Hey guys, if you can’t tell, this story is about a siam bu. I went to a Siam pub in town area with friends, we’ve never been to one, so it was kind of like why not.

The two friends who I went with to the club were, let’s say a little more experienced since they’ve actually done the deed unlike myself, so while they seemed calm when we were actually at the siam diu, I was nervous as hell. Like I was darting my eyes back and forth when I saw the girl walking towards us, and I just looked like the perfect example of a guy who’s never gone to a siam diu or never seen a girl.

It was apparent to both the siam bus and my friends, so I ended up being coddled literally and figuratively. Now, this is where I really get into the story.

I stupidly ended up being infatuated with the siam bu from who sat with me since she kind of talked to me more, it seemed like we hit it off, and we talked about the gym, normal life, etc. It was cool although she is so much older than me, but then closing time happened, and this is where I felt like I needed to post it somewhere and kinda talk about this whole situation.

My friends kinda saw us talking and that we were having a good time, so they egged me on a little as she was leaving from talking to us/hugging goodbye, and I tried to ask her for her number, she didn’t hear me when I said her name as she was walking away, and I walked out cause I felt stupid. Then I ended up going back, and the bouncer said no I couldn’t ask her when I came back a minute later, so yea…

Ultimately, I think it was a fun experience, and it was cool to go to a club and enjoy my vacation doing stupid stuff, but it kinda messed with my head. Immediately after, I kind of just felt stupid and embarrassed, something along the lines of, “why did I go and do that,” “this is just her job, I definitely shouldn’t have asked,” and, “why didn’t I just call out louder or ask when we were saying goodbye,” It seems like a funny, stupid story, but I felt really bad because I realized just how much attention from a hot girl influenced me, how much I lack romance in my life, and just how I could’ve been bolder, and at least gotten rejected by the siam bu instead of the bouncer, although if I would’ve been creepy, then hell nah, ty to the bouncer for the kind rejection.

Ultimately, I just want to hear what others think, and how I should move forward from this. My idea is to just forget or think of it as a fun albeit embarrassing story.

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I was called in for an interview over the phone. I went to the restaurant I thought I was supposed to be at. Told them I was there for my interview and got hired on the spot. Realized after the interview that it wasn’t even the location I applied to.

It’s the same company but a different location.

Should I pretend it never happened and try to go to work as normal? Or should I risk admitting my mistake and potentially losing the job due to negligence?

Here are what netizens think:

• What do you mean the wrong restaurant? Like it’s a chain and you went to the wrong location?

• Yea just take the job don’t bother saying anything. The other place probably though you no-showed and this place probably just took you as a walk in interview because every place is desperate for staff. Show up, get your offer in writing, and good luck at the new job.

• As someone that used to work for a restaurant with a sister location nearby, this used to happen a loooooot. I never thought it was that big of a deal and I was a hiring manager there for years.

• Congratulations! There’s no negligence here. You turned up, interviewed (or at least confirmed your name and that you want a job) and you were hired. It’s your job, if you want it. Enjoy!

• I really want to try this. Just show up at a place you want to work and tell them you are there for the interview.

Having a degree feels pointless

I’ve been out of school for 9 months now, and I can’t find a job. I spent the first few months applying for jobs in my relevant field that required a degree. Most of the time I never heard anything back.

So I decided, well, there’s not a lot for my degree so I’ll try other fields. Same story, just never hear anything back from anybody, even when I try to get a hold of the recruiter.

So I think screw it, I’ll just start applying for jobs that only require a diploma, maybe I’ll stand out. The amount of times I was told I either was over qualified or under qualified, despite them being entry level jobs, has just pissed me off.

I finally got an interview at a place I didn’t care to work for but I need the money. In the middle of the interview, they tell me they just hired the guy right before me because he has 6 months of experience using the software they use.

My family has been on my case about if for the last month now and they don’t seem to understand having a degree doesn’t magically grant you a job, just some BS they fed to me as a kid.

I can barely pay for my rent and my loans doing deliveries. I rely on my brother to buy meals I eat once a day and it sucks because I’d like to help him out with bills, but after nearly 70+ applications this month, no one will give me a shot.

I’m also too poor to move away for a job at the moment so I’m marooned in this job market wasteland.

Netizens’ comments

1. degree is just a hygiene item now. It doesn’t get you anything, but not having it will auto-exclude you from many things.
   I wish there was a less bleak answer, but it doesn’t do anything except let you pass the automated resume software’s first round of auto-rejects.
2. Because society has deemed that knowledge is worthless unless it benefits an employer.
3. But 70 applications over 9 months is insanely low. You should be applying to 5 places every day at the very least. 8 apps a months is so dead low. You can get a good job but you gotta get comfortable with rejection, I mean like 200-300 rejections.

Family Dinner ended and everyone went to the kitchen or family room to relax, you could hear them talking and chattering with one another, but we stayed, my boyfriend at the table on his phone and I just chilling and watching the world go by letting my huge dinner go down.

