My brother is 15, my sister is 17, and I’m 23f. This is really stupid and it shouldn’t have happened but it did. Now I just want advice on how to make it better. Also this is the story my brother told me as I wasn’t there.

He was in his room playing on his phone minding his own business. He got up to take out the trash. He came back to lay down im his bed. As he was laying down he noticed there dog walking out of his room. He ignored it.

Later on his sister 17 noticed clothes were missing. She went looking for it and found it in my brothers room. The problem was that is was wet and slimy. She immediately told our parents and they thought the worse. My dad, mom, and brother argued about it.

Rude things were said. Apparently mom said I knew you were weird but not this weird. My dad said I raised a predator. In the end my parents asked me to pick him up and let him stay with me for a couple of days. When I picked him up he didn’t say anything and just sat in silence.

He spent the entire time in the room he was staying in. He only came out for dinner. He skipped breakfast and lunch. His eye’s were always red when he came out so I assume he was crying. I’ve never seen him cry. Most of the time when he’s upset he just has a stone face so what they said must have got to him.

Finally at the end of the week he’s parents called me and said they wanted to talk to him so they came over. Before they came over I tried to talk to him but he ignored me. When parents came they apologised to him. Over the week they noticed more of sister clothes in his room until one day my dad caught the dog with my sister clothes.

My brother just said okay and went home. I tried to ask my parents if he could stay longer but they said that wouldn’t be necessary. Later on I got a call asking me what did he do over my house because he’s just been in his room all day at there house. Is there anything I can do to help him feel better?

Advice would be greatly unappreciated.

Edit little update:Good news. He can stay with me until Sunday. I had to lie a little to parents to get him to come. I told them he should get out the house because he spends most of his day sitting in one spot with online school.

They didn’t believe me a first but I said it would be a chance to get him out his room. They finally agreed. He was about to go to sleep so I came just in time. I think the plan right now is to just spent time with him this week. I’m broke so it’s gonna be mostly home stuff.

I tried to talk to him on the car ride. I asked him if he’s okay. He said he’s fine and we had a little conversation about his school. So at least he’s talking now. He’s in the spare room so everything is okay right now.

Having spent slightly more than a year within the insurance sector, I’ve come to realize the significant role appearance plays in this industry.

Individuals tend to perceive insurance agents as members of a financially robust profession, assuming that we enjoy substantial incomes, thinking that us insurance agents are well off and making very good money.

However, this perception couldn’t be further from reality. In truth, the majority of insurance agents are struggling to make ends meet, most of us are just trying to survive at this point.

But I have to live a lie to sell insurance, and one way that I do that is by renting branded cars like BMW, Mercedes and Jaguar.

I alternate between the BMW, Mercedes and Jaguar, and depending on what clients I meet and the type of insurance plans I sell.

If I’m meeting someone with a high net worth and I am trying to sell him/her an expensive investment plan, of course I rent the Jaguar, instead of the BMW or Mercedes because I want them to think that I walk the walk and not just talk the talk.

I had a sceptical client who was reluctant to sign with me, until i offered to send her to work in my rented BMW that I pretended was mine.

She was impressed when I told her that I had 3 cars, the BMW, a Mercedes and a Jaguar. And eventually I managed to convince her that I knew what I was doing and she signed with me.

But over time, the expense of these rentals add up. I find myself spending way too much on the car rentals to maintain my “image”.

Forget the BMW, or the Mercedes, or the Jaguar – I’m thinking of getting a 2nd hand Audi so that I can save more money in the long term.

A girl shared how she doesn’t want her parents to post photos of her onto Facebook but they keep doing it.

Here is the story:

“I don’t want my parents to post pictures of me on Facebook, but they keep doing so and ignoring my feelings.

I am under 18, which means that I’ve grown up with social media. My parents have had Facebook ever since I was 2 or 3 in 2008 or so. My parents would post pictures of me when I was a toddler, which I’m fine with. I get it. If I was a parent with a cute little kid I probably would have done the same thing.

