Why are low paying jobs so damn stressful and demanding? I can’t take it anymore. This is the third job this year I might have to quit.

I took this job because the job market sucks and I have bills to pay. The job seemed chill, not demanding because I’ve been dealing with so much stress from not being able to find a job that I took what I could find.

But wow, this job is starting to give me really bad headaches, stress, and anxiety.

Here’s the thing, my department consisting of me, my direct manager, and the coo. I was hired as an Assistant and literally in the job description they told me you did not need experience because they want to train and build the person. Cool.

Two months, and I realize there people don’t know what they want.

They’ll give me a task/project, (mind you I’m working on new software I’ve never used they aren’t hard but it does take a bit to learn) and once I’m done, I’ll get feedback on exactly how to redo, their way.

These people keep telling me that they want me to use my brain, think critically, do stuff in my own style but as soon as I do that I am critiqued heavily and given guidelines that aren’t written anywhere.

Also, they want me to think like them but here’s the gag, they both have ADHD, (not that that’s a bad thing) BUT I think it’s unfair of them to expect me to think like that when that is not how my brain works. I’ve literally sat down in meetings every week that are hours long of them just ranting about any and everything.

Another issue is when I interviewed, they offered me to interview again for a different role in events because of my background, I declined. It was the same pay rate yet a higher position.

Why am I now in charge of a yearly dinner? My coo decided they wanted to hand this off to me when this is not even a part of my job description. And working with them has been so stressful.

This person literally told me they are going to grill me with questions about the restaurant that they chose so I have to compile a basically a presentation.

instead of just doing my job I now have to anticipate this persons every question. And they changes their mind every meeting we have, talks forever, and gives me new tasks to do that they changes their mind about later on. ALSO coo has their partner go and call the restaurant to ask the same questions. Like, wtf??

I asked my manager for advice without saying explicitly you guys are stressing me out. This is their response:

“do what coo wants but don’t do what coo wants”

“We want you to use your brain and do things your own way in your own style” this was said to me after manager took a project I worked one and re-did it in their own style and then proceed to tell me how I should do it that way.

“I’m not always going to give you the answers” after I’ve asked for help on how to create something coo asked for in our two hour meeting where they go on tangents.

”I know cooo talks a lot and they change their minds a lot but, I’ve learned to read coo mind, I’m not saying you have to but you have to kinda have to anticipate.”

I’m just over it. I make only $2k a month.

Also to add I always get told I do well/good in my projects they just want it exactly how they envision it in their heads. I did not know I was a hired psychic .

How do I go about quitting my office job, effective immediately?

I’ve been at this job for about 4.5 months now and I’ve hated it since day one. I’m doing a volume of work that should be split between two people, the culture sucks.

There’s a ton of little things that make it just miserable and I’ve hit my breaking point. I’m done.

I called in sick yesterday and today because I’ve had a horrible migraine. I hadn’t had one in over a year before this so I’m attributing it to the stress of this job. So I decided to just quit tomorrow, effective immediately.

I’ve never not given notice so I have no idea what to say or what to expect from my supervisor when I tell her.

She’s definitely going to call me into her office tomorrow morning to talk about me missing two days so it’ll probably come up very quickly. Help!!

Netizens’ comments

1. “Sorry, this isn’t working out and isn’t worth my health. I’m quitting effective immediately. Bye.”
2. You don’t even have to go in, you can send that email right now.
   OP if you have stuff that’s yours at work, go in, grab your stuff, and then send the email and walk out.
3. Why are you even wasting time going in? Don’t show up tomorrow, block their numbers, you’ve already quit, they just don’t know it yet. They will figure it out lol
4. Just quit. You hate it anyways. Who cares. Why even show up?
5. Consider not quitting just yet. The worst thing the boss can do to you is fire you, and quitting pretty much fully negates that power. Just stroll in, do a really half-assed job, agree to everything the boss says, never actually do any of the stuff the boss says, take long lunches, and maybe even work on getting the next gig lined up.
   You can always just walk away whenever you feel like it. For me, that is a feeling of wonderful freedom, and you can get a couple of extra days worth of pay out of it.
6. If you don’t have any personal items that you need, don’t go back. You haven’t been there long, it’s absolutely not worth getting sick over a job you hate. Email the supervisor, tell them you are resigning for personal reasons “effective immediately”, and move on and find a job you will enjoy. Life is TOO short.