I got bored of letting the world go by and started playing footsie softly on his crotch. His eyes immediately met mine and as I padded my foot against his crotch.

I found he was rock hard, I slipped my foot up inside of his shorts and just gave him a few rubs with my foot, before using both of my feet to slowly jerk him, my toes pressed up against his shaft as it buried itself between the soles of my feet.

He was so hard and so turned on that when he told me to stop under his breath I thought he was just joking, I continued to rub my soles and he gripped the tablecloth and I felt a splooge of warm liquid coating my bare feet.

This wasn’t my plan, as his week’s worth of his come went all over my feet, some of it shot onto the floor too and even some stained his grey shorts.

I couldn’t believe it. I looked at him, my eyes wide, he panted quietly before acting shocked and surprised. I left to grab my boyfriend some napkins and when I came back a family member was sitting down trying to make conversation with him and I couldn’t help but giggle and cringe watching him.

I DIDN’T THINK HE WOULD FINISH LIKE THAT, that was my first thought. His too.

I knew he was really hard and hankering to f me but I didn’t realize he was so close to the edge that a few strokes with my feet and he was going to blow such a huge load.

I was still really wet and so turned on after feeling his come on my feet but I was also worried somebody might notice or ask him to stand up and with an obvious stain on his grey pants it would have been a disaster.

I think my employer forgot about me?

I started a new (remote) job about 2.5 months ago. Higher pay, more responsibility- standard stuff. Except its been 2.5 months and they’ve given me nothing to do. No onboarding beyond a 30 minute session with HR on the first day. No meet and greets with the team.

I’ve had 2 meetings with my boss who just talked at me about how bad things were before she worked here and 1 where I was to “shadow.”

I get cc’ed on a lot of e-mails but nothing has action items for me or requests. I’ve been trying to find things to do to fill the time but this week, I just didn’t (I did some food prep, cleaned my house, planted some flowers, etc.) and unsurprisingly no one noticed.

Am I obligated to bring this to anyone’s attention or should I just hang out? 3 days in I asked about things to do and was told “We’ll schedule an orientation soon” but that was 2+ months ago now.

Realistically, how long can I just f-around and collect a check? Could I get fired if they find out I’m doing nothing if they gave me nothing to do and trained me on nothing?

Edit: I do want to clarify a few things about the post.

I HAVE asked for work several times. No, not so blunt as “I think you forgot about me. I’ve worked about 3 hours in the past 10 weeks” but examples include “Is anything needed from me on this?” “Do you have a resource for this so I can learn more?” “My schedule is pretty light, is there a time we can connect because I’m ready to jump in?

I have also e-mailed HR asking for any “additional onboarding or training that I am missing since I had a very brief 30-min onboarding but am sure there are further tasks to be done” and that was 4 weeks ago with no response. It was only this week that I’ve stopped trying.

I’m a mid-level employee (10-15 years of experience w/advanced degrees), so not a junior or entry level.

I breezed through the website and trainings for the company in the first few days (even videos on YouTube about it) but there’s NOTHING for this department in terms of SOPs, trainings, resources, etc. at least that I can find.

It’s been a 1-person department for a while (my supervisor) so not much seems to be written down. I have found links to things referenced (current projects for example) but access is behind digital security barriers no one has set me up on.

I appreciate the positivity and light heartedness. I’ve been feeling a lot of anxiety about my normally productive nature grinding to a halt.

I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and used to tell people that we have a storybook romance. We care for each other, talked endlessly, great friends and traveled a lot.

For the last several years I supported him while he went through school and finally he landed his dream job and I could relax a bit. I still work a full time job, but I could work less overtime and relax a bit

Flash forward ~1 year and he’s not loving his job at all and he’s already burnt out. He eventually decided to take some time off and soul search about his next career move.

During this time off he decided to take a week away overseas to just clear his mind. When he got home he was acting so strangely and was very distant.

When I confronted him about it the next day he admitted that he fell in love with someone else and when I asked him to stop talking to this person he refused. He wouldn’t stop talking to a person that he had only known for 7 days to preserve his marriage with someone that has loved him unconditionally for 7 YEARS.

I went home to my parents for a week to soul search and while on our laptop I found journal entry’s, intended for his therapist, he had written while on vacation about these affairs he’s been having with the other man without me knowing at all.

He also wrote about how he has never felt passion with me, and how he doesn’t think our love is compatible.

After reading this I called him and told him we need to split. These many betrayals and lies were beyond my capacity to forgive and I could never trust or be vulnerable with him again.

I am still in shock a month later. I had to scramble find a new place to live, move all our stuff alone, take care of the divorce settlement and work a full time job.

I feel broken, used and completely alone. I keep reliving the last 7 years and I can’t see how I could have seen this coming. He told me every day how much he loved me, and how he would do anything for our love.

How do you go from fighting over who will die first so we don’t have to live without the other, and him telling me he wants to have kids- to this?

Better question, how do I ever trust someone again? I’m 30 years old and can’t see myself ever investing in a long relationship like this again after sinking my literal heart and soul into this marriage and being tossed aside like a fool.