When I was 6 or 7, my mom would be chasing me with her phone trying to take pictures and I’d yell, “don’t post them on Facebook!” However, she still did and now when she shows me the years old posts, I feel humiliated.

I’m not allowed to have any kind of social media until I’m 25, according to my mom. In my opinion, it’s hypocritical.

This is the main incident. My dad won his fantasy football league and won a stupid trophy with some beer cans and metal plaques. My dad made me sit on the sofa right in front of a giant sunny window with the trophy in front of me.

He took a picture (after I closed my mouth to stop complaining). He then photoshopped the picture to make my skin bright orange, so I was pissed.

I begged him not to post it on Facebook, but he still did. I looked at his phone and he captioned the post “this is a champion household!” Cringe, but whatever. Even my dad’s colleagues saw the post and commented. I didn’t want that photoshopped and forced picture of me on the internet.

This has been ongoing for years. It’s probably petty, but I’m sick of it.”

Editor’s note: It just means that they are proud of you and want to show you off to their friends, you’ll understand when you’re older.

My boss just asked me not to wear my normal pants to work and I’ve never been angrier

I wear normal pants to work. Our dress code is business casual, and I have gotten myself sized by a reputable tailor. All my slacks and chinos are from normal brands and are normal/relaxed fit.

However yesterday my boss called me into her office and told me I would no longer be allowed to wear the pants I normally wear to the office and would have to wear something “less revealing”.

Apparently, my “bulge” is inappropriate for the workplace. I have normal-size genitals. I actually measured it to make sure I wasn’t crazy, and I’m pretty close to the average.

Would a woman with a large chest be told she can’t wear anything but baggy clothes? Would she be told by her boss that she must wear nothing but restrictive sports bras to work?

I doubt it, especially in my work place where women two seats down from me wear far more provocative clothing than my damn slacks.

I asked her “what should I wear instead? These are my size” and she said “just go buy something looser or get a bigger size”.

I’m not rebuying my entire collection of work pants. Go ahead and report me to HR, lets see them try and fire me for having too much bulge.

To clarify, I’m aware that women have been told to “cover up” quite a bit in the workplace. I’m not dismissing that, just highlighting the very visible double standard of bodily expression in my own workplace.

Editor’s note: Wear a skirt and see what they say

A netizen shared about how his best friend recent started dating a girl and now their (the two bestfriends) conversations are running dry.

Here is the story:

I’m finding it hard to accept that me and my bestfriend’s conversations are starting to go dry.
He started dating this girl.

Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy for him because he’s been through a really bad break up, I’ve never seen him smile from ear to ear like that in a long time.

I met the girl recently when they visited earlier to introduce her to me, she’s really nice and caring for him which is what he really deserves compared to the toxic bitch before.

Only thing bothering me recently is we haven’t really spoken or chatted each other that frequently anymore.

Like I get it he needs to spend time with her to show his commitment to their relationship and I am 100% aware of that, it’s just deep down I can’t help but feel alone.

After me and my then girlfriend of 5 years broke up because she cheated, “because I want someone better” is what she said, left me a fear of being not good enough that hit me hard

My bestfriend has been there for me ever since, supporting me and always putting me in a good mood helping me forget about my ex, but I never ever forgot about how I felt back then

All i can do now is be happy for him, support him, and be by his side anytime

She was my boss. We never did anything though because of our job positions within the company and dating is pretty much a huge no-no for them. I’ve worked for her for over 6 years. Been in love for 2 years. We got to know each other on personal levels. Not gonna lie there were lots of times where we almost wanted to say “f it” but we knew it couldn’t get to that yet. I’ve never connected with anyone the way I have with her.

She’s this strong, compassionate, funny and loving person. Not just with me but with all my other ex-coworkers. Everyone loves her. I just happened to fall in love.

Last week was my last week. Got a job offer somewhere else.