Two netizens shared their experience online after they got scammed because they were greedy.

Scam victim 1:

I was contacted by this person on Telegram asking if i was interested in a job and asked if it was ok if her client contact me directly through WhatsApp.

This person called Shi Hui contacted me and told me about the job. She told me she was from Moni pte ltd” and they needed people to help her submit an order to boost the client website. At first i used her account and submit the order and when I faced a recharge “boost” item she would top up her account and at the end of 30 orders she would receive 5% commission. She also added me to this WhatsApp group where there was two new guy added in too, Ong and Bernard where they also successfully withdrew the amount. During recharge, I was asked to contact their Moni customer service and she gave me a number.

The first day I got my recharge amount and the commission back but on the 2nd day. The recharge amount got larger and eventually, I realised I got scammed.

Scam victim 2:

Saw this easy packing job such as fold boxes or pack buttons. Contacted the number in facebook. The person shared videos on how to pack the items and the varies payment when you accomplished a task. If u finish 2 task u get reward $340. The catch is, you need to pay deposit of $100 or $140 vip. $100 only allow you lower pay out jobs and no choosing task. $140 is higher paid and you can choose and have priority to the job. Kept asking if i am able to accept making payment for deposit before he continues. Deposit will be refunded upon completion of 2 tasks. The moment i said not comfortable, he rudely told me to continue finding free jobs and block my number.

The items that you pack are cheap- paper boxes, folding envelope, buttons, ziplock, beads. These are less than what you would have paid $100 minimum as deposit. They may probably deliver to you the goods and disappear without collecting your finished task. By then too late to realise you have been scammed. Which job requires one to make deposit first before starting?

My husband and I had a very fast courtship and engagement. We met and married within 11 months and have been married for 4 years.

My husband has a job that requires him to travel a lot. Without giving too much information he is a VP of sales for a company so he’s constantly working and travelling about 50% of the time. I entered our marriage knowing this and have never had an issue.

I learned about 7 months after our wedding that he had actually been engaged to someone else, let’s call her Amanda, at the time we met. He claimed he was worried about hurting her as they had been together for a long time in the past. However what hurt me the most is that he did not call off their engagement until he proposed to me. We’ve worked through that issue thanks to therapy and we continued to still go to therapy.

Early last week I discovered I was pregnant with our third child. He was overseas so I thought it would be fun to surprise him with the news at his hotel so I planned on getting a cake with “you’re going to be a dad..again” delivered to his hotel. I called the hotel asking how I could go about this and was told they didn’t have him staying at that hotel. I assumed I had messed up where he was staying but I know his company would only put him in that hotel group.

I have, admittedly, over looked some red flags and realized something was going on. I know he keeps all his passwords the same and I know our passwords for Netflix etc and logged into his Facebook and Instagram to snoop. While snooping I found DMs with Amanda that were flirty and she had been tagging him in stories.

I called him up and asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me. He said absolutely not, and I said are you sure because I know you’re not staying at X hotel because I was trying to surprise you with something. After now being together I can pick up on some of his lying tells and when he tried to tell me he was somewhere else I called him out on his tell and he said he would be home that night and we could talk.

I assumed he was coming home to tell me that he and Amanda were seeing each other but instead he told me that he had been having an affair with a woman we will call Sarah and Sarah and him have 2 kids together. He was with her and has not been going on as many work trips since COVID started.

The kicker is, he started seeing Sarah while still engaged to Amanda and his kids with her are 6 and one who will be 4 a week before our 4 year anniversary. He and Sarah both claim that they haven’t had “intimate relations” since their youngest was conceived. He was seeing both Sarah, Amanda, and I at once in the beginning of our relationship.

I asked him about his dms with Amanda and he said that they had reconnected at a reunion gathering, which I did not go to because I had just given birth two nights before, last year and had been hanging out with old friends.

