Today will be my last day in Singapore for a long time.

This is my (33M) first time posting so do forgive me if my formatting looks weird ah. Growing up I always wanted the Singaporean Dream, to find a nice girl, get married, have kids, BTO in a decent neighborhood, etc. But life is unexpected and I found myself more and more detached as time went by – let me just share why.

One of the first wake-up calls was when I was discussing getting a BTO with my ex. When we actually looked at the figures, we realised that if we wanted to balance saving for old age and paying off loans, it would take a good couple decades to pay off everything. Renovations, furniture, etc… the figures added up and it looked really daunting. For us folks with a more humble background (3-4k take home), this was a subtle reality check- at one point we looked at our finances and decided with heavy hearts that we might not be able to fulfil our dream of having kids before 35. It was during COVID that our relationship was fraught with more financial difficulties, and we parted amicably.

The pandemic was a double-edged sword. I managed to keep my job, but the workload only got worse even though I was working from home. I was at home, there but not there. I believe I can speak for almost everyone in my age group when I say that we all became jaded and upset with our lives and our jobs during that period. The rat race only intensified for my colleagues and I, and I kept asking myself- is this the Singapore Dream?

During that time, I was dating actively on Tinder. I found that many Singaporean girls are just too similar to each other, and in a fashion that wasn’t to my taste. Yes, Singaporean guys only hike and gym. But Singaporean girls always have the same movie quotes or some random MBTI/Horoscope sign on their Tinder profile. They have the same interests and conversations. Political views were never diverse- in fact, many girls don’t think about politics, as it isn’t their interest. I don’t think we can blame anyone for that- Singapore is just too small, and lacks space for us to explore hobbies and interests. We all end up liking the same stuff, watching the same shows, and we all end up feeling that a trip to Don Don Donki is an adventure. But after breaking up with whom I thought I would spend my life with, I felt like I didn’t want to lower my bar anymore.

I had a friend who went to Israel during his NOC days and stayed there afterwards for his work. I visited him there once the pandemic died down, and he introduced me to a friend of his whom we hit off right away. I have to say, when the folks in Israel talk about equality, they mean equality. She laughs at the Singaporean girls who say that females shouldn’t need to serve National Service. She refuses to be stuck in a rat race and chooses to spend her limited time in her 30s taking care of her ailing parents. She is refreshing, unlike any girl whom I’ve met before in Singapore. I was smitten. The months flew by, and before I knew it, I had already made plans to join her there. I have gotten a job offer and I will be flying towards Israel tonight.

I will be moving there to pursue a new way of life, a new job and hopefully a new place to stay until my old age. I will miss the small things in Singapore- the efficient MRT, my favourite Saizeriya (yes, maybe this is the reason I was dumped hahaha), the top quality Roti Coin at Kembangan MRT. But I think that this Chapter of my life in Singapore is at an end. I look forward to my new life in a new place!!

I’m a huge believer in the power of hustle. As someone who has been driving Grab and investing at the same time, I can say with confidence that it is entirely possible to make it if you’re willing to put in the effort.

When I first started out, I was a bit apprehensive. I had heard stories of people who had tried to juggle driving Grab and working full time and failed, so I wasn’t sure if I was up to the task.

But I decided to give it a go, and after a few months of hard work, I can proudly say that it’s been a success.

The first step is to make sure you’re driving Grab efficiently. That means having a good understanding of the roads and the best routes to take. It also means being able to anticipate when there will be a surge in demand, so that you can take advantage of it. This requires a bit of research, but it’s worth it in the end.

The second step is to make sure you’re investing your money wisely. This means doing research on the different investment options that are available and finding the ones that will give you the best returns. It also means understanding the risks associated with investing and making sure you’re comfortable with them.

Finally, you need to make sure you’re balancing your time between driving and investing. It’s important to have a regular schedule for both activities, so that you’re not overwhelmed. I usually try to drive every morning and then spend the rest of the day researching and investing. This way, I’m able to maximize my profits without sacrificing too much of my free time.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a beginner or an experienced investor, driving Grab and investing can be a great way to make a living. Just be sure to do your research and plan your time wisely. With some dedication, you can make it happen.

I’m living proof that it’s possible to make it if you’re driving Grab and investing at the same time. I started out a bit hesitant, but now I’m making more money than I ever thought possible. If you’re willing to put in the effort, you can do it too.

Is it wrong to be rich?