She organized a little goodbye party with everyone else on our lunch break. Soon as the day was over I asked her out to dinner and she said yes without hesitation!!!

It sucks we won’t see each other every day but it was so worth it to finally hold her hand and kiss her. She told me she’s wanted this for a long time, and what can I say, when it’s a really great date you don’t want the time to end. Best night of my life lol. We woke up together, went out for breakfast. And agreed on spending the day tomorrow. I’m just so happy right now.

Have had a huge smile on my face all day, I’m excited for this future.

Here are what netizens think:

• This post made my heart flutter! and you got me smiling, too! you both sound like amazing people. i am so happy for you and i wish all the best for the two of you, you’ve got a stranger rooting for you! thank you for sharing.

• Congrats! I know you’re thrilled and k. The moment and you should be , but also pat yourself on the back for being patient and cognizant for so long , those are super desirable qualities in a long term partner. I’m gonna do a shot for you. Legend.

• One day I hope to find a love like this. I’m very happy for you and hope that you both find joy and fulfillment in the future! Congrats on the new girl and the new job

I met her at my work as she was a new employee so I chatted with her and got to know her. From the beginning, I’ve liked her and I always tried to chat her up and spend more time with her at work. I obviously respected boundaries and only did it in a friendly way, but I don’t know how it happened but she started to ask me to come to chat with her more and spend more time with her.

While nothing too serious has happened while we’ve been hanging out and chatting for the past few months, she has dropped quite a few hints for me. It’s like every time she sees me she blushes, she makes little comments about my appearance and my personality, just a bunch of stuff that seems to make her feelings quite obvious. I’ve been doing the same back when I feel it’s appropriate to let her know how I see her as well and I pay attention to her responses to make sure I’m not overstepping and boundaries.

To me, it just seems like a massive green light to try and establish something before she starts to think that I’m a lost cause that won’t make a move. For example, she recently asked me if I liked another girl I was chatting with. It seems like if I don’t make my feelings clear, she will start to think that I like someone else or just don’t like her.

However, her life just isn’t very relationship friendly. We chat a lot at work, but her parents are extremely controlling and don’t allow her to spend time with her school friends, so I seriously doubt they’d allow for an older guy to take her to the movies or something. I don’t know how I should move forward with this relationship as it seems the only time we can see each other is when we’re working. We’ve been texting lately but I was never a fan of that kind of stuff and I just can’t keep a conversation with her that way. I think I know the answer, that I need to decide to give up on her or decide to wait, but I just don’t want to close myself off to her and make the decision.

Also for what I feel is the elephant in the room, the age difference. Legally the age difference is acceptable where I live (12 years). There’s still a moral argument which I personally think is far more important than legality, personally, I feel like an insecure guy… there’s no special thing that separates me from her. That being said it’s still something that concerns me and makes me feel guilty because I’ve always looked down upon age gaps till I had feelings for her, I’ll let others decide what to think and I’ll accept it.

People will judge me, she is 18 I’m 30…

I haven’t had a great relationship with my MIL, she’s stubborn and pulls tantrums when she doesn’t get her way. She shows up unannounced and gets mad when people don’t read her mind on what she wants.

She never ever comes to our house and always expects us to go there. I finally put my foot down and said I will not go to her house until she comes to ours and it will have to be a back and forth.

We invited her several times and she declined. She finally agreed to come tomorrow for lunch. I cleaned the house so well, bought $90 in groceries to make a bunch of food for them. We called today and asked that they come at 2 pm- guess that was a mistake.

She wanted to come earlier. She then said she will not be coming at all. We asked what time she prefers and she said 12- we said sure. She said never mind, still not coming, bye. Won’t talk to us now.

WHAT on earth goes on in this woman’s head? We were willing to change the time and because we didn’t guess the right time to start she now refuses to come over and she’s mad at us.

And I can guarantee she will change her mind last minute tomorrow and say she’s coming- I told fiance she isn’t welcome tomorrow now because I have plans. I don’t actually have any but I think she’s acting like a child and I don’t want to see her at this point.