I am absolutely devastated and confused. I gave birth to our first son January of 2020, our second son June of 2021, and like I said am currently pregnant with our third.

The betrayal goes farther with the fact his mother has been helping him hide this secret from everyone. She has been the best grandmother to my boys and is very active in their life and helps me with cleaning our home and giving me time to do things away from the kids. She knew every time he was going to go see Sarah and their kids and never once told me.

I’m coming to the realization that everything in my world revolves around him. I can’t even begin to talk to my friends about this because all of my friends are his friends wives. I feel like I am this big joke to his friends and family and I’m not sure how to change that. I don’t have a job because i quit it to be able to travel with him when we got engaged. I feel like I’m stuck and don’t know how to get out. Has anyone left a marriage not knowing where to go or how to survive?

What is divorcing in an older age like?

I am sharing this from my observing my parents. They’re both over 65 and live together in a flat.

My father is the typical traditional male who wants to be the alpha male but unfortunately doesn’t have what it takes. I am not bad mouthing him but it’s what I conclude after seeing how he deal and handle problems. How he turn a small matter into a huge problem just because of his pride.

My mother is a fun loving lady who unfortunately was trapped in my father’s control. She never had any friends because my father feels she should just stay at home and focus on the kids and him.

When we finally grew up and are able to support ourselves, my mother contemplated divorce because my father’s retirement is drawing near. He converted to a more part time work style and is at home a lot more.

They quarrelled everyday over little things because my father wants to take charge of everything. My father have always been someone who cares more about himself. He feels since he brings money back home, he controls everyone and everything. This is also the reason why my siblings and I moved out even if it means we pay high monthly rent.

I know my mother is suffering and she had leave home to stay with us multiple times. We, as her children encouraged her to divorce but she is worried about her future – like lodging and expenses because she doesn’t have any savings or CPF. She wasn’t allowed to work after marrying my father.

I know she still wants to divorce but is worried she will be a burden to us (her children). Honestly, I am not confident to give her any promises even though I will try my best to support her in every way.

Is there any advis for this situation? Thanks.

Here are what netizens think:

• Do a family discussion without your father to reach an agreement. If your mum divorce your dad, can you all provide to take care of her? Lodging and allowance. Work it out before divorcing. Don’t let your mum suffer anymore. My mum suffered all the way to her deathbed.

• Other than seeking legal advise on such matters, what’s important is your individual parent’s expectations in their later part of their lives. What will makes them happier? While I value marriage, every couples will have their side of the ending of story which they are trying to seek. Mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, social and financial concerns may need to be addressed before any life decisions to be made…

• Will it be possible to get a lawyer and seek advise. She should likely be entitled to some of your dad’s savings as she has been sacrificing her entire life for your family. Life is short, she should be entitled to some happiness at the very least.

A netizen shared how he started balding when he was only about 14 or 15 and how it has ruined his life.

Here is the story:

Extreme early pattern baldness ruined my life and now I’m an old man

I was fairly advanced balding by 14/15, and it’s no exaggeration to say this wrecked my life. School was nightmarish – even the teachers were laughing.

I’d stay up late trying to hide it with hairspray, then slept like I was in a coffin so as not to ‘unstick’ everything. Due to stress and sleep deprivation my grades plummeted but I didn’t care.

At university I was the “guy with that hat” on campus, terrified by sudden gusts of wind.

This may sound amusing to some but I guarantee most people wouldn’t have taken it in their stride.

Balding so early was like having acid thrown over my social life: Dating wasn’t an option while other guys thought I was a joke.

I’m in my 40s now, never been in a relationship, had a circle of friends or any of the typical young person experiences. A 40+ virgin with less life lived than someone half his age. Funny huh? Yes indeed

I’ve let it get the best of me but balding as a kid is a very peculiar experience, totally different to that of an adult where most people have matured and are bound by social etiquette. There’s a sense of being robbed of youth while still being stuck in that phase psychologically.

Many men can rock bald with confidence and look decent, even balding in their 20s, but this does not apply to everyone. How you look bald is VERY dependent on head shape and facial structure, and if you aren’t so blessed here it can look horrible.