I come from a middle class family, parents raised me up, put me through university, and now I’m out in the working world making a living for myself in corporate. Like many others, I share the Singaporean dream of climbing the corporate ladder and possibly striking the jackpot in Singapore pools.

As a sandwiched class of society, I have been observing people from different financial and socioeconomic backgrounds. I have friends who are less fortunate in life, with terminally ill parents and young siblings to support. I also have friends who are wealthy and comfortable, with wonderful parents helping them with their housing down payment and buying them a car upon graduation.

I too, like many others, aspire to be wealthy and provide a comfortable life for my kids in future. Which is why I understand why many parents from wealthy families “spoil” their children, because no parent will want to see their child struggle in life. As such, many outsiders will give comments such as “spoilt brat from rich family” or “privileged and silver spoon”.

Some of this children from wealthy families do actually appreciate their generational wealth and are humble. Some, not so much, and will splurge their parents money irresponsibly. But regardless of weather that wealthy child is humble, or one who is irresponsible, they will still be subjected to such labels.

I always see negative comments in Facebook and instagram posts, when it comes to wealthy people. Take for example the recent spotlight on dick Lee’s family putting their bungalow up for sale and donating 60 million to charity. Many, actually most, of the comments are saying that they are trying to evade taxes through their charitable deeds or just looking to be in the limelight and doing it for fame.

Another example is the case of Naomi Neo, a local influencer in Singapore. Whenever she splurge on her children, for example on the birthday for her daughter, people were just so toxic and negative in the comments.

Now bringing me back to the question, is it wrong to be rich? Because if being rich subjects me to such hate, it seems like a curse.

But it’s a curse that I will want to suffer, in silence.

I’m the guy who previously posted about how I was on my way to gaining success in life, but pivoted mid-way towards being focused on serving humanity when I found out that we are living in a “simulation”, designed to help us understand unconditional love.

I previously stated that I have been spontaneously donating money to charity. Most of the beneficiaries are villagers who cannot afford to pay for food or clothing to survive the winter.

Someone asked me why I do not practice effective altruism. Simple: if I was suffering starvation or cold, the last thing I want to hear someone say to me is: “I’m sorry I cannot help you because it would not be effective to donate to you.” Effective altruism is a lie.

I have been unemployed for two years previously, so I know what it is like to be short of money. In fact, I started donating money regularly when I was unemployed.

Interestingly, I have been getting a lot of money lately. I am working in another country, and am considered foreign talent. And because of my status as a foreign talent, I have been getting a lot of allowance.

I want to state that even though I am financially comfortable lately, I don’t have a wife or girlfriend. It is something I would really like to have. I find it very sad that many people do not know how to appreciate their partners. I do not envy them. I get it that I am living quite comfortably, so I am grateful. I am not going to have thoughts like: I would gladly trade all my money for a wife.

I am contented with what I have. I was already contented with my financial situation and donating spontaneously before I got all this money.

Here are what netizens think:

• You can’t buy your way into heaven, even if you have done all good and followed the correct direction.

• Many people don’t believe in karma or giving. Giving its good if you have compassion for the needy. There are theories that if you give thinking of being rewarded, then there’s no merits at all. I m not sure how true is this…

• I need to praise you for your efforts and the universe is fair, you will reap what you sow. Pls connect with me, we are like minded.

I was standing in front of a large crowd of people, my heart racing and my hands trembling. I had been asked to give a speech to the company I work for, and I was feeling more than a little nervous.

I had always been a shy person, and the thought of giving a speech was more than a little intimidating. As the audience stared at me expectantly, I felt my palms becoming increasingly sweaty. I was about to open my mouth to start my speech when the unthinkable happened – I almost peed myself.

I was so embarrassed. I knew that this was a professional environment and that I had to remain composed, but I also knew that I had to do something. I quickly made my way to the restroom and relieved myself.

Once I was back in the meeting room, I tried to compose myself and gather my thoughts. I knew I couldn’t let my fear of public speaking stop me from giving this speech. After taking a few deep breaths, I stood up and began speaking.

The speech went better than I had expected. I was still nervous, but I was able to make it through without making too many mistakes. I was relieved when it was over, but I was also proud of myself for not letting my fear stop me.

Since that day, I have become more confident in my ability to give speeches. I have even been asked to give speeches at other companies. Although I still feel a bit of nervousness before giving a speech, I know that I can handle it.