Just needed to vent, this woman behaves like a 12 year old and it drives me nuts.

I (23F) have been a freeuse f- toy / roommate multiple times

I used to share a unit with someone that would use me whenever he wanted to. He was the one who introduced me to free use, I had never heard of it before. I was down to try it, I have a very high libido. Apparently so did he.

It was anywhere and everywhere, if he was in the mood, he was f-g me. I would be doing the dishes and suddenly be lifted onto the counter and he would be inside me.

Sitting on the sofa watching tv he would come out of the bedroom, hard in his pants, and put it right up to my mouth and f my face.

He used me in a public park, he used me on the side of the road, anywhere he needed to blow off steam he would f me.

After some time we went our separate ways but I never stopped wanting that sort of relationship again.

I started talking to a man 10 years older than me and though we didn’t live together it became a similar situation.

Anytime he was in the mood he would just come over. He knew where I was and he knew I wouldn’t turn him away.

He would go to the gym, then afterthat just come over and f me senseless and then go back to work like nothing happened. One time he even broke my metal bed frame from f-g me so hard.

He was so much larger than me, very fit and knew how to use his size. He kept coming back for more whenever he could.

I was a stress relief pit stop on his daily routine. I bet he loved being able to f tight young women like me whenever he wanted to.

Is it time to give up my marriage

Me (25) and my wife (27) have been married for a year now after dating her for 3-4 years (of which 90% of the time we stayed together). We both bought a resale flat and spent more than 150k on renovation and appliances.

Recently things hit rock bottom and we had a huge fight. It’s not the first fight we ever had, we’ve them every fortnightly but never this bad. Most of the arguments are about finances or chores.

We’re both working adult and are financially doing well. I was earning around 1.5 to 2 times more than her. Before we bought our house and a car, we initially agreed the cost base on our salary, while the car she can just make slight contributions to it since we both use it and that I’m okay with paying more for it. She agreed but after we got both the house and the car, she went back on her words. Things like fees, bills and cost of the house and appliances ended up are all being paid by me.

I do all the cooking, washing of dishes and cleaning of the house by myself, while she would be on her laptop watching Netflix. Whenever I ask for help she would get pissed off. I understand that maybe when she lived with her dad, her dad did everything for her, but I felt that this was our house and that she should contribute abit to the cleanliness.

Well anyway, after our huge fight, she stomped out of the house and never contacted me for a month, even when I was hospitalised and asked her to visit me, she never once asked how I was doing or visited me.

After I was discharged out of the hospital, I continued to text her and call her to no avail. I woke up at 5am, bought her favourite breakfast and waited below her block for 3 hours because her schedule isn’t fixed and I didn’t know what time she was working that week. When she saw me, she avoided me like a pest, even after I chased after her, she shunned me off and kept walking faster and faster without listening to me.

Her father chose not to interfere while her friend isn’t a good role model, and would often give bad advice like “don’t talk to him” and not sure if it’s worth mentioning but they would ask her to go on tinder and find someone better even though they knew we’re married. Worth noting that one of her friend is also a drug abuser.

I texted her telling her I would give her another month of time and space, if she ever wants to seek counselling I would pay for it and go together she she wants to. I haven’t gotten a response, neither did she respond to the counsellor or therapist message.

My parents have treated her like their own daughter, cooked for her every weekend, bought her stuff and took care of her. But never once was she appreciative of it and when I did my part to repay my parents by buying them stuff or giving them allowance, she would call me “mummies boy” etc. like what? I’m just doing my part as a son

I’m not here to look for empathy, I’m also not perfect. I won’t say I’m the best husband but I’ve tried my best and have always done what I can to make her happy which includes bringing her out to eat as much as I can, some months spending close to $3k on food. I just want advice on what I can do or should do. As much as I want to avoid divorce but if it’s something that can’t be avoided then it is what it is.