A few years ago I finally took the hat off, and while don’t look too bad from the front, from profile I look ugly. My head is flat at the back and juts forward from my neck, accentuated by a long beak of a nose. It’s shocking seeing photos of me from the “wrong” angle to the point where I can’t believe it’s me.

Not sure what my options are now. I can’t shave it close because I look so damn ugly from the side but the hair is very thin all over so it doesn’t seem like a transplant would take.

I mean at 42 life is practically over anyway, dating and having a family is all but out of the question, I’ll be greying soon, so is it even worth travelling to somewhere like Istanbul and spending 40k at this point?

I have really enjoyed hanging out with this girl who I have known since the start of poly. She is gorgeous and sweet but she had a boyfriend that had very unfortunately passed away.

Early last semester. I talked to her at the bar and she gave me her number. We had texted over break and I saw her the night she arrived back in town.

We have hung out twice since then and we have hooked up one night at the bars. But when I was in her house she had 10 pictures of her previous boyfriend on the walls in her room that I could not help but stare at when she was not looking.

She also had a scrapbook on her nightstand. She did bring up his death once to explain a story but to be honest, it made me a tad uneasy to hear and I kept the conversation moving. Her friend told me she was doing better and I had nothing to have any big worries about, she seemed motivated and has a clear direction.

She said she smoked and drink a lot to help cope but has since stopped. I was hoping to maybe get some insight from you guys about what she is thinking and how I can be the best to help her if this does turn into a meaningful relationship of mine.

Here are what netizens think:

• My first decent boyfriend died when we were 20. One of the hardest things about it was that people are really uncomfortable discussing death. Try to listen. Don’t feel like you’re in competition with this guy, or that her grief lessens her feelings for you. A few weeks after he died I was back to work and basically functioning but it took at least a year before I was back to normal. Expect that certain days might be hard like his birthday and death day.

• Don’t bother too much your competing with a dead person, you will never lose

I’m dating a widow. In short I let her take things at the pace she wants to do them and don’t pretend that her late husband doesn’t exist.

Just be respectful. If she needs a moment to mourn about it let her.

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My partner wants to transition and I feel like I lost the love of my life.

We have been together for nearly seven years, since our schooling days. I love her with all my heart and want to support her in any way I can, but she told me how they feel towards me is now platonic and it really hurts that I can’t be supportive because I know I’m going to lose the person I fell in love with.

It really sucks to mourn the loss of a person who is still alive. This is the end of our relationship and I’m holding her hand while we walk through it together.

Deep inside, I know this will make her so much happier. I hope I can find peace knowing that she is slowly finding herself.

I was gonna propose this year.

Netizens’ comments

• Man that’s rough, hope you find silver lining at the end of this.

• Sorry dude, that’s rough. Sounds like you’re handling this as best as one possibly could. The pain will ease with time, but in the meanwhile hang in there!

• IMO, This person put themselves first and you should too. If it hurts you to walk them through this process then let them figure out someone else to hold their hand through it. It’s not cool to be the only one in agony while you’re propping your partner up. I’m glad they found their happiness, but you should go and do that too

A guy shared how he found his cousin’s explicit photos on an escort website and has been “using” the photos for his own pleasure.

Here is the story:

“A little while ago one of my cousins that I’m no longer very close with added me on a social site. I honestly didn’t even recognize her.

One of her posts included that she is an escort now. Curiosity got the better of me, and being a degenerate pervert, I ended up looking up her name.

It didn’t take me long to find pictures of her without clothes as well as in the process of carrying out her duties as an escort.

I ended up saving them and have been “making use” of them regularly since. She’s still fairly attractive and her body is pretty damn nice.

If we weren’t cousins, I’d have no issue and no shame in cranking one out to her every so often. But, since we are, there’s a little extra taboo bent to it.

Mind, I would never actually do anything in real life with her. I don’t really feel like I’m invading her privacy or anything. I mean, they’re literally on public websites posted BY HER.

No, I’m not going to divulge her name. No, I’m not going to share them with anyone else. It’d be too risky and easy for identify me if she found out.”