love you.”

And he replied.

“Glad that we managed to talk too. But it’s really not that simple, I have a lot of things I want to focus on and I don’t see myself making our relationship work if I’m gonna commit in other things as well. I don’t want to make everything fail at the same time. Even when I put things aside last time and focus on our relationship it couldn’t work, idk how I can make things work with me focusing on other stuffs. If I want to commit I have to make things work, I can’t be here and there and I know you won’t like it when I work on my own stuff most of the time. If we were meant to be then I’m sure we will still end up together, maybe I will succeed in something and you are still here for me or maybe you’d have moved on and I’m still a failure, we wouldn’t know. I think loving someone and moving on is a natural thing not to be forced, take care too”

What is he really thinking? I feel he doesn’t love me enough and putting up the above as excuses and keeps me hanging without being committed. He even said that I should give him time and wait for him. I feel very confused and manipulated emotionally. I still love him. My heart aches so much now. Any advice please?

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So I am a man in my late 20s, and I have an account on OnlyFans where I pretend to be a woman and steel photos of my feet, and I am making a killing.

As a petite man with size 9 feet, when I engage in waxing, moisturizing, and nail painting, my feet appear distinctly feminine, which at first glance doesn’t look like a man’s.

I capture photos and videos of my feet in various settings and situations, engaged in diverse activities (intentionally maintaining a degree of ambiguity to avoid revealing my true identity as a man).

I actually have a decent following and have been making a good amount of money so far but obviously the money would stop if people figured out these are men’s feet.

Thus far, I have earned about $9.8k from selling photos of my feminine feet to simps who think that i am a woman.

Netizens’ comments

• Make your money buddy, get these simps for every penny you can. good luck to you.
• I’m in the wrong business
• I think u could keep it going as long as u want, as long as u only show feet how would anyone ever know. I luv it, keep up the good work
• My wife briefly entertained the idea of selling feet pictures online.
  I’m not saying this is a good idea but after seeing what most of these guys are like over just the first day or two, I have zero sympathy for their regret if they find out. I say enjoy it while it lasts lol.
• As a female I have large feet and when cash gets short I always start planning my feet pics
• Next time can try selling photo of ur hand and maybe photo of ur armpit too. $9.8k is good money