(24F) feel like I’m a crazy girlfriend.

My BF (26M) and I are busy with work during the weekdays, and we meet only during the weekends. But, we do spend some time at night together, like watching series on Netflix, but not every day.

Here’s the problem. Whenever we decide to watch a drama or movie, he will take his time to bathe, play his phone games, and sometimes even nap. Because of that, we can watch a maximum of 1 episode or a movie and we will head to sleep cause he says tired, and the next day he needs to work.

But, when it comes to playing computer games with his friend (girl), he can rush to eat, bathe, and play until midnight even though there is work the following day.

He is also, to a certain inflexible… For example, once I texted him to do a certain activity with me, but his friend (girl) texted him 5 minutes earlier to play the game. It’s not like he replied to her then I asked. He saw both our messages at the same time and told me he’d play with his friend since she asked first. I just wish he would prioritize me at that point.

To be honest, I feel jealous and I feel that I weigh lesser than him. I want to voice it to him about this but I feel that he will view me as a crazy girlfriend because once their friend said she is one of the “boys” and she got a boyfriend too-when his friend’s GF voiced out that she is jealous.

Not sure if my feelings are valid or if I’m the crazy girlfriend?

Is there any advice on how not to feel this way or how I should open this topic to my BF without him feeling like I’m the crazy girlfriend?

Here are what netizens think:

• High chance of many more underlying reasons why he would rather prefer to do something else with his friends be it guy or gal.

• Example: they are friends and there is no expectations from the other party, but there is certain expectations that he feels that you may have? The quality of playing games with friends could relive stress.. but activities with you could be more stressful than relaxing?.. coz of, again, your expectations?

• Find more guy friend. Chat with them. Go out and eat with them. Tell him you are too busy for him. And is time to shift out. Not together with him. Make yourself unavailable

• Bf is either crazy for the game or crazy for the friend. Either way, he doesn’t seem that crazy for you.

• A man who’s more interested in playing online games rather than playing with you, needs to dumped so he has more free time to indulge in his hobbies.

Admin pls assist me to post this! Seeking genuine advice.

My bf and I have been tgt for 2 years. He is currently a regular in the army and he frequently goes overseas for 1-2 mths for operations.

Last year end, I discovered his insta account password and logged in into it.

Everyday, I would enter to see the accounts he has searched, his DMs on his account and also view his friends’ profile.

Sometimes, I see that he searched for accounts of girls (influencers) on his insta, usually those girls who are wearing very revealing.

I do feel a bit uncomfortable about this, but understand that guys like to see these stuff.

Also, he is treating me well, always updating me on his whereabouts and making time to text me although he is overseas.

Recently, he changed his password and I have been logged out of his account and cannot enter it again.

I am now feeling insecure, because I cannot track his activities on insta while he is currently overseas on another operation.

I have crazy thoughts that what if he hooks up with other girls while he is overseas, text other girls online etc.

I feel irritated with myself for being insecure just because I cannot trace his social media activity now. Seeking for help thanks ????

Netizens’ comments

• This is sick.
  Nothing wrong with your bf.
  It’s you. Get a life. There must be some mystery in the relationship. Don’t ever try to know every minor details of him, coz someday that’ll only make you bored of him. Don’t end it before the ends.
• You wouldn’t have any healthy relationship with anyone when you have trust issue
• See a therapist and seek professional help

Dear Getgo/BlueSG P-plate drivers – if you can’t afford a car, don’t drive.

Many of my friends and myself have had numerous close shaves with your reckless driving with sudden abrupt lane changes without signalling, drifting from lane and poor driving in general.

Take some responsibility for your actions please – dont use those cars for “learning and practicing”.

One of the most facepalm moments I had was this girl who tried to park for 10 minutes in the lot (not parallel), then after she left the car looking all contented of her parking, failed to realise she parked too close to the car on the left until it can’t open….

I’ve learnt to keep a very safe driving distance from these rental P-plate drivers, their road antics are scary af.

Netizens’ comments

• To be fair, “sudden abrupt lane changes without signalling, drifting from lane and poor driving in general” are not limited to newbie, car-sharing or occasional drivers.
• More amused that this has anything to do with people who use rental cars. So if buy own car with P-plate, can reckless drive? 
• Gee, I wonder how many reported traffic accidents involve P-plate drivers.
  Ever tried looking at the accident photos and see a P-plate?
• When people try to correlate 2 different thingS

I’ve been dating my gf for a year. Before we got together, she gave me the impression she was a person who loves to exercise, eat well, and take great care of herself. She doesn’t drink or smoke.

Doesn’t eat junk or processed food too. She moved into my place 4 months ago and I find she doesn’t seem to be what she says she is.

She fills the kitchen with chips and chocolates. She orders Korean alcoholic drinks in cartons and has more than a can every night.

The freezer is full of frozen fried food, sweet drinks, snacks and ice cream. She tells me when it’s that time of the month she will have craving for these kinds of food. I can accept it but that time of the month can’t possibly be every day? She’s snacking and drinking every day while watching k drama. Then she will have a craving to have Korean instant noodles as supper at the same time.

She used to be dressier in the beginning and would deck out in colours that suited her, but now she wears full-on black every day and it really doesn’t sit well in my eyes.

It’s like she’s ready to go to a funeral anytime. I’m a visual person and I also make effort to look good for her. I still go for regular haircuts and I still cycle and lift weights. I brush my teeth before I kiss her but she doesn’t. She doesn’t bother about her appearance anymore and I’ve not seen her exercise for months. I find myself getting increasingly frustrated at home while I’m with her.

I still love her but I find that she’s very different from when we started to date.

Is this what it’s like living together? I haven’t even talked about chores. There are some chores that she refuses to do and she said it’s my place after all, so I’ll have to be the one to do it. I think I’m covering 80% chores while she’s only keen in doing 20%.

She has the habit of leaving washed underwear in the toilet and I would have to be the one to take it out to hang because she would forget and ask me to do it instead. There are many other instances that she would forget to do something and I would be the one finishing the chore. I cannot imagine doing this long-term.

When I try to talk about it she would get upset and binge snack and drink. I’m not even arguing with her. It’s just talking in a calm tone.

Is that time of the month that bad that it becomes close to almost every day? Or she’s not what I think she is? How can I improve the situation?

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s your place anyway…as she said, then kick her out of your place. I would reconsider whether this is the kind of person to fall in love and be with. Seem the compatibility is very low now. If one has to change from what she said, it should be for better not worse. I’m not you, but I can’t tolerate with this kind of behavior and I don’t think she would be a good mother for my kids at the end.

• You two are a big mismatch! It’s sad to see she doesn’t love herself much, and not taking care of her fitness. Likely this is true herself, which you can’t change much. Just leave her. Breaking up this toxic relationship is beneficial for both you and her. She’ll find someone who’s as messy as her.

• LOL after dating for only a year and she’s completely let herself go already. DUMP HER