Last night we were going about our regular programming of hanging on the couch, eating snacks and watching some tv before bed.

I reached over to hold his hand and it was incredibly clammy. I thought nothing of it really.

Then he pauses the show, gets up, throws his hand out and says “come on, it’s time” slightly confused, I get up and let him lead me. He takes me to another spot and say to “take a seat” I do and then he kneels down in front of me and says

“On this night that will never happen again (22/02/)

At this time that will happen again (22:22HRS)

Will you spend this life that will never happen again

Sharing with me this love that will never happen again”

Pulled out a ring and asked me to marry him

In my chocked up, tears steaming state, I said “yes!”

We shared so many salty kisses. It was the most beautifully intimate and thoughtful proposal I could’ve ever asked for. I love you so much!

For those upset by my title: the title was ambiguous for a reason. Crying doesn’t always imply sadness and if you’re upset that I tricked you or something because you wanted a sad story, you need to get over yourselves.

 As a young parent myself, I can relate first-hand to the difficulty of raising a child. It is a hard job and can involve a lot of tough decision-making, but it is also one of the most rewarding experiences.

Unfortunately, it seems that many young parents today are spoiling their kids much worse than their grandparents did.

When my grandparents were raising their kids, they were much stricter and more hands-off. They had certain expectations for their kids and these expectations were often enforced. If a child did something wrong, there were consequences that had to be faced. The children were expected to work hard in school and show respect to their elders. My grandparents understood that there was a lot of hard work and dedication that went into raising their kids.

In contrast, many young parents today are much more lenient when it comes to raising their kids. Instead of making sure their kids are doing their homework, they give them free reign to do whatever they want. Instead of having expectations for their children, they let them get away with anything and everything. Instead of having consequences for bad behavior, many young parents just give in and let their kids do whatever they want.

This lack of parental guidance does not prepare kids for the real world. Instead, it creates a sense of entitlement in which kids expect to get what they want without having to work for it. This can lead to a variety of problems, such as laziness, immaturity, and an inability to take responsibility for their actions.

It’s not just the parents who are to blame for this trend. Society has changed significantly since my grandparents were raising their kids. We now live in a world where technology has made things much easier and more convenient. We are always connected to the internet and have access to a seemingly infinite amount of information. This has made it easier for kids to get away with things and it has created a society where kids have more freedom than ever before.

In addition, there is a lot of pressure on parents to be perfect. We are constantly bombarded with images of perfect parents and perfect families. This can lead young parents to feel like they have to give in to their children’s demands in order to be seen as a good parent.

Overall, it is clear that young parents today are spoiling their kids far worse than their grandparents did. This is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. Parents need to be aware of the potential consequences of their actions and make sure that they are setting the right example for their kids. They need to set expectations, enforce them, and provide consequences when necessary.

It is also important for parents to remember that parenting is a difficult job and not one to be taken lightly. It is not easy to raise a child, but it is one of the most rewarding experiences. By taking a more hands-on approach, young parents can ensure that their kids are getting the guidance and support they need to become successful, responsible adults.

Tired

Just needed a place to rant and hear thoughts.

Being a mother is not easy, I know. However I’m not sure why recently I’m feeling more and more imbalance. I hv 2 kids – 3 yrs old and 3 months.

3 months – usually helper will take care. So I will take care the elder one.

Mother duties:

1. Work and earn money

2. Make milk

3. Shower for kid

4. Change diaper

5. Gobble down meals

6. Rushed shower

7. Make kid sleep

8. Express breastmilk for baby

9. Any other misc kids stuff to attend to

Father duties

1. Work and earn money

Wtf? Sometimes I will say a bit like I cannot hv a good sleep when sleeping with my elder one. Then my mil will shoot me and say “what do u expect when taking care of a child”.

Honestly I feel quite frustrated. 2nd child i had zero rest at all. Confinement 40 days I hv to recuperate, pump breastmilk, take care of newborn at night. Thankfully I hv my helper to take care newborn in the daytime.

My heart and soul feeling tired and not so positive anymore …

Here are what netizens think:

• idk why everyone in the comments isn’t addressing the main issue, which is: why isn’t your husband helping you??? i can’t imagine having to care for my child alone on top of work. my husband does most of the housework and a lot of the childcare over the weekends, and it really lightens my load (mostly mental). he’s even ok for me to take a weekend off to travel with my mom while he watches my 2yo son. we are in this together and we are partners. your kids are as much your husband’s responsibility as they are yours. please do have a good talk with him about this or even seek counseling if it’ll help. jiayou!! 

• Have a chat with your GP. Could it be post natal depression?