That experience taught me an important lesson – fear will always be there, but it doesn’t have to stop you from achieving your goals. We all have moments of fear in our lives, but it’s up to us to push past them and reach our goals.

No matter how scared you are, don’t let it stop you from doing something you want to do. You can push past the fear and achieve what you set out to do. That’s the lesson I learned from almost peeing myself when I was asked to give that speech.

Yeah me too my last job i thought mine was admin staff only click email file up stuff and enter data in excel end up my boss ask me to present and talk infront of large groups. I panicked and sweat and almost collapse.

Every night, I drive home with a heavy heart. I’m struggling to make ends meet and the stress is weighing on me. I can’t let my family know how I’m feeling, so I put on a brave face when I get home.

Stop and cry in car a few blocks away from home, but still need to put on a brave front when reach home

Every night I stop my car a few blocks from my home and just sit there. I don’t know if it’s the fear of going home or the fear of facing my financial troubles. I just know that I need this time to clear my head and try to come up with a plan.

Sometimes I’ll just sit in my car and cry. I know that I don’t have the money to pay my bills and I’m scared of what will happen if I can’t find a way to make ends meet. But I can’t let my family know how I’m feeling. I have to keep a brave face and pretend like everything is alright.

So I sit there in my car, trying to compose myself and wipe away the tears. I take a few deep breaths and remind myself that I can do this. I will find a way to make it through this.

When I get home, I put on a smile and greet my family. I pretend that everything is fine and that I don’t have a care in the world. I laugh and joke around and try to show them that I’m okay.

But inside, I’m still scared and stressed.

I go through this every night. It’s exhausting but I know I have to do it. I can’t let my family know my real struggles. I have to be strong and pretend like everything is alright.

So I keep up with this false pretense, hoping that one day I will find a way to make things better.

I need some serious advice. Should I quit my current job to join my dream job but pay up 3 months salary as liquidated damages or stay put?

I am currently having on the job training for about one month. It’s my first job after grad and very relevant to what I studied. Just now another company which I really wanted to work for has reached out to me and wants to offer me a job with a 25% higher salary.

It is in a different industry and was my first choice when I was applying for jobs. I want to join them but I have a problem. My current company has a minimum commitment of 6 months and if I leave earlier, I have to pay 3 month’s salary as liquidated damages for the training and recruitment cost they incurred. The company that offer me the new job cannot wait so long as they too have a structured program for newbies and they only allow me 1 month+ max for me to join them.

I am really stuck.

Paying the 3 months penalty is painful and if I leave like this, I will not be able to return to this industry if the new job doesn’t work out. It’s a pretty niche area and people do know one another.

On the other hand, the dream job is one I had always wanted and if I reject this time, I probably won’t have a chance in future given the stuff competition and potentially future recession.

Should I leave or stay?

Here are what netizens think:

• Accept the preferred job. Ask whether you can negotiate on the penalty if you were to leave now.

• Not all contracts are enforceable. Just sayin’

• Dont waste money to pay back the comp. Just stay for 3mths then hop over or left with a mth then pay the balance n fly over

• Finish your contract first and level up before you go to the next stage. You don’t want to get stuck in a doldrums.

• Leave and pay the damages. The 25% higher salary will cover your 3 months damages in one year.

I had just finished a satisfying dinner with my friends at the local Italian restaurant.

With a few beers in my system and feeling a little bit tipsy, I decided it would be a great time to show off my newly acquired Rolex watch. I had recently bought it from a jewelry store and I was proud to show it off to anyone who would listen.

I started talking about it to my friends and soon the entire restaurant was abuzz with talk of my watch. I was feeling pretty smug and confident that everyone was admiring my watch and giving me compliments.

Little did I know, a watch dealer was also dining in the restaurant.

The dealer had noticed my watch and knew that it was fake. He could tell from the quality of the watch and the design that it was not a genuine Rolex. He decided to approach me and asked me to take a closer look at my watch. He explained that the watch was not a genuine Rolex and that I had been duped.

At first, I denied the fact that it wasn’t a real Rolex.

I was embarrassed and humiliated that I had been duped and exposed in front of my friends. I soon realized that I had to accept the fact that my watch was a fake. I apologized to the dealer and thanked him for pointing out the truth.

He was kind enough to forgive me and told me to be more careful when buying luxury items in the future.

I was so embarrassed that I quickly said my goodbyes to my friends and left the restaurant…