• I feel you. I have a 20months old and a 5 months old. Its not easy… tired is an understatement. i can only say , we will one day see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Should I marry my bf if i can’t stand his mom

I’ve been together with my bf for 5 years, we are both in our late twenties already. Recently we started discussing about settling down and getting a resale flat. I have doubts because the idea of having his mom as my MIL scares tf out of me.

His mom is a very snobbish person. Likes to think that just because she is educated she can can always make nasty remarks about other parents around her age. Once, I said hi to their neighbours and she was very unhappy about it. Told me that she doesn’t talk to them because the mom next door is “too aunty” for her. My bf mom are into high fashion, yup she’s those kind that will judge other moms based on what bags they carry. She even stopped playing mahjong with this new group of friends she made and her reason was “they speak mostly Chinese so I don’t like.” When she literally speak Chinese most of the time at home. I absolutely can’t stand her. Most of the time she treats me well so I just bear with that snobbish attitude of hers because I’ve no choice and in no position to call her out. There are a lot more snobbish remarks she made but I bet you can already imagine what kind of “atas” woman she is.

Honestly my biggest worry is that my bf mom will speak ill of my family if they were to meet one day. My parents are not as privileged growing up, they have low education and only speak Chinese and Hokkien at home. They can’t converse in English at all. My mom doesn’t carry designer bags like she does. My parents are extremely humble people. And I’m proud of my mom being the typical aunty, the ones she hate. Honestly I am mentally prepared for this day to come because I know it will. And I’m ready to go to war with this snobbish bitch if she talks shit about my family.

Should I talk to my bf? Or should I even continue this relationship? I’m afraid I will regret one day because I know I will definitely choose my family over him. I don’t want to put my bf in a difficult position.

What is ahead? It’s so boring

I and my wife are in our late 30s. We each earn around $20k/monthly, not including year end bonus (average 30-40% of our annual base). Somehow I feel lost.

Wealth – We are financially smart. We are not into luxury stuff or flashy cars. We own 2 landed houses in Singapore. The housing loan is only about 40% of the asset prices. It’s all from our hard earned money, we started and made everything from zero. No lottery winning whatsoever. We are lucky as the houses have appreciated alot after COVID. The mortgage is only around 10% of our monthly income as one house is paid by itself using rental income.

Hobbies – Every year we spend at least 1.5 month traveling with kids. We enjoy and spend alot on good experiences, good hotels and good food during our trips. It is still well within our budget around 10% of our total annual income.

Career and Health – All is excellent. Great work life balance (knock off at 5pm) and a lot of freedom. Physical and mental health is good (touch wood).

Marriage – No marriage is perfect but we understand and accept each other well. Good S life, my wife gets climaxes at least once everytime we have it.

Despite having all the great things in life, I still feel there is something not right. I probably lose my ambition to strive hard. My career is probably too easy, it’s definitely difficult for others but I manage it so well. I have tried moving out of my comfort zones many times but always get things done so well and feel everything mediocre again. My work day is just simply to wait for the weekends to come.

I really do not know what keep me awake in the next 10 years. Should I just close one eye and continue like this? I really feel bored, extremely bored. It is a bit early for me to give up doing something great in life? Any advices to refresh my mind? Is it worth it to jump into something big?

So for the last few months, I’ve been hearing these sounds coming from my bedroom window. I can’t remember when it started exactly because it’s pretty sporadic though I think this sort of thing is relatively new.

It tends to happen every night for a couple of weeks on and off, but will go months without happening again. I’ve only ever heard it at night and usually pretty late. The sounds themselves have a decent range as well. Sometimes it there will be scratching on the side of the living room window, then it’ll start to become tapping on my window. (It is not a bird, as the HDB lights are bright here and there are no shadows of birds)

One time in particular it was very loud and persisted throughout the night. The sounds started from the left window, like scratching which then travelled along the side of the wall moving upwards until it reached my ceiling and began tapping and scraping at my window. Keep in mind this is my bedroom and I sleep on the second floor of the block. I actually have gotten so annoyed by it some nights that I’ve thought of yelling at it to stop (these sorts of things happen all the time so I’m very jaded).

There’s nothing outside my window that someone could stand on to reach it unless they had a ladder, and even if that were the case I’ve opened the window and looked outside with my phone flashlight and saw nothing. And just to be even clearer on how odd this is I’ll hear these sounds on calm quiet nights with no wind. So it’s definitely not a person or a tree branch because there are none outside my window even close enough to reach it.

I managed to record the sound one night. I know it’s not the most convincing audio clip because the sound could be caused by anything when you hear it, but I swear this is what I hear clear as day when I’m just in my room at night. It happened again shortly last night February 21st, I wasn’t able to catch it on time and it was much fainter.

I don’t think I can add the clip to this post without making another one? So maybe I’ll link it in the comments somehow. If you know how to do that pls tell me hehe